9 Ways to stop picking your skin this summer | Ep. 391

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9 Ways to Stop Picking Your Skin This Summer

As summer approaches and the weather gets hotter, many of us are eager to wear shorter sleeves and enjoy the sun. However, this often leads to increased skin exposure and, unfortunately, a greater temptation to pick at our skin. In today's article, we'll explore nine strategies to help you stop picking your skin this summer. These tips have been helpful to many of my clients, and I hope they will be just as beneficial for you.

Understanding Skin Picking

Before we dive into the strategies, it's important to understand what skin picking is. Clinically known as dermatillomania, skin picking is a type of body-focused repetitive behavior (BFRB). People with this condition may pick at their skin, arms, lips, scalp, nails, and even more sensitive areas like the pubic region. It's similar to trichotillomania, which involves hair pulling.

It's crucial to note that skin picking and hair pulling are not forms of self-harm. People who pick their skin are not trying to hurt themselves or seek attention. They often do it because they are either understimulated (bored) or overstimulated (anxious or overwhelmed). Understanding this can provide insight into the strategies we'll discuss.

Strategy #1: Awareness Logs

Awareness logs are a powerful tool in any stage of recovery. By logging every time you have the urge to pick, noting how much you picked, where, and for how long, you gain a better understanding of how this condition impacts your life. Many people find that having to document their behavior reduces the frequency of picking.

Awareness logs are a key component of habit reversal training, a cognitive-behavioral therapy technique specifically designed for BFRBs.

For more information about BFRB School, our online course for skin picking and hair pulling, CLICK HERE

Strategy #2: Keep Your Hands Busy

Engaging in a competing response can help divert your urge to pick. Competing responses might include using fidget toys, holding a stone, or playing with soothing textures. You can find many affordable fidgets online or at dollar stores.

Create a basket of tactile items that you can use to keep your hands busy. Place these items around your house, in your car, and at work to ensure they are easily accessible when you need them.

Strategy #3: Create a Skincare Routine

A good skincare routine can help prevent irritation and dryness that might tempt you to pick. However, it's important not to overdo it, as too much attention to your skin can also trigger picking. Consult with your doctor to develop a routine that keeps your skin healthy without exacerbating your condition.

Strategy #4: Use Physical Barriers

Using physical barriers (called habit blockers) like gloves, band-aids, or long sleeves can prevent you from touching and picking at your skin. Some people find that keeping their nails short or wearing fake nails can reduce the tactile satisfaction of picking. Identify what works best for you and use these barriers consistently.

Strategy #5: Self-Compassion

Practicing self-compassion is vital. Beating yourself up for picking only increases negative emotions like shame and guilt, which can lead to more picking. Instead, practice radical acceptance and reduce self-criticism. This approach can help you feel more motivated and improve your overall well-being.

Strategy #6: Manage Stress and Anxiety

Managing stress and anxiety is crucial, as many people pick their skin to cope with these feelings. Cognitive-behavioral skills can help address faulty cognitions and behaviors that exacerbate stress. Consider taking an online course, like Overcoming Anxiety and Panic, to learn effective stress management techniques.

Strategy #7: Establish a Support System

Having a support system can make a significant difference. Whether it's family, friends, or online support groups like those at BFRB.org, having people to check in with can help you feel less alone and more accountable. Some people find it helpful to text or call a support person when they feel the urge to pick.

Strategy #8: Stay Hydrated and Healthy

Good nutrition and hydration can impact your skin's health. Speak with your doctor about how to maintain healthy skin through diet and hydration. Additionally, consider looking into over-the-counter medications like N-acetylcysteine, which has been shown to help with skin picking. Always consult with your doctor before starting any new supplement.

Strategy #9: Set Realistic Goals and Track Progress

Set achievable goals and track your progress. Instead of aiming to completely stop picking, focus on gradually reducing the behavior by a small percentage each week. Tracking your progress helps you see improvement and identify what strategies are working. Remember, small steps lead to significant changes.

Conclusion

These nine strategies can help you stop picking your skin this summer. Whether you use awareness logs, keep your hands busy with fidgets, or establish a support system, each step you take brings you closer to managing this behavior. Remember to practice self-compassion and set realistic goals. If you need additional support, consider enrolling in courses like BFRB School or Overcoming Anxiety and Panic.

Transcript

Today we’re going to cover nine strategies to stop picking your skin this summer. It’s getting hotter. You want to start wearing shorter sleeves or have your skin exposed to the sun more often, which means you’re more likely to start picking at your skin. Let’s talk about nine strategies that you can use right away. Hopefully, you find them as helpful as my clients have.

Welcome back. I am so excited to talk with you about nine strategies and skills that you can use to stop picking your skin this summer. But before we do that, let’s just first do a little deep dive into what skin picking is. Clinically, we call it “dermatillomania,” and it’s a kind of body-focused repetitive behavior. Often, people with skin picking will pick out their skin, their arms, their lips, their scalp, and their nails. There’s really no limit to where someone can pick their skin. Some people even pick pubic areas under their arms or around their genitals. There is, as I said, no off-topic area that people will pick. It’s completely normal for people to pick in one or all of these areas. It’s similar to a condition called trichotillomania, which is hair pulling. Again, hair pulling is another type of body-focused repetitive behavior, and people may pick at any area where there is skin on their body.

It is important for us to first highlight that skin picking and hair pulling are not self-harm. People who pick their skin aren’t trying to hurt themselves. They’re also not trying to just get attention. They do not want to be damaging their skin or giving their skin abrasions and such. It’s just a part of a condition, and we have a little bit of insight as to why they’re doing it. Often, people with skin picking, or dermatillomania, are skin picking either because they’re understimulated, they’re bored, or we know they may be overstimulated. Maybe they’re very anxious, they’re feeling hyper-reactive to feeling overwhelmed with either emotions, stimulation, or thoughts. We do know that people who engage in this skin-picking behavior are more likely to pick either when they’re overstimulated or understimulated. That’s something to think about, and there is a clue there into some of the strategies that we’re going to use today.

Let’s get to it. Let’s start talking about some of the strategies that you can use to stop picking your skin this summer.

Strategy #1: Awareness Logs

Awareness logs can be so helpful at any stage of recovery. An awareness log is either a piece of paper or a document on your computer or on your phone, where you log every time you have the urge to pick your skin, how much you picked your skin, where you picked your skin, and how long you engaged in skin picking. What this does is, number one, it helps us really understand to what degree this condition is impacting your life. Secondly, people often report that when they have to document it, they’re less likely to engage in the behavior because nobody wants to have to spend all their time logging it as something they don’t want to deal with.

Awareness logs can be a very helpful skill for us in understanding our own condition and our own symptoms, and in addition, they can help us with motivation to slowly reduce this behavior.

Awareness logs are something we use in a very well-known and researched way of using cognitive behavioral therapy, and the type of therapy is called habit reversal training. It’s the specific modality that we use for skin picking and hair pulling, and it is a key component of that cognitive and awareness work.

Strategy #2: Keep Your Hands Busy

Now again, when we’re using habit reversal training, we engage in something called a competing response. A competing response is a behavior that competes with the feeling of picking our skin. Now, a competing response might be fiddles or fidget toys. It could be holding a stone or maybe stroking a feather. It could be playing with other fidgets that we have. The cool news is that you can get so many fidgets online these days for a really low price, or you could easily go to your dollar store and look around for textures that feel beautiful to you, feel soothing to you, or help you with either the understimulation or overstimulation.

What we want to look for here is, what are the specific tactile experiences that you can use to keep your hands busy? We actually have an online course called BFRB School, which is a specific course for people with hair pulling and skin picking, using skills like habit reversal training and cognitive behavioral therapy. We talk all about the core importance of using competing responses.

I often tell my patients and my students to always have a bucket or a basket in the house of different tactile experiences, different tactile things that you can play with objects, so that at that moment, if you’ve identified in your awareness log that you’re feeling bored, you can engage in something that stimulates your creativity, stimulates your awareness. However, if you’re the opposite and you’re feeling overstimulated, you might dig into the basket and find something that’s quite soothing. Maybe it’s more like a silly putty, a gel, or something else that’s more soothing for you.

These competing responses are going to be so important for you in getting very clear on what you need at that moment and having it readily available. I often say to my patients and my students, don’t just have it in one area of the house because, in that moment, you’re still going to want to just pick your skin. What we prefer to do is to have little pieces over the house, in your car, or in your office so that they’re easily accessible. Some people have it on their key rings, some people have it in their purses—whatever works for you.

Again, that awareness log will help us identify specifically where you are when you’re having these urges to pick your skin. And then we can put in competing responses to compete with the skin-picking behavior.

Strategy #3: Create a Skincare Routine That Helps You

This is a little bit of a fine line, though, because we don’t want to engage in a skin routine that has you putting too much attention on your skin because, again, too much attention on your skin is going to mean that you’re more likely to pick your skin. However, we also want to make sure that we are not ignoring your skin, letting it get really dry, especially in the summer. Maybe you’ve had a sunburn or such, and you’ve got some wind chafing or something.

Again, if you have any irritation on your skin that isn’t taken care of with a skin routine, you are more likely to pick at that skin, especially if there’s already an open wound or a scab. If you already have an open wound that you’ve scratched or maybe you bumped into something and you’ve got a little scab there, we want to make sure that we’re engaging in a really healthy skin routine to help that heal and repair so that you’re less likely to go and pick that. I would encourage you to speak with your medical professional about skincare and what would be best for you. Maybe you have a skin condition. Very commonly, people with skin picking do. Speak with your doctor about a skincare routine that will help your skin picking but not be so extensive that it actually makes it worse. I would trust that your doctor will be able to help you in that area.

Strategy #4: Use Physical Barriers

Again, going back to the gold standard treatment for skin picking, which is habit reversal training, we use what we call a habit blocker. This is something that blocks you from the habit of picking, and this can involve anything that stops you from being able to touch your skin.

A lot of patients and students I have had have used things like gloves or band-aids to cover an area that they’re likely to pick. Maybe in the summer, they may wear longer sleeves even though it’s very hot because that actually stops them from getting to the area that they feel an urge to pick. You may also want to keep your nails really thin or cover your nails. Some people keep nails on, like actual fake nails, as a barrier to being able to touch the skin. Maybe it doesn’t give them that same tactile feeling of picking when their nails are medium-length.

What we want to do here is identify for yourself the specific barriers that are helpful. The thing to remember here about skin picking is that everyone is different. Not one strategy that I’ve used for one client is going to be the strategy we use for another client. It’s going to be very much dependent on those awareness logs that you logged out of in that first strategy. Getting clear on specifically what are the triggers that cause you to pick your skin and what specific behaviors and habit blockers are helpful to reduce the skin picking that you feel the urge to engage in.

Strategy #5: Self-Compassion

We have to engage in not beating yourself up, not judging yourself, not punishing yourself if, in fact, you have picked or recently picked despite all of these strategies. Beating yourself up actually does not motivate you to stop picking. In fact, it usually brings up more emotions such as shame, guilt, sadness, anger, and humiliation. Those emotions can send us into overstimulation, making us want to pick again.

Again, we want to engage in a practice of self-compassion. We want to engage in a sense of radical acceptance of ourselves, whether we pick or not. This is so important because we want to reduce our suffering, not make our suffering higher. We do find that people who practice self-compassion tend to have higher levels of motivation, decreased levels of procrastination. They tend to feel better about themselves and have higher self-esteem. They’re more likely to get out there and do the things that they love. Every moment that you’re engaging in in your life is a moment you’re less likely to be picking. It’s very, very important that you practice a self-compassion routine, even if it’s once a day. Anything is better than nothing to reduce that self-criticism where you can.

Strategy #6: Manage Stress and Anxiety

I cannot stress this enough. It is so important when it comes to skin picking that we manage our stress. Again, a lot of people pick their skin because it is a way in which they can manage their stress. A lot of people with skin picking say once they start picking, they can exit out of reality and go into a trance-like mode where everything disappears and they feel relaxed and in the zone, and it takes away all of the stress. We can now understand why there is actually an urge and a pull towards picking and pulling, because who really wants to stay in stress and anxiety? Of course, it makes total sense. The more we can manage our stress using strategies, skills, and other tools like cognitive behavioral therapy, the less likely we are to use skin picking as a coping strategy.

When it comes to managing stress, again, the most important thing we’re going to do here is what we call cognitive behavioral skills. It’s going to be taking a lot of our cognitions that might be faulty, leading us to have more anxiety, and also looking at our behaviors and the things that we do that may be actually exacerbating the stress and anxiety that we experience.

If you’re someone who struggles with anxiety and stress, I strongly encourage you to check out our online course called Overcoming Anxiety and Panic. We go through all of these steps. You can do it from home, and it may help you to get an idea of what might be some of the things that are triggering your stress response, triggering your anxiety response so that you can manage that, so that then you can move on to manage your skin picking as well.

Strategy #7: Establish a Support System

We want to have a community of people who can support us as we go through these steps. It’s not an easy thing to overcome skin picking, so I really want to encourage you to find a support system, whether that be family or friends, or you can go to BFRB.org. They have a whole array of online support groups that you might be interested in looking at to get support, so you feel like you’re not alone and that you have the support that you need.

Another option here is to also look for accountability bodies. Somebody who mightn’t even have skin picking. They might be a loved one, a friend, a parent, or a sibling—someone who you can check in with when your urge is really high.

A lot of my students have said that it’s been very helpful when they have the urge to text somebody and say, “I have a strong urge. I’m texting you to let you know.” They may have already set up a plan on what to do. Maybe they jump on a phone call together, they might text each other throughout it to help the person ride that wave of the urge. Or maybe that person might encourage them to say, “Hey, you told me to remind you of this one thing if you have this urge.”

Really, the importance of a support group can help you, or a support person can help you not only with feeling less alone, not only with beating yourself up, but also with putting these strategies into action, especially if you let them know about the strategies.

Strategy #8: Stay Hydrated and Healthy

Now again, I’m going to encourage you to speak with your medical doctor about this, but I just wanted to mention because I try to look at you as a holistic, full person, someone who’s not just your skin picking, but also, we want to have a look at things like your health. Take a look at your nutrition. Take a look at your hydration levels.

Again, these things can impact our skin. If, let’s say, you’re having a lot of nutrition that’s causing a lot of breakouts and you’re someone who’s prone to skin picking, those two things together could become a disaster. You want to speak with your doctor or a professional in that area about specific nutrition, things you may want to avoid eating, and how hydrated you need to stay to keep your skin healthy, to reduce the chances of you wanting to pick and pull.

A lot of patients I see, and a lot of students that have come through BFRB School, our online course for skin picking, have reported having skin conditions, acne, or certain things that have impacted how much their skin is irritated, how many pimples they’re having. Now, I’m not assuming that nutrition and hydration are the solution to all of that, but I would encourage you to speak with a doctor and just inquire about what you could do to make sure we’re addressing those skin conditions.

Another thing to know here, and this is like an inside scoop, is that there are specific over-the-counter medications you can get that have been proven to help with skin picking. I’ll leave a link in the show notes for you to take a look, but there is a vitamin that’s called N-acetylcysteine. It is an over-the-counter medication that has very few side effects and has been shown to help people with skin picking. Now again, I’m not a doctor. I would strongly encourage you to speak with your doctor about that, but again, I’m trying to give you as many resources today as we can to help you get to the goal that you want. These are all things that you can take a look at and speak to your doctor about.

Strategy #9: Set Realistic Goals and Make Sure You Track Your Progress

We want to set realistic goals. I always tell my patients at the beginning of treatment that the goal isn’t to completely stop skin picking, even though most people are coming for that goal. Because what I have found is, when you set that huge goal, it sets you up to fail. It makes you feel so bad if you slip. It makes you feel so much pressure. It’s such a scarier experience than if you say, “Hey, I’m just going to reduce this by 3 to 5 percent each week,” or month or day, whatever is right for you. We want to set realistic goals—goals that can help keep you motivated and goals that make you feel like they're achievable.

We also want to track progress. One of the most important parts of treatment, once we’ve done that first awareness log—and we do this in BFRB School, I do it with my patients as well—is that once we’re off and running, we then track how well we’re doing. How well did you use your tools? What tools didn’t work? How long did you pick for? Where were you? What went wrong?

We are not doing this to beat you up or to scrutinize you; we are doing it from a place of experimenting, gathering information to know specifically what’s getting in the way of your recovery and what your progress looks like. Some people may say, “I’m not making any progress,” but when we actually look at their logs, we’re starting to see progress in these small ways. Remember, small steps lead to medium-sized steps. Medium-sized steps lead to huge changes.

The last strategy is probably the most important. I could have spent a whole podcast episode talking about that. It’s about setting realistic goals and tracking your progress.

Again, if you are struggling with this and you want to take BFRBSchool.com, head on over to CBTSchool.com. You’ll get access to it there. It will take you through all of these steps. We also have modules on self-compassion, mindfulness, and healthy lifestyles that can really help you with this recovery as well. I’d strongly encourage you to consider that as a hopeful strategy as well.

All right, guys, thank you so much. These have been the nine strategies to help you stop skin-picking this summer. I hope you found it helpful, and I’ll see you next week.