Totally Mental is about the real, messy, hard parts of being human. Mental health, breakups, therapy, sex, and all the other unedited shit that we all go through but never post to the Instagram grid. We’re taking you to the bathroom floor moments -- before things worked out, before the perspective or the ~glow up~, before it feels ok. Let’s get into all the feels together because you’re not alone on this rollercoaster. This is all a part of being human.
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In this episode, we say goodbye :( The era of the Totally Mental Podcast is coming to a close. In true TM fashion, we're sharing all the info on why we're ending the podcast, a lot of the feelings that got us here and looking back on what this has meant to us. Keep shreddin' the gnar & know we'll be strapped in on the rollercoaster next to you - ju…
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Despite being constantly occupied with work responsibilities, keeping up with relationships, and remembering to drink enough water, we may often still feel unfulfilled, dissatisfied, or lacking purpose. We may even recognize that being busy isn’t a status we strive for, yet we still find ourselves on the brink of burnout. So we dive deeper into why…
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We’re back! After a few weeks off we’re feeling rested, rejuvenated, and ready to shred the gnar again with you all. In this episode, we catch up on what it’s been like for both of us to start new jobs. Change - even when it's chosen and exciting - can still bring up a lot of uncomfortable feelings like anxiety and imposter syndrome. Plus, the comp…
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Attachment Styles with Courtney Stacey
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This week we are talking about Attachment Theory! This has been a long-awaited topic, and we are so excited to have Courtney walk us through the conversation. In our convo, we talk about the different forms of attachment, where they come from, ways they can show up in our relationships, and how to manage them. None of them are good or bad and growi…
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Emotional Triggers, ADHD, & C-PTSD with Penny Belle
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This week we're super excited to have coach, speaker, and mental health advocate Penny Belle on the show! In this episode, we talk about Penny's past trauma, how it impacted her journey toward being diagnosed with ADHD & C-PTSD, and ultimately how it has led to her work in killing the stigma around mental health one conversation at a time. No matte…
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Long distance friendships involve change, which is scary & uncomfy. As we enter into a long distance friendship, this week we’re talking about what it feels like to be in an LDR with friends, different ways to maintain friendships from afar, going into them with intention, the magic of an 8 minute phone call and more. References The Secret Power of…
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We're back with more scrap clips left on the cutting room floor! You’re getting the raw dog version of our conversations (and a lot of the actual dogs interrupting) so be ready to laugh at our cringey & candid moments - mostly mispronouncing shit. Enjoy! Connect With Us: Instagram: @totally.mental Website: totallymentalpod.com Email: totallymentalb…
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This week we are super excited to have guest Emma Mahony on the podcast! Emma is a mental health therapist based on the East Coast. We found her on TikTok where she makes videos on topics ranging from things your therapist wants you to know, why people seek out therapy, questions a therapist may ask you, and generally draws back the curtain on what…
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This week we’re talking about MLMs! Han & Em have both had experiences on the inside of different MLMs so we’re pulling the curtain back on the toxic cultures promoted within, the reality of joining one, the ways they prey on vulnerable people (aka us lol), and more. Like most things, they aren’t necessarily inherently bad, toxic, and awful, but th…
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This week we’re talking about Dry January. We did a poll on our Instagram on who’s participating and it was split directly down the middle. Whether you’re someone like Em who benefits from timelines, boundaries, and definitives around alcohol consumption or more like Hannah who intuitively feels it out, we cover both ends of the spectrum. We talk a…
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In this ep, we're talking about the anticipation of change. Change is uncomfortable no matter what changes occur in our lives, be they a new city, a new job, a friend getting married, or having a baby. Whether the circumstance is initiated by us or chosen for us, it can be tricky to navigate the dynamics that come along with it. It’s just messy! We…
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Setting goals for 2023 or do you think resolutions are kind of BS? In this ep, we’re unpacking New Year’s resolutions. This time of year can feel overwhelming for a lot of reasons, one of them being the pressure or even motivation that comes along with a new year on the horizon. Some of us have visions of new habits, enhanced lifestyle, or fresh pr…
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No matter what field, whether you’re an employee, a contractor or an entrepreneur, we all feel stuck in our careers sometimes. In the ep, we break down how the process of getting another job feels. It can be exhausting to think about all the aspects of change & try to get yourself over all the self-doubt, fear, frustration, etc. to make moves. Chee…
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Dating Discussions: 0 to Relationship
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In this episode, we explore the gray spaces between a first date and a full-blown relationship. This conversation includes everything from how dating feels in our late 20s vs how it felt in our early 20s, all the "shoulds" and anxiety that come up, figuring out if you *really* like someone or just want them to like you, and more! Dating is such a b…
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This week we’re talking about living alone! If you’ve lived alone for a decent amount of time, you know that’s is kind of the best, but it also presents some challenges. Seemingly small tasks like cooking for yourself, keeping your laundry done, living up to an invisible standard we were raised with, etc. can feel insurmountable. We both feel prett…
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This week we’re talking about the difference between knowing when to push yourself outside of your comfort zone and when to honor a legitimate boundary. There’s so much noise out there about how our lives “should” go and “should” look. It can be hard to hear your own voice amidst it all. Just because one person moves to a new big city to pursue the…
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This week we’re talking about comparison. It’s nearly (if not fully) impossible to avoid comparing ourselves to others, whether on social media or in our closest friend & family circles. In this episode, we talk candidly about cultivating self-compassion, how comparison can help us uncover our deeper selves, & also how much utter bullshit exists in…
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This week we’re talking about rest & the constant need to feel productive. Whether we inherited it from parents, coaches, or western society in general, this belief that we have to “do” in order to “be” can feel so engrained that it doesn’t even feel conscious most of the time. No wonder we’re more burnt out than we’ve ever been! So this week we ta…
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Enneagram Obsessed - Personality Tests pt 2
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Take the Myers-Briggs test free: https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test Take the Enneagram test free: https://www.truity.com/test/enneagram-personality-test Enneagram Instagrams to Follow: @enneagramashton @sarajanecase (Enneagram & Coffee) @rudeassenneagram Connect With Us: Instagram: @totally.mental Website: totallymentalpod.com Em…
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Strength Finder? I know her! Personality Tests pt 1
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Today we’re talking about personality tests! Specifically, CliftonStrengths (formerly known as Gallups Strengths Finder). We talk about what the test is, the research behind it, overall outlook on personality tests, and of course, our results! We’re excited to cover other tests like the Enneagram and Myers Briggs in future episodes! Enjoy! Connect …
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It’s our one year anniversary! 🥳 this week we celebrate turning one by answering listener questions & chatting about what this past year has been like. We chat through our favorite & most challenging episodes, learning curves, our studio set up, how the show has impacted our friendship & other relationships in our lives & more. We love you so much.…
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In today’s episode, we’re talking about toxic positivity. Sometimes toxic positivity is downright obvious, like when someone says, “well look on the bright side” or “just be grateful for everything you do have” amidst tragedy and trauma. Other times, the line toxic positivity can sneak in behind an overall optimistic outlook. We all fall somewhere …
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In this episode, we talk about religion. There’s so much to talk about on this topic, so we start with our own experiences with Christianity & the Catholic Church. We inherited so many beliefs & subconscious programming from religion ranging from sex, relationships, right vs wrong, our “roles” as women, guilt, shame, & more. We chat candidly about …
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September is National Suicide Prevention Month so today we’re talking about suicide. One of the biggest misconceptions about suicide is that talking about it plants the idea in someone’s head, but the truth is that talking about suicide is suicide prevention. Hannah shares her experience, the difference between passive and active suicidal ideation,…
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Shovel Friends with Courtney Soule and Kristi Kozubal
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In today’s episode, we sit down with Courtney Soule & Kristi Kozubal to unpack the complexities of female friendships, connecting over life pain & champagne, the fact that healthy friendships sometimes take space, how differences can be so beneficial & more. It was fantastic to sit down with these ladies for this conversation & we can’t wait for yo…
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The Knowing-Doing Gap. Em and I talk about this idea about the knowing-doing gap being the disconnect between knowledge and action. Basically - knowing something is not always enough and there is often a gap between what we know and what we actually apply in our lives. We mention our big experiences with hesitating between knowing something isn't r…
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Finding a new therapist feels like dating. You want to be vulnerable & connect but you also want to be funny & for them to like you. It’s a doozy! In this episode we cover how it feels to decide you want to go to therapy, how to get connected to the right therapist, what the first appointment feels like & how to navigate it from there. Enjoy! Examp…
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This we’re talking about our friendship! This past Saturday was International Friendship Day and friendships are so special Ours is so fun, and it’s also taught us about communication, being seen, acknowledging our downfalls &, as cliche as it can sound, what it looks like to do life with someone. So today we’re going behind the curtain to chat con…
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We’ve got that summertime … sadness? Turns out SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) isn’t just reserved for the winter blues. Just this episode we talk about how high expectations of summer activities can feel crushing, that feeling low in summer months can actually feel even lower because we feel like we shouldn’t feel that way & how it all feels to …
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We're keeping things loose again this week! In this episode, we catch up on what's been going on in our lives and through our brains over the last few weeks. We talk about new therapists, skydiving, Hannah being allergic to everything, Em gives an ADHD assessment update & more. Enjoy! Resources We Love: Dial or Text 9-8-8 for the National Suicide L…
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This week we’re going off the cuff. We’re commiserating on the state of the country and sharing updates on our lives, what we've been reading/watching & our small things for our mental health! Emily is starting her ADHD assessment and educates us on her newest fascination - astrocartograhy (?). Hannah vents about chronic depression & is the new spo…
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We all people-please to some extent, whether it comes from the human need for belonging or coping mechanisms. In this episode, we explore the gray spaces of people-pleasing. It’s not always a negative and sometimes it's needed in order to survive. We learn a bit about where people-pleasing really comes from, what the experts say, and accessible way…
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This week we’re talking about regret & forgiving yourself. We asked our audience what they regret and have had to forgive themselves for, and answers ranged from “being a hoe” (lol) to trusting the wrong people to not going to therapy sooner and more. Regret is a part of the human experience. It doesn’t mean we’re failures even when we fail. It doe…
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Episode 33: Getting Comfy Being Single
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Being alone doesn't always mean lonely - but it can be pretty damn uncomfortable sometimes. We fill our lives to the brim with relationships, work, friendships, etc. that we often don't really know how to be alone. In this episode, we’re covering some of the details of singlehood - our experiences going from in-a-relationship to single, how being s…
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Episode 32: Male Body Image & Eating Disorders with Paul Webster
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This week we’re breaking down male body image and eating disorders with our resident Totally Mental male perspective, Paul Webster! Paul shared his body image story and experiences with eating disorders candidly as well as what he continues to learn through healing. Enjoy! Connect with Paul: @ginger_webster on IG Reyt Chuffed Marketing Agency - htt…
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Episode 31: Social Media & Mental Health
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This week we’re breaking down social media and mental health. It’s no hot take that social media has become a double-edged sword, as we mindlessly scroll to numb ourselves or to portray unrealistic, polished versions of our lives. On the flip side, it’s also an incredible tool for self-expression and has become a career for some. It’s important to …
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Today we’re talking about abortion. The topic holds significant relevance right now because of the leaked draft from the Supreme Court, which threatens to overturn Roe v Wade. One in four women will get an abortion over the course of her reproductive life yet it’s rarely talked about. The taboo nature of it can make it feel shameful even if our bel…
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Episode 29: Getting Lost on the Career Path
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Careers. Can barely live with 'em, can’t live without 'em! Living in a culture that seriously ties work & worth while also ignores the reality of its implications on our mental health has made navigating a path pretty fuzzy for our generation. In this episode, we talk about how many people have had a change of heart & career lately resulting in "Th…
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Episode 28: 2 Procrastinators in a Pod
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Welcome to procrastination station! We’ve all been in scenarios where our to-do list is just less exciting than a Tiktok scroll, Wikipedia deep dive, or navigating the madness that is Zara’s website. And before we know it, hours have passed & we’re more exhausted with no productivity to show for it. Today we’re taking a deeper look at why we procra…
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Burnout happens to all of us, especially in this pandemic world. We didn’t realize how many scenarios can cause burnout, and learned through our research that we probably experience it far more often than we even realize. So today we’re covering it all, from what it is and isn’t, where it comes from and how to deal. Check out the resources we gathe…
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This week we’re unpacking how money affects mental health, our own money stories & the generational differences from our parents that add to the conversation around money for Millennials & Gen Z. Enjoy! Small Things Helping Our Mental Health: SodaStream Stats: https://www.businessinsider.com/millennials-cost-of-living-compared-to-gen-x-baby-boomers…
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It can be so easy to compare our day-to-day lives to the highlight reels of social media to the point that normal, daily life actually feels like we’re doing something wrong. In this episode, we break down being with the blah & normalizing normal life. Enjoy! The Needle List Article Small Things Helping Our Mental Health: SodaStream Resources We Lo…
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We grew up hearing the jingle, “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes a baby in a baby carriage!” While we know life doesn’t work like this, that programming can still feel like it’s controlling our subconscious minds. It can feel like those end results are the most important purposes of life. On the flip side, if your life has taken th…
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We all know exercise is good for our mental and physical health, but there’s a lot beneath the surface of exercise worth exploring. Today we’re sharing how we were raised to see exercise, our up and down relationships with it, how we relate to it today and what we do to support our mental health with exercise. Small Things That Help Amazon Kindle (…
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This week we’re talking about conflict in friendships! Research shows that our female friendships have more of an impact on our overall life satisfaction than our romantic relationships, which means the feelings we have attached to them can feel more significant than even those of our long-term partners, and that they take work! We share what confl…
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Our society has created two distinct categories: social/normal drinker and alcoholic. The reality is, a lot of us will find ourselves somewhere between the two extremes. Unfortunately because of the way alcohol is promoted and celebrated, it’s easy to internalize the negative effects of it as inherent problems that we embody rather than direct resu…
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We spend so much of our lives working that it’s inevitable for our mental health to be affected for better or worse. Traditional office environments, remote freelance roles, business ownership, contractor work or anything in between can all impact our mental health differently. This week we’re covering how we show up in our different work environme…
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It’s Valentine's week so we’re chatting about Valentines, Galentines & the grey shades between. Love is so much more than just the romantic kind & we’re excited to celebrate the different ways we give & receive love this year! In this episode we’re covering how much pressure society puts on being in a romantic relationship, celebrating the relation…
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Group vacations can be the most fun but still stir up some uncomfy feelings when it comes to traveling and group dynamics. We recently got back from a girl’s trip to celebrate Hannah’s graduation so we’re covering topics like feelings of anxiety or irritability when things are "supposed to be fun", taking space away when in a group setting, feeling…
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Pandemic life has thrown many of us into working from home, so this week we sat down with Amanda Serra about the ups and downs, and ins and outs of it all. Amanda is the Design Director of BSPK Marketing & Communications, an incredibly talented graphic designer (she’s the genius behind all of our branding), and creator extraordinaire. She’s bringin…
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