Ely Kreimendahl public
[search 0]
Download the App!
show episodes
 
Artwork

1
Shame Spiral

Ely Kreimendahl

Unsubscribe
Unsubscribe
Weekly
 
A comedy podcast about shame- because no one roasts you harder than yourself! Each week, psychotherapist-turned-comedian Ely Kreimendahl exploits her therapy skills to talk all-things-shame with a new special guest. Every guest shares a core story of something that once made them spiral HARD, answers both silly and emotionally complicated questions, and even if these conversations are ACCIDENTALLY therapeutic, it's not therapy.... Ely goes ALL IN on sharing her shame, too. Does coming togeth ...
  continue reading
 
Loading …
show series
 
Hi Shame Spiralers! I'm briefly emerging from our mid-season hiatus just to drop this very special bonus episode with comic, writer & actor Jes Tom! (Our Flag Means Death, Less Lonely.) Jes is one of my favorite comedians and you can and SHOULD drop everything you're doing and go see their one-person comedy show Less Lonely at the Greenwich House T…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with psychotherapist, OCD specialist, writer & content creator Alegra Kastens! We talked OCD origin stories and the thoughts that broke our brains, the obsessive struggle to discern if you don't like someone because you're not into them or because there's something wrong with you, fear of being cancelled and social media tr…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with writer, illustrator, podcaster & professor Nicole J. Georges! (Calling Dr. Laura) We talked shame and recovery from harmful family dynamics, making amends to yourself & others, the important of zines and yahoogroups for isolated young 90's queers, shoplifting, vegan betrayals, gossiping, gaslighting, writing memoir whe…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with writer, poet and lovely person LaToya Jordan! We dug deep into her recently published novella, To The Woman In The Pink Hat, and some of the issues it explores: medical racism, infertility, white feminism, the Women's March, and uterine transplants (?!?,) and also spiraled about twenty-something alcohol-induced regrets…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with brilliant television writer, showrunner and co-creator of YELLOWJACKETS (!!!!!!) Ashley Lyle! We talked nicotine and being 90s teens, the moment you realize you can hurt your mom's feelings, caring too much about what people think of you at the expense of the people who truly care, the vicious procrastination cycle and…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with hilarious and deeply relatable novelist, television writer & painter Ali Liebegott! We talked regret, people pleasing and the shame of saying no, making mistakes and accepting your own and others' flaws , accidentally farting on a stranger in a grocery store, taking your students to a casino, wishing your childhood fis…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with the brilliant & SUPER funny stand up comic & writer Amy Silverberg! (Comedy Central, The Paris Review) We talked Jewish parents, boundaries, talking about your students and boyfriends in your stand up, fake vs real vulnerability, codependency and hurting people more in trying NOT to hurt them, how being teased can feel…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with the hilarious and thoughtful writer & stand up comedian Django Gold! (The Late Show With Stephen Colbert) We talked social awkwardness, persecution complexes, the weirdness of being an introverted comedian, accepting your flaws, parading around your job with a beard full of ice cream, torturing yourself with anxiety, t…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with the delightful & brilliant writer, podcaster, and mental health advocate Allison Raskin! (Overthinking About You, Just Between Us) We talked the nuance around mental health diagnoses, all about OCD, insecurities around friendship, self-compassion as the antithesis of shame, the liberating potential of knowing your own …
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with super funny & absurdly talented comedian, writer, actor & podcaster River Butcher! (The Knew Guys, League Of Their Own.) We talked fear of people leaving if you dare to share your feelings, the difficulty of actually implementing your coping skills when things are POPPING OFF, giving a gift to your inner child and carr…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with wonderfully deep, refreshingly honest and truly hilarious writer, actor, comedian, musician AND podcaster Lane Moore! (Tinder Live, You Will Find Your People) We talked shame and relational trauma, the damage done by unrealistic and grossly prescriptive self-help books, dealing with the incessant self-critical DJ playi…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with hilarious & deeply relatable stand up comic, podcaster (and fellow neurotic Jew) Carly Montag! We talked the pervasive fear of making others' feel bad, coming out as queer via an improv class revelation, Jewish guilt and hypervigilance, the shame of feeling stupid, internalized homophobia and the pressure to marry a ni…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with incredibly talented comic, writer and actor Joel Kim Booster! (Fire Island, The Other Two, Shrill) We talked the impact of growing up extremely religious and queer, fear of going to hell and terrifying fantasies of what hell would be like, caring way too much of what others' think about you, being young and extra thirs…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with the disarmingly honest, lovely, hilarious & brilliant writer Tara Schuster! (Glow In The F*cking Dark, Comedy Central) Talking shame with Tara was hilarious, delightful, and honestly inspiring AF. We talked shame and trauma, the relief and empowerment that comes from knowing when the past is crash landing into the pres…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with incredibly hilarious, honest and charming comedian, writer & actor Emma Willmann! (Colbert, Comedy Central, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend) Emma and I talked ADHD, addiction and recovery, accidentally learning things from TikTok, getting in a fight with Chelsea Handler, ungodly shameful moments with exes and discerning when apolo…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with comedian, writer & actress Nori Reed! (Netflix is a Joke, HBO Max, Comedy Central) Nori's stand up is iconic, hilarious and brilliant, and she was featured in New York Magazine as one of Vulture's "Comedians You Should Know And Will Know In 2021." She also recently wrote for seasons five & six of Disney's Raven's Home,…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with queer, neurodivergent and gender expansive psychotherapist Jess Sprengle! (@TheCrankyTherapist on IG) Jess is an Eating Disorder Specialist and Educator, and especially passionate about engaging with the intersection of the LGBTQIA+ experience, neurodivergence, and eating disorder recovery. We talked shame as an adapti…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with writer & actor Mara Wilson! (Good Girls Don't, Matilda, Mrs. Doubtfire) We talked growing up in Hollywood, being a chronic oversharer, the prison of being a "good girl," the drama of young adult relationships, anxiety & OCD, My So-Called Life, and so much more! Plus, Mara shares a multi-layered shame upon shame upon SH…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with queer author and hilarious, deeply relatable person Marisa Crane! (I Keep My Exoskeletons To Myself) We talked internalized homophobia, being menaces in our twenties, self-sabotage, parenting shame, botox and the horror of lying to Drew Barrymore, why it's so damn hard to give yourself the grace you freely give everyon…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with physical therapist & cast member of instant queer reality tv classic The Ultimatum: Queer Love Xander Boger! This one is a special treat for all you fellow Queer Love Ultimatum fans, because we dove deep into shame around deciding to be on the show, being on the show, and the emotionally complicated aftermath. And we d…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with actor, writer and reproductive justice advocate Busy Philipps! (Girls5eva, Cougar Town, Busy Phillips Is Doing Her Best, This Will Only Hurt A Little) We talked fear of being a bad person, processed some internet drama, unpacked our experiences with experiental hippy therapies, pondered over how good it feels to smash …
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with stand up comic, actor and writer Gianmarco Soresi! (Comedy Central, JFL, The Late Late Show With James Corden) We talked being a child of divorce, contempt for institutions but desire for community, fear of being seen as a certain kind of man, zoom vs in-person therapy, existential crises, being a yeller from a yelling…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with author, podcaster and atheist/Jewish/humanist chaplain extraordinaire Vanessa Zoltan! (Hot & Bothered, Praying With Jane Eyre) We talked internalized anti-semitism and loud, powerful Jewish women, wanting to be so good that no one can talk sh*t about you to their therapist, shame and love for the romance genre, treatin…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with hilarious standup comedian, writer, actress & podcaster Yamini Nambimadom! (Pillow Fight Podcast, Chicago 10's) We talked about everyone thinking you're fine even when you're not, the struggle to ask for help, people pleasing, being a "difficult" child, immigrant parent expectations and feeling pressure to be the best,…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with brilliant poet, writer, editor and teacher Maggie Smith! (Good Bones, You Could Make This Place Beautiful.) We covered SO much juicy ground in this episode, diving deep into Midwestern humility and shame around success, what you owe or don't owe people as an artist, being an introverted kid with an extroverted mom, imp…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with screenwriter, showrunner & director Ilana Peña! (Diary Of A Future President, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend) We talked how earnestly loving things can make you an easy target, the double punch of when shame and anxiety spirals intertwine, annoying film and theater school bros, feeling haunted by the fear of being a horrible pers…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with brilliant and hilarious stand up comic, writer & actress Aparna Nancherla! (The Standups, Crashing, Bojack Horsemen, Colbert) We talked the relentless suspicion that you're intrinsically wrong and how anxiety finds a million little ways to confirm that, spiraling over confrontation and relationships, flip-flopping betw…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with author, speaker, curator & librarian Lachrista Greco! (@theguerrillafeminist, Olive Grrrls: Italian North American Women & The Search For Identity) Lachrista has published several books with another coming soon, is doing incredible work around preventing and coping with digital violence, and is all-around brilliant, pa…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with hilarious standup comedian & actress Abbi Crutchfield! (Up Early Tonight, The Late Show With Stephen Colbert, The Kid Is In School Podcast) We talked Mom shame, losing your cool, self-blame and that relentless internal critical voice, talking to kids about difficult topics, pandemic feelings, when your coping skills ar…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with brilliant comedian, writer and actor Jay Jurden! (The Problem With John Stewart, The Late Show, The Tonight Show, High Maintenance) We talked being a tortured queer youth and shameful early queer relationships, biphobia, obsessing over what others' think of you, the anatomy of a shame spiral, the plague of coolness bei…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with ridiculously funny & brilliant standup comic and Emmy-winning television writer Robby Hoffman! (Workin' Moms, The Chris Gethard Show, Odd Squad, Just For Laughs) We talked class shame, being the poorest and most religious Jewish kid in school, the way people disown and project shame on others so they don't have to deal…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with hilarious standup comedian & Julliard-trained violist Isabel Hagen! (The Tonight Show, Just For Laughs.) We talked obsessing over what people think of you, the shame spiraling that performing comedy evokes and how Isabel deals with BOMBING, addiction/ recovery, why being vulnerable feels both so good and oh so bad, wha…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with standup comedian & writer Clara Olshansky! (Flamethrowers, My First Joke.) We talked career shame, dating shame, shame embodied as the snake from the Garden of Eden, the horrible things you tell yourself when you've descended into a spiral, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Clara tells a heartbreaking and very relatable shame st…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with super funny stand up comedian and former UN war crimes lawyer Jess Salomon! ( The Tonight Show, JFL, The El-Salomons) We talked late-in-life ADHD diagnoses, the nightmare of being told you have bad breath, The L Word as a catalyst for Jess' first lesbian experience, Judaism and Zionism, Manatees as the embodiment of sh…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with standup comedian, writer & actress Marcella Arguello!!! (Bitch, Grow Up! on HBO Max) We talked shamelessness, the value of owning your sh*t and being uncomfortable, plastic surgery, love and dating, family dynamics, and what Marcella thinks truly pushes the envelope in comedy. Plus, Marcella tells a shame story about p…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with actor, writer & activist Theo Germaine! (The Politician, Work in Progress, They-Slash-Them.) We talked growing up queer/trans in the Midwest, shame embodied as a lanky, hungry bear, the relationship between shame and surviving trauma, navigating sharing vulnerably about yourself when you're a public person, and sooooo …
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with comedian, writer & actress Milly Tamarez! (Betches Sup Podcast, Clown Parade, Wait, Wait...Don't Tell Me) We talked shame and social media, dating and breakups, shame embodied as a sneaky, slithering snake, the brutal impulse to compare yourself with others in the entertainment industry, staying grounded and hopeful wh…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with stand up comedian, actress & writer Rosebud Baker! (Whiskey Fists, Life & Beth, SNL) We talked being recovering alcoholics, living like a disgusting swine on tour, feeling no shame when you should and big shame when you shouldn't, sparring with your therapist, the urge to isolate, screaming in the shower, and SO MUCH M…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with stand up comic, television writer and director Niles Abston (Dave, Household Name.) We talked being a people pleaser in life and the furthest thing from it in comedy, shame embodied as a chilled out orangutan, the most humiliating thing that could happen on a second date, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Niles shares a story ab…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with the delightfully funny, charming, and ELEVEN TIME EMMY-NOMINATED Ariel Dumas (Head Writer- The Late Show With Stephen Colbert.) We talked the three shameful things that happen to everyone in adulthood, why feeling bad can feel oh so good, the spooky and powerful embodied physicality of shame- and Ariel even tolerated m…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with actor and writer Clementine Ford (The L Word, The Young & The Restless.) We talked Mom guilt, bisexual invisibility, shame vs embarrassment, toxic diet culture & fatphobia in Hollywood, the complexities of having a famous mother, and so much more! Plus, Clementine tells a shame story about how a seemingly benign seat o…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with academic, author & podcaster Hannah McGregor (Witch, Please; A Sentimental Education.) We talked sticky jam-handed shame monsters, confessed insecurities/projections about each other, unpacked humiliating teenaged moments and our queer femme identities, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Hannah tells a super juicy and HORRIBLE sh…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with film, television & theater actress, and incredible singer Kuhoo Verma (Plan B, The Big Sick.) We talked about how being roasted can feel like being loved, undiagnosed childhood ADHD and punk rock ADHD hacks, the difference between real vulnerability and the performative kind, and so much more. Plus, Kuhoo tells a shame…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with tv writer, actor, author & comedian Rachel Wenitsky (The Tonight Show, Friends Who Folk. ) We talked being shameless but not in a girlboss way, inherited Jewish anxiety, feeling dumb vs feeling bad, and so much more. Plus, Rachel tells a deeply relatable (especially to anyone with anxiety) shame story about absolutely …
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with writer, stand up comedian, and podcaster Pallavi Gunalan (Lovett Or Leave It, City Counsel.) We talked feeling like a big ol' mess, why stealing from corporations isn't all that bad, and even stumbled into some accidental DEEP INNER CHILD WORK. Plus, Pallavi shares a shame story about not awesome choices she made while…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with television writer, showrunner & producer Jaclyn Moore (Queer As Folk, Dear White People.) We dove deep into shame showing up via religious trauma, feeling like a bad trans person, horrible online trolls, accidentally trashing someone's work right to their face, and SO MUCH MORE. Plus, Jaclyn shares a shame story about …
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with stand up comedian, Emmy-nominated television writer, and VULNERABLE QUEEN Ellory Smith (Funnilingus, Robot Chicken.) We talked re-parenting yourself as an adult, whether emotional or physical cheating is worse, the way that ignored pain will make itself KNOWN, and so much more. Plus, Ellory tells an incredible shame st…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with stand-up comic, television writer & podcaster Ashley Ray (TV, I Say w/ Ashley Ray.) We talked the power of a shameless Mom, the fear of letting people down, the ferocity of high school theater kids, and how shame doesn't always have to be nefarious- to Ashley, it's a friendly lemur on her shoulder. Plus, Ashley shares …
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with stand up comic, writer and disarmingly charming person DeAnne Smith (Comedians Of The World: Gentleman Elf, Just For Laughs.) We talked feeling you must earn your worth, accidentally sexting your Dad, and learning that some of the awful notions we carry about ourselves for DECADES may not be true- and maybe never were.…
  continue reading
 
This week I spiraled out with comedian, writer, and total mensch Josh Gondelman! (Desus & Mero, Last Week Tonight With John Oliver, People Pleaser.) We talked the god-awful experience of having a human body, the desire to control others' perceptions, the psychology of Elon Musk, and so much more. Plus, Josh shares a shame story about his body absol…
  continue reading
 
Loading …

Quick Reference Guide