219: "All The Men Want Younger Women" Dating After Divorce podcast

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In this heart-to-heart conversation, I sat down with Heidi Freeman, successful attorney and author of "Love Lessons: 104 Dates and the Stories That Led Me to True Love." Heidi shares how turning 40 sparked her quest to understand what true love looks like by interviewing couples in strong relationships. What began as research turned into 11 core themes about authentic connection. With refreshing honesty, Heidi opens up about her 104-date journey, complete with hilarious mishaps, surprising insights, and the beautiful moment when she finally met her husband Will. This episode cuts through the anxiety about modern dating to remind us that love requires resilience - and is worth 100 disappointing dates. Key Moments Turning 40: Heidi realized she didn't know what true love looked like or felt like and decided to interview couples in solid partnerships Research: Heidi interviewed 50+ couples separately to find themes Mutual reciprocity: The most impactful insight was how partners take turns supporting each other through life's waves The myth of love at first sight: No one Heidi interviewed mentioned this - instead they talked about initial connection and safety D04 dates: Heidi shares both hilarious dating disasters and meaningful lessons learned Finding Will: How she met her husband through yoga connections and recognized the difference in how she felt Dating in the wild vs. apps: The benefits of meeting people through activities vs. online Quotes "I had to put on my big girl underwear and go back out there." - Heidi on persevering after dating disappointments "I think it's not us. This is the way we are socialized...to value relationships, which is awesome. But then we're also socialized to put our own personal value in relationships, and that's what's harmful." - Sade Curry "Mutual reciprocity and safety... even if you didn't have all the other sprinkles in a relationship, but you had these, you could make a good relationship out of that." - Sade Curry "What if the next date is him? I would constantly say that to myself when I didn't want to go." - Heidi on staying hopeful About Heidi: Heidi Freeman (formerly Goldstein, born Eisman) is a successful attorney and partner at a large law firm specializing in environmental law and social and environmental governance-based counseling. She's written her first book, "Love Lessons," chronicling her dating journey and the relationship insights she gained. Heidi has previously written for Bloomberg Law, 360, and other professional publications. She lives in Cleveland Heights, Ohio with her husband Will and their blended family - two children of her own and two bonus children with Will. Connect With Heidi https://heidifriedman.com http://www.instagram.com/lovelessons104 Podcast: "I Love You More" with her 22-year-old son Zach (available on Spotify and Apple Podcasts ) Book: "Love Lessons: 104 Dates and the Stories That Led Me to True Love" (Available on Amazon , Barnes & Noble , and Goodreads) Ready to Transform Your Dating Life? If this episode resonated with you, I'd love to help you apply these insights to your own dating journey. Book a complimentary dating consultation call with me at sadecurry.com/info and discover how you can build the confidence, clarity, and connection skills to find your perfect match.…

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232. What to Do When You Get Ghosted 23:29

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231. How to Ask Dating Questions 30:41

25 days ago30:41

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In this episode, I dive into why asking questions is both an art and a crucial skill on your dating journey after divorce. Most women I work with struggle not because they lack intelligence or communication skills, but because the drama attached to dating turns question-asking into self-sabotage. You might think asking questions is straightforward, but are you using them to protect yourself or to people-please? Both approaches block authentic connection and prevent you from gathering the information you need to make wise decisions about potential partners. Key Insights Curiosity is your superpower : Approach dating with curiosity—not just about your date but about yourself. Your reactions hold valuable information about your patterns. The protection trap : Going into dates with a rigid checklist of questions turns dating into an interview. You miss crucial nuance and context when you're focused on checking boxes rather than truly connecting. The people-pleasing pitfall : When you avoid asking important questions because "you don't want to be nosy" or "you don't want to chase him away," you sacrifice your needs for a stranger's comfort. Reclaim your authority : Dating involves meeting a stranger, knowing them for months, and potentially committing to them for life. This requires active participation, not passive acceptance. Your dating rights : You have the right to know about people who want access to you. You deserve to have potential partners earn your trust through honesty and transparency. Practical Takeaways Start with broader questions about lifestyle, career goals, and weekend activities before diving into deeper topics Design questions based on your core values rather than using generic lists Pay attention to how someone responds—defensiveness, vagueness, or dismissal tells you something important Recognize when you falter in asking important questions and get curious about what's happening within you Remember timing matters—questions should match the relationship phase you're in Dating After Divorce Wisdom Think about it: we've known our siblings, cousins, and best friends our whole lives. Yet romantic relationships expect us to meet someone, know them for months, and commit to them forever. That's wild! Since this is our collective social agreement, we need to approach it with intention and courage. Your Next Step If you don't know what questions to ask, that's a sign you need clarity on your core values and relationship vision. This isn't just about having a list of questions; it's about knowing which answers matter specifically to you. Ready to transform your dating experience? Book a consultation call with me where we'll discuss how working through your core values and dating patterns can help you find clarity and confidence. Stop outsourcing your safety to a checklist and start leading your own journey to love. Schedule your Dating Consultation Call with Sade The Dating After Divorce Podcast with Sade Curry helps smart, accomplished women navigate dating with confidence after divorce. New episodes every Tuesday.…

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230. The Decade after Divorce with Dr. Toyin Falusi Nwafor 1:02:51

4 weeks ago1:02:51

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Work with Sade: http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment Contact Dr. Toyin Get the book: https://www.tfalandchi.com/authored-book 10 Minutes with TFal: https://www.tfalandchi.com/10mins-with-tmfal Website: https://www.tfalandchi.com/ Shownotes: In this episode of the Dating After Divorce podcast, Sade Curry interviews Dr. Toyin Falusi Nwafor, affectionately known as T-Fal, who shares her journey of writing her book 'The Decade After' and her experiences navigating life after divorce. Dr. T-Fal emphasizes the importance of self-care, support systems, and personal growth during the challenging process of divorce. The conversation explores the unique experiences of divorced women, the impact of divorce on relationships, and the significance of how we use time in the healing process. Dr. T-Fal provides insights on how to empower oneself and support children through the transition, highlighting the need for understanding and compassion in the journey of healing. In this conversation, Dr. Toyin discusses the complexities of divorce, emphasizing the importance of understanding statistics in relation to individual experiences. She highlights the critical role of parenting in mitigating the negative impacts of divorce on children and stresses the need for a supportive network during such transitions. The discussion also touches on the challenges of navigating singleness and dating post-divorce, advocating for self-awareness and personal growth throughout the process. In this engaging conversation, Dr. Toyin and Sade Curry explore the complexities of dating and relationships after divorce. They discuss the importance of being honest with oneself about intentions in dating, the journey of reconnecting with past partners, and the significance of transparency in new relationships. Dr. Toyin shares her personal experiences of navigating love and companionship after divorce, emphasizing the need for intentionality and self-discovery. The discussion culminates in reflections on the future and the possibilities that lie ahead, highlighting the importance of embracing change and growth. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Dr. Toyin Falusi Nwafor 02:37 The Journey of Writing 'The Decade After' 06:34 Navigating Divorce: Unique Experiences and Resources 11:50 The Impact of Divorce on Relationships 14:04 Time Heals: The Importance of How We Use It 19:15 Healing Beyond Divorce: Childhood and Personal Growth 22:58 Understanding Divorce Statistics and Individual Outcomes 27:04 The Role of Parenting in Divorce 32:39 Building a Support System During Divorce 44:32 Navigating Singleness and Dating After Divorce 45:53 Navigating Post-Divorce Relationships 49:09 Intentional Dating and Reconnection 52:59 The Journey to Remarriage 56:34 The Importance of Honesty and Transparency 01:00:14 Embracing Change and Future Possibilities Keywords divorce, healing, personal growth, co-parenting, self-care, relationships, support system, women's empowerment, emotional well-being, navigating divorce, divorce, parenting, support system, statistics, relationships, healing, self-care, single life, emotional health, co-parenting, divorce, remarriage, dating, relationships, honesty, transparency, self-discovery, intentionality, personal growth, empowerment…

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229. How to Shift Chemistry & Attraction when Dating (Guest Episode with Kim Jarman) 56:46

8 weeks ago56:46

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Masterclass - "Beyond the Spark: The 10 Elements of Chemistry & Attraction" Register for live event or replay: sadecurry.com/masterclass March 30, 2025 (4pm ET/3pm CT) You will learn: The science behind attraction patterns How brain chemistry influences choices Techniques to reduce attraction to toxic partners Defining your needed level of attraction for sustainability About the Episode: Shift Your Attraction from Toxic Men to Safe, Healthy Men (Kim’s Story) Before Kim worked with me on her business, she told her journey to love on the Dating after Divorce podcast (Episode 152) After a toxic marriage, Kim had a revelation: "No one was coming to save me. If I wanted a different life, it was all on me" At 35, living with her parents, Kim decided to date against her usual "type." When her dog died, she approached her neighbors' son—a "good boy" completely unlike her typical "bad boys"—and invited him on walks. The walks were uncomfortable because she felt unworthy next to someone without baggage or poor life choices. But they fell in love, because Kim redefined attraction. With previous relationships, she described feelings as "exciting" but chaotic. Coming from a chaotic family, she had mistaken intensity for love.Her previous relationships were "exciting" but destructive. With her current husband, attraction feels different: "It's a partnership. Very calm, not emotionally charged all the time" Biologically, women are drawn to the strongest "buck"—evolutionarily sensible for survival instead of choosing based on companionship and values. You might initially find this "boring." But Kim questioned: What's boring about peace? What's exciting about fighting over a parking space and being too angry to enjoy the concert? Her most profound insight: "Part of why I dated bad boys was because I got to feel better about myself. At least I wasn't on drugs." With her husband, she couldn't feel superior—and that's what made her uncomfortable. In the end, Kim chose calm over chaos, partnership over drama, growth over stagnation. And it changed everything. Kim's journey from toxic relationships to healthy love exemplifies the work I do with women. If her story resonates, join my masterclass: "Beyond the Spark: The 10 Elements of Chemistry & Attraction" March 30, 2025 (4pm ET/3pm CT) You will learn: The science behind attraction patterns How brain chemistry influences choices Techniques to reduce attraction to toxic partners Defining your needed level of attraction for sustainability Register for live event or replay: sadecurry.com/masterclass…

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228. Stop Taking Things Personally 32:43

9 weeks ago32:43

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227. Client Success: How Ashley Went from a "Painful Divorce" to "Healed and In Love" 1:10:27

12 weeks ago1:10:27

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Client Success: How Ashley Went from a "Painful Divorce" to "Healed and In Love" Work with Sade: http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment Connect with Ashley: https://calendly.com/ashleykingcoaching/30min Episode Summary In this episode, Sade and Ashley King discuss Ashley's transformative journey after divorce, focusing on healing from trauma, recognizing readiness for dating, and navigating the challenges of finding love again. They explore the importance of core values, honesty in dating, and the significance of self-discovery in building healthy relationships. Ashley shares her experiences with various dating apps, her connection with Michael, and the ongoing growth in their relationship, emphasizing the importance of communication and negotiation in love. Key Takeaways Ashley began her journey of healing before her divorce was finalized. The importance of self-care and addressing trauma during the healing process. Recognizing when one is ready to start dating again is crucial. Anticipating challenges in dating can help prepare for the journey ahead. Honesty in communication is vital for a successful dating experience. Core values play a significant role in shaping dating profiles and experiences. Dating can be an adventure filled with fun and learning. Building a connection with someone requires time and openness. Falling in love involves recognizing and embracing vulnerability. Ongoing growth and communication are essential in nurturing a relationship. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Ashley's Journey 02:49 Healing from Divorce and Trauma 05:41 Recognizing Readiness for Dating 08:44 Anticipating Challenges in Dating 11:40 Guidelines for a Healthy Dating Experience 14:00 Core Values and Personal Growth 17:17 The Dating Experience Begins 20:09 Navigating Early Dates 22:59 The Importance of Abundance Mindset 25:55 Finding the Right Match 29:16 The Love Story of Ashley and Michael 34:06 Navigating Modern Dating Dynamics 38:52 Choosing Between Connections 42:46 The Importance of Relationship Negotiation 47:00 Introducing Kids into Relationships 48:24 Falling in Love: The Journey 50:18 Conflict Resolution in Relationships 53:58 Healing Through Relationships 59:51 The Work Behind the Fairy Tale 01:04:10 Emotional Clutter and Personal Growth…

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225. Dating with Intuition and Nuance 19:39

15 weeks ago19:39

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226. Dating is a Dumpster Fire, Now What? 23:24

15 weeks ago23:24

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224. Dating, Shame and Self-Compassion 21:21

17 weeks ago21:21

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In this episode, I dive deep into a breakthrough moment from our recent Dating After Divorce Collective coaching call. Here's what we unpack: Key Insights: Why shame triggers show up in your dating journey and how societal narratives impact your dating confidence The real reason dating feels hard (hint: it's not because "all the good ones are taken") How fear of wasting time leads to either dismissing potential partners too quickly or staying too long with the wrong ones Why perfectionism and the need to "get it right" keeps you stuck Personal Growth Takeaways: Recognize that everyone is "winging it" - even those who seem to have it all figured out Transform your relationship with making mistakes in dating Build unshakeable self-compassion as your foundation for dating success Practical Dating Tips: Release the pressure to make perfect decisions Give yourself permission to be in the learning process Own your dating choices without defaulting to blaming others Ready to Reinvent Your Dating Life? 🗓️ Book Your Consultation Call Ready to make 2025 the year you find love? Schedule your private consultation call with me to explore how the Dating After Divorce Academy can help you create the love life you desire. Visit http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to book your call.…

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223. 7 Steps to Reinvent Your Dating Life 50:34

18 weeks ago50:34

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Tired of dating feeling like Groundhog Day? In today's episode I share the proven framework that helps my clients break free from dating frustration and create real results. If you've hit a wall with dating apps, feel stuck in negative patterns, or wonder why nothing seems to work - this episode is for you. Episode Highlights: 🔍 Why traditional dating advice fails divorced women The trap of jumping on and off dating apps without a strategy How "putting yourself out there" without skills leads to disappointment The real reason why having 100+ first dates might not lead to finding your person The fairytale vs. reality mindset shift that changes everything Why treating dating like a growth project (not a shopping trip) creates success How one client found love by committing to 2 parties per week for 5 weeks Ready to Reinvent Your Dating Life? Stop hoping things will magically change and start creating real transformation. I walk my Dating After Divorce Academy clients through this exact framework, providing support and accountability every step of the way. 🗓️ Book Your Consultation Call Ready to make 2025 the year you find love? Schedule your private consultation call with me to explore how the Dating After Divorce Academy can help you create the love life you desire. Visit http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to book your call. Resources Mentioned: Podcast Episode 6: Phases of the Dating Journey Remember: A reinvention isn't about small tweaks - it's about creating a radical shift in how you approach dating and relationships. Let me help you make that shift.…

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222. Fight For the Relationship You Want 19:09

19 weeks ago19:09

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Let's talk about a pattern I see in many divorced women - the reluctance to fight for the relationship they want. Through the lens of "learned helplessness," I explore why capable, strong women who fought for their first marriages often hold back in their post-divorce dating journey. Key Insights: The difference between fighting for a specific person versus fighting for your desired relationship outcome How past relationship trauma creates false beliefs about our dating options Why validating dating struggles with friends can keep you stuck The truth about effort: dating takes more work than we expect (just like everything worthwhile) Ask yourself: "Why am I not fighting for this relationship goal with the same determination I bring to other areas of my life?" Your answer reveals where to focus your energy. Book Reference: "Learned Optimism" by Martin Seligman - A foundational text for understanding how we can break free from learned helplessness patterns Ready to break free from dating paralysis? Schedule your 1:1 consultation at sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment . Let's create your personalized strategy for finding love after divorce.…

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221. Is Dating A Waste of Time? 55:29

19 weeks ago55:29

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In this deep-dive episode, I explore our complex relationship with time in dating after divorce, challenging the common belief that dating is a "waste of time." As part of my three-episode series about time, we examine how this mindset affects your dating journey and what to do about it. Key Concepts Explored: What Actually Wastes Time in Dating: - Dating without a strong "why" or due to external pressure - Pursuing someone who clearly stated they don't want what you want - Trying to convince uninterested people to date you - Fantasy relationships and passive dating - Repeating the same dating patterns without learning or growth Common Questions Addressed: - What if I'm truly too busy to date? - How do I know if I'm investing time wisely in dating? - When is it okay to stop seeing someone to "save time"? - How can I date efficiently without compromising on what matters? - What's the difference between being selective and over-filtering? Ready to Transform Your Dating Journey? If you're ready to shift your relationship with time and dating, let's talk. Book a consultation call to explore: - Your unique dating patterns and time-related concerns - How to create an efficient, values-aligned dating strategy - Whether working together could help you find love in 2025 - Specific steps to move from passive to intentional dating 🗓 Ready to Work with Sade? Click Here to Schedule Your Consultation Call The Dating After Divorce Academy provides: - Clear strategies to date efficiently - Support in overcoming mindset blocks - Tools to evaluate potential partners - A process for authentic connection - Community of like-minded women Additional Resources: - Episode 219: Thoughts About Dating at Your Age - Episode 220: Dating Older and Younger Men If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review. It helps other divorced women find this supportive community.…

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220. I Don't Want to Date an Older / Younger Man 23:24

20 weeks ago23:24

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Are you limiting your dating pool based on age? In this episode, I challenge the common assumptions about dating older men and reveal why your dating filters might be holding you back from finding true connection. Key Insights: The truth behind the "nurse with a purse" stereotype and why it shouldn't dictate your dating choices Why age filters often mask deeper fears about dating and settling How to shift from fear-based dating to confidence-based choices The power of staying neutral when meeting new people Practical strategies for evaluating potential partners beyond their age Quotable Moment: "Don't use being open about age against yourself. The choice of who you end up with is always yours." Action Steps: Examine your current age filters and identify the real reasons behind them Practice curiosity instead of judgment when meeting new people Focus on lifestyle compatibility rather than age-based assumptions Trust your ability to say "no" when someone isn't right for you Ready to Transform Your Dating Experience? Book a private consultation call with me to develop your personalized dating strategy. Visit http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to find a time that works for you.…

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219: "All the Men Want Younger Women" 46:33

20 weeks ago46:33

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Is your age holding you back in dating? I hear this concern from so many women in our community. Today, let's unpack what's really going on when we let age become a barrier to love. Key Insights: Age anxiety peaks when dating because we've internalized limiting societal messages about women and aging These beliefs impact not just how we date, but how boldly we live our entire lives Your age is just a number - what matters is the life you choose to live at any age Here's the truth: The "age problem" in dating isn't about the number. It's about the stories we tell ourselves. I see clients in their 40s saying men their age are "too old," while my clients in their 50s and 60s express the same concern. What's fascinating? The issue isn't age - it's about energy alignment and lifestyle compatibility. Ready to transform your approach to dating after divorce? Let's work together to move past age anxiety and create authentic connections. Schedule your consultation call at http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to explore private coaching or join our Dating After Divorce Collective. Remember: The person who's right for you isn't looking for a number - they're looking for YOU. Share this episode with another divorced woman who needs this message. Leave a review if these insights resonated with you. Next episode: We'll explore how age filters and preferences impact our dating choices - you won't want to miss it!…

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218. Attending Social Events Alone without Self-Consciousness or Shame 28:51

27 weeks ago28:51

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Does the thought of attending an event alone feel awful? In this episode, Sade Curry discusses the stigma and shame associated with attending social events alone, particularly after divorce or being single. She shares her personal experience of attending events alone and contrasts it with her clients' feelings of inadequacy and exposure. Sade emphasizes that societal conditioning and internalized beliefs contribute to this shame, urging individuals to challenge these thoughts through coaching and self-examination. She advises identifying and addressing subconscious blocks, processing emotions, and redefining the meaning of being alone at events. By changing internal narratives, individuals can overcome the fear of judgment and enjoy social experiences more fully. You will learn how to: Examine your own thoughts and feelings about attending events alone. Identify any underlying beliefs or conditioning that may be contributing to feelings of shame or anxiety. Slow down and reflect on the reasons why you may be avoiding or procrastinating on attending social events alone. Explore whether these reasons are based on societal conditioning or your own chosen beliefs. Process any emotions, such as grief, anxiety, or shame, that come up when considering attending events alone. Allow these emotions to move through your body and create an openness to change your beliefs. Develop tools and strategies to handle any discomfort or awkwardness that may arise when attending events alone, focusing on redefining the meaning you associate with being alone in these situations.…

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217. End Dating App Overwhelm 27:06

38 weeks ago27:06

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In today’s episode, we dive into the digital dating arena and tackle a common struggle: managing the overwhelm that comes with using dating apps. Whether you’re new to the scene or a seasoned swiper, the avalanche of notifications, messages, and profiles can quickly turn an exciting journey into a stressful experience. Join Sade Curry to explore the emotional and psychological impact of dating after divorce in this modern dating landscape, and discover practical strategies to reclaim control and find balance. From setting boundaries to optimizing your profile, this episode is packed with tips to help you navigate the world of online dating with confidence and clarity. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Understanding the Overwhelm: Why dating apps can feel like a full-time job and how they impact your mental well-being. Emotional Responses: How the constant barrage of messages and profiles triggers anxiety and frustration, and why our brains are not wired for this kind of interaction. Cognitive Overload: The impact of too many choices and how it leads to snap judgments and stress. Reclaiming Control: Strategies for setting boundaries, managing notifications, and staying mindful in your dating journey. Practical Tips: How to make dating apps work for you by optimizing your profile, managing your time, and filtering out the noise to focus on what truly matters. Quotes: "Imagine walking into a stadium filled with thousands of people, all shouting your name—this is what online dating can feel like." "Remember, not every connection needs to be explored—it's okay to swipe left on anything that doesn’t feel right." "You are in control of your dating experience, not the other way around." Resources Mentioned: Free Dating After Divorce Course – Get started on your dating journey with our free course designed specifically for divorced professional women. Join the Dating After Divorce Academy – If you’re ready to stop wasting time and start finding the right partner, schedule your consultation today. Call to Action: If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review! Share this episode with a friend who might be feeling overwhelmed by dating apps, and let’s help each other find balance in the digital dating world.…

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216. Evaluating a Man's True Character with Natasha Moore 1:10:13

41 weeks ago1:10:13

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Do you keep thinking a man is the one only to get blindsided yet again? Ever get discouraged and think you'll never figure out how to see a man's true character? In this insightful episode, Natasha Moore share's her story of finally understanding how to choose the man who was right for her after a divorce and an annulment. We share our personal stories, offering candid reflections on our journeys to healing, self-discovery, and finding love again. From the challenges of long-distance relationships to the importance of setting boundaries, this episode is packed with valuable lessons for anyone navigating the dating world after a difficult past. Key Takeaways: Long-Distance Dating Challenges: Natasha shares her experience with long-distance relationships, highlighting the difficulties of truly getting to know someone without face-to-face interaction. She reflects on the importance of understanding the full picture before committing. Dating after Multiple Divorces: Natasha opens up about her first two marriages, including an abusive relationship and a second marriage where her husband was already married to someone else. Her experiences underscore the importance of recognizing red flags and valuing oneself. Setting Boundaries: We explore the necessity of setting boundaries in relationships, especially after experiencing toxic dynamics in the past. Natasha shares how establishing clear limits helped her protect her emotional well-being. How High-Achieving Women Attract Toxic Men: We discuss how high-achieving women can become targets for exploitative partners. They call for more education and awareness to help women protect themselves and make empowered choices in relationships. FEATURED ON THE SHOW: Learn more about the Dating After Divorce Academy Join Sade’s free live event, Core Values Dating Live FREE PDF Download: 50 Green Flags of a Healthy Relationship About Natasha Moore: Natasha Moore is professional nerd and classroom social justice activist serving as a Professor of English at Southwestern Illinois College. Outside of the classroom, she enjoys eating, baking, cycling, traveling with her loved ones, and running her short-term rentals. Contact Natasha: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SistahTasha Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sistahtasha/ Website: Www.sitbackstays.com…

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215. When Are You Ready to Date? 37:38

45 weeks ago37:38

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If you're struggling with dating after divorce and need personalized guidance, schedule a complimentary coaching consultation with Sade Curry. Click here to schedule your session. Dating After Divorce Episode 215: When Are You Ready to Date? In this Sade Curry delves into the concept of "readiness" for dating after a divorce. She explores the often undefined notion of being "ready" to date and its potential consequences on one's dating journey. Sade discusses the subtle yet powerful belief that many women hold—that they are not ready to date—and how this mindset can keep them stuck. Episode Highlights: Challenging Gender Roles: Discover how societal expectations and internal biases can influence women's perceptions of their readiness to date and how to challenge these narratives. Defining Readiness: Sade Curry explains the importance of defining what "ready to date" means for each individual, rather than relying on a vague or universal concept. Personal Readiness: Explore factors like finances, schedules, and children in determining your personal readiness for dating after a divorce. Empowered vs. Fake Readiness: Understand the difference between empowered readiness, which involves taking responsibility and working towards growth, and fake readiness, which is marked by self-pity and blame. Self-Leadership: Sade emphasizes the importance of self-leadership in rebuilding your life and dating journey, highlighting that there is no one-size-fits-all formula Empowered Decision-Making: Sade encourages listeners to define their own readiness and make empowered decisions about dating, rather than seeking validation from others. Key Takeaways: Define Your Own Readiness: Take the time to understand what being ready to date means for you personally, considering all aspects of your life. Challenge Negative Self-Talk: Identify and overcome the mental barriers that may be holding you back from feeling ready to date. Embrace Self-Leadership: Lead your own journey in dating and life, recognizing that there is no universal formula for readiness. Develop Self-Approval: Focus on self-approval and personal growth rather than seeking validation from others. Resources Mentioned: Follow Sade Curry on Instagram: @sadecurry Book a Coaching Consultation: Click here to schedule your session. Listener Feedback: We love hearing from our listeners! Share your thoughts on this episode and your own experiences with dating after a major life change. Leave us a review and share this episode with other women dating after divorce Subscribe: Don't miss an episode! Subscribe to our podcast on all podcast platforms and stay updated on new episodes and exclusive content.…

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214. Stop Taking Dating Personally 30:45

46 weeks ago30:45

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If you frequently feel hurt, sad, anxious or angry when you are dating, then this episode is for you. Join Sade Curry as she breaks down the concept of Personalization, a cognitive distortion that creates a ton of negative emotions in life and in relationships. Want to find a loving partner after divorce? Click here to sign up for the Core Values Dating Blueprint today. WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER: How to heal and prepare to be successful at dating after divorce How to find the motivation to try online dating How to reframe fear as an opportunity How to overcome fear of online dating by embracing vulnerability and setting boundaries. FEATURED ON THE SHOW: Learn more about the Dating After Divorce Academy FREE PDF Download: 50 Green Flags of a Healthy Relationship Join Sade Curry on social media: Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn…

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213. Centering Yourself in Your Dating Life 33:24

47 weeks ago33:24

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Do you find yourself focusing way too much on other people when dating? In this episode, Sade Curry emphasizes the importance of prioritizing self-discovery in the dating process, as women who have not healed from codependency and people pleasing may struggle with centering their desires and actions on their own wants and needs. Sade offers strategies for retraining intuition, reconnecting with core values, and saying no in a way that resonates with oneself. She also discusses how societal expectations and conditioning can limit women's autonomy and self-expression, leading to a lack of alignment with their own values and aspirations. By examining these dynamics, Sade teaches women to break free from these constraints and make decisions that truly align with their own values and aspirations. Schedule a consult call with Sade Curry: http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment…

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212. Doing the Work to Heal from Infidelity with Gia Huff 49:12

51 weeks ago49:12

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Healing from infidelity can be a difficult journey. When you have experienced a betrayal, it can rock your whole world and require deep recovery and healing. My guest this week has gone through that healing journey. Gia Huff was blindsided by her ex-husband’s affair and created a beautiful life for herself after divorce - one that includes a new loving partner. Tune in this week to hear Gia’s inspiring story of deep healing and growth that helped her meet her partner in only a few days on the dating apps. As Gia says, “The only reason I wouldn’t date would be because my mind is afraid. I very much wanted a partner and connection. So I thought, “What if it could be really easy to find someone online? What if it's not as hard or scary as everyone says?” Gia shares how she used a sustained practice of self-reflection and practical steps to open up her world, get unstuck and find the love she wanted. Want to find a loving partner after divorce? Click here to sign up for the Core Values Dating Blueprint today. WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER: How to heal and prepare to be successful at dating after divorce How to find the motivation to try online dating How to reframe fear as an opportunity How to overcome fear of online dating by embracing vulnerability and setting boundaries. FEATURED ON THE SHOW: Learn more about the Dating After Divorce Academy Join Sade’s free live event, Core Values Dating Live FREE PDF Download: 50 Green Flags of a Healthy Relationship Join Sade Curry on social media: Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn Gia Huff: Website | Instagram | Facebook | Free Video…

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Dating, Podcasting and 100,000 Downloads 10:48

1 year ago10:48

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211. The Christian Divorce, Healing and Remarriage with Elisabeth Klein 56:17

1 year ago56:17

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Special Announcement: Join me for my live event, Core Values Dating Live! Click here for details Episode Show notes: My guest today is the woman from whom I first learned that codependency was a thing. Elisabeth Klein has been a writer and mentor for Christian women for decades. In this episode, Elisabeth shares her story of a 20-year marriage that ended in divorce due to hidden drinking, emotional abuse, controlling behavior, and lying. Despite initially vowing to never remarry, Elisabeth's friends urged her otherwise and she met her second husband, Buzz on a dating app. They have now been married 9 years. Featured on the Show: Elisabeth Klein lives with her husband in Illinois. They are parents of nine and grandparents to four. She provides resources to women in difficult relationships and transition through her podcast, courses, books, blog, speaking events, webcasts, private Facebook groups and one-on-one coaching. Connect with Elisabeth: Podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/elisabeth-klein Website: https://elisabethklein.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/elisabethkleincoach/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/elisabethkleincoach/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/_elisabethklein…

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210. Shame and the Impact on Relationships with Karen C. L. Anderson 48:43

1 year ago48:43

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Shame is a painful emotional experience that can stem from childhood experiences and societal conditioning, especially for women. In this episode, I had Karen C. L. Anderson on for her second guest appearance on the podcast. We talked about her new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma and Shame about generational trauma and shame between mothers and daughters from a personal perspective. Key Takeaways: - Recognizing shame involves paying attention to underlying thoughts and beliefs, like "I'm bad" or "I'm unworthy." Drilling down to the core beliefs helps address shame. - Healing from shame involves developing self-compassion, recognizing triggers, and cultivating moments of joy. Connecting to one's inner child can help treat oneself with kindness. - Shame is passed down intergenerationally but can be "unlearned" through awareness, understanding one's experiences, and self-care over time with tools like coaching Featured on the Show: Karen is a master-certified life coach and author of several books including You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma and Shame . Karen works mostly with adult daughters who want to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers...AND has a special place in her practice for mothers who want to do the brave work of unshaming so they can repair the relationship they have with their adult daughters. Website/Podcast: www.kclanderson.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KCLAnderson/ Listen to Karen's 1st appearance on the Dating After Divorce Podcast: Dating and Healing Childhood Trauma…

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209. Dating from the Good Man's Perspective with Sandy Weiner 53:13

1 year ago53:13

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Have you ever wondered what dating looks like from the good guys' side? My guest this week on the Dating after Divorce podcast is Sandy Wiener, a dating coach who works with both men and women. Sandy shares the what her male clients experience on the apps on their journey to find love and commitment, and what women who date men can do to connect with them. Key episode takeaways: - Dating after divorce can be challenging but there are good people out there on both sides. It takes work to find the right match. - Both men and women experience similar struggles with online dating like unclear profiles, lack of photos, negativity etc. - Shared values, communication and willingness to do personal growth work are important for building lasting relationships later in life. - Meeting people through shared interests and passions in addition to apps can enhance chances of finding that special someone. - Having an open mindset without assumptions and looking at each person as an individual are important for dating success. Featured on the Show: Sandy Wiener Sandy Weiner is the Chief Love Officer at Last First Date. She's an internationally known TEDx speaker, dating and relationship coach, author, and podcast host. Her approach to coaching is holistic, encompassing a hybrid mix of life coaching, Neurolinguistic Programming, and Non-Violent Communication. She’s the author of "Becoming a Woman of Value; How to Thrive in Life and Love", and "Choice Points in Dating; Empowering Women to Make Healthier Decisions in Love". She’s also the host of two popular podcasts, Last First Date Radio and The Woman of Value Podcast, and she believes it's never too late to have the life and love you want! Connect with Sandy: Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/yourlastfirstdate/ Website: http://lastfirstdate.com/ Podcast: Last First Date Radio https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/last-first-date-radio/id586220219?mt=2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lastfirstdate1/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandyweiner1 YouTube Last First Date https://youtube.com/@Lastfirstdate Work with Sade: Discover Your "Core Values Dating Blueprint" And How You Can Use It On: Dating Apps Text Messages and Social Events To Meet & Attract Eligible Men Who Match You Dating with your Core Values helps you Easily Connect With Your True Match Partner (without chasing, settling, or wasting time with non-committal men) Click Here to Sign Up…

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208. Dating - The Friends with Benefits Edition with Jamie Milam 56:16

1 year ago56:16

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In this episode, Jamie Milam shares her journey through divorce, offering wisdom for those navigating the entangled paths of real estate, mental health, and the exhilarating leap back into dating post-divorce. My conversation with Jamie dives into the intricacies of post-trauma dating. We share stories of moving cities and life transitions, underpinning the theme that change, although challenging, can be the catalyst for profound self-discovery. We explore the essence of modern relationships – communication and boundaries. With my own dating experiences on the table, we discuss the dance of articulating and respecting needs and expectations, whether in fleeting romances or the pursuit of lasting companionship. Jamie and I lay bare the continuous journey of emotional resilience and the transformative power of open dialogue, providing a relatable narrative for anyone striving to forge meaningful connections in the wake of divorce. Featured on the Show: Jamie Milam On her own since the age of 15, overcoming drug addiction when she learned she'd become a mother at 19, rebuilding her life from a single storage tote, to now running 3 businesses, Jamie Milam’s superpower is determination through awareness. Jamie is also divorcee, Realtor, podcast host of Divorced & Determined AF and founder of the P.E.A.C.E. of Mind initiative, all with the mission to empower women to embrace internal and external awareness to make peacefully aligned decisions so they can live the life they desire and deserve. Jamie’s Website P.E.A.C.E. of Mind Initiative Divorced & Determined AF Jamie’s LinkedIn…

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207. Client Success Story: Stopping the Numbers Game and Finding Her Perfect Fit with Lee 53:03

1 year ago53:03

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Happy New Year! I’m excited to bring you the first podcast episode for the year with my client, Lee. Lee shares her real experiences of dating after divorce. She had been on hundreds of dates before working with me. Just a few shifts made all the difference for her to meet the partner she wanted. They have young children the same age, have the same spiritual and political values and he gets along amazingly with her family. Plus, he was the exact level of attractiveness Lee wanted. Enjoy the episode! Discover Your "Core Values Dating Blueprint" And How You Can Use It On: Dating Apps Text Messages and Social Events To Meet & Attract Eligible Men Who Match You Dating with your Core Values helps you Easily Connect With Your True Match Partner (without chasing, settling, or wasting time with non-committal men) Click Here to Sign Up The Core Values Dating Blueprint Helps you: DISCOVER YOUR CORE VALUES ❤️ Take the core values test and discover your core values ❤️ Explore the parts of your mission, life story, beliefs and lifestyle that are most important to your relationship ❤️ Create a relationship vision that clearly aligns with your core values so that you know the type of partner that would be right for you ❤️ Identify the critical attributes of your partner that will make him a fit for your values and relationship vision ❤️ Easily weed out the men aren't a fit and recognize the man who is CREATE YOUR CORE VALUES BLUEPRINT ❤️ Get the exact framework for crafting your core values dating blueprint that shows you what to say and how to date to meet the partner who’s right for you ❤️ Learn the 5 steps to translating your core values into a written blueprint that guides your dating decisions PUT YOUR BEST SELF OUT THERE AT EVERY STAGE OF DATING ❤️ Learn exactly how to apply your core values to every part of dating - Add it to your dating profile so that it is as unique and compelling as you are ❤️ Use core values in text messages to tell great stories and inspire interesting conversations ❤️ Use core values to ask questions that qualify if a man is right for you ❤️ Use core values at social events and in person interactions to effortlessly attract people in the room who match you ❤️ Learn how to express your core values with confidence and clarity at every stage of the dating process Get Your Core Values Dating Blueprint Now…

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206. Dating After Divorce: Expat Edition with Becca Maxwell 53:53

1 year ago53:53

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Welcome back to another episode, where I'm joined by Becca Maxwell, and our conversation is both relatable and insightful. Starting off, Becca opens up about her journey to finding love after her divorce. She emphasizes the importance of self-focus during tough times and shares how her corporate background in relationship management has influenced her role as a divorce coach. We then shift gears to explore the challenges of dating as an expat in Asia. Against the odds, Becca found her husband on Tinder, offering practical insights as a single mother. She highlights the significance of clear intentions, setting boundaries, and trusting one's intuition in the dating process. We discuss the complexities of blended families, offering tips on introducing children to a new partner and managing relationships with ex-partners. We also touch on maintaining a positive outlook in high-conflict divorces and the importance of preserving children's emotional well-being. Wrapping up, Becca and I share our own journeys of finding fulfillment post-divorce. This episode is a valuable resource for anyone dealing with the challenges of divorce and navigating the path to love and fulfillment afterward. Tune in for a down-to-earth conversation blending personal stories with practical advice for life after divorce. Featured on the Show: Becca Maxwell Becca is a relational intelligence consultant and divorce coach with a beautiful story of finding love post-divorce, despite 3x near-misses across 3 different countries! Becca’s Website Becca’s Podcast Becca’s Instagram Discover Your "Core Values Dating Blueprint" And How You Can Use It On: Dating Apps Text Messages and Social Events To Meet & Attract Eligible Men Who Match You Dating with your Core Values helps you Easily Connect With Your True Match Partner (without chasing, settling, or wasting time with non-committal men) Click Here to Sign Up The Core Values Dating Blueprint Helps you: DISCOVER YOUR CORE VALUES ❤️ Take the core values test and discover your core values ❤️ Explore the parts of your mission, life story, beliefs and lifestyle that are most important to your relationship ❤️ Create a relationship vision that clearly aligns with your core values so that you know the type of partner that would be right for you CREATE YOUR CORE VALUES BLUEPRINT ❤️ Get the exact framework for crafting your core values dating blueprint that shows you what to say and how to date to meet the partner who’s right for you ❤️ Learn the 5 steps to translating your core values into a written blueprint that guides your dating decisions PUT YOUR BEST SELF OUT THERE AT EVERY STAGE OF DATING ❤️ Learn exactly how to apply your core values to every part of dating - Add it to your dating profile so that it is as unique and compelling as you are ❤️ Use core values in text messages to tell great stories and inspire interesting conversations ❤️ Use core values to ask questions that qualify if a man is right for you ❤️ Use core values at social events and in person interactions to effortlessly attract people in the room who match you Get Your Core Values Dating Blueprint Now…

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205. Dating Apps in 2024: Set Yourself Up For Success 47:45

1 year ago47:45