Ep 31 Kink 101

Sex, Drugs & Disability

Here are some resources from Cameron for more info about kink:

Doctor Lindsey Doe, Clinical Sexologist, runs the YouTube channel Sexplanations (https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkxMlA7rt-mnIc1AjbyAsPw). Her channel dives into a wide variety of sex topics. For further information on topics covered in today's episode have a look at the following videos:

• Paraphilias - https://youtu.be/8powiyRASGM

• Bondage 101 - https://youtu.be/RxH4DD-y1y0

• Sexual Discipline - https://youtu.be/ONzKfbDJz_Q

• Sex Shame - https://youtu.be/ZE_xn8Mhn_M

• BDSM Dungeon Tour (definitely check this out if you're at all curious about what a dungeon is like!) - https://youtu.be/R0Zpyrbvo1o

• Erotic Choking (we mentioned this briefly in the podcast - this video goes into much more detail) - https://youtu.be/DPlrum6p4xg

• Daddies (a discussion about the term with a person who uses it in their own relationship) - https://youtu.be/8l9BfSD5knc

• Watt's The Safeword is a sex education channel that focuses directly on BDSM topics - https://www.youtube.com/wattsthesafeword

For a more general guide, Tristan Taormino's Ultimate Guide To Kink is a good place to start: https://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Guide-Kink-BDSM-Erotic/dp/157344779X/

Additionally Different Loving and its sequel, Different Loving Too are well-known. They are primarily about experiences as described by those interviewed, rather than about technique or method.

• https://www.amazon.com/Different-Loving-Sexual-Dominance-Submission/dp/0679769560

• https://www.amazon.com/Different-Loving-Too-People-Lives/dp/1771432586

For anyone interested in rope bondage specifically, Cam recommends the following books from his own collection:

• https://www.amazon.com/The-Seductive-Art-Japanese-Bondage/dp/1890159387

• https://www.amazon.com/Knotty-Showing-Ropes-Step-Step/dp/193116049X

• https://www.amazon.com/Two-Knotty-Boys-Back-Ropes/dp/1931160694/

• https://www.amazon.com/Shibari-You-Can-Use-Japanese/dp/0977872726/

Finding professionals who will treat kinky or kink-curious people with dignity can be an emotionally taxing experience. The Kink Aware Professionals directory is a fantastic resource to find professionals of all sorts, from psychologists to accountants to computer/IT pros. If you are a professional who is kinky or welcoming to kinky clients, you can add yourself to the registry to let people know you are a safe vendor to work with.

https://ncsfreedom.org/key-programs/kink-aware-professionals-59776

For readers interested in meeting people in their local kink scene, Cam recommends finding a local munch (mundane lunch) as a low-pressure social setting to make acquaintances. Several resources/strategies (none are fully comprehensive or bulletproof, mind) are:

• http://findamunch.com/ - A general directory of kink gatherings, not just munches. Each event listed should have a description to help you understand what to expect and if that event is potentially right for you.

• Google (seriously!) - Google "your city" + "kink" (or "bdsm") to see what events and groups are active in your area.

If you're interested in why Cam groaned at mentioning 50 Shades of Grey, this article does a thorough job of breaking down why kinky people dislike it: https://www.elitedaily.com/entertainment/film/three-reasons-50-shades-emotional-abuse-bdsm/940575