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The Connected Life is a thought-provoking conversation about all the beautiful and messy ups and downs of life. Join Life Consultants Justin & Abi Stumvoll as they share vulnerable stories and practical wisdom that will lead you on a journey of connecting with yourself, others, and the world right in front of you. Their authentic, no-BS style will make you laugh, challenge you to dig deep, face your fears, and inspire you to love yourself and others more.
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277: Steps to Conquering Codependency
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Creating connected relationships where we feel like we’re authentic and thriving can seem difficult for many of us. Underlying issues that we don’t understand within ourselves can get in the way of having the experiences we desire. At the center of these difficulties are often codependent behavior patterns that affect an estimated 90 percent of the…
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We’ve all lost relationships at some point in our lives. Whether we created the disconnection, they did, or we both played a role, those losses can be difficult and messy. Sadly, these losses can seemingly leave us worse off than if we never knew the person, but what if it doesn’t have to be that way? In this episode Abi and Justin shine a light on…
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275: Identifying and Overcoming Spiritual OCD
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For many of us, our beliefs around spirituality and faith can lead us to heightened levels of anxiety and mental torment, without even realizing it. Our thoughts on God can induce looping mental gymnastics that keep us feeling unlovable and fearful of impending doom. Obsessive-compulsive thoughts of needing to be perfect, in order to please God, ca…
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274: Attachment - A Guide to Human Connection Pt. 2
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Connection is tricky. For some, distance in a relationship seems terrifying, leaving us feeling abandoned and alone. For others, a consistent sense of being close can feel overwhelming, resulting in feeling pulled on and suffocated. Either way, it can lead to unnecessary relational breakdowns when we lack the proper education. Understanding secure …
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273: Attachment - A Guide to Human Connection Pt. 1
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Creating functional and healthy relationships can feel like a mystery. It’s easy to believe we’re broken and don’t do connection well. But what if understanding our attachment system could redefine how we relate, create compassion for others, and improve our relationships? In part one of this two-part episode, Abi sits down with her lifelong best f…
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272: Justin’s Near Death Wim Hof Expedition
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In this story of life, death, and rebirth Abi sits down with Justin to discuss his week-long expedition with breath and cold plunge master Wim Hof. Justin candidly shares about his process of being pushed to the brink of his body's capacity, the fear of death he faced, and the healing from trauma he found in the arms of an unlikely person. In the a…
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271: A Vulnerable Conversation About Trauma
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What if a vulnerable conversation could be enough to foster the comfort needed to relieve panic and anxiety? Many of us have history’s littered with painful and traumatic moments that impact our everyday lives. On difficult days, sometimes a loving presence and caring questions are just enough to free us from our funk, while bringing repair to part…
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270: The Secret Sauce to Connection
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In 2011 Brene Brown launched a cultural shifting TED Talk called The Power of Vulnerability. Now, with over 20 million views, her clinical research has validated what an entire emotional health industry had been spending years trying to help the world understand, that vulnerability is a vital key to connection and happiness. The question is, if it’…
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We’ve all had times where we followed our intuition and it didn’t work out the way we hoped it would. For many of us these kinds of disappointments can lead to not trusting ourselves. This breakdown in trust can feel like a safer route, but more often than not the consequences of not following our intuition can be a mundane life filled with regrets…
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At a young age many of us find ourselves losing our innocence through situations that leave us feeling unsafe. In order to protect ourselves, slowly over time, we unconsciously fortify our hearts. In the process we disconnect from a source of joy and wonder that is at the epicenter of creativity and life, in hopes of avoiding pain. In doing so we f…
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Disconnections in relationships are normal and to be expected. Yet, for many of us, the disconnections we often saw modeled to us growing up didn’t end well. For so many, the experiences we’ve been exposed to are filled with unresolved pain that ends in further distance or no acknowledgement of the real problems at all. Because of this, being prese…
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Our time on earth is limited and facing the reality of our mortality can feel scary or morbid. We can easily place our deaths in the back of our minds where we imagine them far off in some distant future and forget how precious each moment truly is. In the end of another person’s life it’s realistic to reflect not only on how they spent it, but als…
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We’ve all found ourselves feeling an ache and an anger when we see and hear stories of injustice and violation perpetuated by people in authority, especially when we admire them. There are countless stories of abuse of power throughout all of our human institutions. This messiness can leave us feeling disillusioned and cause us to live reactive. Bu…
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264: A Fundamental Step to Healing and Repair
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We all have histories laced with difficulties that leave an impact on us. Often times the people that play a role in perpetuating pain are the ones that matter most to us. In our formative years these experiences have a tendency to leave an imprint that lasts a lifetime. It’s reasonable to want to pass judgment on those people and events, while swe…
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263: One of the Greatest Communication Hacks Pt. 2
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Often times we find ourselves in unnecessary conflict all because of miscommunications. This can leave us feeling misunderstood, judged, and defeated. As humans we all have the ability to talk, but rarely are we trained in how to successfully communicate. It’s easy to feel like we’re the only ones having a tough time. But we’re not alone, and honin…
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262: One of the Greatest Communication Hacks Pt. 1
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Experiencing connection or conflict in most relationships usually comes down to one foundational issue, communication. Communication is at the epicenter of all human relationships, making it one of the most vital topics necessary to understand if we hope to be successful in our exchanges with one another. Unfortunately, most of us rarely consider t…
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261: Reflecting-The First Step to Dreaming
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It’s easy for many of us to find ourselves surviving seasons of life. As we pass through difficulties we can often find ourselves looking toward what the future brings without taking time to examine what was. But what if a healthy reflection of what we’ve been through is vital to framing the way we approach our future? In this episode Justin and Ab…
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For many of us it’s easy to live life from one day to the next getting bogged down by the demands and drama that we believe require our attention. We can get lost in goals and achievements, while finding ourselves missing out on vital moments that are designed to impact us and the world around us. But what happens when we take time to slow down and…
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When we look at the difficulties in our lives, and see the suffering in the world, it’s easy to feel like we’ve been abandoned and left all alone to survive. But what if in the midst of all the messiness there’s a God that’s always with us and deeply cares about us? In this episode Abi and Justin discuss the ways a good and radically loving God fou…
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258: Failure-Life’s Friendly Mentor
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For most of us the idea of failure is filled with a sense of dread. It’s often associated with shame, punishment, and disconnection. It often feels like is says something negative about who we are. But what if failure wasn’t an abusive bully, but rather a friendly mentor rooting for us to succeed? In this episode Abi and Justin are joined by their …
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Every family system comes with its own mess. Every sibling finds themselves playing a role whether it’s assigned to them or they unconsciously take it on. Through these roles pain is perpetuated. In an environment where we should feel most known, we can feel the least seen. But what if our our siblings could be catalytic to feeling loved and unders…
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We all have certain expectations of what our lives should look like both in the long term and the day to day. These expectations can often get us stuck in ways of living that leave us having an experience that can feel boring and mediocre. Change can be scary and disappointment can feel overwhelmingly painful, but can the unexpected actually be an …
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255: An Eternal Perspective of Gratitude
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When it comes to success and self-help books, gratitude is often identified as a foundational key to the achievements and wellbeing of any individual. It’s often suggested that gratitude plays a crucial role in the experience of happiness and joy a person has. But what if having gratitude transcends just having a good life and is vital to an eterna…
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Creating a life of wholeness isn’t for the faint of heart. Choosing to foster change and development can feel like a lonely road. The process is difficult and the end result is never perfection. No matter how much we grow, messiness is always part of our human experience. But the beauty of the journey is that we don’t have to do it alone! In this E…
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253: Fostering Faithful Friendships
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We’ve all had friendships where we’ve hurt others and they’ve hurt us. This is an inescapable part of humanity. When our messiness collides friendships can break us in a way that causes us to want to shut down and shut off towards connection. But what if there was love in friendships that could make us and restore the places that seemed permanently…
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