just your average 20 something yr old retired pick me girl navigating relationships, mental health, and self discovery. expect uplifting stories, lots of reflecting, and light hearted fun.
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Todayyy I talk about getting stuck in the past in OCD recovery and just in everyday life!! We talk about mentally reviewing the past and double checking memories. I also talk about my recent accomplishment of changing my attitude despite feeling overwhelmed with emotion!! I also answer a listener question about not feeling valued as a friend.. Call…
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Todayy I talk about my recent shocking experience while grocery shopping, and a short life update!! But then we talk all about rumination and why stopping this was so KEY to recovering from OCD and just enjoying life more. I talk about what it was for me and how I have been helping myself recover from this. We also talk about how to deal with trigg…
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Todayy we dive into lots of life updates. One is about why I want to expand past just ERP therapy for my OCD. Another is about a shocking exchange with my boyfriend. We dive into getting to know yourself more and ways I have learned to do this that have helped me along with how to show yourself you are important. We also talk about Depersonalizatio…
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Dear Abbey, How did you deal with RELATIONSHIP ANXIETY/OCD?
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Todayy we dive into all things relationship OCD and anxiety! I talk about why this theme was one of the hardest themes I had and how it effected my relationship with my boyfriend! I talk about my specific symptoms and the endless loops I would run through in my head! We also go into how I manage it today and how I got significantly better. We also …
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Dear Abbey, WE HAVE THE SAME BRAIN...little brother edition
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Todayyyy I have on a very special guest...my little brother! He almost has the same brain as me, not only bc we have the same humor but he also has been diagnosed with OCD so we talk all about his experience with it! I ask him about his obsession’s and fears, his favorite therapy tools, his least favorite pieces of advice he’s gotten, when OCD popp…
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Today we talk about ex's, beach accidents, emotional baggage in new relationships, and how to deal with the dread you get when working a job you don't like. Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leave a text with a question or asking for advice!! Love you guys!!By Abbey Gustafson
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Todayy on the podcast we talk about pushing your comfort zone (which for me is watching TV to fall asleep sometimes) lol and the freedom you feel from moving through the discomfort!! Why that has been so crucial for me with my OCD Journey. We also talk about being stubborn and not accepting help or admitting you're wrong! Then I answer a listener's…
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Todayyyy we talk about how art can help in recovery and express and process emotions that don’t really make sense or emotions that do make sense and just need to be expressed!! I talk about why accepting and facing the realitites of life have really helped me feel more sure about how I live my life and how it can help you feel more satisfied with y…
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Todayyyy we talk about burn out. I am a fan of the “grind” but sometimes burn out can make you hit a bump in the road and rethink how to approach the grind. I talk about the financial strain from my divorce and how that motivated me to make a better life for myself. but maybe took on too much? I answer a dear abbey listener submission about how to …
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Todayyy we talk about the power of keeping things to yourself!! Not everything needs to be shared with someone (or everyone). Why its empowering to keep some wins to yourself to build confidence! I also answer a listeners voicemail about how to deal with a clean breakup where you both came to the conclusion this wasn't it. Call 909-817-1742 to leav…
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I talk about some of the stigmas I see around mental illness. We discuss how amazing social media can be but also how harmful it can be to those who are really suffering. How tiktok creators classify “intrusive thoughts” vs what intrusive thoughts actually can be. We dive into how hurtful it can be when people don’t trust your experience and how in…
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let’s get ready for summer!!! But not the normal kind of “getting ready”, but the mentally preparing yourself to enjoy this summer despite your physical “imperfections” kind of ready! we talk about the most common insecurities and how to support yourself this summer! I also talk about corporate jobs and the behind the scenes of a “girl boss”! Call …
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Dear Abbey, I used to be a yoga instructor…
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Todayyy we first talk about adapting to new meds and insomnia lolll I'm feelin loopy. We go into how to ground yourself when you're stuck in your head and I pull out some old meditation tricks from my yoga teacher days!! Then I answer a listener question about supporting your partner when your life circumstance is not your partners ideal situation!…
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Dear Abbey, let's do a beach OCD exposure
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Todayy we talk about my claim to fame and how my dance classes have taken a spiral… We also talk about my wonderful but very triggering beach day by myself and how I dealt with ALOT of existential dread/OCD while laying under a beautiful blue sky. lastly I answer a listener question about some tips to tame frizz and have healthy hair!!! Hope you en…
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Today I talk about flight anxiety!! I AM NOT A MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONAL, PLEASE SEEK HELP FROM PROFESSIONAL. ALL CONTENT IS FROM PERSONAL EXPEREINCE. I go into my specific symptoms as well as some more broad symptoms! I share a lot of details about my experience with flight OCD & Anxiety. I share what helps me cope and manage so I can actually to…
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Today I talk about feeling scared of never "getting it right" with OCD recovery. Dealing with feelings of confusion and depression when coming out of the OCD haze. Prepping for summer AND crazy family zoom calls. Lastly, we discuss the question "how are you feeling?" when you are asking a friend who is struggling with mental illness and maybe some …
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Dear Abbey, waiting for rock bottom to change
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I talk about seeing actual progress with my separation anxiety from my boyfriend Not waiting for rock bottom to change We talk about my unfollowing sprees I answer a Dear Abbey about how to help a friend in an actual “toxic relationship Don’t be shy... Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” voicemail or leave a text with a question or asking for…
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Hi everyone, today we jump into a common feeling which is loneliness!! I discuss why its OKAY to feel lonely sometimes because it reaffirms that life is better with people we love! I also talk about my sister having her baby and the love a younger sister has for her older sister. I talk about how to help yourself be more reliable if you are a "forg…
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Dear Abbey, being a divorcee in your 20's Pt 2
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Today is a continuation of last weeks episode! I express why I am very aware now to not make everything about me or why I even try to not relate to people who are going through something very hard! I also talk about how much closer I got to my family during the hard times and how much it means when people are with you through the good and the bad! …
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Dear Abbey, being a divorcee in your 20's
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Today I talk about the top two things I learned from my divorce How to forgive and what that process looks like How to refrain from gossip and be more supportive of others during hard times I also talk about my dog that I gave up and why I did so, and a bit about dungeons and dragons hehe Don’t be shy... Call 909-817-1742 to leave a “Dear Abbey” vo…
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This episode is sponsored by NOCD, go to treatmyocd.com today to start on your OCD recovery journey! Love you guys!! Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on something silly or serious then I will play it and answer it hopefully in the next episode!…
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Hi! Welcome back to Dear Abbey!! Today I talk about: Feeling like I have nothing to offer lol sadness vs depression (my experience) when you get so depressed and you CANT CRY ANYMORE I also answer a dear abbey question about whether or not to leave an old group chat haha This episode is sponsored by NOCD, go to treatmyocd.com today to start on your…
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Dear Abbey, my relationship to social media
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Hi! Welcome back to Dear Abbey!! Today I talk about: trying to leave expectations at the door my GEN Z relationship with social media and growing up with facebook and twitter my opinion on how social media is not replacement for social connection I also answer a dear abbey about falling back into OCD's trap This episode is sponsored by NOCD, go to …
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Hi! Welcome back to Dear Abbey!! Today I talk about: I just started taking dance classes to help with my self esteem and OCD lol I open up about my OCD relapses and starting over on something important to you or just with mistakes we make on a daily basis. I also speak on what you can do to support a friend who's in a relationship/marriage that is …
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Dear Abbey, how unconditional acceptance changed my life
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Hi! Welcome back to Dear Abbey!! Today I talk about: Unconditional acceptance and why I had a hard time with this at first. The difference between acceptance and agreement How this changed my life for the better Admitting your wrong to relieve the burden of perfectionism aaaand I share how I got my OCD diagnoses. This episode is sponsored by NOCD, …
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Hi! Welcome back, thanks for listening. Today I talk about not feeling like myself and ways I mess up my OCD recovery, but also I go over some things I am restarting to get back on track. I alsoo talk about Physical Touch and how healing touch can be in both a romantic and non-romantic way (hugs, pat on the shoulder, etc.. hahah THEN I answer a dea…
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Hi! Welcome back to my podcast! Today I have back on my boyfriend. We talk about his recent filmmaking dreams and where he is going with it, as well as how to take educated risks moving towards your dreams! We also talk about how our relationship is always growing and changing, it has not been an easy road after my divorce but that's OK!! We play a…
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Hi! Welcome back to my podcast! Today I talk about why feeling depressed and anxious about the uncertainties of life can strip away from your childlike wonder of the beauty of life. I talk about the struggle I have to get this back and surrender to the unknown. We take a dear abbey call (with my new blue phone ;) and talk about how to navigate your…
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Dear Abbey, the good the bad and the ugly
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welcome back! feeling emo/sad at the beginning but stick with me hahaha I talk about doing things that you value even when you don't feel like it (like recording the podcast he he). I talk about making space for all emotions "good"/"bad" and the ugly. I also go into "toxic" positivity a little, also known as people shaming you for having not "fun" …
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Dear Abbey, Why is it so hard to let yourself feel joy
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Today we dive into why its so hard to let yourself be happy or be held in positive emotions during a mental illness such as OCD or after a shocking life event. We also dive into flirting internationally and how to end things via insta if needed hahaha This episode is sponsored by NOCD, visit treatmyocd.com today to set up an apt with a therapist or…
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Today we talk about my floating ribs lol, we talk about imposter syndrome on a small and a bigger scale and some practices to feel more empowered and free from worrying about peoples judgement. I also tried to keep things light/fun with sharing my favorite girl dinners and random notes on my phone Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dea…
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Dear Abbey, BREAK UPS, lemons, and notes (TRIGGER WARNING:SELF HARM TOPICS)
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Today we talk about some tough stuff around self harm (trigger warning) and recovery from mental illness. We also talk about break ups and ways to help process/heal. I also tried to keep things light/fun with sharing my favorite girl dinners and random notes on my phone Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you …
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Today we talk about not taking yourself so seriously, valuing honesty over perfection, and all about sibling fights and how to mend!! Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on something silly or serious then I will play it and answer it hopefully in the next e…
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Abbey talks about her old resolutions and which ones came true in 2023, her recent holiday surprises, and her new lifestyle this year!! Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on something silly or serious then I will play it and answer it hopefully in the next…
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Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on something silly or serious then I will play it and answer it hopefully in the next episode!By Abbey Gustafson
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Today Abbey talks about how she deals with the stress of family events and the holidays while managing her anxiety/OCD. Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on something silly or serious then I will play it and answer it hopefully in the next episode!…
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Today Abbey talks about not feeling confident in photos right now, her recent hair cut, all about how to help with chronic shame, and answers a listeners question about long distance relationships!!By Abbey Gustafson
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Today Abbey talks about her fear of bears and the woods, she goes into why being bored helps her recovery from OCD as well as not toning down her love for the silly things she likes, and she answers a listeners question!!By Abbey Gustafson
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Today I am joined by my boyfriend Keaton!! We talk about how we met and our messy beginnings lol, we talk about what we've learned about how to stay connected through struggles and we answer a question about how to stop caring what an ex thinks!By Abbey Gustafson
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Today I talk about my thanksgiving break and feeling like a teenager again, I go into the internets love language of rage baiting and why I fall for it, how to not be baited, and I answer a listeners question about how to not let OCD get in the way of your passions! Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call…
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Today I talk about feeling lost in your twenties, being rejected for jobs and what that does to your confidence, how to be thankful this thanksgiving, and answer a listeners questions on how to control your anger Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on somet…
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Today I talk about childhoods, inner child work, dancing with the stars, along with other life updates, and I have a frenemy segment with my old man!! Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on something silly or serious then I will play it and answer it hopefu…
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Today I talk about why avoidance only makes things worse, why I hated Utah lol, answer a question about whether or not someone should go back to an ex, and I talk about all my favorite movies for fall Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on something silly o…
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Today I talk about my recent anxiety attack and why it actually helped me, why I try to stop intellectualizing my emotions, pity, and messy situation ships. Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on something silly or serious then I will play it and answer it …
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Today I talk about interviewing for jobs, how every time I feel heavy and sad... I am PMS(ing) :')) But most importantly, I remind you to LET YOURSELF BE HAPPY!! I also answer a dear abbey, about how to handle compulsive confessing with OCD (Not a professional) Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and …
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Dear Abbey, What is OCD?? (from a non professional)
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Today I talk about what OCD is (I am not a professional), since it is OCD awareness week! I express frustrations on stigmas and misconceptions such as when people assume I am so organized and clean, as well as my experienced advice when struggling to seek help or stay motivated to recover!! I also answer a dear abbey question about whether or not t…
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Today I talk about my current therapy situation, what daily reminders might help, and how to help a partner who is depressed! Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on something silly or serious then I will play it and answer it hopefully in the next episode! …
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Today I talk about my OCD relapse and how I manage hormones while recovering. I talk about why we need to bring some cringe back, the hard parts of being misunderstood, and my mom is my frenemy for the day!! Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on something …
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Today I talk about when my boyfriend saved a drowning girl at the beach (he's not a lifeguard), things to do to start trusting people again, why trust builds relationships and the power of an open heart. Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on something sill…
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Dear Abbey, what is your ultimate self help tip??
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Today I talk about living the mundane life but making it meaningful, remind you all to stop trying to FIX IT ALL, how to keep a close knit family and a special phone a frenemy with my sister! Also, don’t be shy…call 909-817-1742 to leave a Dear Abbey voicemail aka.. you call and leave a voicemail asking for some advice on something silly or serious…
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