27. Why People Pleasing Can Be Manipulative Part 1

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Buckle up! We get radically candid about our own (very different) journeys with people-pleasing. We share:

* How Amanda discovered her "thoughtful gift-giving" was actually manipulation to avoid accountability

* Why Sam's role as a childhood caregiver shaped her people-pleasing patterns

* How Sam learned to stop apologizing for existing

* Their personal struggles with being "the nice one"

* Why they both ended up becoming therapists for the "wrong" reasons

* The uncomfortable truth about using "niceness" as control

* What happens when your whole identity is built on being agreeable

Use code NUANCE for 40% off of Cozy Earth. Check out www.cozyearth.com

Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- info@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

Follow us on Instagram or Tiktok- Sam (@Sam.the.therapist) Amanda (@Therapyforwomen) To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.

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27. Why People Pleasing Can Be Manipulative Part 1

Nuance Needed

published about a year ago

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Buckle up! We get radically candid about our own (very different) journeys with people-pleasing. We share:

* How Amanda discovered her "thoughtful gift-giving" was actually manipulation to avoid accountability

* Why Sam's role as a childhood caregiver shaped her people-pleasing patterns

* How Sam learned to stop apologizing for existing

* Their personal struggles with being "the nice one"

* Why they both ended up becoming therapists for the "wrong" reasons

* The uncomfortable truth about using "niceness" as control

* What happens when your whole identity is built on being agreeable

Use code NUANCE for 40% off of Cozy Earth. Check out www.cozyearth.com

Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- info@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!

33 episodes

#Fitness #Society #Mental Health #LCSW #LPC #Relationship #Amanda E. White, LPC and Sam Dalton, LCSW #Amanda E White #Amanda White

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32. Manifesting, Magical Thinking & Grief: Coping When Things Fall Apart 47:52

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What happens when the trendy concept of "manifesting" collides with real-life tragedy? In this vulnerable episode, we start discussing manifesting and end up deep in conversation about grief, caregiving, and finding meaning when life doesn't go as planned. In this episode, we explore: - The problem with manifesting coaches who claim "if something negative is happening to you, you're just not manifesting hard enough" - How easily manifesting can slip into harmful magical thinking, especially during crisis moments - Sam's experience with prayer and spirituality from her religious background and how it parallels manifesting concept - Amanda's current struggle with magical thinking as she has navigated her mom’s cancer diagnosis - The complex reality of being a lifelong caregiver for a disabled family member and the emotional toll it takes - Finding moments of joy and meaning even in life's darkest times WE ARE NOW ON SUBSTACK with bonus episodes, pep talks, episodes guides, and so much more! Join us at nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!…

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31. Not Everything is "Trauma Dumping"How Therapy Speak is Killing Friendships 46:41

9 days ago46:41

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When did telling a friend about a tough time become "trauma dumping"? In this episode, we dissect how misusing therapy concepts is creating barriers to authentic friendship. In conversation, we tackle: The viral text where someone got accused of "trauma dumping" for simply mentioning their grandmother died What trauma dumping ACTUALLY is vs. how it's being misused to shut down normal conversations Why you CAN'T trauma dump on your therapist (that's literally what they're there for!) How "annoyance is the price you pay for community" might be the most important relationship concept we've forgotten How Amanda and Sam balance their friendship in different life stages, and our real thoughts on how if single women and moms can be friends Amanda's strategy for overcoming chronic flakiness when you don't feel like showing up WE ARE NOW ON SUBSTACK with bonus episodes, pep talks, episodes guides, and so much more! Join us at nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com . We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think!…

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30. Millennial Friendship and Parenting with Kate Kennedy 1:05:50

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Kate Kennedy, author of One in a Millenial and host of Be There in Five Podcast, is here (!!) for a deep dive into how friendship has fundamentally changed since our own childhoods, and what that means for the next generation. In conversation, we explore: - The lost art of unstructured playtime and being bored - The "no sleepovers" trend - How social media has changed the experience of being left out - What happens when every moment needs to be "enriching" -What its like being a millenial content creator in the age of clickbait And so much more!! WE STARTED A SUBSTACK!! FIND BONUS EPISODES & MORE BEHIND THE SCENES CONTENT ON OUR SUBSTACK! Nuanceneeded.substack.com To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com . We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think! Kate Kennedy is the author of the NYT Bestselling Book, One in a Millennial, now available in paperback. She is also the host of the Be There in Five Podcast!…

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29. The Problem with the 'Let Them' Theory & Why Overly Simplistic Advice Fails Us 47:12

23 days ago47:12

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Tired of oversimplified self help advice? US TOO! Today we are diving into our controversial take on why we don't like the "Let Them" theory by Mel Robbins. Listen to hear... - The problematic oversimplification in viral mental health theories - Why the original "Let Them" poem by Cassie Phillips carries more depth and nuance - The problem with shame-based approaches to personal development - The difference between temporary inspiration and lasting transformation - The inherent privilege in telling someone to "just let them" - What we actually recommend INSTEAD Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- info@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think! Follow us on Instagram or Tiktok- Sam (@Sam.the.therapist) Amanda (@Therapyforwomen) To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.…

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28. Why People Pleasing Makes You Angry & How to Stop Part 2 34:30

29 days ago34:30

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Ready to get uncomfortably honest about why being "the nice one" is leaving you feeling resentful? This is part 2 of our people pleasing episode. Go listen to the first episode before diving into this one! In conversation, we tackle: * The exhausting cycle of expecting people to read your mind * How avoiding conflict actually creates MORE conflict * Why assertiveness feels like aggression when you're used to people pleasing * Sam’s experience learning to stop apologizing for existing * How resentment builds when you don't express your needs * Why your passive aggression isn't as subtle as you think * The freedom that comes from letting people be upset with you * Amanda's story of making amends at Wawa Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- info@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think! Follow us on Instagram or Tiktok- Sam (@Sam.the.therapist) Amanda (@Therapyforwomen) To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.…

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27. Why People Pleasing Can Be Manipulative Part 1 34:01

4 weeks ago34:01

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Buckle up! We get radically candid about our own (very different) journeys with people-pleasing. We share: * How Amanda discovered her "thoughtful gift-giving" was actually manipulation to avoid accountability * Why Sam's role as a childhood caregiver shaped her people-pleasing patterns * How Sam learned to stop apologizing for existing * Their personal struggles with being "the nice one" * Why they both ended up becoming therapists for the "wrong" reasons * The uncomfortable truth about using "niceness" as control * What happens when your whole identity is built on being agreeable Use code NUANCE for 40% off of Cozy Earth. Check out www.cozyearth.com Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- info@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think! Follow us on Instagram or Tiktok- Sam (@Sam.the.therapist) Amanda (@Therapyforwomen) To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.…

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26. Your Fear of Discomfort is Keeping You Stuck 51:43

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Tired of understanding all your patterns but still feeling stuck? In this episode, we're diving into the uncomfortable truth about why all that self-help content and therapy insight isn't actually changing your life. In conversation, we tackle: Why being "the self-aware friend" might be your newest form of avoidance How instant access to information is making us worse at solving our own problems Why validation without action is just spicy procrastination The uncomfortable truth about why therapy isn't just about feeling seen What your endless TikTok scrolling says about your fear of change How technology is teaching us to avoid sitting with hard emotions Why waiting to feel "ready" means waiting forever The difference between productive discomfort and tolerating what needs to change Practical steps for moving from understanding to action Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- info@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think! Follow us on Instagram or Tiktok- Sam (@Sam.the.therapist) Amanda (@Therapyforwomen) To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.…

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25. How to Break Free from Perfectionism & Live Your Values 51:59

6 weeks ago51:59

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Is your commitment to being perfect or good actually the enemy of your growth? In this episode we discuss: - The subtle ways perfectionism masquerades as preparation and protection - How perfectionism can become a form of self-harm and procrastination - The connection (and important differences) between perfectionism and people-pleasing - Why letting go of perfectionism can feel like losing your foundation - The role of defensiveness in maintaining perfectionist behaviors - How social media has transformed perfectionism from an internal to an external expectation. Use code NUANCE for 40% off of Cozy Earth. Check out www.cozyearth.com Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- info@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. We’d love to hear what you think! Follow us on Instagram or Tiktok- Sam (@Sam.the.therapist) Amanda (@Therapyforwomen) To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.…

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24. How to Prevent Parental Estrangement with Whitney Goodman, LMFT 29:01

7 weeks ago29:01

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Want to prevent estrangement in your kids? This is the second part of our conversation with Whitney Goodman, LMFT. For the first part, please listen to the "Calling Home" podcast. In the first part of this conversation, we cover, what social media gets wrong about parental estrangement and what the nuance is that is missing online. In this second part of the conversation, we discuss. - How becoming a parent has impacted how Whitney and Amanda see parental estrangement - The single most important thing you can do to prevent estrangement with your child - How to repair with your child (or anyone), when you make a mistake Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- info@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. Follow us on Instagram or Tiktok- Sam (@Sam.the.therapist) Amanda (@Therapyforwomen) To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. Whitney Goodman, LMFT is a licensed therapist and the founder of Calling Home, a community for adults who want to have better relationships with their family. To join check out www.callinghome.co or check out Whitney on instagram www.instagram.com/sitwithwhit…

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23. You Do Owe People Things: The Myth of Zero Obligations 44:57

8 weeks ago44:57

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Has "setting boundaries" turned into an excuse for treating people like they're disposable? We're seeing a concerning trend in our therapy rooms: people are using self-care language to justify ghosting, dishonesty, and basic human decency. In conversation, we tackle: The wild disconnect between how we treat strangers IRL vs. potential partners online Why your "I don't owe anyone anything" mindset might be sabotaging your chances at real connection The uncomfortable truth about why you're really keeping those dating app matches around How friend groups can enable poor behavior (yes, we're looking at those "slay queen" responses) What evolution and psychology tell us about why we actually DO need each other Tips for how to maintain boundaries while also being a more caring person SPONSORS: Use code NUANCE for 40% off of Cozy Earth. Check out www.cozyearth.com Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- info@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. Follow us on Instagram or Tiktok- Sam (@Sam.the.therapist) Amanda (@Therapyforwomen) To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.…

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22. BONUS: Post- Inauguration Processing & Pep Talk 39:21

9 weeks ago39:21

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In this raw and personal bonus episode, Sam and Amanda process their feelings on Inauguration Day, sharing a candid conversation about: Dealing with political anxiety and finding hope amid uncertainty Sam's experiences working in healthcare during COVID-19, including confronting conspiracy theorists and managing the hospital's COVID response The importance of local government and understanding political structures that remain in place Historical perspectives on social movements and resistance Practical ways to take action while maintaining mental health The balance between acknowledging difficult realities and maintaining hope Want to join the conversation? CALL us at 813-444-8683 or EMAIL info@therapyforwomencenter.com Follow us on Instagram or Tiktok- Sam (@Sam.the.therapist) Amanda (@Therapyforwomen) To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.…

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21. Stop Flaking On Your Friends! 49:33

9 weeks ago49:33

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In this candid episode, therapists Sam and Amanda discuss Sam's recent experience with a TikTok going viral. After posting about friendship and flaking culture, Sam faced unexpected backlash leading to a broader conversation about social media, nuance, and connection in today's world. The hosts explore: How legitimate concerns about accessibility and mental health can sometimes be weaponized to avoid discomfort The erosion of our collective ability to say "this doesn't apply to me" and keep scrolling The importance of maintaining friendships despite busy lives and different life stages Practical ways to maintain connections when you have limited capacity The difference between genuine barriers to connection and avoidance How social media has complicated our expectations for socializing The long-term investment of friendship and why it matters. Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- info@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. Follow us on Instagram or TikTok- Sam (@Sam.the.therapist) Amanda (@Therapyforwomen) To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.…

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20. Mental Health Advice That Changed Our Lives Part 2 38:42

10 weeks ago38:42

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In this episode of the Nuance Needed podcast, Amanda and Sam delve into their favorite mental health advice and life lessons. They explore the concept of numbing emotions, the importance of yoga and mindfulness in personal growth, and the significance of understanding one's emotions through interoception. The conversation emphasizes the need for self-advocacy, embracing both good and bad experiences, and living intentionally by considering how one's future self would respond to challenges. In this conversation, Amanda and Sam explore the importance of morning routines, self-care, and finding stability amidst chaos. 0:40-13:40 You cannot selectively numb. 13:47-35:50 How would future me want to respond to this? SPONSORS: Use code NUANCE for 40% off of Cozy Earth. Check out www.cozyearth.com Want to join the conversation? EMAIL- info@therapyforwomencenter.com or LEAVE US A MESSAGE at 813-444-8683. Follow us on Instagram or Tiktok- Sam (@Sam.the.therapist) Amanda (@Therapyforwomen) To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area.…

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19. Mental Health Advice That Changed Our Lives Part 1 44:00

11 weeks ago44:00

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In this episode of the Nuance Needed podcast, Amanda and Sam share their best mental health tips, focusing on the importance of understanding emotions, accountability, and self-reflection. They discuss how current feelings can distort perceptions of the past and future, and emphasize the need for personal responsibility in navigating life's challenges. The conversation highlights the significance of recognizing one's role in various dynamics and the power of reframing thoughts to foster personal growth and emotional well-being. 1:10-8:09 How you feel right now, is not how you will feel in the future. 10:50-21:35 How do you contribute to the dynamics you are in? 21:36-28:07 You can commit to make things right once you know better. 28:30-42:02 You don't eat the fruit the day you plant the seed. Want to join the conversation? Call us at 813-444-8683. Follow us on Instagram or TikTok- Sam (@Sam.the.therapist) Amanda (@Therapyforwomen) To learn more about therapy reach out to Therapy for Women Center, therapyforwomencenter.com. We have therapists licensed in 42 states across the country and have offices if you are local to the Philadelphia area. EMAIL US- podcast@therapyforwomencenter.com…

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18: Why We Hate Resolutions: What to do Instead 37:36

12 weeks ago37:36