4. Sub Frenzy, Safe Words, And The Myth Of The Top Shortage

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This week, Lina goes straight into what it feels like to find a new Dom(me)–what it means to navigate the feels of frenzy and swooning, and is it possible to balance leaning in and not overextending yourself? (Spoiler alert: it is!) She also covers the basics of subspace, the power and security of Safe Words, what nonverbal Safe Words can look like in practice, and why the word “No” is so intense and scary sometimes. And finally, Lina yells from the top of the BDSM mountain that there is 👏🏻not👏🏻a👏🏻top👏🏻shortage! Kissing some frogs is just part of the process and that’s okay!

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