052: Forging Emotional Resilience, Forgiving Past Wrongs, & Optimizing Your Fitness with Adam Von Rothfelder

The Better Man Podcast

Men have a tendency to bottle their emotions inside them. Even I struggle with this, especially in my past. But the result of repressed emotions never ends well: It usually means exploding at someone or something who doesn’t deserve it.

But there’s another way to get through difficult emotions and traumatic events without blowing your lid:

And today’s guest, Adam Von Rothfelder, is one man who demonstrates another way to deal with your emotions. Adam’s brother overdosed when he was 22, filling Adam with an unrelenting guilt. His father hit him often in his childhood, filling him with an undying rage.

And yet, he used these traumatic experiences as fuel instead of an excuse.

First, he became an MMA fighter. Then he opened up his own gym. Now, he owns Strong Coffee, a multimillion dollar coffee business he started from his house.

Best part?

Adam forgave his dad, his brother, and himself. He lives each day in a way that makes both of them proud because he pushed through his pain, and came out as a better man.

Adam and I have an enlightening conversation, particularly when it comes to dealing with—and leveraging—your emotions as a man.

Besides the emotional aspects we talked about, we also discussed:

• How Adam forgave his father and started loving him unconditionally again (and how you can do the same if you’ve had traumatic relationships)
• Why working out and eating earlier in the day improves your sleep
• The real reason our mental health is on a decline (and unconventional ways to improve your mental health)

And more!

Want to build emotional resilience, forgive past wrongs done to you, and optimize your fitness habits?

Listen now.

Show highlights include:

• How to channel your aggression so it speeds up the healing process after suffering their traumatic events (6:06)
• Why training at 100% effort actually lowers your risk of injury instead of heightening it (10:23)
• The “Future Self” mindset shift that helps you heal important relationships that turned sour (even if you haven’t 100% forgiven the other person yet) (16:35)
• How to “flip” your nastiest emotions into fuel to succeed at heights you never thought possible (19:58)
• Why repressing your anger and letting it fill you with shame makes you see red and erupt at the people around you (and a healthier way to manage it) (28:57)
• The “3 Buckets” secret for restoring unconditional love for someone who betrayed or traumatized you (39:39)
• How waking up earlier and exercising before work improves your sleep quality more than going to bed early (58:41)
• Why working out every hour after 1 pm reduces your REM sleep by an extra 10% (58:59)
• The little-known, but wildly effective “Reverse Intermittent Fasting” technique that improves your sleep, boosts your weight loss, and increases your energy (1:00:09)
• The “for me, not to me” belief that helps you see obstacles as opportunities instead of hindrances (1:15:26)
• How stress and sugar literally scar your brain like a scratched CD (and how to better manage your brain and improve your mental health) (1:19:37)

Resources mentioned in this episode:

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