Marriage is hard as hell! We wives deal with so many things that make us question ourselves in so many areas from our ability to be #wifegoals to motherhood and being a boss chick! Without a blueprint we struggle to align our womanhood with our sexuality against our smarts and social lives; not to mention the total adjustment and discomfort to have a man invading your space. Join Kendra, Adalis and LaMechia as we banter through the highs and lows and all the love of being a wife.
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Join therapists Jerry Sander & Kristy Gaisford as we look at both the hard truths, and joys, that accompany intimate relationships. Our perspective is personal, practical and based on experience: we've both been married, divorced, and married again after finding great partners for our second marriages. (Both of us had four children apiece in our first marriages; Kristy has four step-children in her second one). Both of us maintain relationally-focused private therapy practices, focusing on c ...
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I drink coffee and talk about stuff. Fitness, Diet, Finances, Business, Movies, Faith, fighting, MMA, Marvel, D.C. Family, Marriage, parenting, the kitchen sink, etc...
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It’s not what’s wrong, it’s what happened! Be Crazy Well, a podcast of Coming Home Well, explores mental and emotional wellbeing from the perspective that "a diagnosis" doesn’t tell the story of what happened to you. Understanding what happened provides the most important intel to plan and execute a new and effective mission to your mental health. Join Suzi and her mental health allies as she disrupts the mental health establishment and starts a mental health evolution! You have to Do Differ ...
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The perils and pluses of reaching a diagnostic understanding about your partner are considered. Voicing diagnostic lingo to your partner is considered in terms of being an usually-losing tactic. Of special consideration when one of the couple is a therapist her/himself....By Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW
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Jerry & Kristy take an extended look at the process of repair. Frequently misunderstood as a "moment" it is actually a relational project that requires vulnerability, bravery and follow-through. Specific applications of the process of repair to four different fight-scenarios are illustrated.By Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW
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Couples usually stumble over this ever-present elephant-in-the-room; what if you have different backgrounds, expectations and habits when it comes to personal finances? What are the implications for the two of you as a couple? How do you even begin to talk about it? Jerry and Kristy ponder this out loud, with numerous common examples of disconnect.…
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Jerry and Kristy consider the thorny impact of worldwide patriarchy on the way we function in our relationships. Alternative models are considered, as well as an understanding of how the status-quo we were born into results in a bad deal for both men and women.By Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW
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EP:103 Define your mood through your actions
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Send us a Text Message. Suzi invites listeners to a candid exploration of moods and their transient grip on our lives. With a vibrant blend of personal anecdotes, psychological insights, and a touch of theatrical wisdom, Suzi challenges the notion that our moods should dictate our actions. Suzi's call to action is clear: rise above fleeting thought…
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Send us a Text Message. Did you now yelling hurts you physically, emotionally, intellectually and spirtiually? Explore into the power of words and the impact of your voice. Suzi's personal journey from silence to shouting, as she candidly shares her transformation from a childhood overshadowed by fear and intimidation to an adulthood where yelling …
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You know the feeling when you just want to throw things away? When one too many things have occurred and you would just love to get rid of things (or your partner?) instead of working to fix them? Jerry ponders the convergence of a number of mechanical breakdowns that came his way as Kristy puts it in context of the ever-present challenge of relati…
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EP:101 Giving Myself Grace with Scott Smith
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Send us a Text Message. Giving myself grace and understanding my journey. Today Suzi is joined by Marine Corps Veteran Scott Smith to talk about his wellness practices and finding his path to happiness. Through journaling, meditation and keeping his mind and body in physical shape, Scott can find peace and a way to keep himself grounded. Tune in to…
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What role does our ego play in helping, or hindering, connection with our partner? Kristy & Jerry unpack some of this together. Jerry reports some about his travel to Southern India and how long it took him to finally unpack after returning.By Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW
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Send us a Text Message. Suzi invites you to put the time and energy into becoming the next you. Life will always be changing so don't be afraid to jump right in. Push outside your comfort zone. Welcome the challenge and use your creativity into making the next you. Music credit to Kalvin Love for the podcast’s theme song “Bee Your Best Self” Tune i…
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EP:99 Dustin Beluscak - Merging Vets and Players
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Send us a Text Message. Today Suzi revisits with Dustin Beluscak, Virtual Program Manager for Merging Vets and Players, about how far he has come in his healing and his resources. Dustin served in the Army National Guard from 1999 to 2006. After he left the service, he ended up in transitional housing while looking to change his life. He decided to…
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Send us a Text Message. Who are you arguing with? Maybe not the person in front of you. For most of us Trauma argues with trauma. Our real human nature is love, mental clarity, creativity, and a zest for life that is informed by the past but no longer weighed down or controlled by it. Conflict worsens when two people fall into defensive reactions. …
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What If Your Partner Doesn't Want To Do "The Work"?
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It's more rare than we would like that both partners in a couple approach "the work" of behavioral change with the same intensity, at the same rate, and in the same way. What happens if one person is much more enthusiastic about "doing the work" than the other partner? Kristy and Jerry consider this in today's episode.…
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EP:97 Those Who Serve with Producer Jeff Werner
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Send us a Text Message. Today's chat with Jeff Werner, producer and director, Suzi spotlights the plight of Veterans struggling with PTSD upon their return to civilian life. "Those Who Serve" Jeff's evocative film, serves as the backdrop for a critical exploration of the legal system's interaction with these battle-scarred warriors. Through stories…
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EP:96 ScriptScouts: A Platform to saving on your Prescription Medication
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Send us a Text Message. Ever been blindsided by the staggering cost of a prescription? Andy Chan, the founder of ScriptScouts, joins Suzi to unravel the perplexing world of medication pricing and how his platform is blazing a trail for consumers to find the best deals. This episode isn't just about the challenges of healthcare and medication costs;…
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Send us a Text Message. Have you ever wondered about how the stories we tell ourselves can shape our growth? Join me, Susie Landolphi, as I sit down with the incredibly perceptive Lela Grace to discuss the concept of rewriting our personal tales, emphasizing that our past conditioning does not have to determine our future path. It's a journey of se…
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Memorable, highly-charged words and phrases are frequently heard in couples' therapists' offices. What they mean -- how they are understood between people who claim to love each other -- is often highly debatable and unclear. Jerry and Kristy try to translate some meanings in today's episode.By Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW
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EP:94 Dr. Linda Comedy Marriage Boot Camp
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Send us a Text Message. Prepare to be charmed and educated, as Dr. Linda Watson, a dazzling psychologist with a knack for humor, graces our podcast the healing power of laughter. Her book, "Dr. Linda's Comedy Marriage Bootcamp," not only tickles your funny bone but also serves a grander purpose, with proceeds going towards horse rescues—a testament…
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An addict's path to recovery necessarily involves making amends and becoming more relational to the people around you whom you've wounded. But often people get caught at the "dry-drunk" phase, don't do the relational work (despite 12-step groups' encouragement to do so) and the very process of recovery can attain a familiarly selfish flavor. Jerry …
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EP:93 Tyler Corcoran Part II: Embracing Freedom & Family
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Send us a Text Message. Imagine stepping back into a world that's spun forward without you for nearly two decades. Tyler Corcoran's journey is a testament to human resilience, and in our latest episode, he opens his heart about the road from confinement to the wide-open possibilities of life post-release. His candid reflections on embracing the sim…
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Send us a Text Message. Stripping down the complexities of our emotional and mental 'equipment' that shape our personal growth. Suzi invites you to take stock of your own life 'equipment.' Arm yourself intellectually, spiritually, and financially, as well as physically and emotionally. Learn how to shed the unnecessary and embrace strategies that p…
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It's not always The Brady Bunch. In fact, it almost never is. Kristy and Jerry explore some of the dynamics at work for members of blended families and try to "right-size" expectations to maximize opportunities for natural connections.By Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW
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EP:91 Tyler Corcoran: Incarceration to New Beginnings
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Send us a Text Message. In this heartfelt episode, Suzi talks with Tyler Corcoran about family, incarceration, redemption and new beginnings. Tyler's remarkable metamorphosis, from a 17-year-old staring down a near life sentence to a man who dared to redefine his destiny, shines as a beacon of possibility, reminding us of the indomitable human capa…
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Send us a Text Message. Join Suzi as she take a journey on the path of evolving family customs and their impact on our healing from trauma. This episode isn't just about the holidays; it's about the choices we make in preserving or reinventing the customs that shape our lives. Happy Holidays! Music credit to Kalvin Love for the podcast’s theme song…
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EP:89 Creating a Community with George Foreman III
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Send us a Text Message. Remember the time when we let our insecurities steer us away from seeking help? What if there was a way to turn those insecurities into your most powerful tool for personal growth? Join us as Suzi and George Foreman III talk about the importance of physical health and mental wellness. George' approach of creating supportive …
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EP:88 Reclaiming Family, Friends and Connection
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Send us a Text Message. Imagine, for a moment, entering a space where you are valued for your authentic self, where everyone understands and respects your identity and experiences. Join Suzi as she journeys into the world of connection, self-reclamation and community transformation. Suzi would love to hear from you the listeners! Email her at suzig…
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Send us a Text Message. Finding solace in solitude! Join Suzi as she shares her journey from the fear of being alone to the joy of embracing solitude. Encountering solitude is like playing a symphony on a lone piano; it's not about loneliness, but about harmonizing with our own rhythm, your thoughts, and your self-worth. Explore the difference betw…
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Ahhhh...The Holidays. They are already here, and we are already scrambling to try to extract the maximum amount of family happiness and connection from situations that can also offer confusion, old, unresolved situations, things-out-of-left-field, financial stress, arguments and large amounts of stress or depression. Still, it is possible to put to…
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EP:86 How past experiences can cloud our perceptions
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Send us a Text Message. Discover your power of finding common ground despite someone else's differences and the importance of not taking things personally. Come along with Suzi as she shares the nuances of family dynamics and how past experiences can cloud our perceptions, sometimes creating rifts in relationships. She will discuss strategies to lo…
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Send us a Text Message. Today Suzi is at the Craft Boxing Gym having a pow wow with several members on combining physical activity and talking to help with emotional healing. We chat about how your feelings can be better managed during intense workouts and how family dynamics influence our emotional expressions. We also chat about navigating throug…
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Jerry and Kristy express their gratitude for the people, places and things in their lives, with a particular focus on their respective relationships. Being able to extract, and express, gratitude for that hard things that are learned as part of the growth-edge that relationships bring is the Advanced Class. Our best efforts are required, and are re…
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Send us a Text Message. Suzi is on a walkout in Harlem in this episode. To see the full episode check her out on our YouTube Channel @cominghomewellmilitary. Suzi is in New York to attend a special event for Veteran Students at Cornell and Columbia Universities as one of the keynote speakers. Join Suzi as she strolls along engaging with the vibrant…
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Whether it is childhood trauma(s), the effects of societal prejudices, discrimination and stigmatizing or more recent adult losses of a traumatic nature, the ripple effects of trauma is shared with our partner in relationships. Kristy and Jerry ponder the wide-ranging effects of this in presenting challenges to intimacy in relationships. And we end…
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EP:83 Kristian King ~ You get better with practice!
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Send us a Text Message. Growing and learning how to be a human doing is a practice. Today Suzi is super excited to have Kristian King, from Higher Ground, joining her today to talk about being congruent and authentic in the effort of bringing your thoughts, feelings and actions together as a unit. Kristian King has been a practicing Recreational Th…
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Send us a Text Message. Ever found yourself in a bind, with no choice but to 'wing it'? Join me, Suzi Landolphi, as I explore the fine line between planning and improvisation, the concept of backwards planning, after-action reports and how we can use them to better our relationships and day-to-day affairs. Music credit to Kalvin Love for the podcas…
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Do you ever feel strongly at emotional odds with most things around you? And then whether or not you are off-your-rocker and possibly The Problem because of being crazy? Just....different from others, in a major way? You aren't alone at all. Being overwhelmed by feelings -- and not feeling like they are seen and valued by those closest to you -- is…
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EP:81 The Power of Choice and Embracing the Hero Inside
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Send us a Text Message. Could your life be changed by a single decision? Harness the power of choice and embody the idea that we can all become heroes in training by embracing daily habits that foster change and growth. Join Suzi, as she engages with the compelling concept of 'wisdom keepers' and dives into the profound influence of Dr Edith Eva Eg…
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EP:80 Wrestling Beyond the Ring: Aron Haddad
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Send us a Text Message. Ever wondered how professional wrestling is akin to performing arts? The charismatic and talented Aron Haddad, a renowned professional wrestler, joins us to highlight the captivating world of wrestling, where each move is a blend of athleticism and carefully choreographed artistry. But life is not all about wrestling, is it?…
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Send us a Text Message. Suzi has always been a disruptor at heart, which led her to create the first condom store in the US, and defend her rights against religious extremism. She takes you down memory lane of her intriguing journey towards becoming a therapist and how her adventures, mishaps, and personal trauma have been her stepping stones. She …
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Our religious upbringings -- or non-religious upbringings -- can have implications and repercussions for our later intimate relationships, the likes of which we likely hadn't considered. Jerry & Kristy discuss.By Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW
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EP:78 "I didn't have a choice" Surviving Leukemia
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Send us a Text Message. Listen up caregivers, this one's for you. Brimming with courage and resilience, 18-year-old Logan Nobriga joins his GMA , Suzi Landolphi, as he recounts his 2x battle with leukemia. Diagnosed at the tender age of 5, he navigates us through some of the highs and lows, and he emphasizes the importance of maintaining friendship…
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EP:77 The Power of Equine Therapy and what our horses can teach us
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Send us a Text Message. Join me, Suzi Landolphi at Sweetbeau Horses as we explore the magic of equine therapy and the lessons these majestic creatures teach us about being better humans. My guest today is the gentle giant Guinness, a warm-blood Percheron cross as he joins me in the arena to talk about the benefits of an equine therapy program I've …
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Kristy & Jerry consider what happens when we, for one reason or another, remember only certain aspects of our most important relationships. We deny, or ignore, important things at a cost; recovery of all the layers of a relationship may be painful, but worth it.By Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW
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EP:76 Breathing, Blocking & Setting Boundaries
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Send us a Text Message. Imagine a wellness tool that's free, accessible, and incredibly powerful - that's the magic of deep breathing. This episode unveils the hidden significance of breath and its profound impact on our mental, emotional, and physical health. Suzi spotlights how deep-seated fears and emotional threats can trigger anxiety and the n…
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What's it like for you to be in a couple and to celebrate these special occasions? Or...not? What happens, for the couple, when these days roll around and either are celebrated, ignored or recognized in a less-than-satisfying way? Jerry and Kristy contemplate these things and more.By Jerry Sander, LCSW & Kristy Gaisford, LCSW
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EP:75 "I was told me to be afraid without explanation"
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Send us a Text Message. Have you ever caught yourself in a web of fear, spun by what you have always been told or past experiences? Join me, Suzi Landolphi, as we consider the importance of understanding the value or purpose of what we fear, and how to turn this knowledge into growth opportunities. Exam and research you fear to gain knowledge of it…
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EP:74 The Art of Creating an Oasis at Home
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Send us a Text Message. Ever felt like you need a vacation but your bank balance says otherwise? Hold that thought, because we're about to shift perspectives and take you on a mind-bending journey that will help you relax and rejuvenate right where you are. Get ready to create a vacation mindset at home and you'll be amazed at how this transformati…
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EP:73 Be the Jackass: The Hidden Value of Stubbornness
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Send us a Text Message. Stubbornness! Can this characteristic, often viewed negatively, actually have hidden depths and value? Join me, Susie Landolphi, as I am at my usual refuge, the Lifesavers Wild Horse Sanctuary, where we explore these questions and more. There are parallels between the protective nature of donkeys and the stubborn behavior ex…
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EP:72 Embracing Change: From Physical Relocations to Mental Shifts
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Send us a Text Message. I've never been a fan of moving. The anticipation, the upheaval, and the inevitable chaos always leave me feeling out of sync. Yet, here I am, knee-deep in moving boxes, juggling the stress of relocation with the demands of daily life. Join me, Suzi Landolphi, as we unpack not just physical boxes, but emotional ones too. In …
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The Fine Line Between Letting Things Go & Enabling
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Kristy and Jerry untangle the thorny areas in which personal boundaries seem to be challenged by our partner's desire to control us, when -- in fact -- it is often about emotional needs we can all relate to it. The seed for solutions lay in a relational approach, neither in confrontation nor denial.By Kristy Gaisford, LCSW & Jerry Sander, LCSW
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