#52 - On Setting Boundaries (Part I)

A Way Beyond the Rainbow

This is part I of a 2-episode series on setting boundaries. In this episode, Amina and I discuss what boundaries are, how to define your own boundaries, communicate them and maintain them, as well as techniques on how to say "no" and how to clearly communicate your needs with others in your life.
Are my boundaries loose, rigid or flexible? What are the three main types of boundaries, and how can I assess these boundaries in my life? What is the difference between emotional dumping and venting? How do I communicate boundaries, say "no" to others and tell others how I feel and what I want/need without hurting them or second guessing myself? How do I deal with any backlash if it takes place? These and other questions are explored in this episode.
References used and resources mentioned in this episode:
- How To Do The Work by Dr. Nicole LePera
- No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover
- Ross Rosenberg’s videos on codependency
- Not Nice: Stop People Pleasing, Staying Silent, & Feeling Guilty... And Start Speaking Up, Saying No, Asking Boldly, And Unapologetically Being Yourself by Dr. Aziz Gazipura

Chapters

1. #52 - On Setting Boundaries (Part I) (00:00:00)

2. Episode Introduction (00:00:39)

3. An Introduction to Boundaries (00:03:01)

4. Saying "No" + Rigid, Loose and Flexible Boundaries (00:15:36)

5. On the Three Kinds of Boundaries (00:23:56)

6. On Emotional Dumping vs. Venting (00:34:09)

7. Step 1: Define Your Boundaries (00:46:47)

8. Step 2: Communicate Your Boundaries (01:03:27)

9. Step 3: Maintain the New Boundaries (01:23:25)

10. Ending Remarks (01:38:31)