S1 E2: Impact of Child Abuse on Our Lives with Victoria Slomski

Unspoken: Conversations with Candace

In this episode of Unspoken Conversations with Candace, your host Candace welcomes her daughter Victoria Slomski. Victoria was born and raised in Racine. She works at Froedtert Hospital as an MRI Imaging Specialist and is married to John. Victoria shares her personal story as a daughter of a survivor through her lens as a child, and then in retrospect, after reading the book, as an adult and seeing things from her mom’s lens. They talk about the impact of child abuse on the people’s lives and relationships, and the importance of education on child abuse. They also discuss a topic many think about, but nobody wants to talk about – suicide. They both agree that it’s a cry for help.

Episode highlights:

05:43 – It does something to you as a child, you don’t feel secure, or safe, you feel like things are just going to fall apart, and you do not know why.

15:27 – As much as you’ve been hurt, you don’t allow your hurt to negate you from opening your arms to everyone. I feel like I know you so much more. And I see you, I see that little girl, and I see that teenager, and I can finally understand why you pushed through it all, and how you pushed through it all.

18:27 – It happens to men, it happens to women, all backgrounds, all colors, all flavors – it does not discriminate.

22:10 – How do you explain these things to children without inciting an amount of fear in them or even dysfunction later on.

26:19 – Depression feels silly. When it’s just a feeling that you get, you get down. Life’s hard in general. But to add in you’re being sexually abused by someone, and feeling hopeless, that no one is going to take this away, and it’s just going to keep happening, and you just have to keep dealing with it, I’m not surprised that you were at that point.

34:54 – I talk about forgiveness. And forgiveness is still hard.

Contacts:
Candace Sanchez

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