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Mental Wealth Is Health podcast and practice focuses on the mind body connection. Sanford speaks from a loving, vulnerable, non-judgemental and authentic place as he encourages our youth and their families to let how they truly feel about each other guide their conversations and even there conflicts. And let that lead them to a better understanding of how to help each other reconnect. Not just with other but nature, their true work and with those they intentionally let into their lives.
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I am a father and grandfather, and I know I have passed trauma to my kids and grand kids. Adverse childhood experiences ( ACE’s) are not talked about, taught or looked at with urgency it should have. * A person with a ACE score of 4 or more is twice as likely to have heart disease, seven times more likely to be alcoholic and 12 times more likely to…
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I woke up today and thought about how sex has changed my life and how my relationship have been ruined from doing it and not doing it. I am not blaming my parents for all of my dysfunction around sex, after childhood I still continued to do in a lot of misinformed and irresponsible ways. What I came to realise was what I was really wanting was some…
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We are trapped in our own self made prisons and our capitalist creation is taking advantage of our weakness for food, sugar, alcohol, cars, gambling, shopping, binging on reality TV, Netflix etc. These media companies and other marketing systems know us better then we know ourselves, and they are also banking on our fear and frustration to keep us …
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The most devastating mental wealth issue on the planet is rarely mentioned or talked about when come healing our youth. Many of you will never hear the term Adverse Childhood Experiences or ACES for short. Again you won’t here about ACEs at home or in general conversation unless your child’s teachers or Doctors mentions it. The ones that are afraid…
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Why are we not getting the help we need? We are in a very aggressive digital age and it’s killing our connection to our centre or KWAH! I made that word up, it’s so fun to say,?KWAH! We are disconnected though and we need to find our way back. Are you feeling worried all day and night? Feeling depressed at the job or at home often? Not fulfilled ev…
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We are so busy hiding in our prisons, I mean our houses we have forgotten their is whole world out there. We keep complaining about people, COVID, men complaining about women and women complaining about men, jobs, property all tough issues yet are they as tough the lie we keep telling ourselves about racism in our world systems of education, govern…
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Many men think 🤔 it’s more realistic to escape for awhile through unhealthy habits (drinking, secret relationships, isolation, abuse of self or others, avoiding deep conversation etc). Anything that will numb them or provides escapism. I say these things out brotherhood and straight up OG, who has made many mistake and destroyed many relationships …
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Part of what we should be teaching our kids is how to follow their dreams, their calling, their purpose on this planet. Many of us have lost or gave up figuring out a way to follow our dreams so we pass that quitting or fear on to our children. Men we have a bigger responsibility then we know and as men we should not be trying to do it alone. We ne…
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Since being back in the dating world I feel much hasn’t changed. Society is still pitting men against women and women against men. It is a steady competition of men and women trying to out do each other, and providing who has the most stuff, power and ego over each other. What ever happen to talking, empathy, emotional engagement, trust and vulnera…
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This is just not fathers who are not physically there, it’s fathers who are destructed with work or other projects. Fathers who are arguing with their wife or partner all the time. Fathers who have medical disabilities. And fathers who are emasculated by their wife or partner, they are constantly told they are useless or incapable of doing anything…
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Men go through life constantly on guard as if the world is going to attack them at anytime. So many of us are ridiculed, mocked and bullied, and forget it if you are from another country or culture as a men you get the shaming triple. Men carry huge amounts of shame that we are afraid to talk about. We would much rather lie about how we really feel…
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Why is disagreements, confrontations and being wrong corporal crimes and major disasters? In school they teach us li s about history, it’s that a real crime. At our jobs or in the office they instruct to through out co- workers under the bus to advance our own careers, it’s that not only sad but a major disaster for the leadership of those work pla…
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If you have been taught 9+4 = 13 and someone else is taught 6+7=13. When these two meet they start to argue saying their teacher said this is how you get to 13, what’s missing in both their arguments? A lack of true understanding. And that is the same with relationships when it comes to men and women friendships. Join me as I explore why we are exp…
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When it comes to mental health, shame is a major player. Men and women both feel shame and it keeps us from expressing who we really are. It makes us lie and pretend we are who we are not. When it comes to shame it can shape the trajectory of our lives. Shame is a mental health issue that keeps in jobs they don’t love, pretending to like things the…
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I was driving in my car and it came to me why rejection is for our benefit, just like love, sex, caring and sharing has benefits. So I recorded in my car driving .... so forgive the poor sound quality. Rejection is quite painful and there is no stronger feeling that stays in our minds and body longer the rejection. There is something that wakes us …
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We attract all kinds of people in our lives. The challenge is are they the correct people for the life you are striving to creat? To find out who you want in your life , one, it takes awareness of who you are. Two, time together sharing, conversations, observing each other, hanging with each other’s friends and family. Connection takes time. And th…
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Join us as we talk about a question so many people talk about, and if they are not talking about it they’re thinking about it .Do we have a purpose on the planet? We talk about how we followed our purpose and started a joint podcast. We talk about the importance of listening to intuition, procrastination, the power of collaborations and much more. …
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Today my guest Micheal, Trevor and I talk about the quote “It takes a village to raise a child” It is an often used phrase in the works yet results like high depression rates, divorce, mental health issues, disease and on purpose isolation and imposed social distancing how does this concept fit into today’s world. Share your thoughts on if you feel…
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I wanted to type a longer title but I think that says it all. Join me today as I talk about my journey with wanting to commit suicide, the rising pandemic around suicide and mental health. The world is putting on a face of lies, hate, cover ups and ignorance, while this is nothing new, I did not start seeing any of this until I wanted to kill mysel…
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In this episode I talk about one of toughest topics for us as black and white people to have honest, hard hitting conversations on, race and racism. Join me as I draw insights from two extraordinary women, Dr. Robin DiAngelo and Dr. Joy DeGruy. Once we tell ourselves the truth, keep educating ourselves, have the tough conversation and keep taking a…
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There are plenty if books and TV, movies and YouTube clips out there talking about whether men and women can be friends but few about can men be friends with other men. Studies show men are poorly prepared by our culture to be masculine men who know the power of emotional expression. The number one killer of men is loneliness which is associated wi…
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It doesn’t take any courage to be nice and the trauma so many of us are dealing with does not respond to nice either. Nice is thinking you judging, discriminating, avoiding, holding on to shame is not trauma, it is. You blaming folks for your suffering, not being able to be vulnerable or not being able to express the ugly feelings within yourself, …
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I know it’s scary to bring up and talk about mental and emotional health because we can not bring it up without going into our own pain and suffering as well as our families. Yet studies have shown a lot of parents, teachers, doctors, managers, administration teams and even our world leaders don’t even know they are struggling with a mental or emot…
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So often you hear podcast or read articled telling us not to judge or compare yet they never tell why we do it or how. This episode will try to help you understand they why and how. We. Will also look at the primary emotions that come up when these sub-conscious behaviors take over. Enjoy the podcast. Make sure to leave a comment and share if this …
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Most people get into relationship believing they are the center of the world or the center of that relationship. Meaning they have either been alone to long or they have intimacy issues that makes them believe they are always right or they are always being wronged by. I would suggest real relationships help us figure out two truly important matters…
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Oh now this episode is not for everyone because you are happy living lie after lie after lie. If you got your stuff together, you are living comfortably and your all good, then I am not talking to you. But if you are always complaining, feeling like the world is against you, attracting negative and angry people, and you are wanting success but you …
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As parents we are suppose lead and be in charge yet whether we know if something is good for our child or not we let them tell us they know better because we don’t want to hurt their feelings, get them mad at us or feel like we are encroaching on their rights. Parents we are afraid of our kids opinions of us. I had a parent say to me my “boy is a b…
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Part 3 of FASI ( today’s coaching session is S ( shame). Shame is triggered in many different ways depending on the culture, so what this tells us is that shame is learned, not automatic or innate. According to psychology today, if a child’s “transgression” is followed by punishment or an even sterner lecture that makes the child feel like a bad pe…
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In my EMPC Youth Life Coaching, my day to day life and even in my daily meditation fear seems to find its way into the mix. What I have learned is that fear is hardwired into our brains, from back in the days of running from dinosaurs and having to survive harsh terrain and weather. What’s really interesting is that fear is also a lier, it does wan…
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Jack Ma Chinese business man, investor and philanthropist who is worth over $20 million dollars believes that by 2030 over 800,000 jobs will be automated. And it is the soft skills that will prepare our youth for their future work and relationships that are being sought after right now. These soft skills which include team work, leadership, collabo…
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Many of us as parents want to get back at our teen or punish them or ignore them or their behavior. Let’s be honest here as parents when we feel disrespected or rejected, and we don’t recognize that child in front of us we get bitter and just want to do something to make them appreciate what they have. In my research I discovered that when our kids…
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Episode 10 Youth Brokeness and creative healing. Our youth are suffering from EMPSB addictive behaviors. EMPSB is emotional, mental, physical and spiritual brokenness . The addiction behaviors are fear, anxiety, shame and insecurity based around the obstacles and triggers that prevent them from expressing how their own personal trauma has affected …
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I have been working with athletes, performing artist and youth for the last 35 years and I believe I have found the one thing that stops each of us from having the life we say we want and/or desire to get too. It’s that we have told our self a lie and we fear being exposed. Not just to others but ourselves. We don’t want to think we can be happy, h…
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Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “respecting yourself means setting boundaries, excepting your flaws, excepting that you are a human being prone to error yet seeing your self worth, and not letting others mistreat us - because our minds just might believe that” This is part of the foundation of connecting to our confidence. And I will share with you the f…
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Lies and hiding have become a part of what we do everyday, and to reveal ourselves is a sign of weakness. I wanted to speak from the point of healing and revealing. I also wanted to share some of the reasons we get addicted to lies, drugs, sex, food etc. There are some very strong yet vulnerable reasons we get caught in the webs of lies, covering a…
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When we are growing up we each have our share of abuse, mishaps, traumas, tragedies, and stuff we did that we are either running from or blocking out. This escapism comes back to haunt us when we become adults or get older. My goal is to work with young athletes and performing arts so they are about become conscious buy tapping into their sub consc…
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In today’s episode I have with me Angie Baxter former professional dancer, and now owner and director of Currumbin Gymnastics And Cheerleading Academy on the Gold Coast. Angie and talked about some of the things holding back our youth. The emotional, mental and physical blocks that stop them from being themselves. Of course social media is a part o…
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I read an article of a 9 year old black girl who committed suicide due to relentless bullying and racism, and it hit close to home. Suicide does not care about race, gender or social economical status, it’s an equal opportunity employer. We have to stop standing by, sweeping it under the carpet or acting like it’s not happening, it is and it’s dire…
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Podcast Title: Unlock Your Hidden Fear 2 Unleash Your Extraordinary Potential: It so easy to use what we were taught intellectually because we have been so indoctrinate by a school and government system that tells us to be like everyone else. Have what they have, be who they are, want what they want, think like they think and act like they act. The…
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