325: What if *every* woman had a self-pleasure practice? (ft. Violet Lange)

Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women

Do you wish your woman was more open to sex? Not just intercourse, but the fun of the whole sex thing -- kissing, making out, foreplay, getting hot and heavy, doing the dirty.

Ever longed for more from your wife/girlfriend/partner when it comes to sexuality -- and not just "from her" but with her? Ever wished she had more fun when it came to sex, that she enjoyed it more, was more expressed and into it?

Many of our clients feel a yearning to connect more with their woman, but aren't even sure how to bring it up. Talking about sex is sensitive, and even more so if sexual trauma is part of the picture. And masturbation can be even harder to discuss, especially in partnership.

Here, we talk all things sexual opening and awakening when it comes to the feminine. We draw from our own personal journeys as well as countless stories from other women who've learned how to connect to their own erotic essence (separate from a partner), and the myriad benefits associated with that. We cover the many health benefits of masturbation, yoni eggs, cervical wands, breast massage, G-spot de-armoring and more.

To close this out, I'm gonna drop some slang terms for women getting themselves off, because they're all kinds of fab:

• Ménage à moi
• Auditioning the finger puppets
• Womansplaining yourself
• Fanning the fur
• Checking the undercarriage
• Buttering your muffin
• Diddling Miss Daisy
• and my personal favorite ... Paddling the pink canoe

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Mentioned on this episode:

• Dear Men 153: Her sexual healing: How to support her *and* get your needs met (ft. Violet Lange)
• Dear Men 191: Supporting a woman in her sexual pleasure & healing (ft. Violet Lange & Keri Nola) -- the one about jade eggs
• Jaiya's erotic blueprints
• Please Her In Bed (my streaming course for men who have sex with women)
• Evolutionary Couples (Violet & Jason's new course for couples)

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• “I’m in a relationship, I’m finally happy! Why don’t I want to have sex with my partner?!”
• “I hear this from moms all the time: sex is not a priority for me.”
• “Even if your libido feels like it’s dormant, you can still work with responsive desire.”
• “I really miss the closeness I feel with your body … I long for you.”
• “Let’s swim in the sea of erotic energy.”