88. Reparent Your Daddy Issues

A Jaded Gay

Daddy issues is a colloquial term often used to stigmatize psychological or emotional challenges that may arise in an individual's life due to a perceived absence, neglect, or strained relationship with their father. Some gay men may experience their fathers subtly distancing themselves as a form of rejection of their sexuality, which has the potential to negatively influence the way they learn to navigate and sustain lasting relationships between men.
In this episode, we’re discussing the nuances of daddy issues, exploring their definition and manifestations, the distinct effects on gay men, featuring insightful perspectives from The Velvet Rage by Dr. Alan Downes, and exploring pathways to healing and navigating the complex terrain of daddy issues in the LGBTQ+ community.
Related Episodes:

• Listen to Episode 13. Perfectly Imperfect: Conquer Your Perfectionism
• Listen to Episode 15. Understanding Attachment Styles
• Listen to Episode 47. Say Goodbye to Abandonment Issues
• Listen to Episode 70. Good Grief: How to Cope with Loss
• Listen to Episode 71. Queer Grief
• Listen to Episode 74. Unmask Your Trust Issues

Additional Resources:

• Daddy Issues Definition (Dictionary.com)
• ‘Daddy Issues’ and Their Impact on Adult Relationships
• What Are “Daddy Issues”?
• “Do I Have Daddy Issues?” Ask a Therapist
• Read The Velvet Rage by Dr. Alan Downs
• Why is it so Difficult for Some Gay Men to Find a Partner?
• What Are 'Daddy Issues'?
• Yes, ‘Daddy Issues’ Are a Real Thing — Here’s How to Deal
• Daddy Issues: The Age-Old Stigma Around Intergenerational Relationships

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Chapters

1. Snarky Opener (00:00:00)

2. Episode Introduction (00:00:25)

3. Daddy Issues (00:02:18)

4. Tarot (00:03:16)

5. What Are Daddy Issues? (00:04:35)

6. The Oedipus and Electra Complexes (00:05:36)

7. Personal Opinion (00:06:26)

8. John Bowlby’s Attachment Theory (00:07:55)

9. Factors That Can Lead to Daddy Issues (00:09:35)

10. Trauma Causing Types of Fathers (00:11:23)

11. Daddy Issues’ Impact on Relationships (00:13:29)

12. Gay Men’s Childhood Development & Daddy Issues (00:15:49)

13. The First Man We Loved (00:18:56)

14. Deprived of a Model Relationship (00:19:51)

15. Breaking the Cycle of Hurt (00:21:12)

16. Core Themes of Daddy Issues in Relationships (00:22:20)

17. Signs of Daddy Issues (00:23:44)

18. Reparent Your Daddy Issues (00:24:51)

19. Phases to Overcoming Daddy Issues (00:25:44)

20. Debunking Stereotypes About Daddy Issues (00:26:59)

21. Episode Closing (00:28:43)

22. Connect with A Jaded Gay (00:31:03)

23. Outtake (00:33:19)