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Finally, we find out who is unbeatable, unhateable, and unbreakable in the final five episodes of Battle Camp Season One. Host Chris Burns is joined by the multi-talented comedian Dana Moon to relive the cockroach mac & cheese, Trey’s drag debut, and the final wheel spin. The Season One Winner joins Chris to debrief on strategy and dish on game play. Leave us a voice message at www.speakpipe.com/WeHaveTheReceipts Text us at (929) 487-3621 DM Chris @FatCarrieBradshaw on Instagram Follow We Have The Receipts wherever you listen, so you never miss an episode. Listen to more from Netflix Podcasts.…

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Chris and Lisa of BeenThereGotOut.com both survived toxic marriages with narcissistic partners and the legal and co-parenting nightmares that go hand-in-hand with all of that.If you are struggling in a high-conflict relationship, divorce, custody battle, or co-parenting hell which requires PERSONALIZED attention, let us HOLD YOUR HAND along the way, while providing EXPERT, STRATEGIC guidance based on one's years of success (representing myself in court!), coupled with the other's High Conflict Divorce Coach certification.Our podcast features interviews with lawyers, therapists, co-parenting coordinators, guardians ad litem, and other subject matter experts, as well as other content, all with one goal in mind: Let us teach you how to HELP YOURSELF!

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Trauma & Transformation: Nurturing Healthy Relationships 28:55

4 days ago28:55

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Unlock the secrets to rebuilding trust and nurturing healthy relationships with insights from psychotherapist Tami Kiekhaefer. Discover how to navigate the emotional turmoil after betrayal and trauma, as Tami illuminates the often-overlooked feelings of self-blame and societal pressure to move on too quickly. Gain invaluable guidance on why connections to past partners linger and how to acknowledge your current emotional state without succumbing to unrealistic expectations. Explore the intricate art of setting boundaries and fostering self-trust. Tami delves into how early experiences shape our ability to trust ourselves and others, offering practical strategies to break free from toxic cycles. Learn about the "permission slip plan," a transformative tool to reclaim your independence and empower decision-making. By aligning intuition with action, you can build the foundation for healthier, more fulfilling relationships. Understand the role of fear as a driver in relationship dynamics and conflict resolution. Tami shares profound insights on recognizing these fears to prevent personalizing a partner's actions and reducing reactive behavior. This episode emphasizes the significance of self-work and identifying one’s "why" in persistent patterns, encouraging listeners to embrace personal growth. Through personal stories and resources, uncover how to attract healthier partners and create lasting change in your relationship journey.…

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Navigating Co-Parenting with a Toxic Ex 30:27

6 days ago30:27

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Can navigating the choppy waters of co-parenting truly be harmonious, especially when dealing with a toxic ex? Join us as we promise eye-opening insights and practical solutions with parenting coach Jeanine Mouchawar. In this episode, we unravel the complex dynamics of co-parenting where differing backgrounds and expectations often collide. Jeanine draws from her vast experience with single moms and contentious divorces to guide us in managing expectations for the sake of our children. She offers a candid look at the harsh truth that not all parents prioritize their children's best interests, emphasizing what we, as parents, can control in these challenging journeys. Our discussion further explores the emotional rollercoaster when children are caught in the crossfire of conflicting parental narratives. Jeanine shares effective strategies to validate our children's feelings while encouraging open communication and critical thinking. The emotional toll when children mimic negative traits of an ex-partner is acknowledged, with supportive guidance offered to help parents cope. Finally, we invite you to connect more deeply with your children using a free resource from Jeanine's website, featuring questions designed to spark meaningful dialogue and strengthen relationships. You won't want to miss this insightful conversation loaded with practical advice and valuable resources.…

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The Role of Social Media in Family Law Investigations 41:31

11 days ago41:31

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Can social media really make or break a family law case? Listen as we uncover the power of digital footprints with Jacqy Dougherty from XG Consultants Group, a leading global private investigation firm. Jacqy explores the surprising ways social media is used to reveal discrepancies in court testimonies, unfit parenting, and concealed finances. With tales of mysterious multiple profiles and unexpected courtroom revelations, this episode promises insights into the investigative strategies that leverage online behavior to paint a complete picture in complex legal scenarios. Join us to unravel the ethical and strategic intricacies of private investigations, especially in sensitive issues like suspected infidelity and custody battles. Jacqy shares compelling stories from the field, from a husband monitoring his wife with electronic devices to failed attempts at proving illegal activities in an exotic club. We shed light on the importance of hiring a reputable, accredited firm for such delicate matters, and how a private investigator’s findings can be pivotal in encouraging mediation and preventing public exposure. Discover the diverse services offered by XG Consultants Group and learn why due diligence is crucial when choosing investigative services.…

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Parenting with Trust, Connection, & Accountability 20:31

14 days ago20:31

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Join us for a transformative discussion with Sue Donnellan, a multi-entrepreneur, mom of four, and insightful parenting coach, as we explore the complex world of parenting through challenging situations such as divorces and custody battles. We examine effective strategies for navigating these turbulent times, emphasizing the importance of trusting parental instincts over misdiagnosing children's behaviors. Sue sheds light on the concept of victimization, its adverse effects, and how labeling children can lead to self-fulfilling prophecies. Together, we unpack the drama triangle and the crucial role of parental accountability in shaping children's actions and perceptions, highlighting the need for parents to reflect on their own experiences and behaviors. In the second part of our conversation, we explore the significance of building trust and connection in parenting to help children develop strong decision-making skills. Sue shares her personal journey and strategies, such as spending intentional one-on-one time with each child and recognizing their individual interests. Discover practical methods for fostering a foundation of trust that can guide children through life's stages, and hear insights from Sue's book, ""Secrets to Parenting Without Giving a Fuck."" Whether you're a parent or simply interested in understanding the nuances of effective parenting, this episode promises valuable perspectives and actionable advice for creating lasting bonds with your children.…

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Understanding Family Dynamics in High-Conflict Co-Parenting 42:16

18 days ago42:16

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Discover the transformative power of understanding family dynamics during high-conflict divorces in our latest episode, featuring insights from Adam Barta, a seasoned licensed clinical social worker. We promise you'll gain a new perspective on the importance of examining the entire family's environment rather than singling out a child's behavior in therapy. Adam takes us on a journey through the crucial elements of a trauma-informed approach, emphasizing the need to validate children's experiences as normal reactions to their circumstances, and shares his dedication to making mental health services accessible to everyone. Our conversation delves into the intricate world of co-parenting amid high-conflict separations, shedding light on the hurdles of fostering genuine collaboration between divorced parents for the benefit of their children. Together with Adam, we highlight the significance of legal accountability and the role of court systems in ensuring compliance with therapeutic recommendations. The episode also examines the utility of co-parenting plans and the profound impact of self-awareness as parents navigate their roles in ongoing conflicts. This discussion calls for a blend of resources, personal accountability, and legal frameworks to achieve effective co-parenting. Finally, we tackle the sensitive issue of parental behavior's impact on children, exploring the long-term consequences of one parent demonizing the other. The importance of allowing children to form unbiased, healthy relationships with both parents is underscored, along with the need to humanize the other parent despite personal grievances. We also introduce a ""Roadmap to Understanding Family Dynamics and Service Interventions,"" aimed at guiding parents, attorneys, and therapists through the tumultuous terrain of divorce. By the end of the episode, you'll have gained valuable insights into the complexities of custody, co-parenting challenges, and the pivotal role of teaching children resilience and adaptability as they grow into adulthood.…

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Strategies for Unmasking Financial Fraud in Divorce 27:29

21 days ago27:29

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Fraud expert Kelly Todd takes us into the shadowy world of financial betrayal and deception. As a seasoned forensic accountant, Kelly shares invaluable insights into how financial abuse often infiltrates relationships, particularly during the tumultuous time of divorce. She uncovers the psychology of a fraudster, illustrating how the dynamics of financial control can lead to a cascade of rationalizations and deceit. Kelly’s mission is clear: empower individuals with the knowledge and tools they need to recognize the early warning signs of financial betrayal, safeguarding themselves before it’s too late. In our engaging discussion, we underscore the critical importance of maintaining financial awareness in relationships to thwart potential fraud. Kelly delves into the risks of unequal financial power and knowledge between partners, offering listeners a roadmap to identify red flags, such as unexplained financial shortages or suspicious transactions. The conversation also navigates the modern landscape of cryptocurrencies and digital payments, which have become fertile ground for financial manipulation. Kelly emphasizes the need for meticulous financial records, especially during the emotional upheaval of a divorce, as a means to protect oneself in uncertain times. Wrapping up our enlightening episode, Kelly offers practical strategies for ensuring financial transparency and asset protection, both in marriage and the challenging aftermath of divorce. She shares the significance of being actively involved in financial matters and trusting one’s instincts if something seems amiss. From uncovering hidden assets to incorporating protective language in divorce agreements, her expertise shines through. Kelly's personal anecdotes and proactive advice are a treasure trove for anyone looking to safeguard their financial future. Connect with Kelly on social media for more of her insightful tips and advice in this ever-evolving realm of fraud prevention.…

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Preventing Your Ex From Destroying Your Credit 16:48

25 days ago16:48

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Join us as we navigate the complex world of student loans and credit management during a divorce, featuring insights from Angela Kim, known as Angela the Credit Boss. Discover how divorce can unexpectedly damage your credit score, even without a contentious split, due to shared financial responsibilities like co-signing on student loans or mortgages. Angela shares a critical revelation about student loans: each semester constitutes a separate loan, meaning you could have multiple loans per child on your credit report. She also introduces the Parent PLUS Loan, a federal loan for your child's education that impacts only the parent's credit. Angela suggests a strategic approach to splitting loan responsibilities by alternating years between parents, helping to ensure a fair distribution of the financial burden. Listen in as we discuss the importance of maintaining good credit as a financial safety net during and after a divorce. Drawing a parallel between medical and financial health, we stress the need to stay vigilant with on-time payments and the benefits of using tools like auto-pay to manage multiple loans. Angela offers practical advice on using tools like Google Calendar to keep track of payments and due dates, emphasizing personal accountability during financial transitions. With her expertise, Angela provides invaluable guidance on managing your finances and credit effectively, ensuring you're well-prepared for life's changes. Connect with Angela through phone, text, email, or Instagram for further assistance on streamlining your financial responsibilities.…

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Boundaries & Emotional Intelligence in High-Conflict Divorce 41:11

28 days ago41:11

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Years ago, Susie found herself amidst the emotional storm of a high-conflict divorce, grappling with the feelings of shame and regret that came with it. Now, as a mental health coach for women, she joins us to share her learned wisdom and practical advice on navigating such tumultuous times. From establishing boundaries to focusing on what we can control, Susie’s insights empower us to reclaim our mental and physical health, even when ex-partners attempt to weaponize our children against us. Our conversation touches on the often-overlooked life skills essential for thriving under stress, such as emotional regulation and boundary-setting. We explore how shifting away from rigid expectations can foster a more harmonious self-relationship and alleviate the unnecessary suffering caused by self-blame. With Susie's guidance, we unravel the complexities of co-parenting with empathy, focusing on healing and personal growth rather than getting entangled in an ex's irrational behavior, ultimately leading to more positive interactions and personal happiness. Finally, we delve into the multifaceted role of parenting through emotional intelligence, emphasizing the importance of teaching resilience and setting healthy boundaries. Susie introduces valuable resources for those navigating narcissistic relationships, including a supportive online community and practical parenting classes. Through these discussions, we aim to instill hope and encouragement, guiding our listeners toward emotional well-being and positive change.…

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Exploring Layers of Trauma & Recovery 33:29

5 weeks ago33:29

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Trauma therapist Dr. Rebecca Vazquez joins us to unravel the intricate links between anxiety, our physical bodies, and the mind, with a special focus on the influential vagus nerve. She introduces us to the "drop three" technique, a simple yet effective method for alleviating anxiety by relaxing the jaw, shoulders, and hands to signal safety to the body. Throughout our conversation, Dr. Vazquez offers invaluable advice on staying grounded in high-stress situations, like using sensory items to maintain composure, and highlights the calming power of familiar scents. Our discussion takes a deeper turn as we examine the often misunderstood emotions of anger and trauma, especially within marginalized communities. Dr. Vazquez provides insight into how anger can be a constructive force, akin to a brick that builds rather than destroys when managed properly. We also explore the nature of trauma, which, beyond dramatic events, can stem from prolonged emotional neglect. The concept of the "window of tolerance" is shared, offering listeners a framework for understanding the nervous system's response to stress and the importance of processing emotions within a manageable range. The healing journey continues with an exploration of bilateral stimulation's role in recovery. Dr. Vazquez explains how activities like running and dancing can help process subconscious thoughts and emotions. We touch on the therapeutic power of EMDR, voice, and writing as tools for personal healing. As we conclude, we celebrate a heartwarming moment of international connection, receiving greetings from Poland, which reminds us of the power of virtual interactions to unite people across the globe. Dr. Vazquez’s insights and her work at SANA Counseling and Consulting promise to leave a lasting impression on listeners seeking healing and empowerment.…

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A Journey From Homelessness to Hope 51:11

5 weeks ago51:11

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After enduring the turmoil of domestic violence, Shanay Fulton found herself navigating the unpredictable world of homelessness, a journey that ultimately led her to happiness and advocacy. She joins us to share her inspiring story, offering a raw and authentic look at the intricate challenges faced by domestic violence survivors, particularly the relentless cycle of financial instability and lack of secure housing. Shanay's personal experiences provide insight into the expanded definition of domestic violence under Jennifer's Law and challenge the often-insensitive question, "Why don't you just leave?" Together, we explore the harsh realities of navigating shelter systems and housing for mothers and families fleeing abusive situations. Shanay, a dedicated advocate and nonprofit director, dispels myths about the accessibility of shelters and delves into the critical factors—such as location, financial stability, and transportation—that influence a safe escape plan. Her poignant stories highlight the need for safety measures in transitional housing and underscore the unique challenges that families, particularly those with teenage boys, face in the shelter system. Our conversation turns to the emotional and legal battles within the family court system, where Shanay's resilience shines through. Despite the heart-wrenching custody disputes and the financial toll of legal proceedings, her journey illustrates a powerful narrative of hope and community empowerment. Through her advocacy, Shanay has found unexpected opportunities for growth, inspiring others to transform personal struggles into pathways for change. Join us as we celebrate her remarkable achievements and unwavering determination to build a brighter future for her and her children.…

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Overcoming Parental Alienation: Healing & Reconnection II 38:38

6 weeks ago38:38

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Growing up, P and her sister faced the unimaginable reality of being separated from their mother, entangled in a web spun by their father's manipulation and control. This episode sheds light on the darker side of the family court system that often overlooks the subtle yet profound impact of legal and emotional abuse. P bravely shares her story, revealing the struggles of living under the constant surveillance and authoritarian grip of her father, despite the court's failure to recognize his abusive past. Through her narrative, we underscore the critical need for systems to identify and address abusive dynamics that extend beyond the immediate spousal relationship, affecting the young lives caught in the crossfire. As we navigate P's journey, the conversation turns to the emotional scars of guilt and isolation that can distort a child's understanding of love and responsibility. We discuss how P's father's tactics left her grappling with self-worth and trust issues, a common experience for those who grow up in similarly manipulative environments. The impact of parental favoritism and neglect is laid bare, illustrating how these dynamics can fracture a child's sense of identity and belonging. These themes resonate deeply with our listeners, who share their own battles with familial manipulation, offering a sense of solidarity and understanding. Finally, we explore the path to healing and reconnection, a journey paved with patience, self-reflection, and courage. P's story of reuniting with her mother serves as a beacon of hope, demonstrating that even after years of separation, broken familial bonds can be mended. This transformation is not without its challenges, but it highlights the power of making reconciliation a personal choice. We invite listeners to find inspiration in these stories, encouraging those facing similar struggles to seek the support and understanding necessary to foster their own healing journeys.…

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Overcoming Parental Alienation: Healing & Reconnection I 57:29

6 weeks ago57:29

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What happens when a parent's portrayal of love is skewed by manipulation and deceit? Join us as we explore the tumultuous journey of A, a young adult who courageously shares her story of growing up amidst parental alienation, divorce, and domestic violence. A's father painted her mother in an unflattering light, affecting A's and her sister's perceptions and mental health. We uncover the emotional manipulation they faced, the depression they battled, and the hidden truths they were forced to accept, all while struggling to communicate in an environment that discouraged personal opinions. The narrative takes a transformative turn as A embarks on a journey of self-discovery and healing. At 17, therapy became A’s lifeline, helping her see through the toxic dynamics that her father had ingrained. The barriers began to break as journaling and reflection allowed her to reconnect with her mother and reshape her understanding of her family. This episode is packed with insights into the complexities of family relationships and the courage required to face painful truths and work towards reconciliation. As A and her sister make the bold decision to leave their father's house, they step into a new chapter of rebuilding connections with their mother. This episode highlights the challenges of overcoming deeply rooted resentments and ingrained beliefs, emphasizing the importance of critical thinking and self-awareness. A's heartfelt gratitude for the openness and support she received serves as a beacon of hope for others navigating similar situations. Join us for a powerful conversation that inspires courage, healing, and the transformative power of self-discovery.…

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Navigating Taxes During High-Conflict Divorce 30:51

7 weeks ago30:51

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Transform your approach to managing your finances during a divorce by joining our insightful conversation with Nancy Rossner, our returning expert! Learn about the upsides and potential pitfalls of various tax filing options, such as filing jointly versus separately. Nancy shares her wisdom on balancing the benefits of joint filing, like larger deductions, against the risks of shared tax liabilities. Meanwhile, separate filing might protect you from potential debts but could mean losing out on some valuable credits. With professional guidance, especially in complex divorces, you can achieve a favorable financial outcome. Our discussion deepens as we explore critical tax considerations related to children amidst divorce proceedings. Discover the intricacies of child-related tax credits, including the earned income tax credit, which follows the child and can't be transferred between parents. Nancy advises on strategic negotiations around dependent claims, emphasizing the importance of clear language in divorce agreements. By meticulously tracking parenting time and incorporating these tax aspects into parenting plans, you can safeguard your financial and legal clarity. Finally, empower yourself with practical strategies to maximize tax credits and protect your finances during challenging times. Nancy shares essential tips on maintaining accurate records and resolving disputes when both parents claim the same child. We highlight resources like low-income taxpayer clinics, the IRS's Volunteer Income Tax Assistance program, and the Taxpayer Advocate Service. With this comprehensive toolkit, you'll be better equipped to navigate the complexities of tax filing during a divorce, reclaiming your financial power and ensuring a secure future for you and your children.…

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Strategies for Empowering Your Divorce Journey 31:06

7 weeks ago31:06

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What if navigating the often turbulent waters of divorce could actually lead to empowerment and personal growth? Join us on a transformative journey as we sit down with Chloe, a certified divorce coach from London and a key member of the Amicable Divorce Network, who unveils her new book, "Don't Screw Up Your Divorce." Chloe shares invaluable insights on how to maintain control and make informed decisions during this challenging life transition. We explore the unique hurdles faced by expats and international families and contrast Chloe's amicable approach with our own experiences in high-conflict divorces. Chloe's expertise sheds light on how emotional preparation and the right information can help prevent common mistakes and potential conflicts. Our conversation takes an insightful turn as we discuss the delicate subject of discussing divorce with children and other stakeholders. It's crucial to manage expectations and approach the process with a clear understanding of reality, rather than harboring hopes for emotionally charged legal battles. Chloe and I focus on the importance of thoughtful communication with children, recognizing the differing needs based on their developmental stages. We also delve into the impact of divorce on adult children, who may feel blindsided and experience shifts in their perception of family stability. Understanding these dynamics is key to navigating these discussions with compassion and foresight. We also explore the wealth of support resources available to individuals undergoing divorce. Chloe introduces us to a range of alternatives to traditional divorce proceedings, such as mediation and collaborative law, offering pathways to less painful and more cost-effective outcomes. We highlight the importance of strategic financial planning and selecting the right professional support to maintain control over the situation. Wrapping up the episode, we express our gratitude for Chloe's valuable contributions and wish her continued success with her book and future endeavors.…

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Rebuilding Credit and Safeguarding Your Financial Future 30:58

8 weeks ago30:58