Kick start your day with some motivation, inspiration and exploration. Sylvia Flanagan, LMFT is a licensed therapist and motivational coach who speaks on a variety of topics including motivational principles and strategies, personal development, relationship dynamics and how to better navigate this wonderful and sometimes difficult thing called life. As a therapist she has been in private practice over 20 years and in this podcast combines her clinical experience, life experience and educati ...
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Integrity: Obstacles and Benefits in a Complex World
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In this episode I discuss the concept of integrity, its essence, and significance in personal growth and development. The discussion explores the challenges to maintaining integrity, including fear of consequences, social expectations, personal desires, moral complexities, and lack of self-awareness. I emphasize the importance of clarifying and hol…
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Burnout: Breaking the Cycle, Restoring Balance
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In this episode, I tackle the complex and important issue of burnout. With insights into how it starts and how it grows, I discuss ways to recognize and address burnout, and encourage listeners to prioritize their well-being for a more balanced life. I'll outline the 12 stages of burnout and offer insights on how to recognize when you or someone yo…
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In this episode of 'How to Overcome a Scarcity Mindset,' I dive into the concept of scarcity mindset and its profound impact on life. From the detrimental effects on decision-making to strained relationships, I explores how this mindset can hinder personal growth and success. I offer valuable insights on overcoming a scarcity mindset starting with …
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Sleep Essentials: Why Quality Sleep Is Vital for Mind and Body
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This episode delves into the crucial role that sleep plays in our overall well-being. It highlights the significance of obtaining quality sleep for maintaining good health, emotional stability, and cognitive sharpness. I define the four stages of sleep, from the transitional stage to deep sleep and REM sleep, outlining their impact on our physical,…
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Self Sabotage: How to Get Out of Your Own Way
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In this episode I explore the concept of self-sabotage, the ways people undermine their success through negative behaviors, beliefs, and attitudes, and provide insights on how to recognize and combat these patterns. I discuss the distinction between active and passive forms of self-sabotage and give examples such as addiction, negative self-talk, p…
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In this episode I explore the uncomfortable and damaging mindset of Imposter Syndrome, discussing its origins and its profound effects on people in various sectors of life. I outline the five different types of Imposter Syndrome: the perfectionist, the expert, the natural genius, the soloist, and the superman or superwoman, each accompanied by its …
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Today, we're taking a deeper dive into what courage means. Join me as I unpack a fuller meaning of courage and how it traditionally meant something far beyond how the word is typically used today. I break down three ways we can approach and move through life: courage, avoidance and resignation, with courage being the higher calling. I outline how c…
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How to Increase Your Motivation and Drive
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In this episode, I discuss the science behind motivation, drive, and focus and take a look at factors influencing our motivation including patters of behavior and genetics. Using a relatable example, I illustrate the efficacy of breaking tasks into smaller steps to boost dopamine levels and enhance motivation, paving the way for a more sustainable …
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In this episode, I discuss the far reaching fear of rejection. From dating, to job interviews, or asking for what you want, I emphasize how everyone experiences fear of rejection at points in life. I outline the origins and why fear of rejection is ingrained in our brains due to our evolutionary need to belong to a group for survival. However, in t…
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Boundaries: Discovering the Yes Behind the No
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In this episode, I discuss the significance of setting boundaries in order to pursue purposeful growth and help manifest your potential. Fundamentally, I encourage you to know the "yes" that is behind every "no" so you can move your life ahead in an intentional direction that's important to you. I delineate the importance of saying 'no' as a necess…
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Turning Setbacks into Comebacks: Finding the Gift in Failure
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In this episode, I tackle the topic of failure and mistakes, discussing what happens in our brain when we make mistakes and how we can train ourselves to deal with failure more effectively. I emphasize the importance of maintaining a positive mindset, preparing for failure, and analyzing mistakes only to the extent of understanding why things went …
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Facing Obstacles: The Struggle is Real - Part 2 of 2
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In this episode I talk about how to counter stress and anxiety with evidenced based solutions. Learn about tools to activate the parasympathetic nervous system and mitigate sympathetic overload and bring about more calm, focus and improved wellbeing. By knowing what goes on in your brain and understanding how to move it towards balance you'll be be…
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Facing Obstacles: The Struggle is Real - Part 1 of 2
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Are you happy with how you face life's problems? Do you react with anxiety and worry more often that you'd like? Before you get too hard on yourself, let's take a look at the brain to discover just what happens when something unexpected and difficult comes its way. In this episode I explore some basic neurobiology giving you insight into how the br…
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Join me as I unpack eight ways truth can be manipulated and spun in relationships of all kinds. This episode peels back the curtain on eight cunning tactics people use to bend reality to their will, from the subtle art of playing the victim to the more insidious practice of gaslighting. It's an inside look at the grey areas of honesty that can unde…
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Finding the Extraordinary in the Ordinary
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What if opportunities for something more extraordinary were hiding and disguised in the ordinary? Join me, Sylvia Flanagan, as I explore how to embrace the sacred in our everyday lives. Often, we find ourselves buried in routine while feeling we're following a script we really didn't write and don't always want to follow. In this episode I explore …
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All transitions are change but not all changes are transitions. Transitions are usually big life shifts and begin with a subtle discontent that gets stronger if we don’t pay attention to what message is trying to be conveyed. In this episode I outline the nature of transition, what it often feels like and why the struggle is worth it. Support the s…
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Everyone experiences a little jealousy here and there in life. But when it becomes the norm and isn't managed jealousy can break down a relationship and become unsustainable. In this episode I outline 7 signs of jealousy that can undermine a healthy relationship and prevent trust and security from developing. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.c…
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Do you find yourself taking rude behavior or criticism personally? Do the opinions or inconsiderate words of others lead you do doubt yourself or your abilities at times? In this episode I unpack why it's natural to feel bad when criticized or treated poorly and how you can reframe those encounters and put criticism or less than kind treatment in i…
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Excuses are one of the worst things you can do to yourself and to your relationships. Making excuses is also one of the easiest habits to slip into. In this episode I outline how excuses negatively impact you and the relationships you care about and what it looks like to field a complaint about your behavior in a healthy and responsible way without…
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Does Everything Really Happen For a Reason?
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"Everything happens for a reason". Chances are you've said it and been told it. It's impact is rather benign when life is going well but can be problematic when you're in the middle of one of life's storms. It's implications impact meaning, purpose and bring into question free will. I discuss the ramifications of believing everything happens for a …
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In this episode I talk about how to distance yourself from negative thoughts and how to develop a value based road map uniquely yours symbolizing your North Star. I discuss how the influx of various thoughts throughout every day can derail us from doing our best, upset our moods and deceive us into holding beliefs that run contrary to our best inte…
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The apology is a powerful tool and can have tremendous positive impact on a relationship if used wisely and its absence can do significant harm. I unpack the importance of a sincere apology, and how it impacts both the person receiving the apology and the person giving it. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join Kick Starts text m…
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Quiet Conflict: What to Do When Your Partner Refuses to Communicate
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Some people refuse to communicate when a problem arises or an argument ensues. This behavior not only prevents resolution but feels disrespectful to the partner on the other end. In this episode I outline the main reasons a person shuts down, shuts others out instead of talking the issue through and what approaches might help remedy the unhealthy c…
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How Honesty & Generosity Anchor Every Good Relationship
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In this episode I discuss the two hallmark features of all good relationships including the relationship you have with yourself. Generosity and Honesty are crucial elements and have a cost associated but are well worth the investment. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join Kick Starts text message community @ https://eztxt.net/mp…
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9 Roadblocks to Overcome and Reach Your Goals
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Success and Achievement are tough enough even when everything works out and life and circumstances cooperate with us. If you're not careful you'll make things harder on yourself by hitting some common roadblocks to success and not recognizing and not knowing how to move around them. In this episode I outline 9 common roadblocks that come between yo…
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In this short episode I discuss the value of writing a personal mission statement and how to go about writing one. A personal mission statement helps us clearly identify our purpose, goals and what kind of person we want to be as we work to work towards those goals. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join Kick Starts text message …
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Power and control can get a bad rap and understandably so. I take a deep dive into these concepts explaining how power is a tool at your disposal and control is an outcome depending on whether you utilize your power. When we don't exercise our power wisely, we abandon ourselves and give control over to circumstances or other people and end up feeli…
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Finding your direction in life – the right direction – can be hard if you don't know where to look. But, the clues and information that lead you to understand what route to take might not be as far as you think. I break down how to listen to yourself and get insight into what deserves your attention and what will help you get on the path you’re mea…
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In today's short Tuesday's Takeaway I share some thoughts on how to live life purposively and intentionally and how to set yourself up to avoid a future involving remorse. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join Kick Starts text message community @ https://eztxt.net/mp3QaR or text "join" to (870) 263-2121 http:/kickstartspodcast.c…
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Nobody escapes procrastinating entirely and it can be a real problem for some. The real reasons you procrastinate might surprise you. I unpack those reasons and how you can break the pattern and use your time more wisely and put more of your effort and energy towards what's important to you. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join…
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Why "I'll be happy when..." Thinking Won't Lead to Happiness
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How many times have you caught yourself thinking you'll be happy after you get that next thing? Reach that next goal? Cross that next finish line? I take a good look at what's called the "arrival fallacy" and why the next best thing isn't what is going to make you happy. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join Kick Starts text mes…
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Deep loss and grief is one of the hardest things a person will encounter in life. But, if allowed, grief is a transformational experience that will leave you with an unexpected gift. I explore the process of grief and what's waiting for you if you allow it to take you on its journey. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join Kick St…
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Toxic positivity can be an unfortunate side effect of a well-intentioned message focusing on positivity and self-advocacy. In this episode I unpack the meaning of toxic positivity, how to side step its grasp and how to effectively handle negative emotions and tough feelings when you find yourself experiencing them. The content of this episode is no…
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How to Bring About Successful Change in Your Life
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Change is hard. Real hard. In this episode, I unpack the two biggest principles required to change, how you'll be prone to abandon your efforts if you're not aware of them and what you need to know to be prepared and make the changes you want in your life. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join Kick Starts text message community …
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Overthinking is a habit that if left unchecked usually raises stress, worry, anxiety or sadness and lowers confidence and motivation. I take a look at overthinking and how to counter it and get away from its grip. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join Kick Starts text message community @ https://eztxt.net/mp3QaR or text "join" t…
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A fresh look at what loving yourself means and a dive into the different ways we betray ourselves followed by steps to turn those behaviors around. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join Kick Starts text message community @ https://eztxt.net/mp3QaR or text "join" to (870) 263-2121 http:/kickstartspodcast.com https://facebook.com/…
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Do you want to highlight goals, possibilities and potential and ditch negative thinking? I outline several practical principles to stay on track and positive and how to minimize the tendency to worry about what might go wrong. We're all naturally prone to pick out and hold onto the negative. Focusing on what might go wrong or hanging onto what wasn…
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The Do's and Don'ts of Healthy Communication
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Healthy communication is a challenge, art and a skill. It doesn't come naturally to us, most of us didn't learn it growing up and it's not generously modeled in most situations. I take a deeper dive into the nuts and bolts of effective communication so you can care for the relationships that matter most and feel better about yourself in the process…
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What if chasing happiness is more like chasing your tail? Can you position and prepare yourself to effectively take on life regardless of feelings and circumstances? What if there’s a goal far more valuable and attainable other than happiness? I explore these questions and more in this episode. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts J…
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The Benefits of Guilt and Burden of Shame
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Guilt, if utilized properly, is a good motivator for change and can help us transition to the next and better version of ourselves. Shame tears us down and is rooted in faulty core beliefs we hold about ourselves. In this episode I’ll discuss the function of guilt and shame, the brain’s role in bringing them about and what we can do to change our c…
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I take a deeper dive into self-discipline, what it really means and how you can make it work for you. These 8 steps will help you prepare and get set up to make the changes you want and be more effective in what you set out to do. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join Kick Starts text message community @ https://eztxt.net/mp3QaR…
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Nobody likes a bad day. But, is your response to it making it worse? How can you take a rough situation and walk away with something positive and learn something valuable? In this episode I outline how to observe yourself and your reactions and determine whether your attitude and response are making things worse and how you can be more effective de…
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I interview Lisa Brounstein who discusses her astounding 200 pound weight loss journey. Few people are successful at this type of undertaking and it requires an inside-out transformation. Lisa shares the mindset, tools and strategies we can all learn from and adopt when facing challenges of our own. She discusses her history of obesity starting as …
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In this episode I offer tools to orient your mindset each morning so you can maximize your potential each day and feel better doing it. I discuss negative patterns of thinking, where they come from and what you can do to put them in their proper place which isn't in the forefront of your mind. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Jo…
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A term often misunderstood, codependent behavior robs people of their own potential, leads to resentment, contributes to unhealthy dynamics and can shield other people from experiencing the consequences of their poor behaviors. I outline key elements and implications of codependency and what a person might want to consider putting in its place. Sup…
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Why is change so hard and why do so many of us take on goals and challenges only to walk away from them? I take a deeper dive into the process of change and what you need to know about yourself and the journey so you can continue moving closer to your potential. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join Kick Starts text message comm…
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I take a deeper dive into forgiveness to explore what it really is and who it actually benefits. I unpack the concept of humility in a fresh way and how it influences how comfortable we our forgiving ourselves. Forgiveness can be a powerful force which fuels us to strive more and make more of what we have and who we are. Support the show! http://bu…
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Worry: What It Is and What We Can Do About It
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I explore the connection between our thoughts, our brain and how worry is generated. I then discuss the steps you can take to put worry in its place. Support the show! http://buymeacoffee.com/kickstarts Join Kick Starts text message community @ https://eztxt.net/mp3QaR or text "join" to (870) 263-2121 http:/kickstartspodcast.com https://facebook.co…
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Today I'm going to talk about keystone habits. I'll discuss what they are, why they're important and how they can be the cornerstone for your new start. Habits don't come easily but they're definitely attainable. Explore how these habits set the tone of your whole day and how you can gain insight to attain more enthusiasm and motivation. Support th…
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