Ep40 Crushing Criticism

This Whole Life

"My friends, if anyone is detected in a transgression, you who have received the Spirit should restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness. Take care that you yourselves are not tempted."
~ Galatians 6:1

Why is it so tempting to speak harshly to the people that we love most in the world? How do we overcome this habit and speak with the gentleness that comes from the Holy Spirit?
In this final installment of their four-part series on Dr. John Gottman's 4 Horsemen of the Apocalypse for relationships, Kenna and Pat discuss Criticism. They delve into the importance of clear behavioral requests, replacing criticism with positive interactions, and the concept of a "gentle startup" as the antidote to criticism in relationships & marriages. Drawing from their own experiences, they emphasize the detrimental effects of criticism on emotional connection and vulnerability. This episode offers an insightful and heartfelt exploration of emotional connection, personal growth, and the impact of communication dynamics in relationships - not to mention a heated discussion about popular musicians.
Join Pat & Kenna as they close their series on the 4 Horsemen, and get ready to embrace a more connected and joyful relationship!
Episode 40 Show Notes

Check out the first 3 episodes of the 4 Horsemen series:
Episode 14: Defeating Defensiveness
Episode 18: Tearing Down Walls & Building A Connected Marriage (on Stonewalling)
Episode 30: Conquering Contempt

Chapters:
00:00: Intro & a new music-related game
18:22: Highs & Hards
27:42: Explaining Criticism, the last of the Four Horsemen for relationships
42:03: The antidote to Criticism
50:09: Challenge By Choice
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Music: "You're Not Alone" by Marie Miller. Used with permission.

Chapters

1. Intro & a new music-related game (00:00:00)

2. Highs & Hards (00:18:22)

3. Explaining Criticism, the last of the Four Horsemen for relationships (00:27:42)

4. The antidote to Criticism (00:42:03)

5. Challenge By Choice (00:50:09)