@MYDBpodcast is a bite sized, real talk, daily motivation podcast to play while you make your bed every morning. Build momentum - better your life. Each season is 66 days long to encourage long term healthy habit integration into your daily life. Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. All content, including text, graphics, images and information, is for general information purposes onl ...
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One technique often used in CBT is socratic questioning and it's a really great way to get ahold of our negative thinking patterns. They're usually open ended questions that encourage us to "think about thinking"in a more productive way. RESOURCES: https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/socratic-questioning https://www.trigonweb.com/dowload/SOCRAT…
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When I first heard about CBT, I was annoyed. It felt generic, but that's because of how I learned about it. When I started applying the appropriate techniques to my specific situation, I realized how much the techniques can really affect (and improve) my life. Today we discuss what CBT is, and eventually we will get into the techniques that have he…
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1207 || how to build self awareness using time travel (revisited)
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today we're revisiting episode 1011 which was all about the "time traveling" we must do to discover our sense of self. by learning how to listen to the past, envision the future, and accommodate the present, we expand our sense of self to align within this current time in our lives. how does the sense of self affect how we behave? how does our self…
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1206 || there is good stuff all around you
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When things become familiar to us, we no longer acknowledge them. The drone of cicadas in the background becomes impossible to hear unless you’re really listening. The pile of papers on the table becomes impossible to see unless you’re reminded they need to move. Things that no longer pose a threat, become obsolete to our focus. This is the same th…
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1205 || contradictory feelings of returning home
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The act of returning home after spending a decade 1,100 miles away is a daunting one. There are direct contradictions to the way I feel at nearly every turn. Learning to bend with them has been a process but I am starting to realize, that's the whole damn point. The.Ashfiles Original Video: https://www.tiktok.com/@the.ashfiles/video/739699006612978…
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There’s something freeing about realizing it’s time to let go. Life’s cycles sometimes match with my own, and things feel serendipitous and “meant to be” but more often than not, life cycles move faster than my own + I’m forced to play catch up on changes and news that I wasn’t just unprepared for, but in denial about. But things do happen. Life su…
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Absurdism claims that existence, as a whole, is absurd and although objective meaning does not exist, it doesn't mean we can't find + create our own. We're allowed to change our minds + reflect at any time, because the only meaning that matters, is the meaning we decide matters. “The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely …
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personal rant about my current state. moving has made me realize how stagnant I really was. DONATE:www.pcrf.net Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:…
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People are in denial, because admitting we may need to become a part of the change is scary. Resistance is a common response to accountability. People will jump through mental hurdles to avoid admitting there may be a new physical one. That said, knowing better and doing better are two very different beasts. RESOURCES: https://www.psychologicalscie…
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conspiracies are all fun and games until they scapegoat entire groups of humans and cause real world harm. today, we're digging into the reality of conspiracy theories + what makes someone take a conspiracy too far. RESOURCES: https://www.gavi.org/vaccineswork/conspiracy-theories-are-dangerous-even-if-very-few-people-believe-them https://www.merria…
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so, here are some ways to take it a little less seriously. RESOURCE: https://medium.com/@lukaboenisch/dont-take-life-so-seriously-it-doesn-t-take-you-seriously-either-613fb1bef264 https://medium.com/@valuable_mindaro_jellyfish_659/14-things-that-make-games-fun-to-apply-to-gamify-life-06557a1bd722 DONATE:www.pcrf.net Get Involved:Operation Olive Bra…
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Our microbiome has a direct impact on our mental health, and the science is growing to support this. The more diverse our diet + microbiome, the healthier we are as we age. RESOURCE: https://www.brainfacts.org/thinking-sensing-and-behaving/diet-and-lifestyle/2024/the-growing-link-between-microbes-mood-and-mental-health-062724 DONATE:www.pcrf.net Ge…
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Today we're talking about Vivien Burr's book: Social Constructionism. The key ideas are: language impacts our reality, our history + culture + social hierarchy impacts our language, and we should be critical of everything we consider "true" because of this socialization. We put everything in a box to better understand it, but sometimes it can be he…
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Hope is one of the more valuable practices, but I often forget it's a practice + kinda just wait for it to hit, instead. Today we're discussing some thoughts about hope before diving into some actionable items on how to create + nurture more of it in your life. RESOURCES: https://news.asu.edu/20210615-solutions-science-hope-more-wishful-thinking ht…
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decided on a compilation of past nuggets that never made it to the IG feed (or did they???) but came from our magical backlog of over 1100 episodes. hope you enjoy this as much as I did! Familiar will typically always be more comfortable than the unfamiliar. Even if that familiar is fairly unhealthy. Many people are miserable and comfortable. Many …
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"I alone cannot do much. I am powerless as an “individual” in isolation. There is no effective organizing I can do alone. The most I can do is unlearn, seek community, radicalize enough to know in my soul that it is on US to struggle together & be open to an never-ending uncomfortable but liberating evolution of my political beliefs & ideas. The re…
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Sometimes I feel guilty about seeking happiness when I consider the state of the world. Apparently, this is a fairly common thing for people who are: lonely, anxious, depressed, perfectionist, experienced childhood trauma, etc. I hit quite a few of those checkboxes so I feel especially attacked. As a way to improve the maladaptive response, I am fo…
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Today's episode is a preview of an hour long extended episode I have available on Patreon. I have been wanting to talk about Project 2025 since I heard about it, but to say it's dense would be an understatement. This is my sincere attempt to make it more digestible. According to Wikipedia: Project 2025, also known as the 2025 Presidential Transitio…
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a lot of us struggle with identifying plants + relating to them, despite how important they are to sustaining us. in 2016 a study found that children were able to identify 1000 corporate logos and less than 10 native plants + animals. it's our job to become intentional about our attention to plants. RESOURCE: https://lithub.com/seeing-green-why-we-…
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If you become intentional about viewing your experience as a physical process, it can help you control how you perceive time. You can physically slow time or speed it up, depending on how you approach the mental process within each experience. RESOURCES: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2021/05/210518205451.htm https://www.sciencedaily.com/rel…
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Relationships are difficult because we all have cognitive biases we're dealing with on a constant basis. It's important to implement personal and relational boundaries so we can ensure we're approaching our situations with thoughtfulness + clarity. There are some tips to make that easier, but it takes practice to find the right balance for you and …
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Resource: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/intuition https://lithub.com/gut-feelings-how-does-intuition-work-anyway/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202407/3-ways-to-harness-your-intuition-to-make-flawless-decisions DONATE:www.pcrf.net Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERS…
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Highly sensitive children's deep processing makes them more likely to have a pessimistic outlook. They keenly analyze everything, which can take them to a dark place, wondering and worrying, "What if...?" Helping them reconsider their perspective - Claire Lerner LCSW-C RESOURCE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/zero-to-six/202407/how-to-supp…
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Psychology has historically focused its research on adverse childhood experiences. There is growing research on benevolent childhood experiences (BCEs). BCEs are correlated with flourishing and the light triad. A positive childhood environment influences the development of human flourishing and personality. - Scott Barry Kaufman RESOURCE: https://w…
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"A person's past can direct what they think, what they feel, how they behave, and how they interact.The influence of one's past self can often be unhealthy for one's present self. Empathy, embracing humanity, forgiveness, and acceptance can help people make peace with their past selves.Taking ownership, making amends, being the best version of ours…
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today we revisit an older episode that felt really relevant about reframing + escaping survival mode. DONATE:www.pcrf.net Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN O…
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Tides change every day, and so can you. It’s never too late to change your scenery, to change your routine, to change your vibe, or change your perspective. You have some control, and even when you feel like you’ve lost it, I promise you, it’s within your grasp when you’re ready to pick up the reigns again. I wrote a “healing handbook” a long time …
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1182 || how I deal with my suicidal thoughts
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for me, it starts with getting more comfortable with doing rather than getting it done. i'm a creative and imaginative person, so if i were to plan for every potential experience, i would never stop planning. delegating tasks to myself like a manager has helped me put in perspective how much extra rumination and over-planning i have put on myself, …
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it makes perfect logical sense that we choose to disassociate when we're feeling overwhelmed. if you've been in a perpetual cycle of overwhelm, it may help to focus on creating more space between you and the things that trigger that anxiety. it also may help to focus on one of the pillars of mental health: social connection, boundaries, time in nat…
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Disassociation is a standard responses to the trauma we experience from living in a wildly intense society - but, like most things, if we're not careful, we may get caught in a cycle of disassociation and hopelessness. I wanted to offer some reassurance around it + some ways to break out of the cycle with ease. RESOURCES: https://wokescientist.subs…
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Jenny Odell wrote the book "How To Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy" + much to my surprise, it's not just any old 'self help book', this is the real deal. Today, we discuss the concept of "usefulness" and "worth" based on two very different perspectives. Jenny Odell's writing: https://www.jennyodell.com/writing.html BUY THE BOOK: https:/…
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1177 || field guide to rotting (how to disconnect with intention)
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Disconnecting is an essential practice that I think a lot of us overlook the value of. For me, if I don’t take time to intentionally disconnect once in a while, my body will disconnect for me, without warning - in a way that is not easy to reconnect from. Of course, everyone’s experience with dissociation and disconnecting will be different. But - …
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1176 || sphere of influence vs. radius of awareness
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Constant exposure to information and crisis can reduce our ability to react, respond, or move forward with hope. It's incredibly overwhelming to know everything without knowing what to do with it. You must take action in your own life, in your own community, in your own ecosystem - if you want to shed that feeling of hopelessness. Our investment in…
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My life is now divided into 2 parts: the pre-Ayesha Khan version of me and the post-Ayesha Khan version of me. I truly started to feel like I was screaming into a void and though people "understood" where I was coming from, nobody seemed to know what to say about it. Ayesha Khan not only "gets it" but her hopefulness + intentionality has renewed my…
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Today we revisit an old nugget: low power mode. DONATE:www.pcrf.net Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast OR WATCH ON YOU…
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1173 || escaping the riptide of despair: patreon preview
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Sometimes I’m painfully reminded that hope is really all we have. When I am suffering most from the effects of grief, the hopelessness becomes overbearing and all-consuming. It feels impossible to avoid and it typically makes me feel like that’s how things will “always” be. This is why, I often encourage myself (and others) to take action as a remi…
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1172 || keeping hope alive (a la Ayesha Khan - Cosmic Anarchy)
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"Hopelessness is often most pervasive among the privileged who are more insulated from from overt violence." - Ayesha Khan SOURCE: https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/how-do-we-keep-hope-alive-in-our DONATE:www.pcrf.net Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.co…
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There are four main roles to play (when it comes to creating social change) and those are the citizen, reformer, rebel, change agent. Where do you feel the most natural? MAIN SOURCE: https://commonslibrary.org/bill-moyers-movement-action-plan-and-four-roles-of-activism/ Another resource: https://creaworld.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/All-About-Po…
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1169 || power structures + how to claim yours
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Yesterday I rambled on about power structures and today I want to clarify some of those thoughts. Primarily when it comes to the definition of Power. When a concept is this abstract it carries a different meaning for different individuals - based on our experiences and situations. There are so many words that carry different meanings for people: po…
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Empowerment starts as a personal experience, then grows to our close relationships, and eventually becomes the collective. Today, we dig into the concept of power as discussed in Jo Rowland's 1997 work: Empowerment Examined. THE COMMONS: https://commonslibrary.org/wp-content/uploads/How-to-Make-a-Difference-5-Stepes-to-be-an-Effective-Change-Maker-…
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1167 || authenticity + sense of self || rerelease
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If we become curious about ourselves, we'll start to realize what parts of our identity are really ours vs. what we think other's expect from us. DONATE:www.pcrf.net Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.…
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just getting back from a trip and a delayed flight means a re-release of a classic. DONATE:www.pcrf.net Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.pat…
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Humans are animals and I can’t tell you how hard it is for me to remember that fact. This is why it feels like, every time I am reminded of that fact - that we are all just big dumb animals - there’s a part of me that is humbled but there is a bigger part of me that is relieved because it feels like my failings are less of a personal attack and mor…
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It’s not about giving someone the world, it’s about making them feel like they are an important part of yours. Which means, it’s hard to do properly. It’s a ton of cognitive load to pay attention to, remember what, and constantly hunt for things with a perfect discernment. It’s really easy to fuck it up, and that’s okay too. I think,, fucks ups are…
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1162 || fighting the powers that be (and winning)
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"Climate change is here because of the current global systems, and that means that, eventually, the system will become obsolete. It already is when it comes to the survival of humanity. I think that ultimately people will come to see that the system doesn’t work for them. It’s never been designed to work for the masses." - Murrawah Maroochy Johnson…
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1161 || deescalating conflict + a little Deepak Chopra
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Most nations are more intent on policing the poor than the rich, when the opposite would be more effective, lucrative, and important. Tax evasion is estimated to cost Austria about one thousand times more than welfare fraud. RESOURCES: https://insidestory.org.au/the-case-for-banning-billionaires/ https://newint.org/equality/2024/what-if-we-banned-b…
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Most nations are more intent on policing the poor than the rich, when the opposite would be more effective, lucrative, and important. Tax evasion is estimated to cost Austria about one thousand times more than welfare fraud. RESOURCES: https://insidestory.org.au/the-case-for-banning-billionaires/ https://newint.org/equality/2024/what-if-we-banned-b…
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Riley Brooke wrote a dope ass article and I need everyone to hear it. Today we're talking capitalism, means of production, unions, exploitation, scabs, and profits. RESOURCE: https://rileybrooke.medium.com/for-beginners-what-is-capitalism-what-does-it-mean-to-be-anti-capitalist-9670e14f1122 DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/ GET INVOLVED: Operation Oliv…
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