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Listen in as therapists, coaches, writers, and other experts explore the inner lives of women: their struggles, fears, hopes, & dreams. This podcast is about cultivating a conversation around the uncomfortable, uncertain, and unknown aspects of a woman's experience. Through interviews and stories, Lourdes Viado, PhD, MFT goes beneath the surface and takes a deeper look at relationships, motherhood, self-acceptance, authenticity, aging, healing, suffering, loss, and other areas connected to t ...
 
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Are you one of those women who think menopause is ruining their lives? Most women think that way. You start to experience menopause weight gain, and your age starts to show physically. But menopause can be the second shot at life you never knew you needed if you approach it differently. In this episode, I am interviewed by Dr. Lourdes Viado about m…
 
Welcome to episode 2 of a brand new Women In-Depth series hosted by Lourdes Viado and Carmen Schmidt Benedetti. This series focuses on highly sensitive persons (HSPs) who have experienced complex trauma. Lourdes and Carmen hope this discussion will help listeners get more clarity and understanding of the HSP’s experience of and recovery from comple…
 
As Thanksgiving and the holidays are approaching, you might be feeling fearful around food. You might feel as though there’s a lot of different food you can’t eat, which only leads to feelings of desire, frustration, and craving the food even more. So what would you say if I told you that you don’t have to restrict yourself and that you can eat any…
 
We’re excited to welcome back Bethany Webster to the podcast since her last visit in November 2016 where we discussed the “Mother Wound”. Her 2014 article “Why it’s Crucial for Women to Heal the Mother Wound” went viral and brought worldwide attention to her body of work in feminism and women’s leadership and personal development. Bethany’s work ad…
 
Welcome back to another episode of my Life After Dr. Deb series. I love speaking with my former clients! Today’s guest joined me on the podcast a year ago, and I’m so excited to welcome her back today. She’s here to talk about her experience of what it’s like to work with me, and how she’s used the tools I gave her to change her life. Sabra came to…
 
Welcome to a brand new Women In-Depth series hosted by Lourdes Viado and Carmen Schmidt Benedetti. This series focuses on highly sensitive persons (HSPs) who have experienced complex trauma. In this episode, Lourdes and Carmen hope listeners will gain more clarity and understanding regarding how HSPs experience complex trauma. Dr. Lourdes Viado is …
 
In this episode I talk about the reasons for over-desire that create overeating. The three reasons for over-desire are: Neurotransmitters are programmed to desire anything that gives up a subtle, let alone dopamine, response. We are all being marketed to by food experts all day, every day. Recommended book: Salt Sugar Fat by Michael Moss. We don’t …
 
Note: Doors are closing soon on my Holiday Essentials class! You can still get in until Wed, Oct 28 at midnight or when the class fills up, whichever is first! Losing weight is more than just appearance. Once you decide to improve your eating habits, you also become more mindful of your other actions and more present to the people around you. It’s …
 
Do you do the same thing every year? Eat eat eat with abandon during the holidays from Halloween to the New Year. Restrict restrict restrict starting in the New Year. Rinse and repeat year after year after year! If you’re ready to stop the insanity. If you’re ready to USE the holidays to make this the last time, and not repeat the same pattern agai…
 
Have you decided to stop weighing yourself even though you’re trying to lose weight? In this episode, I read a beautiful heartfelt letter from a listener who has had a lot of success and awareness using my tools. She also got my attention in how she referred to the scale, as if it might be a problem. Listen in as I talk about the scale. You might b…
 
I love talking with my clients after they’ve stopped working with me. I created the Life After Dr. Deb Series for this reason alone. I’m very curious and I bet you’re very curious too. Julie lost 100 pounds before she started working with me over two years ago. She hired me because she wanted thinner peace not thinner fear. No matter where you are …
 
I recently received a letter from Dana a loyal podcast listener. She had lost 40 pounds using my tools, but now she felt stuck. I thought her problem might resonate with you so I asked her if she would like a free coaching session to get unstuck. Live on my podcast. Dana was courageous enough to say yes. Listen in as she “unsticks” (is that even a …
 
In my last coaching session with my client Tracie, said, “I don’t feel amazing.” She had felt amazing on every call for all of our sessions. Till now. She was sure something had gone wrong. She thought now that she learned my tools, nothing would shake her again. She was mistaken. Life is just like that. Her body wasn’t behaving the way she wanted …
 
I just finished an online retreat with Pema Chodron. As you know, I love her teachings. My biggest takeaway? If you want to be able to allow difficult feelings in yourself then it is very helpful to first learn how to be friends first with yourself. I’m not sure why that is so ah-ah-like after … Ep 232 Making Friends with Yourself Read More » The p…
 
Today’s episode is all about wasting food and what you think about that. Because how you think about about wasting food will determine how you treat your body. If you think you must always eat the food on your plate, your weight will probably always be a problem. I share with you an incident with … Ep 231 You Are Not Wasting Food When You Don’t Cle…
 
I am always amazed when I read anything by Pema Chodron and Buddhist philosophy. It helps me understand more why we eat when we’re not hungry. Losing weight is more about your mind than food. And Buddhism is all about the mind. In her book Taking the Leap she introduces the Tibetan word Shenpa, which … Ep 230 What Do Buddhism, Urges and Overeating …
 
Do you wonder why night time is such a hard time to stop eating when you’re not hungry? Are you “good” all day? And “bad” all night? Have you ever wondered what might be going on in that beautiful brain of yours? Your brain is my passion and why I love coaching so much! Listen … Ep 229 Learning to Make Peace with Night Time Eating – Rhonda’s Journe…
 
There really is only one way to make this the last time. You must believe you are worth it. Sounds so easy, doesn’t it? In this interview, my client Joy reveals how she reclaimed her own worthiness. Maybe for the first time in 50 years. She thought that losing the weight would help her. She … Ep 228 First Comes Love then Comes Weight Loss Read More…
 
In the group program that I’m teaching right now, we are talking a lot about urges in regard to emotional hunger. Did you know that urges are negative emotion too? Just like anger and sadness. They come from your thoughts. Urges are uncomfortable, and your brain wants to protect you from this. Eating seems like … Ep 227 How to Use the Discomfort of…
 
Do you think it costs money to have excellent self-care? I have many clients who do think that, and so did I. But here’s the truth: Self-care is not an indulgence, it’s a discipline. I think sometimes it’s easier to spend money, than to discipline ourselves in the moment of wanting instant gratification. Instant gratification … Ep 226 Self-Care is …
 
How are you feeling these days? I had a client recently tell me that she didn’t think now was a good time to focus on losing weight. She thought now was a good time to comfort herself and her family with food. A way to help feel less afraid. Losing weight seemed insignificant. What she … Ep 225 How to Protect Your Mental Health from the Virus Read …
 
Do you ever wonder why it’s so easy for you to do something kind for someone else? Yet so hard to do something kind for yourself? Sometimes the kindest thing you can do for yourself is to stop eating when you’re full. Or maybe hold space for yourself while you sit through an urge. The … Ep 224 How to Love Yourself First – Interview with Angella Rea…
 
“As long as the factors that led your child to create distance remain in place, he or she will not be able to settle into an easy, relaxed, loving, and close relationship with you.” “What you do in response to estrangement very much matters and can make the difference between a prolonged estrangement and a healed one.” When children grow into adult…
 
Do you ever look in the mirror and feel disgusted? I ask you this, because in this live coaching session, that’s just how this woman felt about herself and would talk to herself. Why? Because she thought some pretty nasty sentences about herself. She didn’t realize that these were just thoughts. She thought she was … Ep 223 How to Talk to Yourself …
 
What are you doing this summer? If you’re like me and decided not to travel. Well… Lets do a summer vacation together! Maybe the best vacation you might be able to create for yourself is a vacation with YOU and ME and few other like-minded women. Imagine where you might be in 12 weeks from … Ep 222 How to Make this the Summer that Changes EVERYTHIN…
 
"I value color as a way to communicate and as a way to share ideas and be able to feel movement of emotion and energy in your body." One of the biggest hurdles of being a parent is helping our kids fall asleep at night. As parents, it’s necessary to find the right tools to help kids learn to relax, process, and be with their big feelings – and many…
 
In this episode I give you a very specific tool to help you learn to master your mindset, and become aware of what you’re thinking. Thinner peace isn’t just about food, it’s about everything in your life, your relationships, your job, your home, the weather – everything! Most of my clients have become thin many … Ep 221 Creating the Mindset of ThIN…
 
Can you imagine what it would be like to talk to yourself as if you are your own best friend? I guarantee you it will feel a lot better. In this episode I teach you how. And… I’m doing another webinar where I will show you by coaching and teaching you my most essential tools. … Ep 220 How Do You Talk to Yourself? Read More » The post Ep 220 How Do …
 
How do you see and interact with the world around you? While some people go through life without paying attention to every little detail, highly sensitive persons pick up on just about everything – and every bit of information is deeply processed within. On this episode, I talk with trauma-informed psychotherapist Carmen Schmidt Benedetti about hig…
 
Do you ever wonder if you’ll ever get THIS? Do you think that having trust and confidence in yourself around food and your body is unattainable? Do you think it’s too late? Sam used to think this too. But she doesn’t anymore. We worked together and then she worked some more on her own and … Ep 219 Life after Working with Dr. Deb: Interview and Coac…
 
Creating a compelling reason is one of the first steps I use with my clients. You would think that losing weight and being healthy would be compelling. But it’s not… (Because you wouldn’t be reading this if it were…) This is what Tracie decided to make her compelling reason: “To learn how to calm my … Ep 218 How to Calm your Mind to Lose the Weight…
 
“It’s part of our culture that we’re supposed to respect our parents, and I understand that that’s important. But sometimes that relationship does not work.” As a child, did you absorb the belief that you’re not good enough. or that you don’t have the right to be your own person? This is a telltale sign of having a narcissistic parent and the root …
 
Do you think the older you get the better your life is going to get? I talk to a lot of women who think the exact opposite! They start to give up hope on their future as they start getting into their 50’s. I’ve heard them say they’ve never been able to lose weight before. … Ep 217 The Best is Yet to Come! Read More » The post Ep 217 The Best is Yet…
 
Does it sometimes feel like you have more than one person in your head? Do they ever agree on anything? Do you find now that you’re in menopause those people are getting louder? This is what my beloved client was telling me in our last coaching session. She said she felt like she might be … Ep 216 How to Manage Self-Sabotage in Menopause Read More …
 
“You are the author of your own life, and you are in charge of crafting the story.” When was the last time you gave yourself permission to explore your power? Power isn’t just money, status, or a title – it’s within you. In a world that so highly values climbing the corporate ladder to have power over others, it’s easy to forget the innate power wi…
 
Sometimes I feel so much doubt in myself. Simply because I tell myself I’m not doing something right or I should be doing it better. Or, a favorite, “I’ve never done it right and I never will!” I sound so logical, and I’m so smart that I actually believe these thoughts. But then I catch … Ep 215 Kathleen’s Success Using My Least Understood Tool Rea…
 
Do you ever think thoughts like this after a “bad” day or a “bad” week… “I’ll never be able to do this.” “I’m failing again just like always do.” “I’ll never get this right.” These are thoughts that create more of the same. They are useless. And… they are not facts, either. Even though, I … Ep 214 The One Thing You May Not Know Read More » The post…
 
The beautiful thing about mindful eating is that you need to eat! You can do it mindfully or not! But it is a wonderful opportunity to watch your mind. The time we are in right now is unusual, but for the most part, how you manage your mind around eating is probably the same, only … Ep 213 3 Simple Steps to Stop OVER Eating NOW! Read More » The pos…
 
Have you ever been “good” all week? Then… you get on the scale to have found out you lost nothing? If your response is like what mine used to be: I would throw a tantrum! I would hate the scale! I would hate myself. And I would stop being “good!” Why bother? And… I would … Ep 212 How to Use the Scale to Help You Not Hurt Your Weight Loss Read More …
 
How do you talk to yourself? Do you call yourself fat and ugly? Do you tell yourself, “I’ll never be able to lose the weight, so screw it!”? If you’ve been trying to lose the weight for years and talking to yourself like this equally as long, well… there just might be a connection. How … Ep 211 What You Must Know NOW – Plus Live Coaching Read More …
 
What do you think of the times we’re in? Do you find yourself having even more urges to eat when you’re not hungry? Has your normal routine changed? What do you think of that? This is a letter I received from one of my precious previous clients: Hi. Once again, I enjoyed your podcast and … Ep 210 How to Manage Urges During These Times Read More » T…
 
Have you ever eaten something just because someone offered it to you? Maybe you didn’t want to hurt their feelings? This is what Jeanne thought until we started working together. She wanted everyone to like her. She believed she could control what other people thought about her. She believed she had the power to make … Ep 209 How to Stop People Ple…
 
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