Best Sharon Costanzo Podcasts (2024)

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154. Three Strategies for Getting Your Needs Met in an Intimate Relationship 19:14

3h ago19:14

19:14

In this episode, Sharon discusses three levels of expressing your needs to your partner—invitation, request, and demand — and how each approach is based on how important the issue is to you. Consider these three tools to frame requests in a way that fosters collaboration and mutual respect, helping your partner feel engaged and successful in meetin…

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153. Applying an Engineering Mindset to Relationship Goals with Gabriela Embon 37:45

3d ago37:45

37:45

Schedule a Gridlock Breakthrough Session and get the clarity and confidence you need to address a relationship challenge: https://www.respectedandconnected.com/gridlock --- Would you be surprised to know that aspects of engineering can be applied to strengthen relationships? Our Guest today, Gabriela Embon, shares with us how the mindset of an engi…

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152. Transforming Relationships with Relational Life Therapy 27:50

10d ago27:50

27:50

Have you ever heard of Relational Life Therapy? It’s an incredible tool in couple’s therapy! In this episode Sharon takes a moment to describe what Relational Life Therapy is, how it confronts gender norms and empowers couple’s to approach each other on an equal field. Learn how RLT can help you show up with love and authenticity to deepen your con…

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151. Navigating Insecure Attachment with Bev Mitelman 53:41

17d ago53:41

53:41

Have you ever wondered how your past relationships have shaped your emotional responses to your partner? This episode explores the four different relationship attachment styles. Our Guest today is Bev Mitelman M.A., the founder of Securely Loved. Bev and Sharon dive into attachment styles, and how those subconscious patterns affect how we perceive …

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150. Disappointment Detox: How to Handle Letdowns in Relationships 31:15

24d ago31:15

31:15

Tired of feeling let down or resentful in your relationships? This episode explores the hidden power of disappointment. Sharon dives deep into common mistakes we make when dealing with unmet expectations. Learn practical skills like the "Feedback Wheel" and "Soft Startup" to transform conflict into connection. Discover how to avoid unhealthy coping…

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149. Connection, Boundaries, & Unconditional Love with Zach Beach 39:20

1M ago39:20

39:20

Is unconditional love a worthwhile aspiration or an unrealistic expectation? In this episode, Zach Beach shares his insights on the concept of unconditional love and how it can be navigated alongside the necessary boundaries in various relationships. He emphasizes the importance of setting intentions and aspirations, the significance of integrating…

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Ep 148: Divine Ecstatic Mystical Love with Andrew Harvey 54:27

11d ago54:27

54:27

How can we fall madly in love with all of life? What can spiritual traditions teach us about activism? Why do mystics from very different religious traditions report the same ecstatic joyful loving divine experience? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach inter…

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148. Setting Reasonable Expectations in Intimate Relationships 21:33

1M ago21:33

21:33

Do you ever hold back in asking for what you want in your relationship because you’re not sure if your expectations are reasonable? I hear this all the time. And while I sometimes think that people do have unrealistic expectations of their intimate relationships, I also think that we’re asking the wrong question. In this episode, we discuss: A few …

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147. Helping Men Understand Changing Needs & Expectations in Modern Relationships with Kristal DeSantis 36:58

2M ago36:58

36:58

Men…do you know what your partner needs to feel safe & provided for in today’s relationships? Because it has changed. Kristal DeSantis is a marriage and family therapist who specializes in men’s issues. She’s the author of the book Strong: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man. And she’s on the podcast today to talk about some of the ideas …

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146. Navigating Challenging Phases of Relationships: Shifting From Power Struggle to Mature Love 29:20

2M ago29:20

29:20

What do you do when you’re doing your best to use good relationship skills and your partner isn’t responding well? If you’ve ever felt like things go wrong no matter how hard you try, this episode is for you. Topics discussed: Understanding relationship phases - love without knowledge, knowledge without love, and knowing love Identifying common rea…

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Ep 147: Reconciling the Desire and the Domestic with Sharon Costanzo 51:13

2M ago51:13

51:13

How do we find equal footing in relationships without getting too transactional or resenting the unfairness of relationships? What’s the best way to approach the balance between childcare, chores, and money?Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the …

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Ep 146: Living Apart Together with Vicki Larson 48:07

1M ago48:07

48:07

What are some different ways couples can Live Apart Together? What are some myths and advantages of such a style? What practices ensure the success of LAT relationships? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the award-winning journalist and author, …

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145. The Enneagram as a Tool for Relationship Growth with Laurel Roberts-Meese 47:58

2M ago47:58

47:58

Have you ever used a personality test to help you understand your partner or your relationship better? Today’s guest Laurel Roberts-Meese is a therapist who uses the enneagram with individuals and couples to help them understand their fears, motivations, and behaviors better. Topics discussed: The nine enneagram types, their fears, and motivations …

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144. Avoiding Relationship Ruts: How and When to Get Help 24:20

2M ago24:20

24:20

One question that I get often as a relationship coach is - when should someone see a professional for help with their relationship? A lot of us have an idea of the BIG things that end most relationships like abuse and infidelity, but what about everything else? What about couples that just feel stuck, aren’t feeling close, fight too much…but don’t …

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143. Redefining Relationship Dynamics: A conversation with Bruce Chalmer & Judy Alexander 42:51

3M ago42:51

42:51

Hear Sharon on the other end of the mic in this conversation with hosts of the Couples Therapy in Seven Words podcast. Topics discussed: Sharon’s personal journey navigating cultural expectations, pursuing a career in engineering, and advocating for a more equitable relationship Navigating gender role conflicts Advocating for yourself by “calling i…

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142. Understanding and Reprogramming Attachment Styles with Thais Gibson 42:53

3M ago42:53

42:53

Have you ever wondered why you and your partner can view the same situation so differently? You can’t even agree about what happened and how you should handle it. Trying to make up that difference and get on the same page can be absolutely mind boggling. Today’s guest, Thais Gibson, is here to help. We’re talking about attachment styles and underst…

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Ep 145: Living a Vibrant Life after Sexual Trauma with Charna Cassell, MFT 47:02

3M ago47:02

47:02

Why is trauma so pernicious? What is the window of tolerance? How does a somatic approach to healing differ from talk therapy? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the Psychotherapist and Sexuality Coach Charna Cassell on Living a Vibrant Life afte…

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141. Five Ways to Overcome Resentment in Your Marriage 25:44

3M ago25:44

25:44

Do you hate feeling resentful toward your partner and not knowing what to do about it? Resentment is a tricky emotion. It tells you that something is wrong, but it’s not very good at helping you move forward. It’s not fair to you or your partner to stay stuck in resentment. So today I’m sharing five ways to overcome resentment in your marriage, so …

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140. Creating a Healthy Co-parenting Relationship After Divorce, with Julia Hoffman 40:19

3M ago40:19

40:19

We hear all the time that co-parenting with your ex is hard. And it seems almost inevitable that you’re going to be arguing and maybe even taking each other to court often between the time that you split until the kids have all grown. Our guest today - Julia Hoffman - says it doesn’t have to be that way. You can choose to have a different kind of c…

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Ep 144: Betrayal and Forgiveness with Bruce Chalmer 48:14

3M ago48:14

48:14

What is betrayal and is it inevitable? Can a relationship become stronger and better after betrayal? What are the three stages to forgiveness? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the psychologist and author Dr. Bruce Chalmer on Betrayal and Forgiv…

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139. Four Steps to a Better Marriage with the Better Marriage Blueprint 17:05

4M ago17:05

17:05

We hear all the time that marriage is work. But nobody is talking about what that work is, how to work with a less enthusiastic partner, when what you’ve got is as good as it gets, or when to shift gears and try something else. In this episode, Sharon breaks down her four part framework for realistic, lasting relationship growth. Topics Discussed: …

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138. Contemplating Divorce with Anna Howerton 41:53

4M ago41:53

41:53

What should you do if you’re unhappy enough in your marriage to consider divorce? Divorce is expensive, it’s messy, and complicated. And it’s hard for kids. But staying in a marriage that isn’t working is also a really hard and painful way to live. Anna Howerton joins the podcast to talk about navigating the divorce contemplation phase. Listen to l…

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Ep 143: Loving Without Losing Your Mind with Todd Baratz 32:47

4M ago32:47

32:47

What does a lot of common relationship advice get wrong? Why do people sometimes feel like they’re losing their minds in their relationship? What does it mean to become, rather than find, ourselves? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the therapis…

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137. Setting Boundaries With Difficult Behavior 17:34

4M ago17:34

17:34

Would you like to learn how to set boundaries around difficult behavior without creating more drama? In this episode, we dive into the often discussed but misunderstood concept of boundaries. Sharon shares some ideas for de-escalating and neutralizing offensive behavior without being punitive or provocative. Website and Linktree: Get the full show …

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136. How to do Conflict Right with Kat Newport 32:13

4M ago32:13

32:13

Let’s face it. Most of us haven’t been taught how to do conflict well. And our lack of skill in tough conversations can really wreak havoc on our relationships. In this episode, host Sharon Costanzo talks to Kat Newport about the principles from her book Smart Conflict. Kat has done some brilliant work identifying and teaching the core skills for n…

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Ep 142: How Stress Is Destroying Your Relationship with Elizabeth Earnshaw 46:08

4M ago46:08

46:08

Are we more stressed than ever before? How does stress affect our ability to relate? What is the good enough life? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the therapist and author, Elizabeth Earnshaw on How Stress Is Destroying Relationships For more …

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135. Seeing Your Relationship Blind Spots with Jessica Myers-Adams 42:47

4M ago42:47

42:47

Feel like you’re doing too much work in your relationship? Jessica Myers-Adams, a certified therapist and relationship coach talks about the power of being a relationship visionary. We explore practical strategies for improving relationships even in the face of personal challenges & disappointment. We discuss: the importance of self and other diffe…

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134. Stability, Intimacy, and the Power of Faith in Relationships with Dr. Bruce Chalmer 26:14

5M ago26:14

26:14

Can too much stability in a relationship be a bad thing? Dr. Bruce Chalmer, a psychologist with over 30 years of experience in couples therapy says that often couples get so good at stability in their relationship that they neglect their need for intimacy. We discuss: The tension between stability & intimacy in relationships Bruce’s seven word form…

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Ep 141: Make your relationship STRONG with Kristal DeSantis 40:41

5M ago40:41

40:41

What are the foundations for a STRONG relationship? What can men do to build trust and safety with their partners? What is the heartbeat of emotional connection? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the therapist and author, Kristal DeSantis on Mak…

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133. Challenging the 'Let the Man Lead' Paradigm with Corrie Woods 53:54

5M ago53:54

53:54

A very casual conversation with Corrie Woods about our mutual dislike for the very common relationship advice to “let men lead.” Website and Linktree: Get the full show notes and links to the resources mentioned at https://respectedandconnected.com/podcast/b/ep-133 Sign up for the next Thriving Together Couples Call: https://www.respectedandconnect…

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132. Understanding “Nice Guys” in Relationships with Jason Lange 42:17

5M ago42:17

42:17

What’s wrong with being a “Nice Guy” anyway? Jason Lange, a specialist in men’s issues, particularly the Nice Guy Syndrome shares his insights on the evolution of men’s roles and the importance of being connected with one’s power, head, and heart. We discuss: What is the Nice Guy Syndrome and how do men develop it Challenges and misconceptions abou…

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Ep 140: The Wound of Love: Mysticism & Eroticism with David M. Odorisio, PhD 47:06

5M ago47:06

47:06

Are we seeing a resurgence in mystical practices? How is eros foundational to an interpretation of scripture? What can mystical writings teach us about attachment theory? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the professor, editor, and researcher Da…

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131. Defining and Creating a Partnership Marriage with Dr. Julie Hanks 33:08

5M ago33:08

33:08

Have you ever felt hesitant to speak up and advocate for the supportive partnership that you want? Dr. Julie Hanks, a licensed therapist, owner of Wasatch Family Therapy, and well known influencer, shares her insights on creating partnership families and the challenges that often come with this endeavor. We discuss: The concept of aspirational sham…

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130. The Pain of Partnering with Men with Dr. Eric FitzMedrud 39:24

6M ago39:24

39:24

Would you like to experience greater intimacy and connection with your male partner? In this episode, we welcome Eric Fitz Medrud, a therapist specializing in relationships and men's issues. Eric shares his personal journey from struggling with his own desires and ethical values to becoming a specialist in relationship and sexuality therapy. He hig…

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Ep 139: Improving Mother-Daughter Relationships with Debra Mandel, Ph.D. 43:50

6M ago43:50

43:50

How have gender roles shifted in our relationships? How can struggling mothers connect better with their daughters? What does it mean to have a family-centered family? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the author, psychologist and Love Warrior, …

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129. Reclaiming Intimacy: Navigating Sexual Shame and Marriage with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers 35:45

6M ago35:45

35:45

What did you learn about sex growing up and how is it impacting your marriage? In this enlightening episode, we sit down with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, an esteemed author and sex therapist, to explore the profound impact of sexual shame on intimacy and relationships. Dr. Sellers shares her extensive knowledge on the subject, drawing from years of …

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128. What to do When Your Spouse Says No 17:58

6M ago17:58

17:58

What’s the best way to respond when your spouse rejects your carefully considered requests? In this episode, we dive into the often overlooked yet critical topic of dealing with rejection in marriage. Sharon shares valuable insights on maintaining a healthy relationship despite disappointments. Listen to learn how to handle rejection with grace and…

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Ep 138: Becoming Better Men with Eric FitzMedrud, PhD 47:18

6M ago47:18

47:18

What’s up with men? Are they under attack, or finally being held accountable? What are the first steps to making better men? What is the only love that really matters? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the therapist and author Eric FitzMedrud on…

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127. Understanding and Valuing Personality Differences in Relationships with Erin Woodruff 34:34

6M ago34:34

34:34

Do you ever wonder if your marriage would be easier if your spouse was just a little more like you? In this insightful episode, we delve into the complexities and beauty of personality differences within relationships. Our guest, Erin Woodruff, a life coach who specializes in helping high-achieving women stay happily married to introverts, joins us…

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Welcome to Respected & Connected 1:34

6M ago1:34

1:34

Welcome to Respected & Connected the podcast dedicated to helping couples build more balanced and equitable relationships. Whether you're in the thick of raising kids and trying to establish a career or you’re considering what you want your empty nester chapter to look like our conversations are here to empower you and validate your experiences. In…

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126. The Power of Being Free to be Yourself with Megan Gibson 41:04

7M ago41:04

41:04

Tired of the old advice on the "right" way to get what you need in your relationships? Discover the transformative power of discovering your true identity and how your relationships can benefit with Megan Gibson. We discuss: The journey from people-pleasing to self-empowerment How to identify and let go of false identities Practical tips for aligni…

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Ep 137: Overcoming Anxious Attachment with Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD 42:07

7M ago42:07

42:07

Are we living in anxious times? What is compassionate self-awareness? How can an understanding of our “model of self” help us build a more secure attachment style? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the author, speaker, and psychologist Leslie Be…

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125. Navigating Relationship Challenges: Couples vs. Individual Work 11:41

7M ago11:41

11:41

Many couples facing relationship issues are faced with the question - do we need help as a couple or do we need to do individual work first? In this episode we're exploring the differences between individual work and couples work and when you should consider each type. We discuss: The risks and benefits of couples work The limitations of individual…

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124. Healing Relationships in the Aftermath of a Child's Suicide with Lark Galley 32:35

7M ago32:35

32:35

In this podcast episode, Sharon interviews Lark Galley, a wife and mother who has experienced the profound grief of losing a son to suicide. Lark shares the challenges this tragedy posed to her marriage and how it has affected both her and her husband's perception of success, personal achievements, and their relationship with each other. We explore…

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Ep 136: All about Limerence with Thais Gibson 55:22

7M ago55:22

55:22

What does it mean to learn about love? What is limerence? What is the difference between love and infatuation? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the author, therapist, and attachment expert, Thais Gibson, on limerence. For more on this episode c…

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123. Empowering Your Relationship: Dealing with Burnout and Building Resilience 20:25

7M ago20:25

20:25

Working on your marriage without seeing any noticeable results is exhausting. If you're running out of energy and motivation to work on your marriage, but you're not ready to walk away, this episode is for you. We talk about three reasons we get burned out on working on our relationships and some ideas for how you can address them, so that you can …

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122. Redefining Power and Self-Connection with Violetta Znorkowski 29:34

7M ago29:34

29:34

Violetta Znorkowski is on a mission to close the gender gap from the inside out. Listen in for an insightful conversation about: Recovering from hustle culture Self-leadership Recognizing and releasing emotions that don't serve us Redefining personal empowerment & success Navigating gender biases Get the full show notes and links to the resources m…

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Ep 135: Speaking From the Heart with Dr. Heather Browne, PsyD, LMFT 47:40

8M ago47:40

47:40

If the heart could speak, what would it say? What is the one lie that destroys relationships? What are the five components of healthy communication? Find out the answer to these questions and more in this week's episode of The Learn to Love Podcast, where your host Zach Beach interviews the therapist, speaker, and author Dr. Heather Browne on Speak…

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121. Making The Decision to Seek Help With Your Marriage 16:07

8M ago16:07

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Making the decision to get help with your marriage can be difficult, especially if you want help more than your spouse does. If you're on the fence about getting help because you don't know if things are bad enough to warrant it or if you're afraid to rock the boat this episode is for you. We're talking about: signs to look for, the value of third-…

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120. How to Rebuild Trust & Connection After a Major Conflict or Disappointment 22:17

8M ago22:17

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If you're in a relationship for any period of time you're going to experience a major conflict or disappointment and that is not easy to deal with. In this episode we share what it takes to rebuild trust and connection after conflict and disappointment so that you can grow together as a couple instead of slowly drifting apart. We discuss: The impor…

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