Best Martinkus Podcasts (2024)

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New Life Live: May 9, 2024 48:01

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Topics: Avoiders, Finances, Christian Walk, Gambling, Sexual Abuse, Same-Sex Attraction, Secrets Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, JJ West Caller Questions: Dr. Jill Hubbard shares about Pathological Demand Avoidance. What’s going on with my life at 57yo? It seems like the harder I work, the more things go wrong. Should I go out of town if I fe…

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New Life Live: May 8, 2024 48:01

4h ago48:01

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Topics: Character, Intimacy, Betrayal, Counseling, Adult Children, ADD, Pregnancy, Sexual Integrity Hosts: Dr. Alice Benton, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Jim Burns Caller Questions & More: Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris shares about Knowing Our Values. If my 12yr marriage has never been consummated, do I have grounds for a divorce? What type of therapy work…

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New Life Live: May 7, 2024 48:01

2h ago48:01

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Topics: Addictions, Surrender, Aging Parents, Affairs, Remarriage, Christian Walk, Suicide, Chronic Illness Hosts: Dr. Alice Benton, Marc Cameron, JJ West Caller Questions: JJ West shares about The Serenity Prayer and Unexpected Disappointment. How do I deal with my elderly father who says he will no longer want to live after his significant other …

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New Life Live: May 6, 2024 48:01

22h ago48:01

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Topics: Anxiety, Intimacy, Sex Addiction, Boundaries, Vacillators, Scams Hosts: Marc Cameron, Dr. Alice Benton, JJ West Caller Questions & More: Dr. Alice Benton shares about Separation Anxiety Disorder. How do I understand my emotions so I can love my wife how she needs to be loved? We had an argument last night. My nephew struggles with sex addic…

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New Life Live: May 3, 2024 48:01

5d ago48:01

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Topics: Guilt, Adult Children, Aging Parents, End of Life, Caregiving, Christian Walk, Grief, Childhood Trauma Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Chris Williams Caller Questions: Chris Williams shares about Great Fears getting in the way of Great Connection. Am I experiencing true guilt or false guilt after my son with mental illness ran a…

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New Life Live: May 2, 2024 48:01

6d ago48:01

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Topics: Affairs, Trust, Friendship, People Pleasers, Adult Children, Boundaries, Anxiety Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Dr. Jim Burns Caller Questions: Dr. Jill Hubbard shares about Airport Anxiety. How do I start looking forward instead of looking back? My husband had an affair 12yrs ago, and I don’t trust him. Why do I find myself in frien…

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New Life Live: May 1, 2024 48:01

6d ago48:01

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Topics: Separation, Emotional Affairs, Same-Sex Attraction, Abandonment, Childhood Trauma, Getting Unstuck, Sexual Addiction Hosts: Dr. Alice Benton, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Jim Burns Caller Questions: Dr. Jim Burns shares about Rites of Passage. My wife started making false accusations about me having an emotional affair with a woman from chur…

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New Life Live: April 30, 2024 48:01

6d ago48:01

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Topics: Affairs, Divorce, Adult Children, Estrangement, Bipolar, Teens, Grandparenting, Boundaries, Self-Harm, Intimacy Hosts: Marc Cameron, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Dr. Jim Burns Caller Questions: My wife had affairs and then turned my sons against me when she divorced me. Since she passed away and my sons think she’s a saint, how do I reconnect with the…

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Our Personal Healing Journeys Part 2- Michael and Kristin Unplugged 28:25

7d ago28:25

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If we are willing, we can continue to develop more maturity, peace, intimacy with God, and the integration of our truest selves for the rest of our lives. Healing is not a one time event, but rather an ongoing process like peeling layers of an onion. Michael and Kristin open up a glimpse of what healing has looked like for each of us as individuals…

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New Life Live: April 29, 2024 48:01

8d ago48:01

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Topics: Affairs, Adult Children, Finances, Physical Abuse, Forgiveness, Blended Families Hosts: Marc Cameron, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Dr. Jim Burns Caller Questions: Is it worth it to reconcile with my unfaithful husband? We’ve been married three times and divorced twice, but he continues to be unfaithful. My family has uninvited my husband to a $5,000 v…

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New Life Live: April 26, 2024 48:01

10d ago48:01

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Topics: Trust, Grief, Childhood Trauma, Christian Walk, Alcohol, Attachment Style Hosts: Becky, Brown Dr. Alice Benton, Marc Cameron Caller Questions: How do I trust people again and keep going after my husband asked me to leave, my mom passed, I was homeless, and I drank a bottle of vodka a day? My mom tried to drown me and my dad played Russian r…

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New Life Live: April 25, 2024 48:01

11d ago48:01

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Topics: Miscarriages, Grief, Anxiety, Teens, Sexual Integrity, Making Decisions Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Alice Benton, Chris Williams Caller Questions: My daughter has had four miscarriages and two stillbirths; how do I find some words to say to her? How do I support my 17yo daughter with her social anxiety before she goes to college? I lost my wife…

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New Life Live: April 24, 2024 48:01

12d ago48:01

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Topics: Anger, Verbal Abuse, Adult Children, Boundaries, Finances, Drug Addiction, Pornography Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Dr. Jim Burns Caller Questions: How do I handle my adult son who gets angry and yells at me for hours? My sister took guardianship of our niece but is using the money for herself; how do I oppose her if she is b…

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New Life Live: April 23, 2024 48:01

13d ago48:01

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Topics: Estrangement, Adult Children, Betrayal, Borderline, Physical Abuse, Anger Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, JJ West Caller Questions: My four adult children no longer talk to me after I bashed their mom, but I’ve forgiven her for divorcing me 30yrs ago. How can I get beyond my family who turned my daughter against me as she was dying fr…

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New Life Live: April 22, 2024 48:01

14d ago48:01

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Topics: Brain Issues, Bipolar, Grandparenting, Anxiety, Trust, End of Life, Adult Children Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Marc Cameron Caller Questions: What kind of help do I need for brain trauma from football and bipolar disorder? How do we help our 11yo granddaughter who is struggling after her mom’s surgeries and extended hospital stay?…

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#80: The Shame She Experiences 52:38

17d ago52:38

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So here we are! The final episode of Season #6. We start with me needing to loop back to something we discussed in the last episode where Jason said he received feedback from someone saying that sometimes when Jason mentions the past / the timeline, that he is shaming me. While I don’t think he is trying to shame me - I DO experience shame when cer…

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New Life Live: April 19, 2024 48:01

17d ago48:01

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Topics: Adult Children, Boundaries, Grief, Affairs, Counseling, Estrangement, Enabling, Self-Worth, People Pleasers Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Dr. Jim Burns Caller Questions: My adult kids set boundaries with me and aren’t willing to sit down and talk about it; any suggestions? How do I encourage my unfaithful husband to go to counseling…

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New Life Live: April 18, 2024 48:01

18d ago48:01

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Topics: Christian Walk, Finances, Trust, Counseling, Weight Loss, Distractions Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Alice Benton, Marc Cameron Caller Questions: Is Malachi the right Scripture for tithing? I have trust issues. Does the whole world have problems like I hear on New Life Live, or is it just the USA? I feel hopeless to lose weight; how do I stop my …

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New Life Live: April 17, 2024 48:01

19d ago48:01

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Topics: Anger, Blended Families, Marijuana, Teens, Estrangement, Siblings, Grief, Avoiders Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Chris Williams Caller Questions: How do I resolve my issues with anger? I hold things in and have verbally lashed out, broken things, and screamed. What do I do if my 19yo bonus daughter has had a battle with drug-l…

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New Life Live: April 16, 2024 48:01

20d ago48:01

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Topics: Grief, Depression, Estrangement, Mother Issues, Adult Children, Weight Issues, Self Worth, Enabling Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Dr. Jim Burns Caller Questions: I’ll miss Steve Arterburn being on radio and I wrote a poem in his honor. What should I do to get past my baby’s father getting shot and killed last year and then losing ou…

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Our Personal Healing Journeys Part 1- Michael and Kristin Unplugged 20:10

21d ago20:10

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If we are willing, we can continue to develop more maturity, peace, intimacy with God, and the integration of our truest selves for the rest of our lives. Healing is not a one time event, but rather an ongoing process like peeling layers of an onion. Michael and Kristin open up a glimpse of what healing has looked like for each of us as individuals…

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New Life Live: April 15, 2024 48:01

21d ago48:01

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Topics: Confrontation; Difficult Conversations, Aging Parents, Physical Abuse, Boundaries, Addictions, Marijuana, Estrangement, Adult Children Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Alice Benton, Marc Cameron, and a special message from Steve Arterburn Caller Questions: I shy away from confrontation and my bossy Bible study leader’s wife sent me a text that bothe…

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#79: Holding Her Hostage 39:18

24d ago39:18

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In this episode - we talk about how he can hold her hostage in the recovery process. We discuss this concept, of him holding her hostage, two different ways (or avenues or angles or well, you get the point). The first avenue is how Jason interprets “holding her hostage” which essentially is him holding her hostage for his past wounds and holding he…

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New Life Live: April 12, 2024 48:01

24d ago48:01

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Topics: Self-Worth, Adult Children, Enabling, Blended Families Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jacqui Mack-Harris, Chris Williams Caller Questions: Why do I keep having negative thoughts of myself, and how can I change that? My adult children want me to bail them out after they get into trouble; how do I find a balance and say no? Where can I find the four…

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New Life Live: April 11, 2024 48:01

25d ago48:01

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Topics: Autism, Anxiety, Adult Children, Chronic Pain, Controllers, Alcohol Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, JJ West Caller Questions: Is my 30yo son autistic or agoraphobic if he won’t leave the house or even brush his teeth? My wife is bedridden, and I’m disabled. What’s the difference between going to a chiropractor vs. pain management? My …

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New Life Live: April 10, 2024 48:01

26d ago48:01

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Topics: Depression, Adult Children, Suicide, Sexual Abuse, Estrangement, Anxiety Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Alice Benton, Chris Williams Caller Questions: Any advice about what we can do to help our 32yo son with anxiety and depression? I wanted to end it last month because nothing is easy for me; what can I do? Where do I go from here if my 35yo daug…

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New Life Live: April 9, 2024 48:01

27d ago48:01

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Topics: Bipolar Disorder, ADD, Parenting, Difficult Conversations, Sexual Abuse, PTSD, Siblings Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Jill Hubbard, Dr. Jim Burns Caller Questions: My husband has a pattern of leaving me when he has a bipolar episode; is there a place in his mind he can go that gives him peace? My sister’s 11yo son with ADHD talks badly to her and…

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New Life Live: April 8, 2024 48:01

28d ago48:01

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Topics: In-laws, Adult Children, Difficult Conversations, Drug Addiction, Boundaries, Pornography Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Alice Benton, Marc Cameron Caller Questions: My passive aggressive daughter-in-law is coming over tonight to talk; how can I steer the conversation to clear up our conflict? I take care of my father and am sober from meth for 2y…

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Regrouping + Resources 11:26

1M ago11:26

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It’s just me today, popping in to let you know we will be back next week with a fresh episode. I am sharing the quickest of life updates with you guys plus a reminder about a couple of resources that we offer. We are so glad YOU are here, thanks for joining us for Season #6. For those of you that are new here, check out Episode #1 for Our Story. Ma…

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New Life Live: April 5, 2024 48:01

1M ago48:01

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Topics: Adult Children, Enabling, Separation, Dating, Difficult Conversations Hosts: Becky Brown, Dr. Alice Benton, Marc Cameron Caller Questions: What do I do if my 25yo daughter and her 5yo son moved out, but she now wants to move back home after it hasn’t worked out with her boyfriend? I’m separated from my porn-addicted, emotionally abusive hus…

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The Betrayal Bind with Michelle Mays - Part 2 of 2 30:14

1M ago30:14

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Kristin interviews Michelle Mays, a CSAT and betrayal trauma specialist whose attachment based approach to healing sheds light on the devastating and disorienting impact of sexual betrayal. In this 2 part episode, Michelle unpacks principles from new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. She r…

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#78: Going Into Public with Confidence 52:01

1M ago52:01

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As we dig into the content of this particular episode - please keep in mind that these situations are SO nuanced. So please take what we are sharing and consider how it applies to you. What we share will not work for everyone in every situation. #1 - Clearly End the Affair - Our first suggestion for regaining confidence and to be able to go back ou…

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#77: Making Friends with the Work 34:42

2M ago34:42

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As Jason said early on in this episode - recovery work is painful. It hurts, it’s scary and no wonder we resist it. Jason talks about how he went from resisting the recovery work to accepting that there was work to do. It’s in this process that we make friends with the work. As Thomas Berry, a coach on our team, says - we go from “got to TO get to”…

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The Betrayal Bind with Michelle Mays - Part 1 of 2 23:32

2M ago23:32

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Kristin interviews Michelle Mays, a CSAT and betrayal trauma specialist whose attachment based approach to healing sheds light on the devastating and disorienting impact of sexual betrayal. In this 2 part episode, Michelle unpacks principles from her new book The Betrayal Bind: How to Heal When the Person You Love the Most Has Hurt You the Worst. S…

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#76: The Duality of Hope 44:05

2M ago44:05

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Basically, I try to take over during the first five minutes of the episode as I talk about hope. Then I pass the mic over to Jason and you will probably actually like what he says much more. I just try to sprinkle in anecdotal comments as I can, you’re welcome. Hope is a handhold for wives in the following ways… 1 - it gives women a sense of securi…

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#75: Where Empathy Develops 42:02

2M ago42:02

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Get out your thinking caps - this episode is heady and I had to rewind many many times to re-listen while I was working on these show notes. We are talking empathy (and intimacy and conviction) today. I believe that empathy is one of the key ingredients that will help her heart heal within the context of the couple-ship. So developing empathy is KE…

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Over Spiritualization & Recovery- Michael & Kristin Unplugged Episode #1 24:48

2M ago24:48

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Sexual addiction and sexual betrayal trauma are both multidimensional and complex. As Christians, it can feel safer to blame the enemy for our experiences that are actually rooted in many other aspects of how God made us. True and lasting healing are available but we must implement recovery practices to heal the interconnected depths of our body, s…

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#74: Intimacy Pays Dividends 49:42

2M ago49:42

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In this episode, we get real honest about a recent series of arguments we had about money, with the intent of sharing with you guys what engaging in conflict can look like in “late recovery”. Not that we do conflict perfectly or recovery perfectly (as you will surely hear) but we get questions about what life looks like today - years and years post…

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#73: The Value of Full Disclosure 40:55

2M ago40:55

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In this episode, we talk about the value of the full disclosure and some of the reasons that doing a full disclosure (for both him and for her) is incredibly beneficial. Here are some of those reasons: - for men: integration of the story and the acting out - as in, making sense of and connecting dots in his story as a whole which informs the recove…

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The Power of The Group - Why 2 Successful Women Keep Giving Back at Women in the Battle® 40:25

3M ago40:25

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Jen & Brenda are both beautiful, smart, successful professionals whose worlds turned upside down when they discovered sexual betrayal in their marriages. Not one area of their lives was untouched by this crisis. They both helped Kristin start Women in the Battle in 2016 and recorded this episode in the Fall of 2020. Brenda and Jen kept serving betr…

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#72: Frontloading For Her 37:19

3M ago37:19

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In this episode, we piggyback off of the last episode on Frontloading and discuss how women can leverage this technique in order to feel safe having certain conversations with him. This technique is essentially giving him a heads up that a difficult conversation needs to be had + insuring he is in an open space to have said conversation well in adv…

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#71: Frontloading 34:57

3M ago34:57

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In this episode, we talk about Frontloading, a term we first heard from Jennifer Kolari after doing some parenting therapy with her. See the link below for her information. Frontloading is the conversation we have prior to an anticipated event (or an anticipated conversation). Keep in mind, it's about a heart attitude, not about a playbook / plan /…

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The one thing every man who struggles with porn addiction needs 37:02

3M ago37:02

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God created us for community and to be fully known. When it comes to unwanted sexual behavior, the healing journey always involves community. For men who struggle, Men in the Battle® fills that void. What is it like walking into a MIB group for the first time? What are the benefits of coming to a MIB Group? How valuable can it be? Why should I atte…

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#70: When She Feels Stuck 36:50

3M ago36:50

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In this episode, we talk about her getting stuck and how this can be (not always, but can be) connected to him NOT doing good, consistent work. Jason recaps a couple of things from episode #68 - What is Good Work (definitely check out that episode if you want to learn more about what “good” work looks like - see the link below.) We discuss four big…

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#69: In the Dilemma 41:20

3M ago41:20

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So, let’s say he is doing mostly good work. Oftentimes when he is doing this mostly good work, women are faced with a dilemma. Does she accept the good work and lean into it and trust it? OR does she hold him / the good work at arm’s length and continue to watch and wait and keep herself safe? We start with exploring some of the reasons she runs in…

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Why Would He Do That? Understanding the Roots of Sex Addiction - Allan Katz & Michele Saffier 52:51

4M ago52:51

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In this episode Kristin interviews Allan Katz & Michele Saffier, Certified Sex Addiction Therapists with a combined 35 years of experience. In order to experience lasting change and healing, sexual addicts must address their complex trauma; one of several root issues that drive their compulsive behaviors. Learn what is needed to heal from complex t…

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#68: What exactly IS good work? 38:37

4M ago38:37

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So what exactly is good work? And what does good work look like AFTER the initial stages? Because it seems like some husbands rock that good work early on - and then… they are done?! Jason and I are both encouraging you guys to honestly assess: are the things we list happening in my / his recovery process? And if not - what might it look like to ge…

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#67: Why I Chose to Stay 48:36

4M ago48:36

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In this episode - we are diving in to a question that Shelley receives quite regularly - why did you stay? And were you / are you embarrassed that you chose to stay? We start with talking about some of the reasons that can make it embarrassing to stay - for instance, in our culture - there is this notion that when a woman is cheated on, there must …

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Worthy of Her Trust with Jason Martinkus 43:49

4M ago43:49

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What needs to happen in order to rebuild sexual integrity in a marriage which was broken by sexual betrayal? How can someone earn back the trust of their spouse after hurting them in this way? Listen in as. Michael interviews Jason Martinkus on his incredible book, Worthy of Her Trust. You can access the resources mentioned in this podcast at https…

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#66: Dealing with Relapses 48:42

4M ago48:42

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It’s show time! Here we go - Season #6 of Redemptive Living Radio is HERE. On this first episode of the season, we are talking about relapses. I realize this can be a super tender topic on all fronts. Here are some of the questions we answer: 1 - What is a relapse? - In some ways, a relapse is VERY clear and in some instances, it can seem a bit arb…

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