#15 - Deep Dive: Why Therapy Is Our Jam

Guys with Feelings

Jaemin and Gabe dive deep on a topic that's completely changed both their lives: therapy! They discuss how seeing a therapist is like "5 years of growth in weeks"; how it may be the antidote to toxic masculinity; they share their own therapy journeys; and tips on how to find an awesome therapist. Send us thoughts, feedback, and Quick Picks of your own at [e-mail] ### Show Notes (2:14) Remembering [Shirley Ford](http://laschoolreport.com/shirley-ford-passionate-los-angeles-education-advocate-and-co-founder-of-parent-revolution-dies/) (5:34) **Deep Dive: Why Every Guy Should Consider Therapy** (7:43) How we define "therapy". (8:54) **Jaemin's therapy story** (and why he sees it as "self-growth on steroids"). (17:04) **Gabe's therapy story.** (19:52) Why Gabe thinks therapy is one of the Top 5 best decisions he's ever made. (24:13) **Big takeaways about therapy.** (24:23) Therapy is the antidote to toxic masculinity. (27:30) Therapy has such an impact on the highs and lows and life. (29:13) It's like 5 years of growth every few weeks. (31:32) **How to find a therapist** (31:54) Different types of therapy: CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy), somatic, sex and relationship, Internal Family Systems, etc. (32:59) Some tips on finding the right therapist: - Give yourself a time limit of a few hours of searching on Yelp - Do a few free phone consultations - Pick your favorite one and just schedule an appointment - Don't let perfect be the enemy of good...just go for it! You may have to try a few different ones and that's totally okay. (37:15) Why going weekly is really important. (38:24) Therapy can be expensive. How to bring costs down. And why the high cost is worth it. - Jaemin's blog post: [How to Find an Awesome Therapist](www.jaeminyi.com/find-an-awesome-therapist/) - New York Times article: [How to Find the Right Therapist](https://www.nytimes.com/2017/07/17/smarter-living/how-to-find-the-right-therapist.html) (42:35) **Quick Picks** Gabe: Tea instead of coffee. (45:13) Jaemin: [Brain.fm](https://www1.brain.fm/) - AI generated music that helps with focus, relaxation, and sleep. ### **Find Us Online** [Gabe’s twitter](https://twitter.com/gaberose) > – Gabe’s latest post: [We Have to Do This Right](http://www.gaberose.com/blog/how-the-democratic-party-may-be-hurting-the-metoo-movement) [Jaemin’s twitter](https://twitter.com/jaemin_yi) > – Jaemin’s latest post: [Men, It's Time to Make Amends](http://www.jaeminyi.com/men-time-make-amends/) Music for the podcast: “As Colorful As Ever” by [Broke For Free](http://brokeforfree.com/).