Best Healthysexuality Podcasts (2024)

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326: GuyTalk: How do you overcome a sexual challenge (like premature ejaculation)? [REPLAY] 46:11

7h ago46:11

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Ever experienced porn addiction (and had that affect your love relationship), contended with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, or been worried about what your cock looks like? Then you'll feel right at home with this episode. Here, several men in our community share their unvarnished truth with their own voices. They forthrightly and v…

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325: What if every woman had a self-pleasure practice? (ft. Violet Lange) 1:04:38

7d ago1:04:38

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Do you wish your woman was more open to sex? Not just intercourse, but the fun of the whole sex thing -- kissing, making out, foreplay, getting hot and heavy, doing the dirty. Ever longed for more from your wife/girlfriend/partner when it comes to sexuality -- and not just "from her" but with her? Ever wished she had more fun when it came to sex, t…

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324: What does it mean to open a woman? (ft. Jason Lange) 1:07:11

13d ago1:07:11

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Ever been around a woman who was closed down, shut off, or emotionally unavailable? Ever felt like your partner wanted to say something but was holding back, and if you'd somehow shown up in a different way, maybe she'd have let you in? Perhaps you've felt some version of, "I can’t handle that anger right now so I need to remove that anger from her…

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323: How do 12-step programs connect to healthy relationships? (ft. Mark Wilde) 1:11:19

21d ago1:11:19

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"When I was at my worst, I didn’t know there was a way out." Sometimes in life we get stuck. We don't know how to deal with big feelings, so we self-medicate -- with alcohol, or porn, or weed, or food. But often the self-medication gets in the way of things we really want -- love; intimacy; healthy, connected sex; joy. You may think of 12-step prog…

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322: 5 ways to polarize a powerful woman (ft. Jason Lange) [Replay] 1:10:01

28d ago1:10:01

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Has your woman ever been in her masculine, and you wished she was in her feminine? Here's something that doesn't work: "Hey, could you drop into your feminine already?" ;) So how do you polarize your woman well? Polarity is one of those mysteries in life like electricity: We don't fully grasp why it works, but we can harness its power to make our l…

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321: 'I’m afraid to show interest until I’m willing to commit' (ft. Jason Lange) 47:34

1M ago47:34

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Have you ever been concerned about getting involved with a woman because you didn't want to hurt her feelings if it didn't work out? Ever felt like you shouldn't go deeper emotionally with a woman you were dating because you weren't sure you wanted to put a ring on it? Does it ever feel like all women want a long-term, committed relationship, so if…

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320: From breakdown to breakthrough: how to recover from trauma (ft. Jason Lange) 51:31

1M ago51:31

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If you’ve become aware that you experienced developmental trauma (and/or attachment wounding), you may wonder how to heal from it. Where do you go to move through stuck parts of yourself that are holding you back? How do you get things moving and release blocks so you can finally get what you want in sex, dating, and relationships? Jason was a self…

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319: 'My relationship is war.' (What do I do?) (Ft. Jason Lange) 54:36

2M ago54:36

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Ever felt like when it comes to your relationship, you're constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop? Or that when you come home, you don't know what (or who) you're going to get? Or that every moment is, "Are they OK?" "Are they OK?" "Are they OK?" Reality check: It is not normal to be constantly on guard or anxious in your relationship. That k…

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318: GirlTalk: Role play in sex. What's it like!? 1:21:46

2M ago1:21:46

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Ever wanted to explore role-play in sex? If so, you're not alone! According to research, one in three people in North America alone wants to try some kind of role-play in the bedroom, whether that's doctor/patient, professor/student, cop/detainee, pirate/wench or some other sexy dynamic. Why is sexual role-play so intriguing? Is it different from k…

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317: What exactly IS codependency? (How do you know if you’re codependent?) (ft. Jason Lange) 1:00:55

2M ago1:00:55

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"It felt kind of like a trap, but at the same time felt like a soothing warm blanket to feel safe and ruminate within." "The codependent relationship is filled with drama. There is blaming, a victim and the rescuer/protector. That rescuer is filled with needing to be needed. That’s where it began for me." "It was years of trying as hard as I could …

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316: Where do you find quality masculine role models? (ft. Jason Lange) [replay] 1:06:26

2M ago1:06:26

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Did you have a deeply present, emotionally aware father who took the time to attune to you and teach you how to be a trustworthy, integrated man? If so, you're in the minority. ;) Most of our clients had far-less-than-ideal role models when it came to the masculine -- which makes becoming a trustable adult man challenging. For example, do you feel …

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315: What happens once you’ve recovered from Nice Guy Syndrome? (ft. Dr. Robert Glover) 1:15:29

3M ago1:15:29

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There's a lot out there about Nice Guy Syndrome. But what happens after? What is the magical land of Boundaries, for example? If you’ve figured out you’re a Nice Guy, you’ve likely been in a love relationship or two (or five) where you felt like your partner walked all over you, or where you developed resentment after overextending yourself. Or per…

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314: Can microdosing help you develop better relationships? (ft. David Romero) 1:02:02

3M ago1:02:02

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Ever contended with anxiety, depression, chronic pain, ADHD, or OCD ... and had that affect your sex or love life? Ever suspected that you have generational trauma, or thought you were broken? Ever felt like there was something wrong with you because you just can't seem to get it together when it comes to relationships? Spoiler alert: There is noth…

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313: GuyTalk: Life after being with a BPD partner (Borderline Personality Disorder) 1:31:06

3M ago1:31:06

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"I took responsibility for things that wasn’t mine to take." So begins the brave stories of four men who share their personal experiences of what it was like being in relationship with a woman with Borderline Personality Disorder (or with traits of it). If you've ever been unsure about whether your partner may have traits of BPD, this is a good one…

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312: GirlTalk: How much money do you make, and how much does that matter? 1:06:38

3M ago1:06:38

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Have you ever felt like you needed to make a lot of money to impress women? Ever had a dynamic shift around money in a relationship, and not known how to deal with it (for example, she starts making more than you, and you have unexpected feelings about that)? Have you wondered who should pay on a date (do you offer to? Is that considered sexist now…

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311: What does it really mean to be emotionally available? (ft. Violet Lange) 47:38

4M ago47:38

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Ever chased emotionally unavailable women? Ever dropped a connection because you felt overwhelmed, or like something was "off" but you couldn't quite name what it was? Ever been uncomfortable with the "mess" of dealing with someone else's emotions, or been hesitant to share your own out of a fear of rocking the boat? Then this episode will resonate…

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310: How do I initiate sex without coming off as demanding? (ft. me) 28:46

4M ago28:46

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Sexy time, pickers, and dating, oh my! Here I answer the following three common client or listener questions: "I’ve heard women say it’s a red flag if the man has not had relationship experience. What do you say?" "One issue I've had is selecting the right female partner. What is a good way to guide myself to go about doing this?" (My picker is off…

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309: How do you know when it's time to get a divorce? (ft. Jason Lange) 1:13:48

4M ago1:13:48

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When is it time to stay and work on things in your marriage, and when is it time to let things go? Perhaps you can relate to scenarios like these: You're worn out and exhausted because you're always the one reaching out to your wife and never getting anything back You're great co-parents but your sex life is DOA As a couple you rarely or never open…

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308: Are you staying together for the kids? There may be another way to go. (ft. Jason Lange) 53:20

4M ago53:20

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If your marriage isn't working, you're suffering. Maybe you're fighting all the time (whether aloud or not). Maybe you're great co-parents, but you don't connect in an intimate way anymore. And when I say "intimate" I'm not just talking about sex; I'm talking about warmth, closeness, and connection. Should you automatically stay in a relationship b…

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307: What's the difference between feminine storm and feminine rage? (ft. Shana James) 48:57

5M ago48:57

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Have you ever been scared of your wife / woman partner? Ever been harmed by her? If yes, it's likely you never felt like you could talk to anyone about it because you were afraid of what they would say, or whether they would shame you. In polarity work, we often talk about feminine storm. But where's the line between feminine storm, feminine rage, …

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306: Boner shame! Let's talk about it. (ft. Jason Lange) 49:25

5M ago49:25

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"I’m getting a boner — what’s she going to think??" So begins the conflict for a lot of boys and men have around their cock. From a young age -- basically from the time boners start to be a thing, "It’s like a lot of men are constantly tracking, ‘Am I having an erection and if I do, how do I hide it?’" The thing is, hiding and secrets go hand-in-ha…

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305: GuyTalk: Overcoming religious programming 1:40:24

5M ago1:40:24

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Did you grow up with a religious background? Then congrats, you likely experienced sexual shame! Perhaps you still do to this day. The truth is, it's deeply confusing to grow up having completely natural sexual urges, but be told you're bad or wrong for having them. In the words of the panelists: "For a long time I thought, 'What’s wrong with me? W…

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304: What happens if you or your partner needs space? (ft. Jason Lange) 1:09:18

5M ago1:09:18

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"Needing space within a love relationship is crucial for maintaining my identity ... It’s not merely about taking a break; it’s about preserving a sense of self that can slowly wither in the absence of such space." So says one of our clients, eloquently speaking to the need and also the cost of not getting space when it's required. Here we discuss …

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303: 'Boys have as rich an inner life as girls do.' (ft. Nat Damon of Reach Academy for Young Men)) 1:11:54

6M ago1:11:54

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When you were a boy, did you feel comfortable being your full self? Did you feel at ease around becoming a man -- like you knew what that meant and smoothly moved into that identity? We live in a world where boys and young men often feel like it's not safe to be themselves, and where it can be confusing to grow into manhood. According to Nat Damon,…

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302: 'I ask for stories about the sex that changed you.' (ft. Carly, creator of Aurore) 1:14:24

6M ago1:14:24

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What if you could read about the sex that affected someone so profoundly they were never the same? What if you wrote about the sex that changed you in that way? If you're turned on by audio porn, ASMR, or sexy stories (either reading them or them being read to you), you're not alone. While we seem to be fixated on men being obsessed with visual por…

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301: What's the difference between therapy and coaching? (ft. Jason Lange) 1:03:20

6M ago1:03:20

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"As men, it often feels like we should just know how to succeed in a relationship, how to be great in bed, how to be successful in life, all under the counterintuitive expectation that we figure it all out on our own and never ask for help." Part of our my intention with this podcast is to help men succeed in sex, dating, and relationships with wom…

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300: What's it like to do MDMA therapy with your wife? (ft. Lucas) 1:24:08

6M ago1:24:08

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A lot of our clients crave more intimacy or closeness with their wife/relationship partner. Often this includes a longing, or a sense of something missing. As Lucas, our guest here, put it, "The feeling I recall most strongly was a sense of loneliness." Have you ever felt lonely in your relationship? If you’ve wished you and your partner were close…

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299: Matchmaking: Is it still relevant? (ft. Anika Rashaun) 1:02:42

6M ago1:02:42

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Would you ever consider using a matchmaker? In a world of dating apps (and let's be real -- those are rough for a LOT of people!), not to mention a whole lotta ghosting, matchmaking is an appealing notion for many. Plus, matchmakers play a unique role in that they speak to both parties, before and after dates. They're able, therefore, to give peopl…

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298: Becoming skillful at sexual communication -- let's talk about it. (ft. Kristen Carney of Ask Women) 57:34

7M ago57:34

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This episode is pulled from the podcast Ask Women, where I myself was the guest! We delve into my sex research here, in which I asked over 1,065 women about the men who were best in bed. But this isn't just about finding the clit. It's a deeper conversation about how to talk about difficult subjects. Why is hard to talk about what we actually like …

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297: The problems with polarity (ft. Jason Lange) 50:50

7M ago50:50

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Polarity can help you have a hot sex & dating life, not to mention a stronger love relationship overall. And like many things in life, it's not a perfect concept; there are issues with it. "In what ways have you found polarity to be useful in your sex and relationship life? In what ways have you found it to be off or problematic?" I posed these que…

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296: What does it actually mean to step into your power? (ft. Jason Lange) 48:31

7M ago48:31

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As a woman, I sometimes feel like saying to all the Nice Guys out there: We need you! We need you on the court, in the game, on the field of Life. We need you not just as romantic partners (though we do desperately want you there), but as fathers, as colleagues, as teammates. And we need you to be in your power. We need you to be able to speak up f…

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295: Ever 'fallen into' a relationship? (ft. Jason Lange) [replay] 52:42

7M ago52:42

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Here's a pattern we've noticed in a lot of the men we work with: They've never gone after the women they really wanted. As one man put it, "A lot of times the girls that I’ve attracted have come to me … and haven't been the most stable." For some men, these dating relationships have even turned into marriages -- without the man necessarily wanting …

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294: How do I rebuild trust with a partner? (ft. me!) 31:54

8M ago31:54

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It's a solo episode! I pulled together some questions from clients or listeners, and go into depth on them. Remember that you can always send me your question or questions -- just email me at dearmenpodcast@gmail.com. Everything is on the table, from sex and dating to relationships and repair. I want to hear from you! Here are the questions I answe…

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293: Give it to me whining! (Ft. Jason & Violet Lange) 1:02:16

8M ago1:02:16

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Does it feel exiting for your woman to be fully open with you, feel deeply cherished, and want to f*** your brains out? Then you’re going to want to listen to this one. You’re likely familiar with polarity — that sacred dance between alpha & omega. It’s a potent force that shows up in dating, sex, love relationships, and beyond (and helps explain t…

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292: Sex life with your wife not where you want it to be? This could be the culprit (ft. Violet & Jason Lange) [replay] 1:07:28

8M ago1:07:28

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If you want a thriving sex and relationship life, you'll benefit from knowing about polarity. Polarity, shorthand for the healthy dance between omega energy (aka feminine) and alpha energy (aka masculine), is both life-affirming and hot, whether it's in the context of dating or a long-term relationship. In man/woman relationships, when a man embodi…

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291: Want to get better at dating? Here are 3 ways to practice with women (ft. Violet Lange) 46:29

8M ago46:29

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As a client recently put it, where do you go to "scrimmage" with women? How and where do you practice relating, flirting, and connecting with the feminine? It can feel like the stakes are high once you're on an actual date (not to mention getting to sexy time and beyond). Here we talk all about that! We cover communities where relating (and practic…

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290: Teaching healthy masculinity in schools! The Inspiring Men Project (ft. Scott Kaltenbaugh) 1:18:54

9M ago1:18:54

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When you were growing up, did you have a host of great role models when it came to how to be a good man? No, probably not. The vast majority of men with whom we work lacked solid role models for healthy masculinity, both at home and at school. This damaged their ability to succeed in dating, relationships, and sex, and led to a lot of suffering. Sc…

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289: Do Nice Guys tend to attract volatile women? (ft. Jason Lange) 56:19

9M ago56:19

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Ever been in a relationship where you felt like it started off GREAT, but over time it became really hard? Ever felt like you had electric sex with someone, especially at the beginning, but then you were often put in the doghouse for doing something "wrong," and that eventually you ended up constantly walking on eggshells to try not to trigger your…

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288: GuyTalk: What dating is like after getting divorced 1:13:07

9M ago1:13:07

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Divorce is a complex and often sensitive topic. For many, there are questions of success and failure, grief and loss, as well as the question of what we’re role-modeling to our children. Questions can come up like, “Is it honoring of myself to stay in this relationship? Should I stay because I made a vow, even if it sacrifices my well-being? And if…

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287: GirlTalk: The either/or conundrum in sex, dating, and relationships 1:15:45

9M ago1:15:45

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This episode is kinda edgy! Here we (a small group of women who are attracted to men) give you a peek behind the curtain in terms of what we really crave from the masculine. The thing we rarely outline so starkly. The truth is, many of us human beings limit ourselves when it comes to having it all. We think we can either have a job we like, or one …

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286: How do I “do” dating apps well? (so I don’t get discouraged) (ft. Jason Lange) 1:06:18

10M ago1:06:18

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Online dating can be hard! As a hetero man on the apps, you're statistically likely to get far fewer matches than a hetero woman. If you're on Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, eHarmony, Match, MeetMindful, and/or OKCupid and you're not finding what you're looking for ... you're not alone. Dating apps can be crazy-making -- for real! That …

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285: Depression, Anxiety, and Nice Guy Syndrome (ft. Tony Endelman & Dr. Glover’s work) 1:04:48

10M ago1:04:48

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How do depression & anxiety intersect with sex & dating? If you’re one of the millions of people who’ve experience anxiety, clinical depression, and/or dysthymia — low-grade, chronic depression — then you know how easy it is to spiral. When it comes to sex, dating, and relationships, it can feel daunting to even get started. Negative self-talk abou…

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284: Is cheating (including emotional affairs) correlated with Nice Guy Syndrome? (ft. Jason Lange) 55:03

10M ago55:03

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Cheating is both a sensitive and complex topic. It lies at the intersection of sexuality, betrayal, needs, wants, and power. Here we explore something we've noticed in our work: the correlation we’ve witnessed between the pattern of cheating, and not being in your power as a man. We go over both the experience of cheating as well as being cheated o…

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283: How to go from stuck ... to unstuck ... to THRIVING (ft. Brian Johnson of Heroic) 1:06:46

10M ago1:06:46

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"What should I do with my life?" It's a question most of us ask ourselves (sometimes on repeat!), and one many of us could use more guidance around. Knowing the answer matters for several reasons, and one is that it naturally generates polarity with a partner. In sex, dating, and relationships, you, as a man, will polarize women far more when you k…

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282: Anal sex! Yep, we’re talkin’ about it. (ft. Sara) 49:46

10M ago49:46

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Ever wanted to explore the dark side of the moon? ;) If you've ever been curious about anal sex -- or enjoy it already and want to hear what others have to say -- this one's for you. Here we hear from one woman who really enjoys anal, and another who hasn’t had great experiences with it (yet). We also talk a lot about how to open up a conversation …

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281: How do I say, 'I need you to have more support outside of just me?' (ft. Jason Lange) 55:31

11M ago55:31

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One pattern we've often seen in our clients (and lived ourselves) is feeling like our partner needs us in order to feel OK. This can start to feel like a burden, especially if it's a constant pattern. The truth is, it is each partner’s responsibility to tend to their nervous systems and be able to regulate their emotions enough to be able to regula…

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280: How do I tell my partner I want something different? (ft. Jason Lange) 1:00:17

11M ago1:00:17

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Ahhh, the conundrum: Your partner does something you don't like but you don't know how to say so, so you just let it ride (and resentment builds). Or there's something you do want from her ... but you don't know how to say it. This can also sound like, "How do I tell my partner I want something without seeming demanding?" or, "How do I share my nee…

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279: "You don’t have to be with someone who makes you feel like sh*t every day!" (ft. Jeff & Allison from the Love & Sex Podcast) 1:07:18

11M ago1:07:18

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Ever felt stuck in a sexless or passionless relationship? Or craved more in a relationship but didn't know how to get there? Then you're going to love this episode. Allison and Jeff were both in sexless marriages before they got together. And as is almost always the case, sex is about more than just the sex -- it's also about connection, intimacy, …

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278: Need a breakthrough? Try breathwork. (ft. Luke Adler) 1:07:22

11M ago1:07:22

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277: Want to maximize polarity? Learn to do this well. (ft. Jason Lange) 1:10:18

12M ago1:10:18

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Here's some potent relationship advice: Learn to be skillful with transitions! If you've ever been in a dating relationship or long-term, committed relationship, you've likely experienced the chaos that ensues if you don't handle transitions well. For example, if you come home from work and you're not actually ready to be present with your wife or …

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