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CALLING ALL COUPLES WHO WANT TO REBUILD TRUST: If your partner hurt you - crucial steps for change
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NOTE: This is only for couples who WANT to make their relationship work and rebuild trust.
There's been an injury in your relationship.
You might have been hurt by your partner's actions. They might have been critical or judgemental. They might have ignored you when you needed them or betrayed you when you trusted them.
Your partner (who did the act) wants to change, they're showing signs of remorse but they're also not sure of what they need to do to make it better.
They scramble around trying to do "everything to fix it" and they might show you excessive signs that they're sorry or signs of affection.
But you're still doubtful over their every move they take.
And not only that - they then start to feel fed up because "they can't seem to fix it" or "make you believe them".
So one of the primary questions for the person who is injured: How do you KNOW for sure that your partner's remorse and change is genuine?
And for the person who is looking to repair the rupture in the relationship, the question is: What do you need to do to show your partner that you're genuinely wanting to take the steps to make this relationship work?
1. Trust needs to be built from sub-ground levels upwards (be ok with this).
2. Humility and fallibility
3. Cognitive and emotional empathy
4. Psychological safety (remove defenses and urges of the ego)
5. Eliminating testing behaviours (observation and time will give you the truth)
All your answers are in this episode - enjoy!
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