Shelley Treacher Underground Confidence Podcasts

Uncover the psychological and physical issues behind comfort eating and learn how to start your journey to recovery with Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory, in the latest episode of Underground Confidence with Shelley Treacher. In this episode, we look at ways to regulate the autonomic nervous system and how to start a journey of recovery from comfor…

Have you ever noticed that when you comfort eat, you do it really fast? Maybe you also get stuck on your phone when you should be sleeping? Here are four more ways to calm your nervous system down, and disrupt cravings. Practising these will develop your ability to change the course of your cravings and compulsions, organically. In this podcast The…

Here's how to start to wind down when you’re triggered, stressed, or craving. In this podcast Your 'Window of Tolerance' or capacity for life's demands Neuroscience & stress or collapse states Things that trigger us into stress or collapse states Ways to self-regulate, calm your system, and change how you feel A breathing exercise How embodiment ca…

The neuroscience and physiology of inner child wounding, and how to heal. In this podcast The neuroscience and physiology of triggering - Fight, Flight, Freeze & Fawn The Top 10 emotional triggers to addiction, & other types of triggers How to recognise being triggered 9 Steps to start healing your inner child, nervous system triggering, & comfort …

Understanding your inner child is essential to comfort eating recovery. This is our instinctive, unconscious, or reactive part. It's this part that demands comfort food. In this podcast The Inner Child - A response to the self-critic Feelings - The language of the inner child Triggering - How the inner child's response might relate to your past Nex…

Low self-confidence happens to us all. Here are ways all of us can be affected. Your self-confidence or self-worth is important to challenge in your battle against addiction. Because low self-confidence, and self-criticism, will make you want to 'use'/comfort eat, or treat yourself badly. In this podcast Eight ways feeling bad about yourself can sh…

Self-criticism is one of the main reasons that people overeat. Dieting is based around it. But the solution lies in NOT trying to be perfect. In this podcast How self-criticism goes hand in hand with comfort eating, how you can start to recover your self-esteem Another podcast you might like: Worry, Anxiety & Comfort Eating Citations Links to exerc…

Have you ever wondered what triggers your binge or comfort eating? In this podcast 3 powerful questions to help you identify what's behind your eating. How you might be feeling now that we are almost 3 years on from the start of Covid-19. These potential feelings illustrate one experience that might be behind your comfort eating. Another podcast yo…

Maybe you're frustrated with yourself for not being able to stop eating, or maybe you know your triggers are emotional. In this podcast An updated version of my introductory podcast, with new material. Five reasons why managing binge or comfort eating has nothing to do with self-discipline: Chemical addiction, biology, genetics, environment/ cultur…

Today, I encourage you to reflect on self-appreciation for the year, rather than chastising yourself for not doing well enough. I also offer you a moving end of the year story. Warning: This one might make you cry. But it will leave you feeling comforted and warm inside. 'The Child's Story' by Charles Dickens - Read by Shelley Treacher. If you want…

Today we have another heart-warming little story for the inner child in you, as well as a reminder to be kind to yourself at Christmas. 'The Elves and The Shoemaker' by The Brothers Grimm - Read by Shelley Treacher. If you want help recovering from comfort eating Join my mailing list here Get Control Back! Comfort Eating Recovery 6-Week Workshop Fo…

Sleep is something that's important to get control of. It can affect everything we are, feel and do. I've been told I have a calming voice. So, here I read this beautiful little tale to lull you into a warm, happy sleep. In the first part of this podcast, I talk about the importance of good sleep when combatting comfort eating. 'The Night Before Ch…

When talking about the reasons for comfort eating, one of the things that people ask me the most, is "Isn't it just a habit?" In today's episode I talk about how comfort eating is a deeply embedded habit, influenced by emotional experience, our history and the chemicals in our brains. This is the third in a quick tip series about comfort eating rec…

Identify why you really want to stop comfort eating. What is your why? You’ve got to have a really good, personally meaningful reason, to give up what comforts you. So, in this byte I ask you: What’s really worth putting your comfort binge aside for? I offer suggestions and ways to answer this question. This is the second of a quick tip series abou…

In every relationship, there will be times when you or your partner need space. But, what do you do if this becomes chronic and painful for either of you? Here, I'll explain how you can feel more comfortable, with practical strategies and ideas for you to try. You can work towards repair that is happier for both of you. If you want help taking back…

This is a byte podcast, and the start of a quick tip series on comfort eating recovery. Today, I define what comfort eating is. Can you see yourself here? If you want help gaining back control of your eating: The Next Comfort Eating Recovery 6-week programme will be on a Tuesday evening! Join my mailing list here Get Control Back! Comfort Eating Re…

This podcast explains why it feels impossible to control any compulsion. If you have ever told yourself to stop, while still unable to put your compulsive habit down, you'll relate to this podcast. The information here is about the biochemistry you’re dealing with in any addiction. Knowing this will help you gain back power and control. If you want…

If you've ever wondered why your partner or date seems to withdraw after you've got on so well, this might be why. In this podcast I talk about how the fear of being dependent on people can lead to a fear of commitment, ghosting, an avoidance of intimacy, and possibly a reliance on substances. This podcast will help you to understand what's happeni…

Today's podcast is about the relief that compulsion or addiction brings. I also talk about the life that we may be attempting to block. This is the first of a three part series about addiction, based on Gabor Maté's book 'In The Realm Of Hungry Ghosts'. If I can help you regain your confidence and recover from comfort eating, join my next group: Th…

Gabor Maté says that we choose belonging 100% of the time, over authenticity. Our self-critic keeps us ‘in check’ and ‘likeable’. The part of us that feels criticised, ‘different’, or struggles to connect, is the part that turns to something outside ourselves, in order to cope. So, here, I talk about the road to becoming more authentic and empowere…

We are affected when disaster and terrible inequality happen in the World. Here, I talk about illness, storms, doomscrolling, and Ukraine. I suggest ways to cope with feeling anxious or helpless, and I talk about our connection with each other. If I can help you regain your confidence and recover from comfort eating, join my next group: The Next Co…

Feeling like you'll be found out is common ground for people who comfort eat. Many of us imagine others to be better than us, think others have a perfect life, and feel we are frauds waiting to be discovered. But the reality is that most of us feel inadequate. Most of us think that someone else could do better. It's this feeling that can lead to co…

Typically, the comfort eaters that I see have lost touch with what makes them happy. Today, I talk about why and how to develop a practice of making your own happiness more of a focus. Here, I list 10 learnable things that can make us happy. I see time and time again how this completely transforms eating habits and lifestyles. We are more capable, …

To be able to give up comfort eating, overeating or binge-eating, you're going to need to learn how to be kinder to yourself. This might be a whole new language for the comfort eater. So, here I give you some examples of what to say. Want to go further? Early Bird still open for next 6 week programme. But not for long! Join my mailing list here Get…

Today, I carry on talking about how you can get control back of yr eating. Overwhelm can rapidly contribute to losing control of eating. So, here, I talk about how to take back control of feeling overwhelmed. One listener says: “I want to learn how to recover for real, and for good. I can stay on a plan for a couple of months, and then my emotions …

Today, I share with you what it takes to regain control over any compulsion, without harsh dieting or 'all or nothing' thinking. As we enter what is traditionally known in the UK as the most depressing week of the year, I offer you an alternative to the new year 'fresh start' mentality. Today's podcast is intended to help you with accountability, b…

Today, I end the year with a round-up of some of the main themes I’ve talked about this year. I talk about how to understand your comfort eating, and how to recover from it, so that you are prepared for the post Christmas desire to get healthier. I get a lot of enquiries in January, so I know that many people will be facing how to deal with comfort…

I find that one thing comfort eaters ask me about, is how to recognise their own needs. So, here I list some basic human needs. See which ones stand out for you? Want to go further? Join my mailing list here How To Stop Comfort Eating 6 Week Workshop Calling In 'The One' 8 Week Programme, for finding love For more support: Contact: shelley_treacher…

One reason for overeating at Christmas is that we need to let go. Understanding that you might be comfort eating to let go, is, as I often say, treating the cause rather than the symptom of overeating. Productivity can be another addiction, that typically goes hand in hand with comfort eating. So, today, I talk about Christmas overeating and how to…

One of the things I hear people say frequently, is that they eat because they're bored. This was particularly common during Covid-19 lockdowns. There's a lot more behind boredom than you might initially realise. So this is what I'm asking you to think about today. Want to go further? Join my mailing list here How To Stop Comfort Eating 6 Week Works…

Since lockdown began, the jokes about overeating have been coming thick and fast on social media. Having overcome chronic comfort eating myself, I help people to stop. But I must admit, even I’ve struggled more than usual during the pandemic. It may be that you’ve tried every diet or technique on the planet and still can’t stop yourself from eating…

Here's another short byte podcast, giving you ten normal, everyday reasons why you might comfort eat, drink alcohol, text a lot, watch TV, scroll, etc.. Hint: None of these include lack of willpower! Want to go further? Join my mailing list here How To Stop Comfort Eating 6 Week Workshop Calling In 'The One' 8 Week Programme, for finding love (limi…

Today, I'm taking you back to the beginning. This is a revamp of my first podcast: 'Are you a Comfort Eater?' I share with you some questions that will help you to think about what binge-eating, overeating, comfort eating are for you. I also help you understand why it’s HARD to stop eating. It’s not just a matter of willpower, to be able to stop ov…

I talk a lot about love and compassion in these podcasts. But, being in an abusive situation is a time to learn compassion for yourself, and not for the abuser. It can be difficult to know if you're in an abusive relationship, so here are some signs and signals to quantify. If you can tick most of these boxes, it's time to learn how to look after y…

Today, I talk about being single, and finding love. Because feeling alone, loveless, or partnerless in life can be another major cause of comfort eating. It also brings specific challenges for the comfort eater. So, here I talk about some of what it takes to bring love into your life. Want to go further? Join my mailing list here How To Stop Comfor…

People who comfort eat often struggle with whether it's too selfish to put themselves first. So, here I talk about how it may be the kindest thing you can do. Want to go further? Join my mailing list here How To Stop Comfort Eating 6 Week Workshop Calling In 'The One' 8 Week Programme, for finding love (limited places, starts 1st Dec!) For more sup…

I hear people saying ‘I got really triggered’. So, today, I explain what it really means, with relevence to comfort eating, addiction, and feeling rejection or abandonment. Want to go further? Join my mailing list here How To Stop Comfort Eating 6 Week Workshop Calling In 'The One' 8 Week Programme, for finding love (limited places, starts 1st Dec!…

As we age, we can become more frustrated with our bodies. As a comfort eater, you might feel criticism, disgust, or hatred for your body already. Here, I give you one idea of how to view your body differently, and how to start to release body hatred. Want to go further? Join my mailing list here How To Stop Comfort Eating 6 Week Workshop Calling in…

The changes a woman goes through in menopause are arguably as dramatic and life changing, as in adolescence. So, today I’ll be talking about the emotional effects of the menopause. Because this is another thing that might lead to your comfort eating. Want to go further? Join my mailing list here How To Stop Comfort Eating 6 Week Workshop (limited p…

Here, I'll give you some ideas for how to take care of yourself, the first time you have to do all those things that you used to do with your loved one. Want to go further? Join my mailing list here How To Stop Comfort Eating 6 Week Workshop (limited places) For more support: Contact: shelley_treacher@hotmail.com Info: www.bristolcounselling.co.uk …

It’s clear that grief is one of the greater challenges for so many of us, during the pandemic. There have been many losses. From the everyday losses in our lives and livelihood, to the shocking loss and often horrific death of loved ones, related or unrelated to the pandemic. The difficult thing about grief is that In our stiff upper lip patriarcha…

In this tiny byte podcast, I give you twelve ways to say 'no'. Want to go further? Join my mailing list here How To Stop Comfort Eating 6 Week Workshop (limited places) For more support: Contact: shelley_treacher@hotmail.com Info: www.bristolcounselling.co.uk Blog: Free quick tips and quiz: Are you a comfort eater? Click here for 'Comfort Eating Re…

One of the things most of the people who come to see me have in common, is an aversion to saying ‘no’ to the apparent desires of others. So, today I’m talking about what’s going on when we want to say no, but feel we can’t. Want to go further? Join my mailing list here How To Stop Comfort Eating 6 Week Workshop (limited places) For more support: Co…

In this tiny byte podcast, I give you ten ways to approach Covid-19 induced social anxiety. Want to go further? Join my mailing list here How To Stop Comfort Eating 6 Week Workshop (limited places) For more support: Contact: shelley_treacher@hotmail.com Info: www.bristolcounselling.co.uk Blog: Free quick tips and quiz: Are you a comfort eater? Clic…

We’ve been challenged like never before in being alone or with the same people every day. But, we need other people, to feel OK in everyday life, and to heal. During Covid-19, we may have become very self-reliant, and we may have shut down to some extent, at the same time as craving good contact and connection. It would be natural to be struggling …

How the pandemic may have affected your nervous system, and vicarious trauma. These experiences may lead to comfort eating, or using substances to regulate how you feel. As we find ourselves recovering from COVID-19, we may still be coming to terms with the impact the virus has had on both our bodies and minds. None of us has escaped its effects. W…

I talk about how you can recover from burnout and fatigue, Covid-19 stress, and how it has affected our eating. The pandemic brought us so many challenges. Each one of these might cause us to seek comfort. Part 1 is about stress burnout. This week, my citations are from my own media mentions. Here are some Covid-19 related published articles, where…

I show you what a craving is. Through understanding this simple biological mechanism, you can be equipped to make a different choice about comfort eating, or any other substance/ person you feel hooked on. Another helpful podcast: Is Addiction, Compulsion, Or Obsession A Choice? Citations The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - W…

Ways to understand relationship dynamics and conflict, and how you can recover. Relationship are major cause for unhappiness, or a reason for comforting eat. Here's another podcast you might like: 25. Crack your history code - How your relationship history affects your comfort eating Support the show Do you have a question or comment? Let me know! …

Today I talk about the fear of rejection. I also start to talk about codependency and addiction to people/ love. Any of these experiences may lead to comfort eating, or other addictions. Here, you'll find compassion and ways to cope with the gut punch feeling of the fear of not being liked. Do you have a question or comment? Let me know! Want to go…