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#186 10 executive dysfunction tips and tricks to help people who hoard, whether we have ADHD or are neurodivergent or not - Hoarding Awareness Week 2025 36:47

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ For Hoarding Awareness Week 2025, I’m focusing on executive function - the brain’s control centre for planning, starting, and finishing tasks - and the small, practical hacks that can make a genuine difference for people who hoard, whether or not we have ADHD or are neurodivergent. I talk about real-life tips for breaking the overwhelm, managing perfectionism, building momentum, and overcoming shame, all with the aim of making progress sustainable and achievable in your day-to-day life. This episode is all about honest advice that actually works, whether you’re in the thick of it or just looking for a few smarter ways to approach this. Hoarding Awareness Week 2025 and its theme: Hoarding & Executive Function Recognition that executive function challenges impact both neurodivergent and neurotypical people Executive Function and Hoarding Previous podcast episodes relating to executive function, ADHD, and hoarding Importance of using effective hacks and techniques, regardless of neurotype Emphasis on finding what works personally for each listener The Realities and Challenges of Tackling Hoarding Overwhelm and daunting feelings about dehoarding Breaking tasks into small, manageable parts Focus on actionable, day-to-day strategies rather than long-term, rigid planning Understanding Executive Function Explanation of what executive function is (control centre for planning, focus, and impulse control) Factors that can impair executive function (neurodivergence, mental health, stress, lack of sleep, etc.) Universality of executive dysfunction - everyone struggles at times Emotional Barriers: Perfectionism and Shame The cycle of shame and self-blame in executive dysfunction and hoarding Societal judgment around hoarding, and its paralysing effects Strategies for stepping back, naming emotions, and cultivating self-compassion Core Executive Dysfunction Tips and Hacks Breaking Tasks Down Setting realistic micro-goals The concept of “towards” vs. “away” moves in progress Tracking Progress Counting bags/items leaving the house Caution against tracking becoming burdensome for some Using Timers Setting short (e.g., 5-minute) timers to help with task initiation Use of voice assistants to avoid distraction Reverse-timer technique to use end of music/podcast as a cue for action The Two-Minute Rule Limitations and personal adaptations of rule Identifying Motivations Creating visual or written reminders of why you want to dehoard Acceptance of some tools working only temporarily, and switching when necessary Reward Systems Small, non-material rewards for completing tasks Linking listening to desired media (like the podcast) with decluttering activities Non-Negotiable Rules Creating routines to reduce decision fatigue (e.g., charity bags leave home immediately) Body Doubling Doing tasks alongside others (physically or virtually, like in the host’s Zoom sessions) Emotional/moral support of parallel accountability Alternative ways to body double if group support isn’t accessible Time Blocking and Scheduling Using calendars and reminders to schedule decluttering sessions Flexibly adapting this strategy based on personal response Habit Stacking Linking a new task to an established routine (e.g., unloading dishwasher while kettle boils) Using “add-ons” for frequently-visited spaces (e.g., clearing five things each time you enter the bathroom) Links Podcast ep 183: ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt Podcast ep 162: From Fibble to Focus: Defibble your executive dysfunction with Jo Cavalot Podcast ep 112: Executive function, executive dysfunction and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall Podcast ep 149: ADHD, hoarding and clutter with Susie Boutal, ADHD and Declutter Coach Podcast ep 107: Things that look like hoarding but aren’t: ADHD, depression, autism, OCD, OCPD and more Podcast ep 40: ADHD and hoarding with Dr Sharon Morein Podcast ep 82: Dehoarding when you’re drowning with KC Davis of Struggle Care Podcast ep 182: What are “towards and away moves” and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall Podcast ep 184: What if we actually felt the feelings? An honest conversation about trauma, hoarding, and allowing yourself to feel Podcast ep 28: Avoid analysis paralysis by having ‘systems’ Arielle and Ned's Daily Tips That May or May Not Help You Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding Become a Dehoarding Darling Submit a topic for the podcast to cover Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Instagram: @thathoarderpodcast Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderpodcast Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Pinterest: That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder subreddit Help out: Support this project Sponsor the podcast Subscribe to the podcast Subscribe to the podcast here…

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#185 Engaging with our stuff: why we keep things but don’t use them, with Dr Jan Eppingstall 1:14:19

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I’m with Dr Jan Eppingstall, a Melbourne-based counsellor and hoarding expert extraordinaire. We unpack the concept of engaging with our belongings - actually seeing, touching, and using the things we tend to accumulate, rather than letting them fade into the background. Jan shares insights from her work, explains why we often feel safer just owning stuff instead of interacting with it, and offers practical ways to build a healthier, more intentional relationship with what we own. There are some genuinely enlightening moments, and plenty of ideas for anyone looking to break free from an excess of stuff. Defining "Engaging with Our Stuff" What it means to actually engage with possessions (seeing, touching, using) Comparison to possessions fading into the background The idea of using versus just possessing objects Patterns of Engagement Among People Who Hoard Sense of safety from being surrounded by possessions without interaction Only the "top layer" of possessions typically being used Loss of intention behind keeping sentimental or useful items The psychological comfort of having versus using objects Emotional and Psychological Aspects of Compulsive Hoarding Emotional connection to the potential of objects rather than actual objects Avoidance of decision-making by not engaging/touching items Security and reassurance derived from the mere presence of items Defeatism and pointlessness associated with searching for or using objects Barriers to Engaging with Possessions Overwhelm from the sheer volume of stuff Active resistance and avoidance behaviours Feelings of incompetence and adaptation through purchasing duplicates Guilt associated with over-accumulation Benefits of Actively Engaging with Possessions Rediscovering useful or wanted items when sorting Increased awareness of what is owned and where it is Neurological and psychological benefits of tactile interaction Insights gained from using and trying on items (e.g., clothing) Decision-making as a muscle that strengthens with practice Realisations about unnecessary duplicates (e.g., multiple ladles in the kitchen) Emotional and practical hurdles in finding homes for items Perfectionism and rigidity around item placement and organisation Moving, Arranging, and Re-organising Possessions Resistance to moving items from "their place" due to tradition, attachment, or perfectionism Fear of forgetting where things are if organisational changes are made Multi-step decision fatigue when organising The importance of flexible, evolving systems for item placement Confronting Avoidance and Overwhelm The value of small steps, e.g., simply looking into an avoided bag or space The myth of a “good reason” for keeping certain items, often dispelled when items are revisited Developing Healthier, More Intentional Relationships with Stuff Introducing intention and ritual to everyday interactions with possessions “Rotation stations” and seasonal evaluation/rituals Benefits of conscious handling, organisation, and maintenance Cultural Perspectives and Practices Japanese concepts: Te Ate : hand-care, tactile connection as a ritual Mushiboshi : seasonal airing and assessment of items Ma : meaningful emptiness/space as a source of tranquillity Contrasts between Western consumerism and other cultural approaches to possessions Challenges and Solutions in Organising and Letting Go The impact of spatial processing or organisational difficulties Accepting that resistance to change is sometimes due to overwhelm Personalisation and Flexibility in Managing Possessions Tailoring organisation and engagement to one’s own needs, routines, and neurodiversity Maximalism and the need for varying levels of stimulus—distinguishing between maximalism and chaos Allowing spaces to be intentionally clear, embracing the benefits of emptiness The ongoing journey of developing intentionality with possessions The importance of kindness and patience with oneself in making these changes Links Podcast ep 146: Where Dragons Live and what we leave behind Podcast ep 172: Harriet Impey on clearing out her parents’ very full home, through family belongings and personal growth, in the film Where Dragons Live How to watch Where Dragons Live Podcast ep 53: The Endowment Effect and hoarding – How this cognitive bias makes you feel the need to keep everything Podcast ep 124: How the little-known Hummingbird Method can help you to dehoard the areas you’ve been avoiding Podcast ep 74: Couples and hoarding: An interview with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist Podcast ep 140: How to cope with – or help – a partner who hoards, with Laura Silverstein, Certified Gottman Couples Therapist Podcast ep 183: ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt Elis James and John Robins podcast Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form Dr Jan Eppingstall at Stuffology https://www.facebook.com/stuffologyconsulting/ https://twitter.com/stuff_ology https://www.instagram.com/stuff_ology/ Dr Jan Eppingstall on Pinterest Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding Become a Dehoarding Darling Submit a topic for the podcast to cover Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Instagram: @thathoarderpodcast Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderpodcast Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Pinterest: That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That 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#184 What if we actually felt the feelings? An honest conversation about trauma, hoarding, and allowing yourself to feel 26:06

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ This week, I talk about what happens when I actually let myself feel the tough emotions instead of shutting them down - a pattern that's shaped my life and my struggles with hoarding, self-harm, and eating disorders. After a thought-provoking conversation with Anna Sale on Death, Sex & Money last year, I started questioning whether avoiding feelings has helped or hurt me in the long run and have been trying to process that ever since! I share what it’s like to sit with big emotions, experiment with messy ways to cope, and why feeling the feelings might just be a way forward. Avoiding Feelings Realisation that I tend to do anything rather than feel difficult emotions. Recent personal reflection and processing feelings over the past few months. Impact of mental health and a PTSD flare-up on my ability to manage feelings. Connecting Coping Mechanisms to Avoidance Experience with PTSD, self-harm, anorexia, and bulimia as different forms of not feeling or avoiding emotions. Insights from an interview with Anna Sale on Death, Sex & Money that linked these coping together as forms of avoidance. Acknowledgment that these strategies were more than just avoidance - also punitive, protective, and multifaceted. The Cost and Pattern of Emotional Avoidance Compartmentalising as a lifelong coping skill and its negative long-term consequences. Difficulty breaking the habit of not feeling and the impact on my sense of identity. Recognition that suppressing feelings can be as damaging as (or more damaging than) the feelings themselves. Actively Facing and Processing Feelings Engaging in therapy, journaling (both resentful and creative/collage style), and reading poetry to access emotions. Talking more openly with friends as a supportive measure. Forcing myself to do enjoyable activities (like getting outside), which helps counteract avoidance. Community, Connection, and Support Impact of Trauma and Suppression on Daily Life How PTSD and unprocessed sadness began affecting sleep, revealing that suppressing feelings is no longer effective. Discusses the challenge of letting oneself feel emotions, both by choice and when overcome involuntarily. The risks of being overwhelmed and the delicate balance between feeling and avoidance. Learning and Conversations About Emotional Acceptance Revisiting lessons from previous podcast guests about the counterproductivity of suppressing or over-intellectualising feelings. The concept that suppressed emotions may “come out sideways” through other behaviours, like self-harm or hoarding. Nuanced view of coping mechanisms - not labeling them as purely negative since they served protective purposes. Vulnerability, Shame, and Deepening Relationships Gradual willingness to share deeper, more distressing moments with friends. Examining the reasons behind the instinct to hide intense distress. How vulnerability leads to stronger, more meaningful connections. Positive Effects of Feeling the Hard Stuff Discovering that feeling hard emotions increases the capacity to feel positive emotions more deeply. Finding deeper love, joy, and beauty in everyday experiences. Recognising the importance of support systems when exploring difficult emotions. Reflection and Encouragement for Listeners Encourages listeners to be curious about their own patterns of avoidance and coping. Cautions that intentionally feeling emotions is difficult and requires support. The hopeful observation that allowing feelings can be cathartic, gratifying, and healing—even if it’s uncomfortable. Links My interview on Death, Sex & Money Podcast ep 182: What are “towards and away moves” and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall Podcast ep 169: Compassion-focused therapy for grief and hoarding with Dr Chia-Ying Chou Podcast ep 172: Harriet Impey on clearing out her parents’ very full home, through family belongings and personal growth, in the film Where Dragons Live Declutter Hub podcast Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom session: Accountability Booking Form Website: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding Become a Dehoarding Darling Submit a topic for the podcast to cover Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Instagram: @thathoarderpodcast Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatHoarder@mastodon.online TikTok: @thathoarderpodcast Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Pinterest: That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder subreddit Help out: Support this project Sponsor the podcast…

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REMIX: How to declutter when you're really busy: dehoarding in tiny time slots and other tips 40:44

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REMIX: The little-known Hummingbird Method for tackling avoidance in dehoarding 32:58

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#183 ADHD, executive dysfunction and creating hacks and systems to reduce clutter chaos, with Carrie Lagerstedt 58:46

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I chat with Carrie Lagerstedt, a professional home organiser specialising in working with neurodivergent people in New Zealand. Carrie, diagnosed with ADHD herself, shares insights on managing clutter and executive dysfunction by creating home systems that work for us. We challenge the very idea of laziness and explore the potential of “may as well”. Buy your copy at cambridge.org/EverythingHoarding , and get 20% off with the discount code HOARDING20. #ad Carrie's background and transition from teaching to organising Neurodivergence and Clutter Common issues linking neurodivergence with clutter Out of sight, out of mind Sensory overwhelm and its effect on executive functioning Challenges faced by those with executive dysfunction Carrie's Experience with ADHD Benefits of having ADHD when working with clients with similar challenges Building trust through lived experiences and understanding Moral neutrality and Organising KC Davis' influence on Carrie's philosophy Moral neutrality and functionality in organising Debunking the concept of laziness Challenges of living up to capitalist expectations Systems for Neurodivergent Individuals Making the home work for individuals Difference between aspirational thinking and functional changes Importance of practical systems over willpower Executive Functioning and Organisational Strategies Tools used to aid working memory and organisation (e.g., Post-its) Cognitive flexibility and overcoming 'all or nothing' thinking Understanding blocks and identifying actionable solutions Personal Experiences and Adjustments Personal stories and realisations regarding household tasks Impact of habituation and changing perspectives on tasks Tools and Hacks for Developing Systems Categorising as key to organisation Using visual reminders and structured systems…

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REMIX: The emotional impact of emergency dehoarding 40:22

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#182 What are "towards and away moves" and what on earth do they have to do with hoarding recovery? With Dr Jan Eppingstall 44:52

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Today, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to unpack "towards moves" and "away moves" in the context of hoarding. These terms might sound unusual, but they're crucial for understanding behaviour in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and how they relate to our values. It's all about recognising whether our actions are leading us closer to what matters or pulling us further away, and we'll be exploring how to identify and pivot those choices. Introduction to Towards Moves and Away Moves Definition and explanation of the concept. The relevance of these moves in dealing with hoarding disorder. Initial thoughts on the impact of small actions. Examples in a Hoarding Context Away moves (e.g., keeping craft supplies, avoiding recognising chaos). Towards moves (e.g., donating supplies, acknowledging home environment issues). Explanation of how values influence these moves. Role of Values in Decision Making Importance of determining personal values. How values affect choices and provide motivation. Impact of materialism and societal pressures on values. Cognitive Fusion Explanation and examples of cognitive fusion. The effect of tightly held beliefs on reality and actions. Discussion of accuracy vs. helpfulness of thoughts. Flexibility vs. Rigidity and Perfectionism Psychological inflexibility and societal expectations. The struggle between personal values and societal pressures. The concept of emotional flexibility and its importance. Recognising Towards and Away Moves Strategies for acknowledging and reflecting on these moves. Importance of awareness in decision-making processes. Dopamine and Pleasure vs. Meaning The role of dopamine in pleasure and motivation. Discussion on short-term pleasure vs. long-term meaning. How these insights influence approach and avoidance behaviours. Making Changes and Addressing Moves Creating “if-then” plans to anticipate moves. Reflecting on decisions and their outcomes. Recognising patterns and using past experiences to guide future actions. Role of Helpers in Towards and Away Moves Identification and importance of helpers like goal setting and values clarification. Challenges faced by individuals with attentional deficits. Votes for the Person You Want to Be Connection between choices and self-identity. Concept of actions as votes for future selves. First Steps to Take More Towards Moves Starting with value clarification exercises. Questions to help determine what’s important personally. Encouragement to explore inner motivations and experiences.…

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#181 Past influences and future possibilities: cause and effect and hoarding disorder (plus Podcasthon) 29:44

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#180 Arts and crafts and pretty, pretty things: artists, aesthetics and hoarding with Dr Jan Eppingstall 1:16:51

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm joined by Dr Jan Eppingstall to explore a fascinating angle on hoarding: its artistic side. We'll tackle the connection between creativity and hoarding, including why so many people who hoard are into arts and crafts, and diving into how people who hoard might view their possessions in an unusually aesthetic light. Jan shares insights from both clinical experience and research, offering a fresh perspective on the parallels between art and accumulation. Whether you're a creative type or just curious about the psychology behind collecting, this conversation will give you plenty to think about. Curiosity: Example of using curiosity to cope with pain. Gratitude: Using the Finch app to practice gratitude daily. Journaling: Imperfect journaling as a new approach to managing emotions. Arty, Crafty Side of Hoarding Trends seen in clients regarding art and hoarding The challenge of managing craft supplies in people who hoard Analysing Creativity and Hoarding Comparison to detectives and acute perception Consideration of feeling overlooked Struggles with Crafting and Perfectionism Challenges in starting and completing craft projects Study on Artists and Hoarding Traits shared by studio artists and people who hoard ADHD and executive dysfunction parallels Art and Beauty in Hoarding Tendency to keep beautiful things Struggles with displaying or appreciating collected items Analysis of Andy Warhol's Accumulation Discussion of Warhol’s collection as art vs. hoarding Socioeconomic and behavioural aspects of collecting vs. hoarding Aesthetics and Inclusion in Hoarding Discussion of under-inclusiveness in categorising objects Exploration of seeing beauty in ordinary objects Potential Neurodevelopmental Aspects of Hoarding Insights from MRI study Brain regions potentially linked to hoarding behaviours Using Art to Represent Hoarding Space Artists using clutter and hoarding as themes in art Questioning the nature of representing hoarding through art Fear of Sterile and Soulless Homes Addressing the fear that tidiness equals lack of personality Discussing clutter core and maximising aesthetic displays…

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#179 How hoarding behaviours develop and early intervention for hoarding disorder, with Dr Victoria Ruby-Granger 43:17

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm chatting with Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger, a psychologist at De Montfort University who has researched how hoarding behaviours develop and the potential for early intervention. We explore the importance of looking beyond physical clutter to understand what possessions mean for those with hoarding tendencies and discuss the role of trauma, loss and life transitions. Plus, we touch on the challenges and potential pathways for early intervention in children and young people. Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger's Path to Studying Hoarding Influence of TV programmes about hoarding. Curiosity about the development of hoarding behaviours. Research on Hoarding Behaviours and Childhood Discussion on hoarding behaviours beginning in childhood or adolescence. Experiences shared by research participants. Understanding 'Struggling to Manage' Explanation of the concept derived from research. Methods used by Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger in her research. Qualitative study and grounded theory methodology. Patterns of Hoarding Development Managing possessions and life. Emotional attachments and meanings of possessions. Impact of life transitions on hoarding behaviour. Overcoming Hoarding Challenges Importance of support beyond possessions Identity and functioning challenges for individuals with hoarding disorder. Early Intervention in Hoarding Difficulty in identifying people who need early intervention. Importance of awareness and understanding childhood behaviours. Diagnostic Criteria and Support Challenges Discussion on current diagnostic criteria for hoarding disorder. Difficulties in accessing support without a diagnosis. Potential Patterns and Findings in Dr. Victoria Ruby-Granger's Research Emotional attachments and decision-making reluctance. Preferences for discarding possessions through certain methods. Advice for Parents about children showing hoarding behaviours Recommendations for parents of children displaying hoarding-related behaviours. Importance of communication and understanding the emotional meanings attached to items. Emphasis on trauma and loss in hoarding behaviours. Importance of understanding personal experiences in hoarding…

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#178 Growing up in a hoarded home: Sam’s story as the child of a Mum who hoards 51:38

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode I chat with Sam, who speaks movingly about growing up with a mother who hoards. Now 28, Sam reflects on the claustrophobic environment, the impact on their self-esteem and organisation, and the ongoing journey to rebuild a relationship with food, space, and self-worth. Whether you're a hoarder, the child of somebody who hoards, or you know someone who is, Sam's story offers a vital perspective on living through - and beyond - the hoard. Sam’s experience growing up in a hoarded home Importance of understanding perspectives of those affected by hoarding Sam’s Childhood Experience Description of upbringing in a hoarded home Emotional impact and feelings of claustrophobia and anxiety Lack of emotional and physical space Experiences of shame and comparison with peers Coping Mechanisms and Effects on Daily Life Sam's view of their home as an obstacle course Impact of hoarding on family relationships Lack of privacy and its influence on personal development Impact on Self-Esteem and Mental Health Struggle with self-esteem and self-care Connection between environment and depression Feelings of negativity and isolation School and Social Interactions Effect on academic performance and organisational skills Challenges in completing schoolwork Experiences with friends visiting the home and related anxieties Adolescence and Growing Awareness Anger and frustration during teenage years Lack of external intervention and support Missed opportunities for professional help External Perception and Professional Insight Outside family and societal perceptions of hoarding Drip-feeding experiences to others and feeling of overwhelming others Relationship with Food and Nutrition Negative perceptions of food due to spoiling and smells Ongoing struggle with eating certain foods, particularly fruit Rebuilding a relationship with food as an adult Leaving the Home and Independence Sam’s experience and decision to move out at 20 Challenges and processes involved in leaving the parental hoarded home Continued responsibilities in a second hoarded home Long-term Effects on Sam’s Adult Life Influence on career choice and support work with young carers Ongoing challenges with personal organisation and self-care Struggles with mental health and burnout Sam’s Relationship with Family Complex relationship dynamics with parents Lack of understanding from parents regarding Sam’s struggles and decisions Reflection on parental insight into hoarding and its effects on family Current Relationship with Hoarding and Cleaning Sam’s approach to possessions Emotional responses to cleaning and organising tasks Developing the skillset for maintaining an organised living space Message for Others Experiencing Similar Situations Encouragement for other young carers and children of hoarders Importance of self-worth and identity outside of hoarding stigmas Strategies for mental health and personal growth Final Thoughts and Reflections Reflections on how sharing and exploration helps understanding Hope for the interview to be beneficial to listeners with similar experiences…

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#177 11 unexpected things this podcast has taught me about mistakes, life, perfectionism and progress 38:28

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#176 What to do with clothes when we lose or gain weight (with absolutely NO diet-culture talk!): practical tips for dealing with size fluctuations without clutter 48:41

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In today's episode, I talk about the practical challenges of handling clothes when losing or gaining weight, without promoting or criticising body size changes – this is a diet-culture free zone! I look at the emotional, nostalgic, and practical hurdles in letting go of clothes that no longer fit and offer advice on maintaining a well-balanced wardrobe while managing current size transitions. Like, what do we buy in our new size?! Plus, I'll provide practical tips on selling or donating old clothes and how to avoid over-accumulating in your new size. Handling Clothes When Gaining or Losing Weight Experience with Weight Fluctuation Emotional and Practical Challenges of Clothes That No Longer Fit Challenges of Discarding Clothes Emotional Attachment to Clothes Difficulty in Letting Go of Clothes with Memories or Associations Factors Influencing the Decision to Keep or Discard Clothes Potential Future Weight Fluctuations Emotional Attachments The Sunk Cost Fallacy Guilt About Waste Strategies for Managing Clothes When Weight Changes Building the Dehoarding Muscle Selling vs. Donating Clothes Setting Parameters for Clothing Storage Practical Solutions for Current Clothing Needs Shopping Your Own Stuff Gradual Replacement Strategy Mindful Purchasing Decisions The Liberating Aspects of Letting Go of Clothes…

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#175 Taking the scary first steps: the courage to call a professional organiser, with Jasmine Sleigh 1:00:35

14 weeks ago1:00:35

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Come to a Dehoarding Accountability Zoom Session: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ticket Subscribe to the podcast: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/subscribe Podcast show notes, links and transcript: http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ In this episode, I'm joined by Jasmine Sleigh, professional declutterer, as we discuss the daunting first steps of reaching out for professional help in tackling hoarding. Jasmine shares insights into what prompts individuals to make that initial call and the courage it takes, alongside practical strategies for working with organisers. Tune in for a thoughtful conversation on overcoming fears and building trust for positive change in managing clutter. Inviting Professional Help Jasmine explains common motivators for people to seek help Specific incidents or realisations prompting action Example scenarios like misplaced items or repairs The Initial Call to a Professional Organiser What typically prompts the call for professional help Jasmine's perspective on admiration for those who reach out The importance of taking calls seriously and with empathy Engaging with Potential Clients Approach to initial conversations with potential clients Building trust and understanding the client's situation Establishing client needs and potential outcomes Assessing the Client’s Home How Jasmine gathers information about the client's home Importance of assessing without judgment Considering client interaction with their items and living space Professional Organiser-Client Dynamics Respecting clients’ preferences and leading decisions Balancing professional insight with client autonomy Working towards the client's goals and priorities Process from Inquiry to Working Together Steps from initial inquiry to in-home visit Managing client expectations and realities Ensuring client comfort and readiness In-Home Visit Experience Jasmine’s mindset and approach during a home visit Avoiding overwhelm and maintaining professionalism Logistical and emotional assessments of the client’s environment Judgment and Perception in the Decluttering Process Being conscious of non-verbal cues and judgments perceived by clients Strategies for maintaining client comfort and trust Determining Fit and Referrals Assessing fit between client and professional organiser Referring clients to other professionals when appropriate Dealing with Client Motivations and External Pressures Addressing clients seeking help due to external pressures Finding a balance between urgency and client readiness Ensuring Positive Outcomes and Encouraging Future Engagement Creating a sense of achievement for the client Fostering positive experiences to encourage future self-help Challenges and Responsibilities of Professional Organisers Ethical responsibilities and managing client expectations Building trust for effective collaboration Personal Reflections and Habits for Mental Health Jasmine shares personal habits that support her mental health Reflection on the importance of reading and self-care activities…

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