228. Stop Taking Things Personally

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Host Francesca Amiker sits down with directors Joe and Anthony Russo, producer Angela Russo-Otstot, stars Millie Bobby Brown and Chris Pratt, and more to uncover how family was the key to building the emotional core of The Electric State . From the Russos’ own experiences growing up in a large Italian family to the film’s central relationship between Michelle and her robot brother Kid Cosmo, family relationships both on and off of the set were the key to bringing The Electric State to life. Listen to more from Netflix Podcasts . State Secrets: Inside the Making of The Electric State is produced by Netflix and Treefort Media.…

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229. How to Shift Chemistry & Attraction when Dating (Guest Episode with Kim Jarman) 57:52

5 days ago57:52

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Masterclass - "Beyond the Spark: The 10 Elements of Chemistry & Attraction" Register for live event or replay: sadecurry.com/masterclass March 30, 2025 (4pm ET/3pm CT) You will learn: The science behind attraction patterns How brain chemistry influences choices Techniques to reduce attraction to toxic partners Defining your needed level of attraction for sustainability About the Episode: Shift Your Attraction from Toxic Men to Safe, Healthy Men (Kim’s Story) Before Kim worked with me on her business, she told her journey to love on the Dating after Divorce podcast (Episode 152) After a toxic marriage, Kim had a revelation: "No one was coming to save me. If I wanted a different life, it was all on me" At 35, living with her parents, Kim decided to date against her usual "type." When her dog died, she approached her neighbors' son—a "good boy" completely unlike her typical "bad boys"—and invited him on walks. The walks were uncomfortable because she felt unworthy next to someone without baggage or poor life choices. But they fell in love, because Kim redefined attraction. With previous relationships, she described feelings as "exciting" but chaotic. Coming from a chaotic family, she had mistaken intensity for love.Her previous relationships were "exciting" but destructive. With her current husband, attraction feels different: "It's a partnership. Very calm, not emotionally charged all the time" Biologically, women are drawn to the strongest "buck"—evolutionarily sensible for survival instead of choosing based on companionship and values. You might initially find this "boring." But Kim questioned: What's boring about peace? What's exciting about fighting over a parking space and being too angry to enjoy the concert? Her most profound insight: "Part of why I dated bad boys was because I got to feel better about myself. At least I wasn't on drugs." With her husband, she couldn't feel superior—and that's what made her uncomfortable. In the end, Kim chose calm over chaos, partnership over drama, growth over stagnation. And it changed everything. Kim's journey from toxic relationships to healthy love exemplifies the work I do with women. If her story resonates, join my masterclass: "Beyond the Spark: The 10 Elements of Chemistry & Attraction" March 30, 2025 (4pm ET/3pm CT) You will learn: The science behind attraction patterns How brain chemistry influences choices Techniques to reduce attraction to toxic partners Defining your needed level of attraction for sustainability Register for live event or replay: sadecurry.com/masterclass…

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228. Stop Taking Things Personally 33:49

9 days ago33:49

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227. Client Success: How Ashley Went from a "Painful Divorce" to "Healed and In Love" 1:11:33

27 days ago1:11:33

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Client Success: How Ashley Went from a "Painful Divorce" to "Healed and In Love" Work with Sade: http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment Connect with Ashley: https://calendly.com/ashleykingcoaching/30min Episode Summary In this episode, Sade and Ashley King discuss Ashley's transformative journey after divorce, focusing on healing from trauma, recognizing readiness for dating, and navigating the challenges of finding love again. They explore the importance of core values, honesty in dating, and the significance of self-discovery in building healthy relationships. Ashley shares her experiences with various dating apps, her connection with Michael, and the ongoing growth in their relationship, emphasizing the importance of communication and negotiation in love. Key Takeaways Ashley began her journey of healing before her divorce was finalized. The importance of self-care and addressing trauma during the healing process. Recognizing when one is ready to start dating again is crucial. Anticipating challenges in dating can help prepare for the journey ahead. Honesty in communication is vital for a successful dating experience. Core values play a significant role in shaping dating profiles and experiences. Dating can be an adventure filled with fun and learning. Building a connection with someone requires time and openness. Falling in love involves recognizing and embracing vulnerability. Ongoing growth and communication are essential in nurturing a relationship. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Ashley's Journey 02:49 Healing from Divorce and Trauma 05:41 Recognizing Readiness for Dating 08:44 Anticipating Challenges in Dating 11:40 Guidelines for a Healthy Dating Experience 14:00 Core Values and Personal Growth 17:17 The Dating Experience Begins 20:09 Navigating Early Dates 22:59 The Importance of Abundance Mindset 25:55 Finding the Right Match 29:16 The Love Story of Ashley and Michael 34:06 Navigating Modern Dating Dynamics 38:52 Choosing Between Connections 42:46 The Importance of Relationship Negotiation 47:00 Introducing Kids into Relationships 48:24 Falling in Love: The Journey 50:18 Conflict Resolution in Relationships 53:58 Healing Through Relationships 59:51 The Work Behind the Fairy Tale 01:04:10 Emotional Clutter and Personal Growth…

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225. Dating with Intuition and Nuance 19:39

7 weeks ago19:39

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226. Dating is a Dumpster Fire, Now What? 23:24

7 weeks ago23:24

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224. Dating, Shame and Self-Compassion 21:21

9 weeks ago21:21

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In this episode, I dive deep into a breakthrough moment from our recent Dating After Divorce Collective coaching call. Here's what we unpack: Key Insights: Why shame triggers show up in your dating journey and how societal narratives impact your dating confidence The real reason dating feels hard (hint: it's not because "all the good ones are taken") How fear of wasting time leads to either dismissing potential partners too quickly or staying too long with the wrong ones Why perfectionism and the need to "get it right" keeps you stuck Personal Growth Takeaways: Recognize that everyone is "winging it" - even those who seem to have it all figured out Transform your relationship with making mistakes in dating Build unshakeable self-compassion as your foundation for dating success Practical Dating Tips: Release the pressure to make perfect decisions Give yourself permission to be in the learning process Own your dating choices without defaulting to blaming others Ready to Reinvent Your Dating Life? 🗓️ Book Your Consultation Call Ready to make 2025 the year you find love? Schedule your private consultation call with me to explore how the Dating After Divorce Academy can help you create the love life you desire. Visit http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to book your call.…

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223. 7 Steps to Reinvent Your Dating Life 51:40

11 weeks ago51:40

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Tired of dating feeling like Groundhog Day? In today's episode I share the proven framework that helps my clients break free from dating frustration and create real results. If you've hit a wall with dating apps, feel stuck in negative patterns, or wonder why nothing seems to work - this episode is for you. Episode Highlights: 🔍 Why traditional dating advice fails divorced women The trap of jumping on and off dating apps without a strategy How "putting yourself out there" without skills leads to disappointment The real reason why having 100+ first dates might not lead to finding your person The fairytale vs. reality mindset shift that changes everything Why treating dating like a growth project (not a shopping trip) creates success How one client found love by committing to 2 parties per week for 5 weeks Ready to Reinvent Your Dating Life? Stop hoping things will magically change and start creating real transformation. I walk my Dating After Divorce Academy clients through this exact framework, providing support and accountability every step of the way. 🗓️ Book Your Consultation Call Ready to make 2025 the year you find love? Schedule your private consultation call with me to explore how the Dating After Divorce Academy can help you create the love life you desire. Visit http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to book your call. Resources Mentioned: Podcast Episode 6: Phases of the Dating Journey Remember: A reinvention isn't about small tweaks - it's about creating a radical shift in how you approach dating and relationships. Let me help you make that shift.…

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222. Fight For the Relationship You Want 19:09

11 weeks ago19:09

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Let's talk about a pattern I see in many divorced women - the reluctance to fight for the relationship they want. Through the lens of "learned helplessness," I explore why capable, strong women who fought for their first marriages often hold back in their post-divorce dating journey. Key Insights: The difference between fighting for a specific person versus fighting for your desired relationship outcome How past relationship trauma creates false beliefs about our dating options Why validating dating struggles with friends can keep you stuck The truth about effort: dating takes more work than we expect (just like everything worthwhile) Ask yourself: "Why am I not fighting for this relationship goal with the same determination I bring to other areas of my life?" Your answer reveals where to focus your energy. Book Reference: "Learned Optimism" by Martin Seligman - A foundational text for understanding how we can break free from learned helplessness patterns Ready to break free from dating paralysis? Schedule your 1:1 consultation at sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment . Let's create your personalized strategy for finding love after divorce.…

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221. Is Dating A Waste of Time? 56:34

12 weeks ago56:34

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In this deep-dive episode, I explore our complex relationship with time in dating after divorce, challenging the common belief that dating is a "waste of time." As part of my three-episode series about time, we examine how this mindset affects your dating journey and what to do about it. Key Concepts Explored: What Actually Wastes Time in Dating: - Dating without a strong "why" or due to external pressure - Pursuing someone who clearly stated they don't want what you want - Trying to convince uninterested people to date you - Fantasy relationships and passive dating - Repeating the same dating patterns without learning or growth Common Questions Addressed: - What if I'm truly too busy to date? - How do I know if I'm investing time wisely in dating? - When is it okay to stop seeing someone to "save time"? - How can I date efficiently without compromising on what matters? - What's the difference between being selective and over-filtering? Ready to Transform Your Dating Journey? If you're ready to shift your relationship with time and dating, let's talk. Book a consultation call to explore: - Your unique dating patterns and time-related concerns - How to create an efficient, values-aligned dating strategy - Whether working together could help you find love in 2025 - Specific steps to move from passive to intentional dating 🗓 Ready to Work with Sade? Click Here to Schedule Your Consultation Call The Dating After Divorce Academy provides: - Clear strategies to date efficiently - Support in overcoming mindset blocks - Tools to evaluate potential partners - A process for authentic connection - Community of like-minded women Additional Resources: - Episode 219: Thoughts About Dating at Your Age - Episode 220: Dating Older and Younger Men If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review. It helps other divorced women find this supportive community.…

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220. I Don't Want to Date an Older / Younger Man 23:24

12 weeks ago23:24

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Are you limiting your dating pool based on age? In this episode, I challenge the common assumptions about dating older men and reveal why your dating filters might be holding you back from finding true connection. Key Insights: The truth behind the "nurse with a purse" stereotype and why it shouldn't dictate your dating choices Why age filters often mask deeper fears about dating and settling How to shift from fear-based dating to confidence-based choices The power of staying neutral when meeting new people Practical strategies for evaluating potential partners beyond their age Quotable Moment: "Don't use being open about age against yourself. The choice of who you end up with is always yours." Action Steps: Examine your current age filters and identify the real reasons behind them Practice curiosity instead of judgment when meeting new people Focus on lifestyle compatibility rather than age-based assumptions Trust your ability to say "no" when someone isn't right for you Ready to Transform Your Dating Experience? Book a private consultation call with me to develop your personalized dating strategy. Visit http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to find a time that works for you.…

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219: "All the Men Want Younger Women" 47:39

13 weeks ago47:39

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Is your age holding you back in dating? I hear this concern from so many women in our community. Today, let's unpack what's really going on when we let age become a barrier to love. Key Insights: Age anxiety peaks when dating because we've internalized limiting societal messages about women and aging These beliefs impact not just how we date, but how boldly we live our entire lives Your age is just a number - what matters is the life you choose to live at any age Here's the truth: The "age problem" in dating isn't about the number. It's about the stories we tell ourselves. I see clients in their 40s saying men their age are "too old," while my clients in their 50s and 60s express the same concern. What's fascinating? The issue isn't age - it's about energy alignment and lifestyle compatibility. Ready to transform your approach to dating after divorce? Let's work together to move past age anxiety and create authentic connections. Schedule your consultation call at http://sadecurry.com/schedule-appointment to explore private coaching or join our Dating After Divorce Collective. Remember: The person who's right for you isn't looking for a number - they're looking for YOU. Share this episode with another divorced woman who needs this message. Leave a review if these insights resonated with you. Next episode: We'll explore how age filters and preferences impact our dating choices - you won't want to miss it!…

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218. Attending Social Events Alone without Self-Consciousness or Shame 29:57

19 weeks ago29:57

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Does the thought of attending an event alone feel awful? In this episode, Sade Curry discusses the stigma and shame associated with attending social events alone, particularly after divorce or being single. She shares her personal experience of attending events alone and contrasts it with her clients' feelings of inadequacy and exposure. Sade emphasizes that societal conditioning and internalized beliefs contribute to this shame, urging individuals to challenge these thoughts through coaching and self-examination. She advises identifying and addressing subconscious blocks, processing emotions, and redefining the meaning of being alone at events. By changing internal narratives, individuals can overcome the fear of judgment and enjoy social experiences more fully. You will learn how to: Examine your own thoughts and feelings about attending events alone. Identify any underlying beliefs or conditioning that may be contributing to feelings of shame or anxiety. Slow down and reflect on the reasons why you may be avoiding or procrastinating on attending social events alone. Explore whether these reasons are based on societal conditioning or your own chosen beliefs. Process any emotions, such as grief, anxiety, or shame, that come up when considering attending events alone. Allow these emotions to move through your body and create an openness to change your beliefs. Develop tools and strategies to handle any discomfort or awkwardness that may arise when attending events alone, focusing on redefining the meaning you associate with being alone in these situations.…

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217. End Dating App Overwhelm 28:11

30 weeks ago28:11

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In today’s episode, we dive into the digital dating arena and tackle a common struggle: managing the overwhelm that comes with using dating apps. Whether you’re new to the scene or a seasoned swiper, the avalanche of notifications, messages, and profiles can quickly turn an exciting journey into a stressful experience. Join Sade Curry to explore the emotional and psychological impact of dating after divorce in this modern dating landscape, and discover practical strategies to reclaim control and find balance. From setting boundaries to optimizing your profile, this episode is packed with tips to help you navigate the world of online dating with confidence and clarity. What You'll Learn in This Episode: Understanding the Overwhelm: Why dating apps can feel like a full-time job and how they impact your mental well-being. Emotional Responses: How the constant barrage of messages and profiles triggers anxiety and frustration, and why our brains are not wired for this kind of interaction. Cognitive Overload: The impact of too many choices and how it leads to snap judgments and stress. Reclaiming Control: Strategies for setting boundaries, managing notifications, and staying mindful in your dating journey. Practical Tips: How to make dating apps work for you by optimizing your profile, managing your time, and filtering out the noise to focus on what truly matters. Quotes: "Imagine walking into a stadium filled with thousands of people, all shouting your name—this is what online dating can feel like." "Remember, not every connection needs to be explored—it's okay to swipe left on anything that doesn’t feel right." "You are in control of your dating experience, not the other way around." Resources Mentioned: Free Dating After Divorce Course – Get started on your dating journey with our free course designed specifically for divorced professional women. Join the Dating After Divorce Academy – If you’re ready to stop wasting time and start finding the right partner, schedule your consultation today. Call to Action: If you enjoyed this episode, don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review! Share this episode with a friend who might be feeling overwhelmed by dating apps, and let’s help each other find balance in the digital dating world.…

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216. Evaluating a Man's True Character with Natasha Moore 1:11:19

33 weeks ago1:11:19

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Do you keep thinking a man is the one only to get blindsided yet again? Ever get discouraged and think you'll never figure out how to see a man's true character? In this insightful episode, Natasha Moore share's her story of finally understanding how to choose the man who was right for her after a divorce and an annulment. We share our personal stories, offering candid reflections on our journeys to healing, self-discovery, and finding love again. From the challenges of long-distance relationships to the importance of setting boundaries, this episode is packed with valuable lessons for anyone navigating the dating world after a difficult past. Key Takeaways: Long-Distance Dating Challenges: Natasha shares her experience with long-distance relationships, highlighting the difficulties of truly getting to know someone without face-to-face interaction. She reflects on the importance of understanding the full picture before committing. Dating after Multiple Divorces: Natasha opens up about her first two marriages, including an abusive relationship and a second marriage where her husband was already married to someone else. Her experiences underscore the importance of recognizing red flags and valuing oneself. Setting Boundaries: We explore the necessity of setting boundaries in relationships, especially after experiencing toxic dynamics in the past. Natasha shares how establishing clear limits helped her protect her emotional well-being. How High-Achieving Women Attract Toxic Men: We discuss how high-achieving women can become targets for exploitative partners. They call for more education and awareness to help women protect themselves and make empowered choices in relationships. FEATURED ON THE SHOW: Learn more about the Dating After Divorce Academy Join Sade’s free live event, Core Values Dating Live FREE PDF Download: 50 Green Flags of a Healthy Relationship About Natasha Moore: Natasha Moore is professional nerd and classroom social justice activist serving as a Professor of English at Southwestern Illinois College. Outside of the classroom, she enjoys eating, baking, cycling, traveling with her loved ones, and running her short-term rentals. Contact Natasha: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SistahTasha Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sistahtasha/ Website: Www.sitbackstays.com…

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215. When Are You Ready to Date? 38:44

38 weeks ago38:44