I’ve always been vocal about my emotions and my thoughts but I never felt like I was being heard. I’ve been told way too many times, “You are so sensitive” or “You’re too much.” Trying Not to Care is my not-so-personal diary where I share anything and everything. I share my thoughts and experiences with friendship breakups, bad relationships, navigating my 20s, quitting my job, following my dreams and more. Tune in every Monday for a quick therapy session with me. Follow Ashley on Instagram ...
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What Your Life Feels Like Versus What It Looks Like
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It can be tempting to make your life seem much more luxurious and interesting than it actually is. We think if we post videos at a cool party or photos of us in an expensive car, it will wow others and make them envy our lives. But what is more important? People thinking our lives are so cool, or us actually enjoying our lives? Instead of focusing …
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Big Sister Advice (Juicy and Unfiltered) - ADVICE SESSION #9
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Episode 126 ADVICE SESSION #9! I asked you on Instagram what big sister advice you needed and today I'm answering your questions. QUESTIONS I ANSWER IN TODAY'S EPISODE: Should I give the ugly guy a chance? How to feel comfortable with my sexuality and coming out? How to not get nervous before kissing someone? How to shave down there without it hurt…
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Be the Most Interesting Woman in the Room
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#125 I used to have a lot of social anxiety and was afraid of how people perceived me. I didn't think I was cool or interesting, and I didn't think people would like me. Before going out, I would always have so much anxiety because I didn't know how to talk to people or what to talk about. In today's episode, I share tips on how to be more confiden…
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I Don’t Want to Be Around What I Had to Heal From
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You don’t have to spend time around people who have hurt you or engage in things that you’re no longer interested in. In today's episode, I talk about my experience with not wanting to be around certain people after taking time to work through things and heal. If I spent a year getting over a friend who hurt me, why am I going to hang out with some…
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Self care doesn't have to cost money. In today's episode, I'm sharing some free self care ideas as well as my girl therapy favorites. If you're looking for ideas on how to cheer yourself up or romanticize your life, listen to this episode! Trying Not to Care is sponsored by FÜM: to get a free gift with your Journey pack go to - https://www.tryfum.c…
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Breaking to Reinvent Yourself (Hitting Rock Bottom Is a Blessing)
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At the end of 2021, while I was working at my old job, I was struggling with my mental health, personal issues, and paying bills. I felt so lost in life and was so unhappy with my situation. Up until this point, I made excuses for why I couldn’t leave my job and pursue posting on social media full time. Excuses like, “What if I don’t make money? Wh…
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This one is for all the lover girls that try to see the best in everyone. In today’s episode, I talk about confusing control for love, my past relationships, what love is and is DEFINITELY NOT!!!!! SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: Subscribe he…
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If you're having FOMO watching others enjoy their summers in the Hamptons, are unable to afford the trending summer products you see on TikTok, or are feeling bad about yourself after seeing "aesthetic day in the life" videos online, listen to this episode. Today's episode is a reminder that you don't need to spend a lot of money (or any money at a…
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Fear of Being Perceived: Life Is About Experiencing, Not Being Perceived
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LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE IF YOU ARE CONSTANTLY WORRYING ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU. Being a successful content creator has always been a dream of mine, but I didn't start pursuing that dream until a couple years ago. The reason it took me 10+ years to start posting online is because I was afraid of others thinking I was cringey and making fun of …
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Instead of being motivated to prove others wrong, be motivated to prove yourself right. In today's episode, we're talking about becoming the person younger you always wanted to be, making your inner child proud and having self discipline. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying…
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Being the Backup Friend, Moving on After a Friendship Breakup, Being Single and How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex - ADVICE SESSION #8
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WE’RE BACK WITH THE ADVICE SESSIONS!!! In today’s episode, I’m answering a few of your questions about friendships and relationships. If you’re struggling with moving on after a friendship ends, want to forgive your bestie after they hurt your feelings, are unsure if you should stay single, or want to stop thinking about your ex, LISTEN TO THIS EPI…
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Your Body Isn’t the Problem, Your Mindset Is
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TW - This episode talks about sensitive topics such as body image, weight and disordered eating. Lately there's been this conversation online where people are working out, out of fear of "being fat" rather than to be healthy or to feel good. It makes me so sad to hear people speak this way about themselves and spread such a harmful message. In toda…
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Listen to this episode next time you’re frustrated over something that’s out of your control. Things don’t always go our way, but just because they don’t, doesn’t mean we’re at a complete loss. This episode is a reminder to focus on things you do have control over and let go of what you don’t. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Tryin…
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HAPPY JUNE!!!! Let's kick this week off with a suuuuuuuper chill episode. Here's my summer favorites and my summer maintenance routine to look and feel my best this summer. I give you recommendations from hair care, skincare, makeup, high maintenance routines, supplements, food and movement! Products mentioned: Amazon Summer Products Skin Gym mask …
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I hope you heal from the things no one ever apologized for. This episode is for anyone who has been hurt by someone and has struggled to move on because there was never any apology or closure. Today we’re talking about moving on without an apology and healing with or without that person. Trying Not to Care is sponsored by Betterhelp. Visit betterhe…
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I try to go into every year with an idea of the things I want to accomplish as well as the person I want to be. With it almost being half way through the year, I want to talk about some things I'm letting go of. These things, I believe, are holding me back from reaching my full potential and doing more harm than good. Things I'm letting go of: Beat…
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#111 With it being Mental Health Awareness Month and following last week’s episode, we’re talking about 3 daily wins. A lot of my stress and anxiety come from wanting to be successful, which leads me to overwork myself and put my needs on the back burner. I’m slowly starting to learn that there’s more than one way to be successful. If you’re taking…
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After struggling with burnout, I thought it was only right to come back and speak about how I’ve been feeling as well as the pressure to always do more. I think a lot of us struggle to actually relax because society has made us believe that taking a break is a bad thing. Whenever we take time to slow down, we feel guilty, like we could be doing som…
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You might have seen me recently crying on Tiktok over my imposter syndrome. While I was in California, I found myself in a few uncomfortable situations that ultimately led to me doubting myself and my abilities. In today's episode, I talk about my struggles with imposter syndrome, what happened in California, where imposter syndrome comes from, as …
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In today's episode, I am talking about why girls have such a bad reputation when it comes to friendships. I have heard so many people, especially men, say girls are so much drama and they're always fighting with their friends. In my opinion, I think the reason why girls have more friendship fallouts is because we have higher expectations for our fr…
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Do you find yourself being jealous and unhappy when others succeed? Listen to this episode. In today’s episode, I talk about why we struggle to be happy for others and how to actually be supportive when others do good. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok …
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Celebrating Yourself - MY BIRTHDAY EPISODE
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ARIES RISE!!!!! It’s officially April and my birthday week. With my birthday coming up, I wanted to talk about previous birthdays where I felt underappreciated by the people in my life. Birthdays can be really hard, especially when you don’t have many friends and feel very overwhelmed. Over the years, I’ve found myself upset over the lack of plans …
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Every year around my birthday, I spiral because I am overly aware of the fact that I am getting older. I used to be so excited for my birthday, and now I dread it because I am afraid of getting older. In today's episode, I talk about the fears of aging, backhanded compliments, beauty standards, and why I am no longer attaching a negative meaning to…
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Stop minimizing what you want out of fear of what others think. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: Subscribe here Revolve, Amazon Storefront and more: LTX This Episode is Sponsored By: Factor - Visit factormeals.com/tntc50 to get 50% off using c…
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How to stop being bothered by others actions and perception of you. Why you should to stop taking things so personally. Mikayla's episode that inspired me: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5cYgbiocg2UuWhvncuXSwm?si=8hdF6u9NQvuXf7Ky13otPg SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying …
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Questions to Ask Yourself Next Time You’re in a Funk
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YOUR GIRL HAS BEEN IN A FUNK. In an attempt to make myself feel better, here are some questions to ask yourself next time you're in a funk. What’s taking up the majority of your time? Who are you spending time with? Are you spending more time in your head or in the moment? What are your current habits? Are you listening to your body and your needs?…
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Going Back to an Ex, Dealing with Rejection, Being Okay With Being Alone and the Journey to Self Love - ADVICE SESSION #7
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ADVICE SESSION #7!!! This episode covers: Going back to an ex after they left you Being “too sad” or “too much” for people What to do if your partner thinks other people are attractive What to do if your ex is treating their new partner better How to be happy alone when all your friends are in relationships Dealing with being ghosted and rejected B…
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In this week's episode, we're talking about the different ways to say and show your love for someone. I am constantly hearing people say, "if he wanted to he would" or "he doesn't love you if he doesn't do this." Although there might be some truth behind those statements, in today's episode I talk about why it's not that simple and how everyone exp…
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Today we're talking about self-care that goes so much deeper than throwing on a face mask or going for a walk. In today's episode, I talk about 10 non-physical things that you can do to take care of yourself. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: S…
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You Lost Them but You Found Yourself - Getting Over a Breakup and Learning to Love Yourself
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With February being the month of love, I want to focus the next few episodes on self-love. In today’s episode, I talk about the harm that comes from losing yourself in a relationship as well as the process of learning to be alone and love yourself after a breakup. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok…
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97: Standing Up for Yourself Doesn’t Make You a Bad Person
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Quick mini vent sesh!!! Today's episode is a reminder that you're allowed to be angry and advocate for yourself when someone disrespects you. Standing up for yourself DOES NOT MAKE YOU A BAD PERSON. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Trying Not to Care Instagram TikTok: Ashley's TikTok | Trying Not to Care TikTok Youtube: Subscribe h…
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I CAN'T BELIEVE IT'S BEEN 2 YEARS OF TRYING NOT TO CARE. With it being the 2 year anniversary of this podcast, I'm sharing my story of how hard work and being delusional got us here. I I talk about why being delusional works, how your thoughts control your reality, and going after what you want. SOCIALS AND LINKS Instagram: Ashley's Instagram | Try…
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The truth about big friend groups and why I think the best people have less friends. In today's episode, I talk about the misconception that people with little to no friends are bad and don't know how to maintain healthy friendships. I strongly believe a big reason why people struggle to maintain friendships is because they don't allow their friend…
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HAPPY 2024!!!!!! I'm so excited to spend another year with you, besties 🥹 In today's episode, I talk about getting out of your own way. I used to carry around the BIGGEST victim mentality and make excuses for why things weren't working out for me. Today, we're taking accountability and discussing 8 things that will help you GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY …
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NEW YEAR NEW ME As the year comes to a close, it's time to start thinking about who we want to be and what we want our lives to look like in 2024. In today's episode, I talk about goal setting, your diet, how to plan your glow up guide and things I will be doing to help me glow up in 2024. This episode covers: - Life updates - Setting unrealistic g…
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As the year comes to a close, I've been reflecting on goals of mine that I have and haven't accomplished. While doing this, I've realized that I tend to put much more emphasize on what I haven't completed than what I have. In today's episode, I talk about: - Looking at things with a negative perspective - Scarcity vs Abundance mindsets - 5 realisti…
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Here are some gentle reminders for those days that you can't get out of your head. 1. Time heals everything. 2. It's okay if not everyone likes you. You don't like everyone. 3. You've never had an original thought. Negative thinking and intrusive thoughts happen to so many people. 4. When one door closes, another door opens. 5. Small steps make big…
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STOP BEING DESPERATE!! If you find yourself begging for partners to treat you right, double-texting your friends for a response, or chasing fame and success, listen to this episode. In today’s episode, I talk about my own experience and how I reeked of desperation as I chased relationships, friendships, and money. Let today’s episode be a reminder …
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Now that I'm in my mid to late 20s, I have been stressing a little bit about my "timeline." What my next moves are—if I'm going to have kids, if I'm going to get married, if I'm going to buy a house—the list goes on. The best way that I cope with these stressors is by talking through them with all of you. Today I'm throwing it back to a TNTC commun…
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Sometimes when we get upset, we don't know entirely why because what we're upset over seems so insignificant. But a lot of the time, the reason we're upset is because things that we've struggled with in the past resurface. In today's episode, I talk about why I think it's important to understand why things trigger you the way they do. I talk about …
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87: Getting Over a Crush, Codependency, Facing Failures, Growing Up Too Fast and Social Anxiety - ADVICE SESSION #6
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Welcome to another advice session! In today's episode I answer some of your questions. This episode covers: - How to handle mood swings - Figuring out if someone likes you back - How to get over a crush - How to stop being codependent - How to face failures - Comparing yourself to older adults - How to deal with social anxiety when hanging out with…
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For the girls who want to form habits and feel good but don't want to commit to 75 hard or 75 soft. After finishing 75 hard, I fell off a little bit with my routine, and I decided I wanted to get back into it. I miss working towards something and feeling as good as I did doing 75 hard. I don't want to commit to another 75 days, and I don't believe …
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85: Your Value Doesn’t Decrease Based on Someone’s Inability to See Your Worth
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Listen to this episode if you find yourself basing your value on what others think. In today's episode, I talk about my experience with past relationships and how I allowed how they treated me to determine my worth. This episode is sponsored by ZocDoc - Go to Zocdoc.com/TRYINGNOT and download the Zocdoc app for FREE ♡MY SOCIALS♡ Instagram: personal…
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It's no secret that I love fall. I love fall fashion, fall activities, seasonal food, pumpkin spice coffee and even the weather. But once Halloween passes and the temperature drops below 60, I find myself being affected by seasonal depression. During the fall and winter, I struggle a lot mentally. I have an extremely hard time getting out of bed, s…
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83: Working With Your Cycle: Cycle Syncing to Make Your Life Easier
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For the majority of my life, I was under the impression that I got my period and that was it. I had no idea about the four phases of the menstrual cycle and how those phases affect our body. Recently I've been learning more about the menstrual cycle as well as cycle syncing and I wanted to share what I've learned so far with you! I also share my ex…
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82: How to Be Irresistible, Attractive and Magnetic (Part 1)
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As much as I love hot girl fall, I want to be hot every single season. In today's episode, I talk about 5 things that I believe not only make someone attractive but also magnetize others to them. In this episode I cover: - Confidence - Being present - Not being open with everyone - Sticking to your word - Taking care of yourself Try the Peloton App…
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81: Getting to Know Myself Better - 26 Questions to Discover Who You Are
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GET TO KNOW ME! I love to share my thoughts and advice with you on this podcast but very rarely do I share much information about myself. In today's episode, I'm answering 26 questions about me, so you and I can get to know me better. Ava's episode that inspired today's ep: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6tgxac7JAw68eFH4hertPF?si=DLvZ3K87RnqTcGnV…
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In today's episode, I talk about my experience with comparing my time in the podcast space to others. As I've compared my journey to others, I've noticed that the only time I find myself doubting my abilities is when I'm putting them up against others. In this episode, I talk about comparison and its negative effects on you, Bevy Smith's "Take a No…
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79: Trying Isn’t Embarrassing. Why You Should Go After What You Want, Regardless of What Others Think.
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If you’re worried about what others think, listen to this episode. After seeing a video of two women (who run a podcast) making fun of aspiring creators for posting online, I decided it was time for me to talk about the topic myself. I started this podcast with nothing. I just quit my job, I didn’t have a huge online presence, and I had no idea how…
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78: My Morning and Night Routine, Non-Negotiables and How to Build Your Own Perfect Routine
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Here's a glimpse into my morning and night routine! Social media is filled with so many aesthetically pleasing morning and night routines which are fun to watch, but they're not always realistic. Not everyone has time to have a dedicated routine! But in today's episode I share how you can build a routine that is beneficial and works for you. This e…
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