#53 - On Setting Boundaries (Part II)

A Way Beyond the Rainbow

This is part II of a 2-episode series on setting boundaries. In this episode, Amina and I discuss setting boundaries with people who have narcissistic tendencies, how to prepare mentally for any pushback, and how to avoid being pulled into the arena of what many psychologists call "pathological narcissists".
What are some characteristics and behaviors of "pathological narcissists", and how might they behave when we start setting boundaries with them? How do I deal with parents, relatives, partners, friends or colleagues who have narcissistic and manipulative tendencies? How do I avoid being manipulated by them? If my parents are actually "pathological narcissists", how do I reconcile being dutiful to them while setting boundaries with them and avoiding their manipulation and mind games? These and other questions are explored in this episode.
References used and resources mentioned in this episode:
- How To Do The Work by Dr. Nicole LePera
- Ross Rosenberg’s videos: "Observe Don't Absorb" technique (example videos here and here), "Induced Conversation" (part I and part II), "Preparing for the Narcissistic Storm" and "12 Potent Tricks" of narcissists

Chapters

1. #53 - On Setting Boundaries (Part II) (00:00:00)

2. Episode Introduction (00:00:39)

3. On the Narcissist's Retaliation (00:02:36)

4. How to Avoid Being Pulled into Their Arena (00:16:41)

5. On Narcissistic Parents and Islamic Perspectives (00:29:36)

6. Dealing with Enmeshed Family Dynamics (00:53:58)

7. Ending Remarks (00:59:45)