#6: Codependence is Not a Love Language

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#Kayla Reilly #Fitness #Mental Health #Lifestyle #Wellness #Psychology #Relationship #Marriage #Parenting

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Let’s get real: codependence is NOT a love language, no matter how much you’re telling yourself it is. In this episode, I’m breaking down the sneaky ways codependence shows up in your relationships (and in your life), why it’s toxic AF, and how to stop playing the role of fixer-upper. Plus, we’re throwing in some spicy psychology debate on whether codependence is even a real thing or just attachment styles in disguise. Sound juicy? It is. Tune in and let’s start untangling those unhealthy patterns together!

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1. #6: Codependence is Not a Love Language (00:00:00)

2. Understanding and Overcoming Codependence (00:00:41)

3. Setting Healthy Boundaries and Self-Care (00:14:46)

4. Breaking Free and Embracing Epic Living (00:19:46)

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#6: Codependence is Not a Love Language

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published about a year ago

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Chapters

1. #6: Codependence is Not a Love Language (00:00:00)

2. Understanding and Overcoming Codependence (00:00:41)

3. Setting Healthy Boundaries and Self-Care (00:14:46)

4. Breaking Free and Embracing Epic Living (00:19:46)

24 episodes

#Kayla Reilly #Fitness #Mental Health #Lifestyle #Wellness #Psychology #Relationship #Marriage #Parenting

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#13 Desire Disasters: What Kills Your Sex Drive & How to Get It Back with Shie Benisti LCSW 41:28

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Send us a text Struggling with low libido? Feeling disconnected from your partner? You're not alone. In this episode of Not Your Therapist Podcast , licensed sex therapist Shie Benisti, LCSW, CST , joins us to break down the real reasons why sexual desire fluctuates—and what you can do to bring intimacy back. We dive into the mental, emotional, and relational blocks that impact desire, including the role of stress, hormonal changes, and the mental load that disproportionately affects women. Shie also shares practical, no-BS strategies to shift from frazzled to fulfilled in your sex life. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅ Why libido isn’t static —and what naturally impacts desire over time ✅ How the mental load (work, kids, responsibilities) kills intimacy ✅ The surprising reason why “performance anxiety” makes things worse ✅ The connection between past trauma and sexual desire ✅ How to navigate mismatched libidos in a relationship ✅ Simple, science-backed ways to reignite intimacy If you’ve ever wondered, “Why don’t I want sex anymore?” or “How do I get the spark back?”—this episode is for you. 🚨 FREE TRAINING ALERT! 🚨 If you struggle with people-pleasing, overthink every ‘no,’ and feel guilty setting boundaries, you need this. I’m hosting a People-Pleasing Detox on April 2nd at 1 PM EST , where I’ll teach you how to break free from this cycle, reduce anxiety, and finally protect your peace—without feeling like a jerk. Sign up now at kaylareilly.com/detox —replay available! Feeling overstimulated and overwhelmed? Grab my free Anxiety Reset Checklist —a no-BS, therapist-approved guide to calming your mind fast. 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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#12 Therapists Spill the Tea: What We Wish Clients Knew with Darrian Pelkey MSW, LCSWA 37:05

23 hours ago37:05

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Send us a text Ever wonder what your therapist really thinks about you? 🤔 In this episode of Not Your Therapist Podcast , licensed therapist Darrian Pelkey, MSW, LCSWA , joins me to spill the tea on what goes on behind the scenes in therapy. We’re pulling back the curtain on the things therapists wish clients knew —from common misconceptions about therapy to what we actually think when you apologize for crying in session. If you’ve ever worried about being a “bad” client, overthought what you said after a session, or wondered if your therapist is judging you, this one’s for you. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅ The biggest myths about therapy (and why they’re totally wrong) ✅ How therapists really feel about late cancellations, oversharing, and ghosting ✅ Why your therapist isn’t sitting there analyzing your every word (seriously, we promise) ✅ The one thing therapists wish more clients understood about the process ✅ How to get the most out of therapy —without feeling awkward or self-conscious Therapy is a judgment-free zone , but so many clients carry unnecessary guilt, shame, or uncertainty about the process. Let’s clear the air and make therapy feel less intimidating and more empowering. 🚨 FREE TRAINING ALERT! 🚨 If you struggle with people-pleasing, overthink every ‘no,’ and feel guilty setting boundaries, you need this. I’m hosting a People-Pleasing Detox on April 2nd at 1 PM EST , where I’ll teach you how to break free from this cycle, reduce anxiety, and finally protect your peace—without feeling like a jerk. Sign up now at kaylareilly.com/detox —replay available! 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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Shrink Shots: Therapy Terms 101 – Emotional Regulation – How to Stop Flipping Out (Even When They Deserve It) 7:54

5 days ago7:54

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Send us a text Ever feel like your emotions hijack your brain before you even have a chance to think? Emotional regulation is the key to handling stress, frustration, and overwhelm without exploding (or shutting down). In this quick Shrink Shots episode, we’re breaking down what emotional regulation actually means, why it’s so hard sometimes, and how to stop flipping out—even when someone totally deserves it. 💡 What You’ll Learn: ✔️ What emotional regulation is (and what it isn’t ) ✔️ Why your brain struggles to stay calm under stress ✔️ Simple, science-backed ways to regulate emotions in real time ✔️ How therapy can help you break toxic emotional patterns If you’ve ever lost your cool, sent a regrettable text, or let your emotions run the show—this one’s for you. 🎧 Hit play now and start managing your emotions like a pro! #EmotionalRegulation #MentalHealthPodcast #ShrinkShots #Therapy101 #SelfGrowth 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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Shrink Shots: Therapy Terms 101 – Emotions – What the Hell Are They & Why Do We Have Them? 8:06

7 days ago8:06

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Send us a text Ever wondered why you have emotions—or why they sometimes feel like they’re running your entire life? In this quick Shrink Shots episode, we’re breaking down the science behind emotions, what they’re actually trying to tell you, and how to deal with them without letting them take over. Spoiler alert: Your emotions aren’t the enemy—they’re data. You just need to know how to read them. 💡 What You’ll Learn: ✔️ What emotions really are and why they exist ✔️ Why some emotions feel way too intense ✔️ How to process emotions instead of ignoring or drowning in them ✔️ When therapy can help you manage emotional overwhelm If you’ve ever thought, “Why am I like this?”—this episode is for you. 🎧 Hit play and start making sense of your feelings today! #Emotions #MentalHealthPodcast #ShrinkShots #EmotionalIntelligence #Therapy101 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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#11 Rethinking Health: How to Ditch All-or-Nothing Thinking and Make Wellness Work for You with Liz Rodriguez 41:37

8 days ago41:37

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Send us a text Ever feel like you’re either all in on health—meal prepping, intense workouts, cutting out everything fun—or completely off the wagon? That all-or-nothing mindset is exhausting, unsustainable, and (spoiler alert) not the key to long-term health. In this episode, I sit down with health coach Liz Rodriguez to reframe what real wellness looks like. We’re ditching the toxic perfectionism around food and fitness and learning how to create a healthy lifestyle that actually fits into your life. 💡 What You’ll Learn: ✔️ How to break free from all-or-nothing thinking around food and exercise ✔️ Why being healthy doesn’t mean giving up the foods you love (yes, even Cheez-Its!) ✔️ Creative ways to fit sustainable wellness habits into your routine ✔️ How to stop feeling guilty when life isn’t perfectly balanced This is my very first guest episode , and Liz is the perfect person to kick it off—funny, down-to-earth, and full of real advice you can actually use. Liz Rodriguez is a health coach who helps people redefine what health looks like so they can build sustainable habits without burnout. She believes in progress over perfection and teaches her clients how to ditch restrictive rules, reframe their mindset, and enjoy the process of living a healthy life. Find Liz online: 🌐 Website: lizrodriguezcoaching.com 📌 Facebook: Liz Rodriguez Coaching 🎧 Hit play now and start redefining health on your terms! 🚨 FREE TRAINING ALERT! 🚨 If you struggle with people-pleasing, overthink every ‘no,’ and feel guilty setting boundaries, you need this. I’m hosting a People-Pleasing Detox on April 2nd at 1 PM EST , where I’ll teach you how to break free from this cycle, reduce anxiety, and finally protect your peace—without feeling like a jerk. Sign up now at kaylareilly.com/detox —replay available! Feeling overstimulated and overwhelmed? Grab my free Anxiety Reset Checklist —a no-BS, therapist-approved guide to calming your mind fast. 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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Shrink Shots: Therapy Terms 101 – Reparenting – Giving Yourself the Childhood You Wish You Had 10:34

12 days ago10:34

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Send us a text Did your childhood leave you with some emotional gaps? Enter reparenting —the process of giving yourself the love, support, and validation you may not have received growing up. In this quick Shrink Shots episode, we break down what reparenting is, why it matters, and how you can start healing old wounds by becoming the nurturing, compassionate parent you needed. Learn practical strategies to soothe your inner child, set healthier boundaries, and rewrite the messages that still impact your self-worth today. 💡 Topics Covered: ✔️ What is reparenting, and why does it matter? ✔️ Signs you might need to reparent yourself ✔️ Simple ways to start reparenting today ✔️ How working with a therapist can deepen your healing If you’ve ever felt like you’re carrying emotional baggage from childhood, this episode is for you. Hit play and start giving yourself the care you deserve! 🎧 Listen now and don’t forget to subscribe for more no-BS mental health insights! #Reparenting #InnerChildHealing #MentalHealthPodcast #EmotionalHealing #ShrinkShots 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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SHRINK SHOTS: Therapy Terms 101 – Dissociation – When ‘Zoning Out’ Is Actually a Trauma Response 7:47

14 days ago7:47

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Send us a text Dissociation: When ‘Zoning Out’ Is Actually a Trauma Response Ever found yourself zoning out mid-conversation or realizing you don’t remember the last five minutes of your drive? You’re not alone. This might be dissociation , a psychological defense mechanism that helps protect the brain from stress and trauma. In this episode of Shrink Shots , we break down: ✅ What dissociation is and why it happens. ✅ The neuroscience behind dissociation—how the brain responds to trauma. ✅ Signs you may be experiencing dissociation (hint: it’s more common than you think). ✅ Practical strategies to stay present and regain control. ✅ Evidence-based therapies like EMDR, DBT, and Somatic Experiencing that can help. Dissociation isn’t just “spacing out”—it’s your brain’s way of coping. But the good news? You’re not stuck here. Learn how to recognize and manage dissociation so you can reclaim your sense of self and presence. 🎧 Listen now & take the first step toward healing! 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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#10 The Gut-Brain Connection: How Your Diet Impacts Anxiety and Depression 20:44

15 days ago20:44

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Send us a text Did you know your gut is your “second brain”? The connection between your gut and brain, known as the gut-brain axis, plays a huge role in your mental health. In this episode of Not Your Therapist , we explore how what you eat can impact anxiety, depression, and your overall mood. Learn why your gut health matters, the signs of gut imbalance, and the foods that can either harm or heal your microbiome. We’ll also share simple, practical steps to improve your gut health , like incorporating probiotic-rich foods, managing stress, and staying hydrated. If you’re ready to take a deeper look at the connection between diet and mental wellness, this episode is for you. Tune in to discover how small changes to your diet and lifestyle can lead to big improvements in your mood and mental clarity. 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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SHRINK SHOTS: Therapy Terms 101 – Cognitive Distortions – Your Brain Is Lying to You (And You Don’t Even Know It) 7:22

19 days ago7:22

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Send us a text Your brain is constantly filtering reality, but what if those filters are twisting the truth? Cognitive distortions are sneaky thought patterns that make you believe things that aren’t actually true—and they’re a major reason behind anxiety, relationship problems, and low self-esteem. In this episode of Shrink Shots , we’re breaking down: ✅ What cognitive distortions are and how they hijack your thinking ✅ Real-life examples of distorted thinking in celebrities, politicians, and pop culture ✅ The top cognitive distortions that fuel anxiety, self-doubt, and overthinking ✅ How to catch and challenge these faulty thought patterns before they ruin your day If you’ve ever spiraled into worst-case-scenario thinking, assumed people were mad at you with no proof, or felt like one mistake defined your whole life, your brain might be lying to you. 🎧 Hit play now to learn how to clean up your mental filters and stop falling for your own brain’s tricks. 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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SHRINK SHOTS: Therapy Terms 101 – Projection – Are You Mad at Them, or at Yourself? 8:59

21 days ago8:59

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Send us a text Ever find yourself getting irrationally annoyed at someone, only to realize later that you were actually mad at yourself? Or maybe someone accused you of something completely off-base, and you thought, Wait… that’s not me, that’s YOU! ? That, my friends, is projection, one of the sneakiest defense mechanisms that can wreck relationships and keep us from real self-awareness. In this episode of Shrink Shots , we’re diving into: ✅ What projection really is (and why we all do it sometimes) ✅ How to spot projection in yourself and others ✅ Famous examples of projection—politicians, religious leaders, and even your boss ✅ How to stop projecting and actually deal with your own emotions If you’ve ever wondered why certain people trigger you so much, or why some folks love blaming others for their own behavior, this episode is for you. 🎧 Hit play now and learn how to recognize projection—so you can stop being mad at people for things that were never really about them in the first place. 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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#9 The Science Behind Toddler Tantrums: Understanding Triggers for Parents 23:36

22 days ago23:36

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Send us a text Toddler tantrums are tough, but they’re also a normal (albeit exhausting) part of parenting. In this episode of Not Your Therapist , we’re diving into the chaos of meltdowns to help you survive them with your sanity intact. You’ll learn why tantrums happen, what’s going on in your child’s brain during a meltdown, and why reasoning with them is impossible in the heat of the moment. We’ll also tackle how your toddler’s big feelings might trigger unresolved emotions in you, and I’ll share tools to manage your own reactions while staying calm. Plus, discover practical strategies to handle tantrums with confidence and compassion—and why staying grounded helps build trust and emotional resilience in your child. If you’re tired of power struggles and ready for a fresh perspective on parenting toddlers, this episode is for you. Tune in now and learn how to navigate tantrum season like a pro! 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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SHRINK SHOTS: Therapy Terms 101 – Boundaries – No, They’re Not Just a Buzzword (Here’s How to Use Them) 5:51

26 days ago5:51

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Send us a text Setting boundaries isn’t about controlling others—it’s about protecting your time, energy, and mental health . But here’s where most people get stuck: they set a boundary but don’t actually enforce it . If you say, “I won’t tolerate yelling,” but stick around when someone raises their voice, your boundary isn’t doing anything. In this episode of Shrink Shots , we break down: ✅ What boundaries really are (and why they’re essential for mental health) ✅ The biggest mistakes people make when setting boundaries ✅ The 3 types of boundaries—physical, emotional, and time/energy ✅ How to set boundaries without guilt (and actually enforce them) If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, saying no, or feeling drained by relationships , this episode will give you the tools to set clear, strong boundaries that actually stick. 🎧 Hit play now and start protecting your peace—without feeling like an a hole. 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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SHRINK SHOTS: Therapy Terms 101 – Differentiation – How to Stop Absorbing Everyone Else’s Crazy 5:36

28 days ago5:36

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Send us a text Ever feel like you’re losing yourself in a relationship? Maybe your mood depends on your partner’s mood, or you avoid conflict to keep the peace. That’s a differentiation problem—and it’s one of the biggest reasons people struggle with boundaries, emotional independence, and self-worth in relationships. In this episode of Shrink Shots , we’re breaking down: ✅ What differentiation actually means (and why it’s crucial for healthy relationships) ✅ Signs you might have low differentiation (people-pleasing, absorbing emotions, avoiding conflict) ✅ How to stop losing yourself in relationships (without pushing people away) ✅ Simple strategies to strengthen your sense of self If you’ve ever struggled with people-pleasing, over-functioning in relationships, or feeling like your identity shifts based on who you’re with, this episode is for you. 🎧 Hit play now and learn how to build healthier, stronger relationships—without sacrificing YOU in the process. 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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#8 What’s Your Attachment Style? How It Shapes Your Relationships & Emotional Connections 14:59

29 days ago14:59

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Send us a text Have you ever wondered why you react the way you do in relationships ? Your attachment style is the blueprint for how you connect with others—shaped by early experiences and influencing everything from romantic relationships to friendships and even work dynamics. In this episode of Not Your Therapist , we dive deep into the four attachment styles—secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized —and explore how they impact your love life, emotional needs, and communication patterns. You’ll learn: ✅ How early caregiver interactions shape attachment styles ✅ Real-life examples of how attachment plays out in relationships ✅ Why anxious or avoidant tendencies can cause relationship struggles ✅ Practical strategies to shift toward a secure attachment style 🔎 Discover your attachment style today! Check out the online quizzes linked in the show notes. 👉 Grab your FREE Audio Training: Get Unstuck- 3 Strategies to Break Free from Unhealthy Patterns 👉 Follow me on social @notyourtherapist.kayla 👉 Ask me a question hello@kaylareilly.com…

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SHRINK SHOTS: Therapy Terms 101 – Insight – The ‘Oh Sh*t’ Moment That Actually Changes Things 5:09

5 weeks ago5:09