There are at least two sides to every conflict, and when it's between divorced or separated parents, sparks can fly. In each episode, co-parenting experts Diane Dierks and Rick Voyles answer listener questions and talk about the benefits and risks of letting go vs. holding on to the conflict in a variety of complex topics facing co-parents today. Do you hold on for the sake of the children or let go for the same reason? Episodes are released every Sunday at noon. Listeners can email 1234Dile ...
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The Texas Family Law Insiders podcast brings together top divorce and family law attorneys and other professionals to discuss issues related to divorce, family law, child custody, child support, paternity, parental rights, grandparents’ rights, adoptions, and family law appeals in Texas.
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S4.E34. Caught in the Middle…Between My Ex and My Spouse!
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Listener Ashley is frustrated by both her husband and her co-parent. She frequently finds herself caught between them, and none of it is helpful to her 12-year-old son. Diane & Rick explore the difficulties of navigating this dilemma, and discuss both sides of the equation. WE HAVE A NEW RESOURCES PAGE ON THE WEBSITE! Visit www.CPDilemmas.com/resou…
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Dive into the transformative world of divorce coaching with Amy Tyson, a twice-divorced mother turned advocate, as she unveils her latest resources for families navigating the complex journey of divorce. In this episode, we are thrilled to welcome Amy back to the Texas Family Law Insiders podcast. Since we last spoke, Amy has continued to evolve he…
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S4.E33. Should I Send the Kids to a Toxic Household?
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Diane & Rick respond to a listener’s question about withholding parenting time due to a history of domestic violence and continued toxicity in their other home. What are the steps to determine safety issues? How do parents balance protecting children with the risk of being accused of parental alienation? The co-hosts break it down. WE HAVE A NEW RE…
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Diane and Rick answer listener Carlos’ question about the confusing paragraph in his parenting plan regarding the summer schedule. His co-parent is attempting to manipulate the schedule to get more time than the plan intends. The hosts discuss alternative ways to structure a plan like this and the importance of minimizing conflict for the children …
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Christine Andresen | The Intersection of LGBTQ+ Rights and Family Law
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In this episode, we dive deep into the intersection of LGBTQ+ issues and family law, a realm where the legal landscapes are as diverse as the clients served. My guest is Christine Andresen, founder of CHA Law in Austin, Texas, a firm that specializes in serving LGBTQ+ family law clients. Christine will share what family lawyers need to know about L…
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S4.E31. I Want to Ghost My Narcissistic Co-Parent!
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Listener Colleen wants to stop communicating with her co-parent so she can get emotional relief. Diane & Rick revisit the importance of following the structured email protocol and talk about the pitfalls of going silent or ignoring the impossible co-parent. WE HAVE A NEW RESOURCES PAGE ON THE WEBSITE! Visit www.CPDilemmas.com/resources to view the …
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S4.E30. “How Do I Get Her to Stop?” The Purpose of Boundaries
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Diane & Rick address Zachary’s question about how to get his co-parent to stop bringing her toxic boyfriend to the children’s activities. He worries the children will get in the middle of the conflict. They discuss the purpose of setting a boundary is for proactive self-protection, not to manage the other parent’s behavior. We are excited to announ…
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S4.E29. Is It Possible or Probable? Let That Be Your Guide
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Diane & Rick address listener Danny’s question about the top three issues facing high-conflict parents and how to resolve them. The hosts discuss the fact that the issues are not the problem, but what lies underneath them, such as the fears and threats that drive the conflict. They explore the idea that some conflicts are not worth fighting for if …
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Are Texas Protective Orders Constitutional?
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In this solo episode, Holly delves into the pivotal case she currently has pending before the Texas Supreme Court, Stary v. Ethridge, that challenges the constitutionality of the Texas protective order statute. Discover the nuances of Texas’ protective order statutes and the constitutional debate it ignites. Uncover the challenges and implications …
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Shawn asks a question about how to help her 19-year-old daughter repair her relationship with her father. Diane & Rick discuss the importance of acting parental no matter how old the child is. The discuss the daughter’s dilemma of not only competing for her father’s time, but dealing with the fact he married someone close to her age. We are excited…
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S4.E27. The Problem with Self-Representation
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Sometimes approaching your court case without an attorney can leave you vulnerable and without all the information you need to make good decisions. Diane & Rick explore a listener’s frustrations about her parenting plan language and how things may have been different if she had not run out of money and had to act pro se. We are excited to announce …
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Expert Insights into Enforcing Possession and Access
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In this episode, partners Holly Draper and Carrie Tapia discuss the complex issue of enforcing possession and access. Holly and Carrie bring their extensive expertise in family law to shed light on the often-challenging area of enforcing possession and access, offering valuable insights for both legal professionals and individuals navigating these …
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S4.E26. Who Gets Final Say? Another Parenting Plan Disaster
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Diane & Rick answer listener Ryan’s question about which therapist he and his co-parent should choose for their daughter. The one nearest dad or mom? What really matters? Is it possible to have a “harmonious” discussion, as their parenting plan orders them to do? You might be surprised by their answers. CLICK HERE to access the paragraph about Fina…
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S4.E25. Narcissism in Co-Parenting: What is it? How do you respond? Will your child be a narcissist, too?
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Diane & Rick discuss the mental health issues that are connected to someone with an extremely self-focused personality disorder, also known as a Narcissist. They differentiate the clinical information from what is promoted on social media and help listeners to determine how to respond to a narcissistic co-parent with good boundaries and not as a vi…
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Susan Fletcher | What Family Lawyers Need to Know About Intensive Reunification Therapy
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What is the impact of intensive reunification therapy in family law? Intensive reunification therapy is different than traditional reunification therapy, and it can potentially have many negative impacts on a family. In this episode, author and psychologist Susan Fletcher shares her expertise on intensive reunification therapy, a subject of growing…
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Diane & Rick explore the phenomenon of children engaging in “gaslighting” as a strategy to either survive their parents’ conflict or to manipulate a parent to get what they want. Is it a learned behavior from an alienating parent, or is it part of something deeper? The hosts break it down. If you have a problematic paragraph in your parenting plan …
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S4.E23. The Problem with Over-explaining a Concept!
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Listener Heather shares a paragraph from her parenting plan entitled “Special Considerations”. Diane& Rick explore how you can go too far in trying to explain an abstract phrase and find yourself right back into the conflict that prompted the language to begin with! Ultimately, they settle on the simple concept of doing what is right without expect…
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Jim Mueller | A Guide to Attorneys’ Fees in Family Law Cases
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Struggling with the intricacies of attorneys' fees in family law? In this episode, Jim Mueller, owner and managing partner at Verner Brumley Mueller Parker, PC, sheds light on the often-complex topic of attorneys' fees in family law cases and shares practical advice for family lawyers. Uncover the critical steps for securing attorneys' fees in fami…
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S4.E22. Infants, Toddlers, and Teens - Oh, My!
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Diane & Rick address listener Shary’s dilemma about parenting time with an infant. How much does the co-parent relationship determine the best schedule? The hosts break it down, as well as discuss the similarities between toddlers and teens when it comes to co-parenting issues. This episode is sponsored by SoberLink. For a discount on your device, …
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S4.E21. Fifth Weekend Dilemma: A Good Case for Letting Go
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In another episode in the parenting plan disaster series, Diane & Rick review Camile’s parenting plan language about 1st, 3rd, and 5th weekends. They discuss the problems with wording that seems fair in its attempt, but destined to create all kinds of unnecessary conflict. They provide a definition of “good faith” that would confuse the most astute…
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S4.E20. Birthday Party Disaster: Who’s in Charge?
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Listener Michael shares his problematic parenting plan language about birthday parties with Diane & Rick. They discuss not only the problem with the wording, but what really matters to the child — the one being honored by the celebrations. The hosts warn against creating language to manage co-parent conflict at the expense of the child. This episod…
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What are the best practices for alcohol monitoring in family law cases? My guest in this episode is Mike Fonseca, a national sales manager for Soberlink. He’s here to share his expertise on Soberlink and break down how this technology plays a role in family law. He’ll cover: Comparing alcohol monitoring technology’s effectiveness How Soberlink help…
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S4.E19. What DOES the Word “Dinner” Mean?: Splitting Hairs in the Parenting Plan
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Diane & Rick address a listener’s question about the meaning of dinner in his parenting plan. They discuss how some co-parents go to great lengths to misinterpret parenting plan language to interfere with the other parent’s time with the children. Discussed are ways to avoid these common traps and the unrealistic fears parents can have when their c…
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S4.E18. Triggered and Trapped by My Emotions!
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Listener Colleen writes to get advice on how to manage her emotions and not answer her co-parent’s lying emails and texts. Diane & Rick discuss the importance of becoming desensitized to the other parent’s trigger attempts. As well as practice resisting the temptation to respond as a coping skill for the anxiety. Also discussed are strategies to be…
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Where does post-C.J.C case law stand at the end of 2023? In this episode, I give an update on post-C.J.C cases since my last episode on this topic. Join me for an overview of each case and an analysis of how they could impact future parent vs. non-parent child custody cases. I’ll also cover the fit parent presumption and where the Texas Supreme Cou…
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S4.E17. Do I Give In to My Child’s Request to Stay Away?
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Diane and Rick look at a conflict that on the surface might seem easy to resolve for the Non-Impossible parent. But upon further exploration, they unpack long-lasting consequences to giving in to a child’s request to stay away from school events and activities. They also discuss a new segment that will be added to the show to look at problematic pa…
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Diane & Rick address Trudy’s email that asks the question, “Is it too late for me?” They discuss strategies to help a 15-year-old stuck in the crossfire of his parents’ conflict - ABOUT HIM! They also tackle the tough dilemma of the effectiveness of fighting for custody when that may be playing right into the narcissist’s playbook. Additionally, ca…
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S4.E15. You Broke Your Vows, So It’s All Your Fault!
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Listener Leah emails that her child is blaming her for his distress over the divorce because she “broke the vows” in her marriage to dad. Diane & Rick know this sentiment is not coming from the child. How do you counter that kind of attack from the other parent? The hosts discuss how to talk with the child to help him understand life choices and un…
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How can attorneys draft effective substantive motions? Often, I see attorneys drafting substantive motions poorly, which sometimes costs them wins for clients. In this episode, I share my top strategies for drafting substantive motions. I’ll cover: What is a substantive motion and how does it compare to a standard pleading? Pleas to the jurisdictio…
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S4.E14. What to Do with the Non-Communicator
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A non-impossible Facebook group contributor posts about a co-parent who refuses to communicate. Diane & Rick explore the fine line between setting an appropriate communication boundary and ghosting your co-parent. Is it about the technique or the attitude? They discuss the necessity of both. FINALLY, the digital version of our Communication Protoco…
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Listener Travis asks how to manage holidays with the children when his co-parent historically makes plans on his time. He’s tired of her sabotaging every holiday, but doesn’t want the kids to be stuck in the middle. Should he set a boundary with her or let it go? Diane & Rick break it down. You’ll find instructions about this method in the I Am Non…
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Is decision fatigue impacting your performance? Day after day, attorneys are called on to make hundreds of decisions… Without the proper rest and recovery, your brain can become overwhelmed. In this episode, Susan Myres unpacks what decision fatigue is and shares how attorneys can manage and overcome decision fatigue so we can show up as our best s…
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S4.E12. What to Do with Those Liars, Cheats & Scoundrels
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Diane & Rick reach into the listener mailbag to reveal how listeners are benefitting from the show and how they continue to feel railroaded by the court system. They discuss how some disordered people get away with attaching themselves to good people and then proceed to wreak havoc on their lives! Want to know more about the DRAGON method? CLICK HE…
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S4.E11. My Mom Wants to Tell Me How to Co-Parent!
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Co-parenting with an impossible parent can be difficult enough, but what happens when grandparents get involved and make things worse? Listener Chrislyn asks Diane & Rick to weigh in about this on the show. They discuss the importance of boundaries in all relationships, especially the parent/adult child one. They walk Chrislyn through the DRAGON me…
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Desiree Hemphill | Navigating Possession Schedules
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Possession schedules can be a complicated aspect of divorce cases, especially when a family has unique needs that aren’t met by the standard possession schedules. In this episode, I’m joined by Draper Law Firm associate attorney Desiree Hemphill to discuss possession schedules and how family lawyers can handle them. We’ll cover: What is the standar…
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S4.E10. Part Two: An Inside Look into Family Court Hearings
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As a follow up to Part One, Diane and Rick describe the family court hearing they recently attended and interview one of the parties. They get a first-hand perspective about the personal devastation these types of cases cause, even when there is a capable judge in place. How does it feel to prepare for years for a final hearing, only to be complete…
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S4.E9. Part One: Holding Family Court Judges Accountable
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Diane & Rick report on a recent court hearing they attended, in which the judge admonished the parties to never come back to the court, if they knew what was best for the children. Diane questions what that really means. Is that possible? What if you have no choice? How can judges have so much power to affect the lives of innocent parties who reall…
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Carrie Tapia | Top Tips for Preparing for a Hearing
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In this episode, we’re taking it back to basics… What are the best practices when preparing for a hearing? Whether you’re a seasoned expert or a new attorney, it’s always a good idea to review the fundamentals, so Holly Draper and Senior Attorney Carrie Tapia are here to share their favorite tips on preparing for hearings, including: Preparing a su…
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What if your co-parent informed you, after the fact, that your child was baptized — and according to your child, all of his/her extended family attended?! How do you respond when your child wants to know why you weren’t there? Diane & Rick discuss the difficulty of dealing with a co-parent who purposely leaves the other parent out of major decision…
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Diane & Rick reach into the mailbag and answer several listener questions about common topics facing parents with impossibles on the other side. They discuss a variety of topics on the show and give episode reference numbers for listeners to hear more about each topic from past episodes. FINALLY, the digital version of our Communication Protocol Wo…
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Grandparents have extremely limited rights in Texas, and it’s important for attorneys to understand exactly when grandparents can obtain access and when they cannot. In this solo episode, I delve into the topic of grandparent access cases. These cases deal with some of the same constitutional implications as CJC but have their own distinct statutes…
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S4.E6. Grieving - Loss, Children, Relationship & the Dream
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Diane & Rick discuss three types of grief parents can experience after separation and divorce. They focus on complicated and ambiguous grief, when the natural healing process is interrupted by toxic co-parents or alienating behaviors. Also discussed are ways parents can address these more complex processes that can feel so painful and destructive t…
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Diane & Rick take a deep dive into what parental alienation feels like from the child’s perspective. From having trust issues in relationships to learning to lie to survive, they explore the destructive impact alienation has for children long-term. Also discussed are ways to respond to an alienated child and what to do if you are an adult survivor …
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Sarah Fox | Criminal Implications in Family Law
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The realms of family law and criminal law often intersect. How can family lawyers handle the overlap between these two areas? In this episode, I’m joined by Sarah Fox, who practices both family and criminal law and owns The Fox Firm, PLLC. She’ll answer common questions about two major criminal law topics that can affect family law cases: drug issu…
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In this unique episode, Diane and Rick stay silent (shocking :-), so the voices of alienated parents can be heard. They discuss their personal pain, but more importantly, how alienation deeply hurts the children and their relationships with siblings and other family members. Be first in line for individual co-parent coaching, being launched by CNFC…
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Author Dana Laquidara joins the show to discuss her memoir,You Know Who, referring to the mother she was never allowed to talk about as a child. This episode drives home the concept that alienating a child from a parent has lifetime negative consequences. Click here to order the book, You Know Who, and to learn more about Dana, visit www.Dana Laqui…
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Robert Greening | The Intersection of Personal Injury Law & Family Law
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Why is it important for family lawyers to have a basic understanding of personal injury law? In this episode, I’m joined by Robert Greening, principal and founder at GreeningLaw, P.C. in Dallas, Texas. Robert has spent the last 33 years of his life as a personal injury attorney, helping people receive justice and peace of mind. He’s here to share t…
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Diane & Rick welcome author William McGee to discuss his novel, Half the Child. The main character in the book struggles with parental alienation and naively thinks the court will rule in the best interests of the child. He has a rude awakening, as he realizes the system designed to help him is destroying his life. To order the book, Half the Child…
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S4.E1. Closing One Chapter and Opening Another
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Diane & Rick begin Season 4 with the final chapter of the Case from Hell. If you haven’t listened to Season 2, binge it before listening to this emotional episode that describes Diane’s experience attending Sarah’s final hearing. This is the perfect episode to kick off our Parental Alienation month in September. Get ready to hear how we plan to hol…
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Natalie Webb | Understanding the Hague Convention
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Most family lawyers don’t know enough about the Hague Convention on International Child Abduction… What are the must-know facts that family lawyers should be aware of if this convention becomes relevant to a client? In this episode, Natalie Webb of Webb Family Law will break down the Hague Convention and its impact on family law. She’ll cover: When…
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