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Regression: When and Why it Happens - Ep 637
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Dr. Reedy discusses regression and what triggers it. He explains that old contexts, old relationships, old energies, roles, or rules can trigger us in ways that we revert back to a less evolved way of functioning. He encourages observing this dynamic and developing compassion for ourselves when we experience this inevitability.
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Dr. Reedy discusses regression and what triggers it. He explains that old contexts, old relationships, old energies, roles, or rules can trigger us in ways that we revert back to a less evolved way of functioning. He encourages observing this dynamic and developing compassion for ourselves when we experience this inevitability.
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1 Being the Villain in Your Child’s Story (AMA) - Ep 668 59:23
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Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on attachment, parenting, and relationships. He talks about how a parent’s self-acceptance, which leads to self-awareness, is the key to your children's healthy development. He explains that self-compassion is the key to greater awareness and consciousness. And he talks about how boundaries and skills are really the evidence or signposts that reveal where we are on our journey. He emphatically points out that the goal in therapy is not to be so good we are beyond reproach, but rather the outcome of therapy is learning to love and see our "horrible, rotten, human, fallible, lovable, selves."…

1 What if I am the only one doing the work? - Ep 667 1:07:48
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Dr. Reedy discusses what to do when you are the only one in your circle doing their therapy work. He talks about how therapy changes us and how we can get stuck in trying to change the people around us..

1 Conscious Parenting Workshop: A Teaser - Ep 665 58:54
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1 Couples: Falling in Love with Your Partner's Dilemma - Ep 664 47:28
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Dr. Reedy talks about he benefit of understanding yourself and your partner better by understanding how each one's childhood shaped personality.

1 The Journey of the Heroic Parent: 10-Years Later - Ep 663 1:02:44
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Dr. Reedy discusses his first book, The Journey of the Heroic Parent and how his work has evolved since then. He describes the goal of the book as one to help parents become their own expert by learning how to think differently about parenting. He emphatically invites parents to do their own work and to explore their own histories, their own psychology.…
#MentalHealthMatters #HealthyRelationships #ParentingSupport #AddictionRecovery #EmotionalWellness #MindfulParenting #TraumaInformed #SelfCareJourney #RelationshipAdvice #PsychologicalSafety #HealingJourney #FamilyDynamics #MentalHealthAwareness #OvercomingAnxiety #BreakTheStigma #PersonalGrowth #MindBodyConnection #WellnessWarrior #LifeCoaching #ResilienceBuilding…

1 Why is “Small-t” Trauma So Insidious. (A.M.A.) – Ep 661 37:53
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In this Ask Me Anything episode, Dr. Reedy takes questions from the audience on topics ranging from how we communicate our energy to our children, making the unconscious – conscious, debunking the cause and effect thinking, and how small-t trauma is insidious. He answers a question on shadow work. And he talks about how to handle the mistakes we have made as parents when our children remain angry.…

1 Finding Peace in Uncertain Times - Ep 660 1:00:49
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In this episode, Dr. Reedy discusses how so many clients are coming to therapy with great worries and distress due to the tumultuous events in the world. He suggests that we need to become more discerning with the news we consume. He proposes that peace is found by focusing on what we can control. He talks about the Buddhist concepts of impermanence, radical acceptance, and mindfulness.…
In this episode, Dr. Reedy discusses religious trauma and what kinds of family systems are at the greatest risk. He distinguishes religion from moral development and spiritual development. He talks about how families with dogmatic, strict-father-styles use religion to control, intimidate, and mold their children. He discusses how religion can be used as a defense against the experience of God and how religion can prevent spiritual development. He discusses the function of religion within a spiritual life. He talks about how many clients come to therapy with a history of religious trauma.…

1 An Interview with Noah Rasheta (Secular Buddhism Podcast Host) - Ep 659 50:43
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Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Noah Rasheta, host of the Secular Buddhism Podcast. Noah is a philosopher, author, and host of a podcast on Secular Buddhism, where he shares Buddhist teachings & concepts for everyday life. He shares practical, accessible skills and concepts to help people incorporate Buddhist teachings into their life in an attempt to reduce unnecessary suffering. In this episode, Noah discusses his favorite principles from Buddhism and how we can think about enlightenment. He shares his personal journey and provides listeners an overview of the goals and objectives of the practice of Buddhism.…

1 An Interview with Ian Morgan Cron (Enneagram Expert) - Ep 657 1:09:16
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In this episode I am so pleased to welcome Ian Morgan Cron to the podcast. While he wears many hats, as he shares in this episode, the fundamental nature of his work is a spiritual one. Ian is Bestselling Author, Enneagram Expert, Priest, and the host of the Typology Podcast. After many years in recovery and in the wake of a relapse, he released his most recent book, The Fix. In it, he reveals how the twelve wteps can be key for anyone who wants to take their life back. Richard Rohr says about his newest book, “Ian Cron’s generous and hard-earned wisdom reveals that the Twelve Steps are not just for alcoholics and addicts, but a path to a profound transformation of Self for everyone.” In the this interview we cover a wide variety of topics including God and family, making an amends, how his various roles overlap and complement each other, his experience with shame (in real-time), and how he leans into his personal story to inform his work and hopefully make himself useful to the people he loves and serves.…

1 How Can I Learn to Be More Authentic? (A.M.A.) – Ep 656 38:10
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Dr. Reedy takes questions on topics from the audience. He discusses what to do when our adult children seem to be going off course. He talks about how we can learn to be our most authentic self and how to protect that journey by the company we keep.

1 Communication and Connection – Ep 655 1:13:14
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Dr. Reedy explains communication theory and the deeper psychological principles required for connection. He warns against using communication skills to change others and emphasizes that such skills can improve self-awareness first. They can also help us to remember to own our feelings (they are ours). He talks about listening and how it requires a significant amount of psychic energy.…
Dr. Reedy talks about how humans cope with the anxiety of uncertainty and ambiguity. He explains that if we seek for security and absolute answers, we move towards mental illness. But if we can embrace the mystery of this life, we become more human and in that lies our resiliency.
Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on parenting and relationships. He talks about the difference between caring and wanting someone to know you care. He explores the nuances of loving and caring for yourself and loving and caring for your partner.
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Dr. Reedy explains the origins and function of resistance and defensiveness. He talks about how we can make it worse as parents, therapists, and spouses.
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Dr. Reedy describes various forms of experiential therapy, including psychodrama - the primary type of therapy used in Finding You Programs’ Intensives. He explains why they work on the unconscious aspects of the psyche, and how healing can be accelerated with an experiential approach. He explains how experiential therapy bypasses resistance. He also explains how any therapy can be reparative and a “re-experiencing” of ourselves.…
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Dr. Reedy discusses Jung's concept of the Shadow, how to recognize it, and how to integrate it. He explains how this brings peace and freedom and lays the foundation for greater intimacy.
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Dr. Reedy discusses how therapists and their clients can benefit from the therapist goin to therapy. He empowers clients to ask their therapists about their participation in therapy. He also explains the parallels between the client’s and the therapist’s resistance to therapy are mirror images of each other.…
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1 Fundamental Principles in Parenting & Marriage (Q&A) - Ep 648 40:13
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Dr. Reedy discusses the relationship principles that transcend through all relationships. He talks about how becoming who you are forms the basis for greater connection to others. He addresses the line between “can’t” and “won’t” when it comes to our children.
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1 Analysis-Informed Psychotherapy - Ep 647 1:05:03
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Dr. Reedy discusses Finding You’s method of therapy. Informed by psychoanalysis, this therapy is a way of being with people in such a fundamentally different way that the clients re-experiences themselves. He suggests that safety is the treatment and as the therapist is able to hold the client in patience, compassion, and non-judgment, the client is able to explore their untold stories.…
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1 Individual vs. Couples Therapy (Q&A) - Ep 646 55:34
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Dr. Reedy discusses what to look for in a therapist. He also explores the pros and cons of individual work vs family work in therapy. He discusses the genetics and the trauma of our issues. He answers a question on making amends to our family members.
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Finding Compassion - Ep 645 by Dr. Brad Reedy
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Dr. Reedy discusses explains complicated and complex grief in the wake of the LA fires. He talks about how no two people are grieving the same thing in the same way. He talks about how when others can’t sit with us in our pain, we feel shameful and inadequate. Conversely, when people can hold our feelings, we can learn to feel and sit with them, and they move through us. He explains that our relationship to grief is our relationship to life. And the pain of our lives doesn’t shrink, we get larger and more capable of holding it.…
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1 Humility and Humiliation: Search for the Real Self - Ep 643 54:51
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Dr. Reedy discusses how we may feel humiliated when the distance between the false self and real self is exposed. Most often, the real self is exposed when we encounter difficulties or failures. He explains that the narcissistic wound, the wound of not being seen, of not having our whole self (in contrast to the “good” self) is rarely addressed without failures and humiliation. He explain that defenses don’t feel like defenses from the inside – they feel like, “they don’t understand me.”…
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1 Keys to Intimacy in Romantic Relationships - Ep 642 1:00:05
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Dr. Reedy discusses the challenges and keys to creating intimacy. He explores how, when we don’t own our feelings, our histories, or our issues, we see problems "out there" – specifically in our partners. He explains how sharing your feelings are only one part of intimacy. Listening, with compassion and non-judgment is often the real challenge that prevents intimacy in couples.…
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Dr. Reedy discusses goals and how our goals change as we change. He discussed the difference between first order change (behavior, skills, tools) vs. second order change (a fundamentally different way of seeing the world and relating to it). He suggests that we ask different questions, bigger questions, to get unstuck from old patterns. The great task is to look critically into our programming and challenge the answers to the largest questions in life.…
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1 The Drama of the Gifted Child (Book Review) - Ep 640 1:13:50
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Dr. Reedy reviews Alice Miller’s, "The Drama of the Gifted Child." He touts this book as the most important book written on the subject of the parent-child dynamic. Miller explains how a child will give up who they are to meet the parent’s needs. The call is to do the deep work necessary to “cut the tragic link between admiration and love.”…
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1 The Obnoxious Stage of Setting Boundaries (Q&A) - Ep 639 40:47
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Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience on setting boundaries in relationships where that hasn’t been the practice. He explains that we will get better as we go. He explains that the ability to listen to a feeling or a boundary says more about the receiver than it does about the person sharing.…
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Dr. Reedy discusses boundaries and self-care and how guilt, shame, and fear must be dealt with in order to love yourself. He explains how boundaries are beyond right and wrong. He explains how love of self is the foundation for loving everyone else.
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1 Regression: When and Why it Happens - Ep 637 57:27
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Dr. Reedy discusses regression and what triggers it. He explains that old contexts, old relationships, old energies, roles, or rules can trigger us in ways that we revert back to a less evolved way of functioning. He encourages observing this dynamic and developing compassion for ourselves when we experience this inevitability.…
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1 Amends, Apologies, and Forgiveness - Ep 636 59:40
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Dr. Reedy talks about the characteristics of an authentic apology. He explains the difference between an apology and an amends. He explains that forgiveness is not a future but something we can do when we can do it - we do it when we can so that we can feel better.
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Dr. Reedy explores the pressures and dilemmas that many people grapple with over the holidays. He talks about why we feel obligated to show up to our old context is certain ways. He talks about observing ourselves when we visit family and how to develop a practice of self-compassion for our regression.…
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Dr. Reedy discusses the risk of practicing gratitude and proposes that a more effective route might be by learning to feel all our feelings. He explains toxic positivity, gaslighting and spiritual bypass. He talks about Thanksgiving and the pressure to feel a certain way and what to do about that.
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1 Family of Origin Through Lens of Family Systems Theory - Ep 633 1:13:51
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1 The Relationship with Yourself First (Q&A) - Ep 632 49:20
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Dr. Reedy discusses why personal work is the basis for all our relationship issues and challenges. He takes live questions from the audience on psychedelics, religion, children using marijuana, and how to respond to these issues.
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1 Narcissism & the Narcissistic Wound - Ep 631 1:03:22
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Dr. Reedy explains the etiology of narcissism and how we all have some of it. He defines the narcissistic wound as the wound of not being seen. He debunks many ideas taught today in pop-psychology. He makes a plea to stop responding to the diagnosis intuitively, but with a deeper understanding we can help others and take-in less of the pain the narcissist tries to project on or into us.…
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Dr. Reedy explores the process of projection, starting with splitting-off the parts of ourselves we were told were unacceptable and relegating them to the unconscious – the shadow. He talks about how we want the problem to be out there, in the other. He talks about othering when we don’t own our own feelings of fear, insecurity, or overwhelm.…
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The Mysteries of Intimacy - Ep 629 by Dr. Brad Reedy
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1 Being Right or Good vs. Being a Self - Ep 628 46:30
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Dr. Reedy discusses the difference between trying to be right or good and being yourself. He discusses how the things we have been taught to fear often hold great wisdom or energy. He explains that if we are operating with the need to be good, driven by ego, we are incapable of love. He explains that when we come to terms with who we are, through self-compassion (by time spent with someone who sees us and doesn’t judge us), we are free to love and hold space for others and their feelings.…
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1 Holding Boundaries While Keeping Connection (Q&A) - Ep 627 41:30
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Dr. Reedy takes live questions from the audience and discusses how to hold boundaries without sacrificing the relationship. He discusses how to honor your feelings of betrayal while staying in relationship to the other. He explains the benefit of group work at Finding You Intensives.
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Dr. Reedy announces his new project, Finding You Therapy Programs. Providing Therapy Intensives, Coaching, and On-line Workshops for parents, couples, and therapists, Brad explains the underlying philosophy of Finding You. Based in Attachment Theory, he explains how the goal is to draw closer to your authentic self. From here, relationships and difficult life decisions come into focus; anxiety is replaced with hope and empowerment.…
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In his last broadcast representing Evoke Therapy Programs, Dr. Reedy shares both his personal connection to the hero’s journey as well as how understanding stories, art, music, literature, and nature draw us back to the one idea that the purpose of life is your life. The goal in Dr. Reedy’s therapy is to become who you are, to become your authentic self. Dr. Reedy says goodbye and takes time to read as live participants share their heroic stories in the chat. And he says goodbye with the invitation to join him on the next journey, Finding You Therapy Programs.…
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Grief and Loss - Ep 624 by Dr. Brad Reedy
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Dr. Reedy discusses the foundations of healthy family dynamics. He talks about how the identified patient becomes the scapegoat for other family members’ undone work.
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