Amends, Apologies, and Forgiveness - Ep 636

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The truth is out West! We’re hopping on the ET Highway and venturing to the most notorious alien hot spots, including Roswell’s infamous crash site, Area 51’s eerie perimeter, and a mysterious desert watchtower. Join us as journalist Laura Krantz, host of the podcast Wild Thing , beams up to share stories from the front lines of UFO reporting—from strange sightings and quirky festivals to a mailbox where people leave letters to extraterrestrials. Maybe you’ll even decide for yourself: Is Earth a tourist stop for spaceships? UFO hot spots you’ll encounter in this episode: - UFO Watchtower (near Great Sand Dunes National Park, Colorado) - Roswell, New Mexico - Area 51, Nevada - Extraterrestrial Highway (aka State Route 375), Nevada - Little A’Le’Inn, ET Highway, Nevada - E.T. Fresh Jerky, ET Highway, Nevada - Alien Research Center, ET Highway, Nevada - The Black Mailbox, ET Highway, Nevada Via Podcast is a production of AAA Mountain West Group .…

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Dr. Reedy talks about the characteristics of an authentic apology. He explains the difference between an apology and an amends. He explains that forgiveness is not a future but something we can do when we can do it - we do it when we can so that we can feel better.

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Amends, Apologies, and Forgiveness - Ep 636

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Being the Villain in Your Child’s Story (AMA) - Ep 668 59:23

5 days ago59:23

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Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on attachment, parenting, and relationships. He talks about how a parent’s self-acceptance, which leads to self-awareness, is the key to your children's healthy development. He explains that self-compassion is the key to greater awareness and consciousness. And he talks about how boundaries and skills are really the evidence or signposts that reveal where we are on our journey. He emphatically points out that the goal in therapy is not to be so good we are beyond reproach, but rather the outcome of therapy is learning to love and see our "horrible, rotten, human, fallible, lovable, selves."…

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What if I am the only one doing the work? - Ep 667 1:07:48

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Dr. Reedy discusses what to do when you are the only one in your circle doing their therapy work. He talks about how therapy changes us and how we can get stuck in trying to change the people around us..

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Conscious Parenting Workshop: A Teaser - Ep 665 58:54

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Conscious Parenting Workshop: A Teaser - Ep 665 by Dr. Brad Reedy

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Couples: Falling in Love with Your Partner's Dilemma - Ep 664 47:28

20 days ago47:28

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Dr. Reedy talks about he benefit of understanding yourself and your partner better by understanding how each one's childhood shaped personality.

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The Journey of the Heroic Parent: 10-Years Later - Ep 663 1:02:44

28 days ago1:02:44

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Dr. Reedy discusses his first book, The Journey of the Heroic Parent and how his work has evolved since then. He describes the goal of the book as one to help parents become their own expert by learning how to think differently about parenting. He emphatically invites parents to do their own work and to explore their own histories, their own psychology.…

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The Power of Our Contexts - Ep 662 1:00:51

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#MentalHealthMatters #HealthyRelationships #ParentingSupport #AddictionRecovery #EmotionalWellness #MindfulParenting #TraumaInformed #SelfCareJourney #RelationshipAdvice #PsychologicalSafety #HealingJourney #FamilyDynamics #MentalHealthAwareness #OvercomingAnxiety #BreakTheStigma #PersonalGrowth #MindBodyConnection #WellnessWarrior #LifeCoaching #ResilienceBuilding…

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Why is “Small-t” Trauma So Insidious. (A.M.A.) – Ep 661 37:53

5 weeks ago37:53

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In this Ask Me Anything episode, Dr. Reedy takes questions from the audience on topics ranging from how we communicate our energy to our children, making the unconscious – conscious, debunking the cause and effect thinking, and how small-t trauma is insidious. He answers a question on shadow work. And he talks about how to handle the mistakes we have made as parents when our children remain angry.…

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Finding Peace in Uncertain Times - Ep 660 1:00:49

6 weeks ago1:00:49

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In this episode, Dr. Reedy discusses how so many clients are coming to therapy with great worries and distress due to the tumultuous events in the world. He suggests that we need to become more discerning with the news we consume. He proposes that peace is found by focusing on what we can control. He talks about the Buddhist concepts of impermanence, radical acceptance, and mindfulness.…

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Religious Trauma – Ep 658 57:42

7 weeks ago57:42

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In this episode, Dr. Reedy discusses religious trauma and what kinds of family systems are at the greatest risk. He distinguishes religion from moral development and spiritual development. He talks about how families with dogmatic, strict-father-styles use religion to control, intimidate, and mold their children. He discusses how religion can be used as a defense against the experience of God and how religion can prevent spiritual development. He discusses the function of religion within a spiritual life. He talks about how many clients come to therapy with a history of religious trauma.…

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An Interview with Noah Rasheta (Secular Buddhism Podcast Host) - Ep 659 50:43

7 weeks ago50:43

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Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Noah Rasheta, host of the Secular Buddhism Podcast. Noah is a philosopher, author, and host of a podcast on Secular Buddhism, where he shares Buddhist teachings & concepts for everyday life. He shares practical, accessible skills and concepts to help people incorporate Buddhist teachings into their life in an attempt to reduce unnecessary suffering. In this episode, Noah discusses his favorite principles from Buddhism and how we can think about enlightenment. He shares his personal journey and provides listeners an overview of the goals and objectives of the practice of Buddhism.…

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An Interview with Ian Morgan Cron (Enneagram Expert) - Ep 657 1:09:16

8 weeks ago1:09:16

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In this episode I am so pleased to welcome Ian Morgan Cron to the podcast. While he wears many hats, as he shares in this episode, the fundamental nature of his work is a spiritual one. Ian is Bestselling Author, Enneagram Expert, Priest, and the host of the Typology Podcast. After many years in recovery and in the wake of a relapse, he released his most recent book, The Fix. In it, he reveals how the twelve wteps can be key for anyone who wants to take their life back. Richard Rohr says about his newest book, “Ian Cron’s generous and hard-earned wisdom reveals that the Twelve Steps are not just for alcoholics and addicts, but a path to a profound transformation of Self for everyone.” In the this interview we cover a wide variety of topics including God and family, making an amends, how his various roles overlap and complement each other, his experience with shame (in real-time), and how he leans into his personal story to inform his work and hopefully make himself useful to the people he loves and serves.…

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How Can I Learn to Be More Authentic? (A.M.A.) – Ep 656 38:10

8 weeks ago38:10

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Dr. Reedy takes questions on topics from the audience. He discusses what to do when our adult children seem to be going off course. He talks about how we can learn to be our most authentic self and how to protect that journey by the company we keep.

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Communication and Connection – Ep 655 1:13:14

9 weeks ago1:13:14

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Dr. Reedy explains communication theory and the deeper psychological principles required for connection. He warns against using communication skills to change others and emphasizes that such skills can improve self-awareness first. They can also help us to remember to own our feelings (they are ours). He talks about listening and how it requires a significant amount of psychic energy.…

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Coping with Uncertainty - Ep 654 50:09

9 weeks ago50:09

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Dr. Reedy talks about how humans cope with the anxiety of uncertainty and ambiguity. He explains that if we seek for security and absolute answers, we move towards mental illness. But if we can embrace the mystery of this life, we become more human and in that lies our resiliency.

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Parenting is Impossible (Q&A) - Ep 653 53:34

10 weeks ago53:34

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Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on parenting and relationships. He talks about the difference between caring and wanting someone to know you care. He explores the nuances of loving and caring for yourself and loving and caring for your partner.

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Dealing with Resistance - Ep 652 1:11:08

11 weeks ago1:11:08

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Dr. Reedy explains the origins and function of resistance and defensiveness. He talks about how we can make it worse as parents, therapists, and spouses.

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Experiential Therapies - Ep 651 1:07:25

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Dr. Reedy describes various forms of experiential therapy, including psychodrama - the primary type of therapy used in Finding You Programs’ Intensives. He explains why they work on the unconscious aspects of the psyche, and how healing can be accelerated with an experiential approach. He explains how experiential therapy bypasses resistance. He also explains how any therapy can be reparative and a “re-experiencing” of ourselves.…

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Shadow Work - Ep 650 56:36

13 weeks ago56:36

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Dr. Reedy discusses Jung's concept of the Shadow, how to recognize it, and how to integrate it. He explains how this brings peace and freedom and lays the foundation for greater intimacy.

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Why Your Therapist Needs Therapy - Ep 649 43:12

14 weeks ago43:12

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Dr. Reedy discusses how therapists and their clients can benefit from the therapist goin to therapy. He empowers clients to ask their therapists about their participation in therapy. He also explains the parallels between the client’s and the therapist’s resistance to therapy are mirror images of each other.…

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Fundamental Principles in Parenting & Marriage (Q&A) - Ep 648 40:13

15 weeks ago40:13

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Dr. Reedy discusses the relationship principles that transcend through all relationships. He talks about how becoming who you are forms the basis for greater connection to others. He addresses the line between “can’t” and “won’t” when it comes to our children.

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Analysis-Informed Psychotherapy - Ep 647 1:05:03

15 weeks ago1:05:03

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Dr. Reedy discusses Finding You’s method of therapy. Informed by psychoanalysis, this therapy is a way of being with people in such a fundamentally different way that the clients re-experiences themselves. He suggests that safety is the treatment and as the therapist is able to hold the client in patience, compassion, and non-judgment, the client is able to explore their untold stories.…

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Individual vs. Couples Therapy (Q&A) - Ep 646 55:34

16 weeks ago55:34

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Dr. Reedy discusses what to look for in a therapist. He also explores the pros and cons of individual work vs family work in therapy. He discusses the genetics and the trauma of our issues. He answers a question on making amends to our family members.

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Finding Compassion - Ep 645 54:45

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Grief and Loss - Ep 644 1:13:18

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Dr. Reedy discusses explains complicated and complex grief in the wake of the LA fires. He talks about how no two people are grieving the same thing in the same way. He talks about how when others can’t sit with us in our pain, we feel shameful and inadequate. Conversely, when people can hold our feelings, we can learn to feel and sit with them, and they move through us. He explains that our relationship to grief is our relationship to life. And the pain of our lives doesn’t shrink, we get larger and more capable of holding it.…

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Humility and Humiliation: Search for the Real Self - Ep 643 54:51

19 weeks ago54:51

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Dr. Reedy discusses how we may feel humiliated when the distance between the false self and real self is exposed. Most often, the real self is exposed when we encounter difficulties or failures. He explains that the narcissistic wound, the wound of not being seen, of not having our whole self (in contrast to the “good” self) is rarely addressed without failures and humiliation. He explain that defenses don’t feel like defenses from the inside – they feel like, “they don’t understand me.”…

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Keys to Intimacy in Romantic Relationships - Ep 642 1:00:05

20 weeks ago1:00:05

1:00:05

Dr. Reedy discusses the challenges and keys to creating intimacy. He explores how, when we don’t own our feelings, our histories, or our issues, we see problems "out there" – specifically in our partners. He explains how sharing your feelings are only one part of intimacy. Listening, with compassion and non-judgment is often the real challenge that prevents intimacy in couples.…

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Goals: New Year, Know Me - Ep 641 54:26

21 weeks ago54:26

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Dr. Reedy discusses goals and how our goals change as we change. He discussed the difference between first order change (behavior, skills, tools) vs. second order change (a fundamentally different way of seeing the world and relating to it). He suggests that we ask different questions, bigger questions, to get unstuck from old patterns. The great task is to look critically into our programming and challenge the answers to the largest questions in life.…

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The Drama of the Gifted Child (Book Review) - Ep 640 1:13:50

23 weeks ago1:13:50

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Dr. Reedy reviews Alice Miller’s, "The Drama of the Gifted Child." He touts this book as the most important book written on the subject of the parent-child dynamic. Miller explains how a child will give up who they are to meet the parent’s needs. The call is to do the deep work necessary to “cut the tragic link between admiration and love.”…

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The Obnoxious Stage of Setting Boundaries (Q&A) - Ep 639 40:47

24 weeks ago40:47

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Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on setting boundaries in relationships where that hasn’t been the practice. He explains that we will get better as we go. He explains that the ability to listen to a feeling or a boundary says more about the receiver than it does about the person sharing.…

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Self-Care: A Gift to the Self - Ep 638 59:23

24 weeks ago59:23

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Dr. Reedy discusses boundaries and self-care and how guilt, shame, and fear must be dealt with in order to love yourself. He explains how boundaries are beyond right and wrong. He explains how love of self is the foundation for loving everyone else.

Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

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Regression: When and Why it Happens - Ep 637 57:27

24 weeks ago57:27

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Dr. Reedy discusses regression and what triggers it. He explains that old contexts, old relationships, old energies, roles, or rules can trigger us in ways that we revert back to a less evolved way of functioning. He encourages observing this dynamic and developing compassion for ourselves when we experience this inevitability.…

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Amends, Apologies, and Forgiveness - Ep 636 59:40

26 weeks ago59:40

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Home for the Holidays - Ep 635 47:57

27 weeks ago47:57

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Dr. Reedy explores the pressures and dilemmas that many people grapple with over the holidays. He talks about why we feel obligated to show up to our old context is certain ways. He talks about observing ourselves when we visit family and how to develop a practice of self-compassion for our regression.…

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Why NOT to Practice Gratitude - Ep 634 59:46

28 weeks ago59:46

59:46

Dr. Reedy discusses the risk of practicing gratitude and proposes that a more effective route might be by learning to feel all our feelings. He explains toxic positivity, gaslighting and spiritual bypass. He talks about Thanksgiving and the pressure to feel a certain way and what to do about that.

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Family of Origin Through Lens of Family Systems Theory - Ep 633 1:13:51

28 weeks ago1:13:51

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Family of Origin Through Lens of Family Systems Theory - Ep 633 by Dr. Brad Reedy

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The Relationship with Yourself First (Q&A) - Ep 632 49:20

29 weeks ago49:20

49:20

Dr. Reedy discusses why personal work is the basis for all our relationship issues and challenges. He takes live questions from the audience on psychedelics, religion, children using marijuana, and how to respond to these issues.

Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

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Narcissism & the Narcissistic Wound - Ep 631 1:03:22

30 weeks ago1:03:22

1:03:22

Dr. Reedy explains the etiology of narcissism and how we all have some of it. He defines the narcissistic wound as the wound of not being seen. He debunks many ideas taught today in pop-psychology. He makes a plea to stop responding to the diagnosis intuitively, but with a deeper understanding we can help others and take-in less of the pain the narcissist tries to project on or into us.…

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Projections and Mental Health - Ep 630 56:47

31 weeks ago56:47

56:47

Dr. Reedy explores the process of projection, starting with splitting-off the parts of ourselves we were told were unacceptable and relegating them to the unconscious – the shadow. He talks about how we want the problem to be out there, in the other. He talks about othering when we don’t own our own feelings of fear, insecurity, or overwhelm.…

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The Mysteries of Intimacy - Ep 629 59:03

32 weeks ago59:03

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The Mysteries of Intimacy - Ep 629 by Dr. Brad Reedy

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Being Right or Good vs. Being a Self - Ep 628 46:30

33 weeks ago46:30

46:30

Dr. Reedy discusses the difference between trying to be right or good and being yourself. He discusses how the things we have been taught to fear often hold great wisdom or energy. He explains that if we are operating with the need to be good, driven by ego, we are incapable of love. He explains that when we come to terms with who we are, through self-compassion (by time spent with someone who sees us and doesn’t judge us), we are free to love and hold space for others and their feelings.…

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Holding Boundaries While Keeping Connection (Q&A) - Ep 627 41:30

34 weeks ago41:30

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Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses how to hold boundaries without sacrificing the relationship. He discusses how to honor your feelings of betrayal while staying in relationship to the other. He explains the benefit of group work at Finding You Intensives.

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Finding You Therapy Programs - Ep 626 54:33

34 weeks ago54:33

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Dr. Reedy announces his new project, Finding You Therapy Programs. Providing Therapy Intensives, Coaching, and On-line Workshops for parents, couples, and therapists, Brad explains the underlying philosophy of Finding You. Based in Attachment Theory, he explains how the goal is to draw closer to your authentic self. From here, relationships and difficult life decisions come into focus; anxiety is replaced with hope and empowerment.…

Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

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The Hero’s Journey - Ep 625 50:25

35 weeks ago50:25

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In his last broadcast representing Evoke Therapy Programs, Dr. Reedy shares both his personal connection to the hero’s journey as well as how understanding stories, art, music, literature, and nature draw us back to the one idea that the purpose of life is your life. The goal in Dr. Reedy’s therapy is to become who you are, to become your authentic self. Dr. Reedy says goodbye and takes time to read as live participants share their heroic stories in the chat. And he says goodbye with the invitation to join him on the next journey, Finding You Therapy Programs.…

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Grief and Loss - Ep 624 39:36

36 weeks ago39:36

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Grief and Loss - Ep 624 by Dr. Brad Reedy

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Healthy Family Dynamics - Ep 623 51:51

38 weeks ago51:51

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Dr. Reedy discusses the foundations of healthy family dynamics. He talks about how the identified patient becomes the scapegoat for other family members’ undone work.

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Ego and Soul - Ep 607 50:54

52 weeks ago50:54

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Dr. Reedy discusses ego and soul and explains how these two ideas represent two primary driving energies. Ego, he explains, is the part of us than manages and represents the conscious mind. Defenses, the need to be right, and gatekeeping the unconscious material are its primary roles or duties. Ego is fear based and operates withing a scarcity mindset. Soul is the whole, authentic, or real self- it is our whole self. It is our wisest knowing, and it is fueled by love – love for self and others.…

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The Do’s and Don’ts of Co-Parenting - Ep 606 1:10:17

1 year ago1:10:17

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Dr. Reedy discusses the challenges of co-parenting. He explains how to avoid making things worse. He emphasizes that we “stay on our side of the street” and not become overly focused on the other’s shortcomings.

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Parenting Through an Attachment Lens - Ep 605 56:40

1 year ago56:40

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Dr. Reedy discusses attachment, what it takes to provide a secure attachment, and what to consider to prioritize a secure attachment over behavior or symptom management.

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Love and Fear - Ep 604 59:22

1 year ago59:22

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Dr. Reedy explains how love and fear are driving forces in our unconscious, motivating much of our behavior. He explains that we need to learn to distinguish between love and fear and understand when we are taking from others and when and how we can show our love to our children and partners.

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Evoke Therapy Intensives for Couples, Parents, and Families - Ep 603 53:52

1 year ago53:52

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Dr. Reedy discusses Evoke’s custom private intensives for couples and families. He explains what make Evoke’s Intensive work different and how we aim to be the experts, not on your life, but on creating a process where you can discover your truth.

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Evoke Intensives: What Sets Us Apart - Ep 602 1:00:00

1 year ago1:00:00

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Dr. Reedy discusses what sets Evoke Therapy Intensives apart from other programs. He explains the clinical model and explains how Evoke uses attachment and the concepts of transference and counter transference.

Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

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When Apologizing Doesn’t Work (Q&A) - Ep 601 39:06

1 year ago39:06

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Dr. Reedy takes questions from the audience on what to do if doing your own work and apologizing to your children doesn’t make a difference.

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Blocked Care: Regaining Compassion for Your Child - Ep 600 53:35

1 year ago53:35

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From an article by Melissa Corkum and Lisa Qualls, Dr. Reedy discusses what happens when the chronic stress from children struggling with mental health issues bring parents to a point of numbness, disconnection, and shame. He talks about the isolation and shame that comes when a parent loses their ability to feel warmth and love for a struggling child. Dr. Reedy talks about this dynamic in the context of attachment, parental guilt, and self-care. Full article here: https://thearchibaldproject.com/blocked-care-how-to-regain- compassion-for-yourself-and-your-child…

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Is Taking Care of Yourself Selfish? (Q&A) - Ep 599 41:39

1 year ago41:39

41:39

Dr. Reedy talks takes live questions from the audience and talks about self-care in the context of the child parent dynamic. He talks about looking for a therapist that is patient, kind, and secure. He explains attachment-based therapy and the upcoming Master Class and how the medicine in therapy is the way the therapist is with the client.…

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Communication Theory and Skills - Ep 598 1:04:25

1 year ago1:04:25

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Dr. Reedy talks about communication skills and how “why” we share is more important than the words we use.

Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

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Helping Children Move Through Feelings (Q&A) - Ep 597 40:26

1 year ago40:26

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Dr. Reedy take live questions from the audience. He discusses how to deal with an angry, resentful child. He also talks about what can happen when one spouse doesn’t want to do their therapy work.

Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

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Addiction and Self-Medication - Ep 596 56:58

1 year ago56:58

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Addiction and Self-Medication - Ep 596 by Dr. Brad Reedy

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Modeling Change for Our Children (Q&A) - Ep 595 53:53

1 year ago53:53

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Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on the process of wilderness therapy, how to support a family member in treatment, the new book "Bad Therapy," and how to model the change you want to see in your children.

Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

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Myth, Story, and the Heroic Journey Inward - Ep 594 1:06:25

1 year ago1:06:25

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Dr. Reedy talks about how myth and stories provide a template for the heroic journey inward to discover ourselves. He uses this idea to show that our stories and out myths are invitations to look at the lost parts of ourselves so that we can heal and become who we are.

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Finding Hope After Mistakes (Q&A) - Ep 593 50:49

1 year ago50:49

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Dr. Reedy answers a question about finding hope and worth after an affair. He talks about how to make a repair with a child who doesn’t want to engage anymore. He explains that our context can be internalized and the way to healing is to spend time with a patient, empathic Other.

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Attachment and Therapy - Ep 622 57:39

39 weeks ago57:39

57:39

Dr. Reedy discusses attachment based therapy and how repairs to our attachment wounding can be made through the relationship with the therapist.

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Rethinking Divorce: An Interview with Morgan Foster - Ep 621 1:22:46

40 weeks ago1:22:46

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Morgan Foster is not only a seasoned divorce attorney with more than 20 years of experience, but she’s also the visionary founder of The Pivot Process—a groundbreaking approach that transforms the often painful process of divorce into an opportunity for growth, healing, and new beginnings. Morgan has spent a decade handling complex divorce and custody cases. She has seen firsthand the toll that traditional divorce can take on families. This inspired her to create The Pivot Process, a holistic and empowering method that helps individuals and families navigate the emotional, financial, and relational challenges of divorce with dignity and clarity.…

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Nature Based Therapy - Ep 620 1:01:40

41 weeks ago1:01:40

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Dr. Reedy discusses Nature-Based Therapy. He explains boundaries and how such an intervention can trigger feelings of betrayal. He talks about grit, growth mindset, the comfort crisis and why therapy set in nature can be so powerful.

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The Un-Lived Life of a Parent (Q&A) - Ep 619 55:51

42 weeks ago55:51

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Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the live audience on parental self-care, boundaries, and the guilt that comes as we heal and progress.

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Walking Through Shame & Guilt - Ep 618 54:10

44 weeks ago54:10

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Dr. Reedy discusses shame and guilt and how they work in our lives. He suggests that becoming healthier, making progress, and healing will inevitably require that we confront our guilt. He also makes it clear that guilt (and shame) are synonymous with morality.

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Parental Narcissism (Q&A) - Ep 617 40:10

44 weeks ago40:10

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Dr. Reedy discusses narcissism, the narcissistic wound, what distinguishes the diagnosis vs. traits, and how narcissism can be treated effectively.

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Trauma and Codependency - Ep 616 1:04:06

46 weeks ago1:04:06

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Dr. Reedy explores the definition and origins of Codependency. He explains that the root of codependency is the way parents and other big people talk to and respond to the child. Codependency is a modern term that encompasses anxious attachment styles. He explains that codependency is NOT the cause of addiction in another but rather is at the core of all addictions. He teaches that healing codependency does not cure another person’s addiction but only resolves the codependency in the individual who is healing.…

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Be Curious About a Child’s Behavior (Q&A) - Ep 615 52:08

47 weeks ago52:08

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Dr. Reedy takes live questions from audience members on the how to respond to a child that won’t open up and when it is okay to take a vacation from the work in therapy.

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Aftercare and Transitions - Ep 614 1:04:49

48 weeks ago1:04:49

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Dr. Reedy talks about how aftercare is the key to a successful treatment intervention. He also talks about the pitfalls and vulnerabilities we encounter during any transition.

Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

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Mindfulness and Psychotherapy - Ep 613 54:10

49 weeks ago54:10

54:10

Largely drawing from the book with the same name by Thich Nhat Hanh, Dr. Reedy explains mindfulness as a boarder idea than what people think of when considering mindfulness. He explains how therapy is a “talking mindfulness” practice. He explains several tenants on Buddhism including impermanence, non-duality, inter-being, and radical acceptance. He also clarifies that what Buddhists refer to as the concept of “non-attachment” is synonymous with the characteristic in psychology associated with a secure attachment.…

Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

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Attachment Theory in Therapy (Q&A) - Ep 612 49:55

49 weeks ago49:55

49:55

Dr. Reedy talks about how when we accept ourselves and are able to see who we are, we are able to move forward. Conversely, thinking of mental health in terms of being completely free of our issues is a breeding ground for denial. He talks about how guilt and shame are at the crux of so many of our dilemmas. He explains attachment theory and how it is thought of in the therapeutic relationship. He explains how we listen when we can and it is absolutely okay to set a boundary and remove ourselves from the conversation when we can’t listen to others.…

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Technology Addiction - Ep 611 1:10:51

50 weeks ago1:10:51

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Dr. Reedy talks about the new epidemic in addiction: technology addiction. He covers some of the science behind game and technology design and how developers are using the most up-to-date and sophisticated science to hook their users. He explains how these designs, focused on dopamine and need for an individual’s sense of wellbeing, prey upon the chemical reaction when we experience a connection to others. He explains how nature-based therapy and mindfulness and starting early are keys in our fight against the ubiquitous issue of addiction to technology.…

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Loving All of You: An Interview with Esin Pinarli - Ep 610 1:02:48

50 weeks ago1:02:48

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Dr. Reedy welcomes Esin Pinarli to the podcast, Esin is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker (LCSW), and a Master’s Level Certified Addiction Professional (MCAP) specializing in IMAGO, brainspotting, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic practices, and psychodrama. Through an integrative experiential approach, she helps individuals, couples, and families suffering from anxiety, depression, addiction, codependency, trauma, dysfunctional family system dynamics, and relational attachment issues to navigate life's challenges so they can become fully alive, supported, and whole. They cover topics ranging from Internal Family Systems, the intersection between clinical work and the 12-Steps, codependency, and self-care.…

Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

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Mothers and Guilt (Q&A) - Ep 609 44:32

51 weeks ago44:32

44:32

Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience. He discusses the challenges when a spouse doesn’t want to go to therapy. He explores the dynamics in our culture around expectations of mothers and how guilt can be the barrier to improved mental health. And he further explains how the suicidal impulse can be a call to a higher level of consciousness.…

Finding You: by Dr. Brad Reedy

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How Children Suffer Because of Our Issues (Q&A) - Ep 608 41:47

51 weeks ago41:47