Are you exhausted from constantly putting others first, while feeling unseen and unheard yourself? This pattern often stems from our upbringing and shapes our relationship boundaries. In Part 2 of #LiveBrighterWithTara, join me and renowned psychotherapist Terri Cole as we dive deep into positive projection, self-blame, and the boundary blueprint. …

Struggling to set and maintain healthy boundaries in your relationships? Or do you know your preferences, desires, limits, and deal-breakers, but fail to communicate it transparently? In this week’s episode of Live Brighter With Tara, I will be joined by renowned psychotherapist and author Terri Cole as she delves into the crucial role of boundarie…

Do you struggle with conversations about sex or feel ashamed of your sexual past? In this enlightening episode of Live Brighter With Tara, we delve into the divine design of sex, exploring how it is meant to be both pleasurable and intimate for all genders. Join me and understand God’s plan can help you move past your sexual history and achieve the…

Have you ever wondered how small changes can lead to monumental transformations? In this week’s episode of Live Brighter With Tara, we dive deep into the concept of living 1% at a time. Discover how embracing tiny, intentional actions can pave the way to profound personal growth and lasting change. Join me as I explore the true meaning of growing 1…

Ever set a boundary only to feel guilty and backtrack? Or found yourself saying yes when you really wanted to say no? You're not alone! Guilt can dominate a kind girl’s life, twisting our actions and beliefs. In this week’s episode of Live Brighter with Tara, we dive deep into the powerful grip of guilt. Discover how guilt manipulates our decisions…

Feeling drained, fatigued, or just plain stuck? You’re not alone—I face burnout too! It can sap our energy, make us want to escape, and leave us feeling trapped. Stress often plays a huge role, but identifying those stressors can be challenging. In this week’s episode of Live Brighter with Tara, we’ll explore the root causes of burnout and discover…

Do you confuse self-love with arrogance? Think it's about feeling superior? Think again! In this week's episode of "Live Brighter with Tara," we shatter these misconceptions and dive deep into the true essence of self-love. Discover how embracing self-love can empower you to show up authentically in the world and become a beacon of positivity for t…

Are you tired of struggling with weight and feeling trapped by unrealistic social media standards? In a society fixated on perfection, many of us battle with maintaining a healthy self-image. Our obsession with weight often masks deeper issues and can become a mental burden, preventing us from living an intentional and fulfilling life. In this week…

Are you struggling to stay present, even during fun moments? Does something persistently occupy your mind, making it hard to fully engage with your surroundings? I call this Mind Cancer—a relentless mental burden that grows and takes up more space until we address it. In this week’s episode of Live Brighter With Tara, we'll uncover the causes of Mi…

Ever wondered why siblings can recall vastly different versions of the same childhood events? As a child, we have core needs that we have to receive from our parents and our surroundings, but sometimes, there are things that get in the way of that. As a result, we get wired to the stories we tell ourselves that affect all aspects of our lives. But …

Ever wondered what sets apart the wildly successful from the rest of us? It's no secret—confidence is the cornerstone of triumph! There’s a lot of myths and misconceptions in regards to confidence, and in this week’s episode, I will be talking about the realms of self-assurance and resilience, and share ways to nurture your confidence that leads to…

Is your home a healthy environment? Are the people and relationships around you nurturing your overall health? In the last part of my self-love series, I’ll be talking all about how our environment and the people around us affects us–mentally, emotionally, and physically–and how we can create a healthy environment that is vital to our self-love jou…

Do you prioritize yourself, or do you feel it is selfish? Prioritizing ourselves is far from selfish and is actually a way for us to lead fulfilling lives and foster healthy relationships. Join me in Part 3 of my 4-part series about Self-Love as I talk about why prioritizing ourselves is essential for our health, relationships, and overall happines…

Do you find yourself constantly criticizing and comparing yourself to others? Or do you tend to speak to yourself in a negative manner? Our self-confidence and level of success are determined by how we talk to and about ourselves. This week, for the second part of my four-part series on self-love, I will discuss how we can love ourselves through ou…

Have you heard the phrase “Life is about serving others?”. For us kind girls, we don’t need to hear that message regularly since service is so easy for us that we tend to over-give at the expense of ourselves. While service is important, it’s much more important to have balance and understand the order of things first. Join me in this week’s episod…

Do you find yourself chronically busy? Don’t have much time for yourself? There are constant pulls for our attention - it could be our work, our kids, technology - but the challenge with that is it doesn’t give us the opportunity to have stillness in our lives and to go within, which can pose some great challenges in our mental and physical health.…

Did you ever want to do something but believed that you can’t? Or have you talked with someone and they say something they believe is a complete fact, and you’re thinking–is that really true? Those are limiting beliefs, and it’s one of the things that holds us back from success, and keeps us on making excuses. Join me in this week’s episode as we t…

Do you feel like every disagreement with your significant other is a cut that is slowly bleeding you out, making you less intimate and close? Or do you see conflicts as an opportunity to grow as a couple and increase intimacy? To resolve conflicts in a relationship, both partners need to benefit and work together. In this week's episode, we will ex…

I was in a destructive marriage for 22 years which resulted in two psych ward visits. During those two stays, I learned six lessons that really helped me look at things differently and grow. Join me in this week’s episode as I share my insights on resilience, self-love, and embracing living brighter. Join me as I reveal what I learned from the psyc…

Have you ever heard the phrase “Forgive and forget?” Well, I believe it is a recipe for disaster! Forgiveness is usually taken out of context in the Christian world, and if we don’t understand what forgiveness really means, there can be consequences to our body, mind, and spirit. In this week’s episode, we will discuss how we can forgive fully as w…

In this week’s episode, my husband, Michael, will join us for the second time. My husband and I both came from domestically destructive relationships, and we talked about it during his first interview. During this week’s episode, we will be talking about how we live brighter. Getting out of a destructive relationship is one thing, and healing is an…

Do you consider yourself a people pleaser? Focusing too much on other people's opinions can lead to loneliness and a lack of fulfillment in life. In this week's episode, we will discuss how people-pleasing can be a "silent killer" and how we can learn to prioritize ourselves and be more present in our own lives. Listen to learn the silent killer of…

Are you considerate of others, caring, and pretty easy-going? Do you consider yourself a kind-hearted person? I do! However, being a Kind Girl comes with its own set of challenges. The flip side of those attributes makes us a natural target for destructive relationships and gives us a bullseye on our forehead. In this week’s episode, join me as I t…

Have you had some mental challenges, struggled with mental illness, or been in a terrible situation that is affecting your mental health? You are not alone; I am, too! In this episode, we will discuss the many things that can cause mental challenges and how we can improve our physical, emotional, and mental health. Join me in this week's episode as…

Are you afraid to speak up, stand up, or fight? Do your beliefs still serve you, or are they hindering your progress toward where you want to be? In this week’s episode, we will be joined by one of my good friends – Jewels Daly – as she talks about overcoming our past beliefs and fears and how we can stay authentic and live our deepest truth. Join …

When you’re going through a hard time, has someone told you, “It will all work out,” but you think it won’t? In this week’s podcast, we will discuss the uncomfortable truth about struggle, coping beyond prayer, and the things that can help you when you’re struggling and holding onto God’s promise. Join me as we do a Reality Check on God's Promises …

Is your body a comfortable HOME for you? Does your environment or house bring you peace? This week’s episode will discuss how we can intentionally create a HOME within ourselves. For more information: https://www.livebrighter.info/ For free affirmations: https://forms.wix.com/92afa3c4-cdce-4001-8b89-7d69785eeab9:0b817886-a600-4dee-9177-f0847ad749cc…

Do you and your partner have any unspoken agreements or rules that you never discussed? It can be challenging to navigate such situations, whether you are in a relationship or not. In this week's episode, we will cover the topic of unspoken rules and silent agreements to help you gain deeper self-awareness or work on these issues in your relationsh…

Name-calling, emotional abuse, alcohol and substance abuse in a marriage. In this week’s episode, we will be joined by one of my good friends–Erica–who has experienced all of these. Join us as we talk about her experience, learnings, and her healing journey. For more information: https://www.livebrighter.info/ For free affirmations: https://forms.w…

Are you tired of feeling sluggish and worn out without a clear explanation? Tune in to this week's episode to discover 8 powerful ways to either boost your energy levels or avoid energy drains altogether. Don't wait any longer to unlock the secret to consistent, sustained energy—Listen now! For more information: https://www.livebrighter.info/ For f…

What to do if you think you are in a tough or emotionally destructive relationship. In this week’s episode, we will be discussing how our brain can work in an addictive cycle, especially when in a destructive relationship. We will explore ways to cultivate self-awareness and honesty, which can lead to positive change. For more information: https://…

Harvard did a long study of adult development and they found out that the most important Contributor to our well-being is the quality of our Relationships. In this week’s episode, we will be talking about the four relationship must-haves and how we can prioritize and improve the quality of our present and future relationships. For more information:…

Has religion been used in a relationship to control you? Has the bible or scripture held you captive to stay in a destructive situation? Or has your own “Godliness” or idea of being a Christian ever held you captive in an abusive situation? For our December special episode, I’ll be talking about Religious abuse and how the scripture is often misint…

In this week's episode, we will be joined in by Kim, one of my good friends, as she talks about her dysfunctional situation and the things she learned after leaving her abusive relationship. For more information: https://www.livebrighter.info/ For free affirmations: https://forms.wix.com/92afa3c4-cdce-4001-8b89-7d69785eeab9:0b817886-a600-4dee-9177-…

Have you ever been told not to feel a certain way or that you’re too sensitive? Emotions don’t just go away and rejecting or suppressing them can have consequences–both physically and mentally. It’s important to feel and process our emotions or they do some serious damage. In today’s podcast, we will be diving into the world of emotions and how we …

Do you wish you weren't so influenced by what other people thought and felt about you? Well you certainly can because in this week's podcast, we’ll be talking about how we can get our needs and validations from an internal scorecard rather than from an external scorecard. For more information: https://www.livebrighter.info/ For free affirmations: h…

As a Kind Girl, it’s easy to miss that you’re in an emotionally or religiously abusive relationship. It’s easy for us not to validate what we’re feeling because we focus on others more than ourselves. In this week's podcast, we’ll be talking about how we can heal after abuse by focusing on three healing areas. For more information: https://www.live…

Some Domestic abuse situations are challenging especially if it’s not physical since we don't have the science to show or or prove whether it’s emotional or psychological–which therefore, makes it harder to recognize and see. In this week's podcast, we have a special guest–Michael Schaan–wherein he shares his story and what he learned from his dest…

Have you ever felt like thinking and loving yourself is selfish? Growing up in a christian background, I’ve always regarded others more important than myself–which led me to a destructive relationship for 22 years. In today’s episode, we’ll be talking about the common misinterpretation people have about loving ourselves and with what the bible real…

Have you ever said or thought to yourself that you're not enough or you're unlovable? It might be your identity, and your identity is not stuck. Join me in today's episode as we talk about our identity and how we can better understand it/how to figure it all out. For more information: https://www.livebrighter.info/ For free affirmations: https://fo…

Do you find yourself constantly in fear in your relationship? I was, and it was my normal for 22 years. I was used to it and didn't even question it. I also didn't have the words to describe what I was going through, which made it even harder for me to understand the situation I was in. Join me in today's episode as I talk about my "normal" and how…

Are you the type to suppress and ignore your emotions? It's important for us to understand that emotions don't just go away. They must be verbalized and let out safely or they do some damage. Today's episode discusses how we can get in touch with ourselves and find physical and emotional well being. For More information: https://www.livebrighter.in…

Do you use distractions to avoid dealing with hard situations and challenges? Or do you have a hard time processing or dealing with your emotions? In today's episode, We will talk about why people "buffer" and how we can reflect and change. For More information: https://www.livebrighter.info/ For free affirmations, fill up this form: https://forms.…

Many of us have a picture in mind when we consider the word abuse, but abuse can take many different forms and it's so easy to miss. Join me in unraveling the different forms of abuse and how we can heal and avoid these situations. For More information: https://www.livebrighter.info/ For free affirmations, fill up this form: https://forms.wix.com/9…

In this episode, we will dive into the addictive side of abuse and talk about steps on how we can rewire our brains and improve our thoughts about self. For More information: https://www.livebrighter.info/ For free affirmations, fill up this form: https://forms.wix.com/92afa3c4-cdce-4001-8b89-7d69785eeab9:0b817886-a600-4dee-9177-f0847ad749cc Unrave…

I've been told for so many years that I was the problem and I wasn't enough. And I've also been told by the medical community that I was bipolar. Being told these words over and over again affects your brain and can cause trauma. In today's episode, we'll be diving on how little traumas and abuse can cause brain damage and health problems, as well …

Do you see your kindness as a strength and also as a weakness? Do you find yourself regularly serving others and feeling a little bit of resentment? In today's episode, let's dive in on how kindness became a bullseye on my forehead and became one of the reasons why I missed the abuse that was happening in my life. PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS: 00:50 Kindness…

How can you miss that you're in an abusive relationship? Well, here are 8 reasons why you could have missed that you might be in an abusive relationship. PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS 01:00 Brain damage and Brainwashing: thinking that I was at fault 02:42 Lack of connection with my body: suppressing emotions causes body weakness 03:28 Different forms of abuse…

Was your childhood a setup, a setback, and how do we step up? Are the things you've been taught that aren’t working for you in your adult life? Let's talk more about it in today's new episode wherein I'll dive deeper on how my family background became one of the reasons why I missed that I was in an abusive relationship. PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS: 01:18 T…

A 30 year story of dealing with a covert narcissist as a high functioning codependent. My name is Tara and join me as we talk about living brighter. PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS 01:12 Love bombing: a complete switch from dating to marriage 02:15 Narcissism and codependency in a relationship 03:10 Defining Gaslighting and its examples 03:58 The Perfect storm:…