10 Ways the Covert Narcissist Devalues You: Part 2

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In this episode, we welcome back David French, columnist for The New York Times , former constitutional attorney, and author of Divided We Fall . We discuss the current state of American democracy, the challenges of political division, and how we can engage in civil discourse despite deep ideological differences. David also shares a personal update on his family and reflects on the profound trials and growth that come with adversity. 📌 What We Discuss: ✔️ How David and his family navigated the challenges of a serious health crisis. ✔️ The rise of political polarization and the factors driving it. ✔️ Why distinguishing between “unwise, unethical, and unlawful” is crucial in analyzing political actions. ✔️ How consuming different perspectives (even opposing ones) helps in understanding political dynamics. ✔️ The role of Christian values in politics and how they are being redefined. ⏳ Episode Highlights 📍 [00:01:00] – David French’s background and his journey from litigation to journalism. 📍 [00:02:30] – Personal update: David shares his wife Nancy’s battle with cancer and their journey as a family. 📍 [00:06:00] – How to navigate personal trials while maintaining faith and resilience. 📍 [00:10:00] – The danger of political paranoia and the pitfalls of extreme polarization. 📍 [00:18:00] – The "friend-enemy" paradigm in American politics and its influence in Christian fundamentalism. 📍 [00:24:00] – Revisiting Divided We Fall : How America’s divisions have devolved since 2020. 📍 [00:40:00] – The categories and differences of unwise, unethical, and unlawful political actions. 📍 [00:55:00] – The balance between justice, kindness, and humility in political engagement. 📍 [01:00:00] – The After Party initiative: A Christian approach to politics focused on values rather than policy. 💬 Featured Quotes 🔹 "You don't know who you truly are until your values are tested." – David French 🔹 "If we focus on the relational, we can have better conversations even across deep differences." – Corey Nathan 🔹 "Justice, kindness, and humility—if you're missing one, you're doing it wrong." – David French 🔹 "The United States has a history of shifting without repenting. We just move on." – David French 📚 Resources Mentioned David French’s Writing: New York Times David’s Book: Divided We Fall The After Party Initiative – More Info Advisory Opinions Podcast (with Sarah Isgur & David French) – Listen Here 📣 Call to Action If you found this conversation insightful, please: ✅ Subscribe to Talkin' Politics & Religion Without Killin' Each Other on your favorite podcast platform. ✅ Leave a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you listen: ratethispodcast.com/goodfaithpolitics ✅ Support the show on Patreon: patreon.com/politicsandreligion ✅ Watch the full conversation and subscribe on YouTube: youtube.com/@politicsandreligion 🔗 Connect With Us on Social Media @coreysnathan: Bluesky LinkedIn Instagram Threads Facebook Substack David French: 🔗 Twitter | BlueSky | New York Times Our Sponsors Meza Wealth Management: www.mezawealth.com Prolux Autogroup: www.proluxautogroup.com or www.granadahillsairporttransportation.com Let’s keep talking politics and religion—with gentleness and respect. 🎙️💡…

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10 Ways the Covert Narcissist Devalues You: Part 2

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How do You Make the Narcissist Miss You After Discard? 17:16

3 days ago17:16

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Being discarded by a narcissist feels brutal—like you never mattered. One moment, you're their everything. The next, you're replaced, ignored, or worse—mocked. But here's the truth they don't want you to know: narcissists do look back. They do miss the people who once fed their ego. And yes, they often return—but not for the reasons you think. In this powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I dive deep into the psychology behind the narcissist’s discard phase and what really makes them miss you. “Your absence is the biggest statement you’ll ever make.” Whether you're reeling from a discard or just trying to understand why they moved on so quickly, this episode is for you. You’ll learn: * Why narcissists discard their partners so suddenly * What triggers a narcissist to miss you after they’ve moved on * The role of new supply and why it’s not what it seems “Nothing unsettles a narcissist more than your peace.” This isn’t about playing games. It’s about understanding how narcissists think—and how to emotionally detach from someone who feeds on your reactions. If you've been discarded and you're stuck in a cycle of rumination, wondering if they’ll ever look back or regret their actions, this episode brings you clarity, comfort, and strength. “When you stop chasing, they start wondering.” Let me know your thoughts—has the narcissist ever come back after discarding you? Drop a comment, share this episode, and let’s keep the conversation going. Don’t forget to rate and review—it helps others discover this podcast and feel less alone. Grab your copy of Fake Love for more insight, strategies, and validation. Want to support the show? Buy me a coffee with the link below—every bit helps me keep this content coming. Nova xx Need Support?www.brighteroutlookcounselling.com.au Buy my book here. https://linktr.ee/novagibson Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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10 Ways the Covert Narcissist Devalues You: Part 2 23:59

5 days ago23:59

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Covert narcissists hide in plain sight, using subtle tactics to break you down. In this second part of our series, we delve deeper into the covert narcissist’s manipulative tactics that leave victims feeling invalidated, confused, and emotionally drained. If you’ve ever felt manipulated or questioned your worth in a relationship, this episode is a must-listen. We continue to unravel the covert narcissist’s hidden strategies. From emotional blackmail to narcissistic triangulation, learn how these manipulative narcissists use psychological abuse to control and devalue their victims. In this episode, we reveal five more covert tactics that narcissists use to keep you hooked, create confusion, and isolate you from your support system. What you'll learn: The covert narcissist’s ability to invalidate your emotions and make you question your own reality (covert narcissist devalues). How triangulation works to create tension and manipulate relationships (narcissistic triangulation). The emotional blackmail tactics that narcissists use to make you feel guilty for setting boundaries. "Breaking free from a covert narcissist requires seeing the manipulation for what it is." If you're struggling to break free from a covert narcissist, this episode offers critical insights and strategies to regain control and start healing. Understanding these tactics will empower you to protect your emotional well-being and rebuild your life, free from narcissistic abuse. Remember to share, comment, and rate this episode! I'd love to hear your thoughts and experiences. For deeper insights and strategies to heal or escape your toxic relationship, check out my book Fake Love. If you’d like to support the channel, buy me a cup of coffee via the link below. You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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10 Ways the Covert Narcissist Devalues You: Part 1 23:50

6 days ago23:50

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"They don’t yell. They don’t rage. But they destroy you—quietly." In this 2 part series of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I expose 10 subtle but devastating ways the covert narcissist devalues you. From silent treatment and manufactured conflict to jokes that aren’t funny and fake concern laced with sabotage, these tactics are designed to break you down while keeping their hands clean. “They make you feel like you’re the problem—while they quietly pull the strings.” If you’ve ever felt confused, manipulated, or constantly walking on eggshells around someone who seems nice on the surface, this one’s for you. Press play now and start reclaiming your clarity, confidence, and peace. You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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Breakup to New Supply: How Narcissists Replace You Overnight 22:49

7 days ago22:49

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“They replaced me like I never existed.” If you’ve ever been discarded by a narcissist only to see them jump straight into a new relationship, this episode is for you. I explain why narcissists move on so fast, how they pre-groom new supply, and why their “perfect new relationship” is just another manipulation tactic. It’s not love—it’s control. You’ll learn: Why narcissists rush into new relationships How they use new supply to punish, provoke, or replace you What love bombing looks like for the new partner Why their new relationship isn’t what it seems How to reclaim your self-worth and start healing "It’s not about you. It’s about their need for constant supply." Whether you're recovering from a breakup with a narcissist, dealing with a toxic co-parent, or trying to break free from emotional abuse, this episode offers validation, clarity, and steps forward. Subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys for weekly episodes on narcissistic abuse recovery, emotional healing, and surviving smear campaigns and trauma bonds. You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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What Happens When a Narcissist loses control Over You? 19:10

14 days ago19:10

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"Their love disappears the moment you stop letting them control you." In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we uncover what really happens when a narcissist loses control over you—and why their reaction is never about love or regret. Once their manipulation no longer works, narcissists often lash out with smear campaigns, hoovering, guilt-tripping, or rage. Others play the victim to flip the narrative and keep control. You’ll learn: Why narcissists can’t handle losing power The extreme tactics they use to reel you back in How to protect yourself from emotional retaliation Why no contact and boundaries are your best defence How to stay grounded and reclaim your freedom “It’s not about you. It’s about losing their grip on your life.” Whether you’re healing from a toxic relationship, going no contact, or facing post-breakup mind games, this episode offers the clarity, validation, and strategies you need to protect your peace. Subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys for weekly episodes on narcissistic abuse recovery, emotional healing, and breaking trauma bonds. You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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How Domestic Violence and High-Conflict Divorce Harm Children: w/ AJ Gajjar 1:00:53

18 days ago1:00:53

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“Children are often the silent victims in homes filled with conflict and control.” In this important episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I'm joined by AJ Gajjar, Parenting and Trauma Consultant and creator of the Trauma Healing Parenting model. Together, we explore how domestic violence, high-conflict divorce, and coercive parenting impact children—and what parents and professionals can do to protect and empower them. You’ll learn: How children are affected by emotional abuse and toxic family dynamics The hidden signs of coercive control and manipulative parenting Why traditional parenting advice doesn’t work in high-conflict situations Practical strategies for helping children heal from trauma How to build resilience and emotional safety in children during and after abuse AJ draws on over 18 years of experience in child development and mental health, as well as her lived experience, to share tools that truly support kids navigating ongoing relational harm. “You don’t need to be a perfect parent. You just need to be a protective one.” Whether you're a parent, professional, or survivor, this episode offers validation, insight, and actionable guidance to help children feel safe, seen, and supported. Connect with AJ at: www.thetraumahealingparent.com Subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys for more expert interviews and weekly episodes on narcissistic abuse recovery, parenting after trauma, and emotional healing. You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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Is Sex with a Narcissist Really As Good As It Feels? Are They Truly Into You?" 34:18

19 days ago34:18

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“When sex becomes a weapon, it’s not about love—it’s about control.” In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I dive deep into how narcissists use sex as a tool for manipulation and emotional abuse. Sex, which should be an act of connection and intimacy, becomes a weapon in the hands of a narcissist, used to dominate, punish, and destabilise their partners. You’ll learn: How narcissists use love bombing and intense passion to trap you The tactics narcissists use to withhold affection and make you feel unworthy Why narcissists use sex to punish and control their partners How sex becomes a tool to reinforce trauma bonds, making it harder to break free Real-life examples from survivors of narcissistic abuse and how they reclaimed their power Narcissists create cycles of emotional highs and lows, leaving you confused, emotionally drained, and desperate for validation. This isn't love—it’s emotional manipulation. If you've felt controlled, devalued, or emotionally starved in a sexual relationship, this episode will give you the clarity, tools, and validation you need to break free from the narcissist’s grip and heal from the emotional scars left behind. Subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys for more insights on narcissistic abuse, healing, and recovery from toxic relationships. You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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3 Manipulative Tactics Covert Narcissists Use to Isolate You 24:26

20 days ago24:26

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"Covert narcissists don’t need to be loud to control you—they do it quietly, strategically, and with devastating impact." In this revealing episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I expose the manipulative tactics covert narcissists use to isolate their victims and keep them emotionally, mentally, and physically dependent. Unlike overt narcissists, covert narcissists operate in the shadows, using subtle strategies that are hard to recognise but incredibly effective. In this episode, you’ll learn: How smear campaigns are used to turn your loved ones against you, making you appear untrustworthy or unstable The emotional blackmail of guilt and obligation traps, designed to make you feel responsible for their well-being How covert narcissists create constant crisis to drain your energy and prevent you from forming healthy relationships outside of them If you’ve ever felt your world closing in around you, this episode will help you recognise narcissistic isolation and give you the tools to reclaim your independence. With real-life examples from my counselling practice, you’ll gain clarity, practical strategies, and empowerment to break free from these toxic dynamics. Tune in now to learn how to stop the manipulation before it controls you. Don't forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with anyone struggling with narcissistic abuse. Your healing starts with understanding, and I'm here to guide you every step of the way. You can book a Telehealth Online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event through my website Brighter Outlook Counselling Service or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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Navigating Domestic Abuse and Addiction Recovery with Azadeh Atzberger 1:02:40

26 days ago1:02:40

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"Healing from domestic abuse and addiction is possible—Azadeh Atzberger shares how." In this powerful episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I’m joined by Azadeh Atzberger, a bestselling author, trauma survivor, and the founder of Finally Free Life. Azadeh has dedicated her life to empowering others to heal from the effects of domestic abuse and addiction, using her personal journey of overcoming both to guide others through their own recovery. Azadeh’s expertise as a transformational life coach and couples coach shines through as she shares her experience as a survivor of domestic and sexual abuse, and how she broke free from addiction. Her visionary program, The 12 Steps For Narcissistic Abuse Recovery, offers profound tools for navigating trauma and reclaiming one’s life. In this episode, we discuss: Healing from narcissistic abuse and the impact of trauma on relationships How addiction intertwines with trauma recovery and how to break free The steps to manifesting the life you deserve after overcoming trauma How coaching and self-empowerment can support your healing journey Azadeh’s story is a testament to resilience and transformation, and if you’re ready to heal from the trauma of domestic abuse and addiction, press play now. Subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys for more expert insights on overcoming narcissistic abuse, addiction recovery, and healing from trauma. Join me in exploring the tools that will help you break free and manifest the life you deserve. You can book an online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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Can a Narcissist Change Through Therapy? Uncovering the Truth 18:22

27 days ago18:22

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"Can therapy help a narcissist change? Discover the truth behind narcissists in therapy and why victims are often the ones healing." In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we dive deep into the question many victims of narcissistic abuse ask: Can a narcissist change if they go to therapy? While therapy is a vital step for survivors of narcissistic abuse, helping them untangle years of manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional trauma, it’s rare for the narcissist themselves to seek professional help. So why don’t narcissists take responsibility, apologise, or show any desire to change? In this episode, I’ll break down the reasons behind this pattern and explore whether true change is possible for those with narcissistic personality traits. You’ll learn: Why narcissists rarely attend therapy or take accountability for their actions The challenges of healing when the narcissist remains unchanged Whether therapy can genuinely help a narcissist transform their behaviours How narcissistic abuse recovery and healing can move forward without the narcissist seeking help If you’ve ever wondered why the narcissist in your life doesn’t seek help or refuse to change, this episode is a must-listen. Get clarity on why this pattern exists and how you can heal without relying on them to change. Subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys for more insights on narcissistic abuse, emotional healing, and personal empowerment. Tune in and learn how to reclaim your power and heal from toxic relationships. You can book an online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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The Narcissistic Family Dynamic: How Narcissism Fuels Control and Emotional Abuse 22:50

28 days ago22:50

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"Is your family dynamic ruled by narcissism? Discover how narcissistic manipulation, control, and emotional abuse shape family relationships." In this eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we explore the damaging effects of the narcissistic family dynamic—a system built on control, manipulation, and emotional abuse. Growing up in a narcissistic family can leave you feeling like the black sheep, constantly questioning your reality, or walking on eggshells to avoid punishment. If you’ve ever felt emotionally neglected, unworthy, or like love in your family was conditional, this episode will validate your experience and help you understand the dynamics at play. You’re not alone in navigating the pain caused by narcissistic family relationships. In this episode, I’ll break down: The signs of narcissistic manipulation and control within a family system How emotional abuse impacts your sense of self-worth and reality Ways to heal from narcissistic abuse in toxic family dynamics Subscribe to Fake Love and Flying Monkeys for more insights into narcissistic abuse recovery, trauma healing, and how to break free from toxic family relationships. Don’t forget to subscribe for more powerful tools and support as you heal from the effects of narcissism. You can book an online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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The Ultimate Price of Narcissistic Abuse: A Mother’s Tragic Story & Advocacy for Change (Trigger Warning) 1:00:27

4 weeks ago1:00:27

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"Discover the heartbreaking reality of narcissistic abuse and its devastating impact on families, as Ali Kessler shares her powerful story of loss and advocacy." In this emotional and eye-opening episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, I am joined by Ali Kessler, a passionate parent advocate, writer, and the founder of Greyson's Choice—a 501(c)(3) organisation dedicated to raising awareness about the dangers of domestic abuse on children. Ali’s life was tragically altered in 2021, when her vibrant, fearless 4.5-year-old son, Greyson, was murdered by his biological father in a murder-suicide during an unsupervised, court-approved visit. This horrifying event occurred just hours after a Broward County judge denied Ali’s petition for a domestic violence injunction, despite clear threats from the abuser. In this raw and powerful episode, Ali discusses: The heartbreaking consequences of narcissistic abuse and the failure of the judicial system to protect vulnerable children How the denial of domestic violence petitions can lead to devastating consequences Ali’s journey to founding Greyson's Choice and advocating for change The passage of Greyson's Law, which now requires courts to consider threats against ex-partners when making child visitation and custody decisions Ali’s story is a painful reminder of the real-world impact of domestic abuse, and how narcissistic behaviour can tear families apart. Her advocacy work has helped change legislation to protect children from abusive parents, and her unwavering commitment to justice is a beacon of hope for others affected by domestic violence. If you or someone you know is experiencing narcissistic abuse or domestic violence, this episode offers insight, validation, and hope. Please listen and share to raise awareness and make sure no one else pays the ultimate price. Press play to hear Ali's story 💔 You can book an online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buyme Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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Flying Monkeys: Narcissistic Manipulation and Control 20:11

5 weeks ago20:11

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"Uncover the manipulative tactics flying monkeys use to control, deceive, and isolate you on behalf of the narcissist. Learn how to protect yourself from their toxic influence." In this episode of Fake Love & Flying Monkeys, we dive into the world of flying monkeys—the enablers who work in the shadows for the narcissist. Whether they’re doing it consciously or not, these individuals become manipulative pawns, assisting the narcissist in their mission to maintain control over their victims. But why do they get involved, and how can you defend yourself against their toxic influence? In this episode, I’ll break down five common tactics flying monkeys use to manipulate, intimidate, and isolate you on the narcissist’s behalf, including: Guilt-tripping and emotional blackmail – How flying monkeys make you feel responsible for the narcissist’s suffering. Smear campaigns and reputation sabotage – The covert ways they destroy your credibility to keep you isolated. Pressure to forgive – Why flying monkeys push you to reconcile, even when it’s unsafe. Setting boundaries and protecting yourself – Practical strategies to cut off toxic flying monkeys for good. Key insights in this episode include: Why flying monkeys get involved – Are they victims too, or are they as toxic as the narcissist? How to stop manipulation – Learn strategies to take back control and protect your emotional well-being. If you’ve ever felt pressured to “move on” or betrayed by people you once trusted, this episode will validate your experience and provide practical steps for reclaiming your life. Flying monkeys might think they’re helping, but in reality, they’re doing the narcissist’s dirty work. 🎧 Tune in to learn how to break free from the manipulation of flying monkeys and regain your power. Subscribe to Fake Love & Flying Monkeys for more insights on narcissistic abuse recovery and strategies to heal and protect yourself. You can book an online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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Trauma Bond vs. Codependency: Breaking Free from Narcissistic Abuse 34:07

5 weeks ago34:07

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Are you stuck in a toxic relationship with a narcissist, unsure if you’re trauma bonded or codependent? In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we break down the key differences between trauma bonding and codependency, and how narcissists manipulate these dynamics to keep you trapped. "Understanding whether you’re trauma bonded or codependent is the first step in reclaiming your freedom." ’I'll walk you through the signs of both, how narcissists exploit these emotional vulnerabilities, and why you feel unable to leave despite the pain. Learn how to recognize these unhealthy patterns, break free from the emotional chains, and start healing from narcissistic abuse. 🎧 Tune in now to uncover the truth and begin your healing journey. Don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review, and share this episode with anyone struggling with narcissistic abuse. Knowledge is your first step toward emotional freedom. Nova xx You can book an online zoom counseling appointment with me or book me to speak at your event here You can purchase a copy of my book ‘Fake Love – Understanding and Healing from narcissistic Abuse’ here Join me on Facebook here Join the private Facebook discussion group here Join me on Instagram here https://buymeacoffee.com/novagibson Send us a text Thank you so much for listening! Please remember the information you hear in this episode is not intended to substitute for therapy, is general information, and strictly the opinions of the host based on her years of experience working with thousands of victims of narcissistic abuse . If you would like to make an appointment for individual counselling with me , please visit my website at , Brighter Outlook Counselling Service , or email me at nova.pollard123@gmail.com To order a copy of my book, Fake love: Understanding and Healing From Narcissistic Abuse, the best-selling practical self-help book of 2023 , available in Paperback, Audible and Kindle) Please click here or simply go directly to Amazon I looove creating these episodes, but they do take time. If you'd like to support me to continue creating more podcast episodes, then please click here to . Buy me a coffee…

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Narcissistic Manipulation: What 'You're Too Good for Me' Really Means 18:56

5 weeks ago18:56