"Your relationship with yourself determines every other relationship in your life." When we create a healthy relationship with ourselves, everything in our lives begins to transform. Join us each week as we discuss topics such as overcoming shame, letting go of limiting beliefs, dealing with imposter syndrome, finding healthy motivators for achievement, transforming trauma, and learning how to practice self-love and self-acceptance. The Permission to Love Podcast is dedicated to helping peop ...
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Escaping the Comparison Trap | The Happiness Series
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Send us a text In this episode, I explore how we can escape from the comparison trap and how it affects our overall well-being and happiness. If you find yourself constantly comparing your life, achievements, or self-worth to others, this episode is designed to help you break free from that cycle. We'll explore the essence of comparison, why it’s s…
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Send us a text In this episode, we look at the art of self-motivation and how to keep making progress toward the life you want. If you’ve ever struggled with maintaining motivation or felt stuck in your goals, this episode is for you! In This Episode: Understanding self-motivation and its importance in achieving your goals. How to overcome common b…
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How to Stop Ruminating | The Happiness Series
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Send us a text In this episode we explore the challenging topic of rumination—its definition, impact, and practical strategies for overcoming it. What You'll Learn: Understanding Rumination: Definition of rumination and its characteristics. How rumination differs from productive problem-solving. Psychological theories behind why we ruminate. Impact…
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Send us a text In this episode we dive into the transformative journey from a fixed to a growth mindset. Drawing from Carol Dweck's pioneering research, we explores how embracing challenges and learning from criticism can drastically enhance your personal and professional life. Key Insights: - Understand the defining features of fixed and growth mi…
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Why Kind People Are Happier | The Happiness Series
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Send us a text In this episode of the Permission to Love podcast, we dive into the powerful link between practicing acts of kindness and overall happiness and well-being. Discover how simple acts of kindness can lead to profound changes in your life, reducing stress, anxiety, and even physical pain. In this episode I share compelling research, real…
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Send us a text Are you holding back from pursuing your dreams because you’re afraid you might fail or not be good enough? In this episode we dive into the fear of sucking at something new and how it stops you from living the life you truly want. Learn how to reframe failure, develop a growth mindset, and take actionable steps toward your goals. Whe…
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Is Happiness Linked to Gratitude? | The Happiness Series
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Send us a text In this episode we’re exploring the profound impact that gratitude can have on your overall happiness and well-being. Did you know that practicing gratitude can significantly boost your mood, help you cope with stress, and even improve your self-esteem? Learn how gratitude can shift your perspective, help you savor life's moments, an…
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Send us a text In this episode, we explore the powerful connection between our mind, emotions, and body, and how you can instantly boost your mood by changing your physiology. Whether you’re feeling unmotivated, down, or just in need of a quick pick-me-up, these three simple tips can help you shift into a better state of well-being. Discover how yo…
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Send us a text In this episode, we tackle the growing epidemic of negative thinking and how we can train ourselves to be more optimistic. If you’ve ever struggled with self-sabotage, imposter syndrome, or negative thinking patterns, this episode is for you. We’ll dive deep into the concept of learned optimism and explore practical steps you can tak…
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Send us a text In this episode we discuss the power of anchoring - a simple tool that you can use at any time to shift your emotional state and create positive emotions. Are you tired at being at the mercy of your emotions? Have you ever wished you could capture a joyful moment and relive it whenever you want? Anchoring can help you do just that. L…
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Send us a text In this episode we are diving deep into the topic of burnout and how to recover from it. If you're feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and unsure if you'll ever get back to your normal self, this episode is for you. In this episode, I share my personal journey through burnout and how I've created a more fulfilling and balanced life on th…
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Send us a text What if one of the keys to transforming your life lies in the way you speak to yourself? Welcome to this Friday episode of the Permission to Love podcast, where we’re rolling out a concise and powerful format to transform your mindset and motivation for the weekend. Today, we dissect the compelling five-to-one ratio, uncovering how i…
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Send us a text In this episode we kick off an important series on burnout. We look at the signs and causes of burnout and discuss actionable steps to avoid it. We also look at the role that self-acceptance and prioritizing oneself has on preventing burnout, especially in our high-achieving, success-driven culture. Key Takeaways: Recognizing Burnout…
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Send us a text Are you carrying limiting beliefs that you feel like you will never be able to get rid of? Do you feel like you have tried everything to heal your limiting beliefs, but you keep having them pop up? Are you a high achiever, and are your limiting beliefs getting in the way of the life you truly want? If so, then this episode can help y…
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How to Discover, Develop, Set, and Keep Boundaries
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Send us a text Do you struggle to set meaningful boundaries in your life? Are you experiencing boundary fatigue? Do you feel like your nervous system is fighting you when you try to enforce your boundaries? Were you never taught how to set healthy boundaries. If you answered yes to these questions, you are not alone. Many of us struggle with settin…
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Send us a text Are we looking for happiness in the wrong places? What makes for a genuine and sustainable life of happiness. In this episode, we discuss the pursuit of happiness, the impact of trauma on happiness, and practical ways to enhance your happiness. We look at a number of research studies that have looked at the factors that increase happ…
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Send us a text Getting stuck on the healing journey is more common than you might think. It happens to all of us. So why do we get stuck and how do we get unstuck? In this episode of the Permission to Love Podcast we take a look at those questions as well as diving into the common experience of feeling stuck in the healing journey. We explore the i…
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How to Overcome PAINFUL THOUGHTS and REPROGRAM Your Mind
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Send us a text In this episode of the Permission to Love podcast, we dive deep into understanding and overcoming negative and intrusive thoughts. Discover how to transform your mind from being your master into being your servant and learn the practical tools to reprogram your thinking for a healthier and more fulfilling life. Key Topics: The functi…
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Send us a text Have you ever been confused about what love is? Do you struggle with being consistent with loving yourself and others. Have you always thought that love is simple a feeling? In this episode we also look at some of the misconceptions that we have about love, what love truly is, and how we can access our true nature of love. I hope in …
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The KEY to Self-Confidence | Trauma and Self-Confidence
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Send us a text If you have been struggling to build self-confidence or wondering how to build self-confidence then this episode is for you. In this episode of the Permission to Love podcast we explode the concept of self-confidence, particularly for those who have experienced trauma. My hope is that you will find insights and practical steps on how…
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Using Positive Affirmations to Reprogram Limiting Beliefs
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Send us a text In this episode, we dive into how to reprogram our limiting beliefs with the power of positive affirmations. Have you tried positive affirmations in the past and they haven’t seemed to work for you? Do you feel like it’s been impossible to let go of your limiting beliefs? In this episode, we discussed those questions and more. Discov…
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Send us a text Can radical self kindness be the key to your healing journey and if so, how do we practice it? In this episode, we celebrate one year of the Permission to Love podcast as well as discuss the practice of radical self-kindness, exploring why it's crucial for healing and self-love. Thank you for being a part of this podcast for the last…
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Send us a text Do I have to forgive someone in order to heal? I get that question a lot. In this episode I hope to provide some answers to that question as well as others. When we understand that forgiving someone is about us and not about the other person our entire perspective on the subject of forgiveness will dramatically shift. Forgiveness is …
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Send us a text Have you ever stood in the shadow of your own unmet potential, feeling the weight of the person you might have been if ltrauma hadn't left its mark? This is a reality many face, and in our latest podcast episode, we journey into the process of grieving what trauma stole from us as a way to journey into deeper healing. Together, we co…
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Send us a text In this episode we discuss how to discover the transformative power of the present moment to heal your relationship with yourself and how being present can help heal your nervous system. Whether you struggle with being present, feel overwhelmed by life's demands, or seek escape through distractions, this episode is tailored to guide …
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How to Accept AND Change Yourself: Chasing Normal
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Send us a text There is a place where you can fully accept yourself and have your self-development/self-improvement come from the place of self-acceptance. Self-acceptance is a much more healthy and powerful energy to come from as we work to improve ourselves. Have you ever struggled with being on a never ending treadmill of self-development. Would…
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How to Stop Feeling Like You Need to “Fix Yourself": Chasing Normal
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Send us a text Do you always feel like you need to fix yourself? Do you feel like there is something wrong with you, and if you just keep working on yourself, then you will finally feel "normal" and be able to accept yourself? The feeling that we need to fix ourselves is often a response to trauma and something we developed as a way to stay safe. I…
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There is Nothing Wrong With You: Chasing Normal
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Send us a text Have you ever felt like you are chasing after trying to be normal? Do you carry a nagging feeling that there is something wrong with you? Are you always looking for something in your life that needs to be fixed? I carried that feeling for over 40 years, and in this episode, I share how I got rid of those thoughts and feelings. This e…
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Send us a text Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship that you have. Why? Because your relationship with yourself is determines everything else in your life. When was the last time you asked yourself how your relationship with yourself was going? How long has it been since you took an honest look at how you are treating …
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Send us a text Anger is often one of the first emotions we feel as we begin to heal. It can also be a sign that we are healing. Giving ourselves permission to be angry and to feel anger is an important part of the healing process. In this episode, we discuss the following: How to keep from shaming yourself for feeling anger Why we shouldn’t suppres…
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Send us a text Do you struggle with feelings of shame as a person of faith? Do you feel like you are always trying to please God and that God sees you as sinful and shameful? Has the focus of your faith journey been on how much you are falling short? If you do, you are not alone. I carried those feelings for over four decades. I was confused about …
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How to Have Healthier Relationships Through Self-Love
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Send us a text Do you wonder why you seem to keep choosing toxic relationships? Are you stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns? Do you make promises to yourself about how you will “never” allow someone to treat you "that way" again, only to find yourself right back in the same situation again and again? If any of the above resonates, this episode…
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"What If?" The Question That Can Change Your Life
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Send us a text Asking the question "what if" can either spiral us into fear and hopelessness or catapult us into the life we want. One of the ways we heal is by using our imagination. When we dream of what we can be, we will begin to move ourselves in that direction. In this episode, we look at the following: The Power of Asking a Question How Aski…
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Send us a text Do you feel like your own worst enemy? Are you constantly avoiding yourself? Are you uncomfortable being in your own presence? In this episode, I discuss the following: 1. What is self-avoidance 2. Why we avoid ourselves 3. What happens when we avoid ourselves 4. How we can stop avoiding ourselves 5. What happens when we return to ou…
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Healing From Shame: Disidentifying With It
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Send us a text Shame is one of the most devious emotions. It tricks us into thinking we are the shame. Shame has to be addressed as a part of our healing process. We will stay stuck as long as we think we are the shame. Stuck believing that something is wrong with us and that we can’t heal. The wonderful news is that we can heal and get free from s…
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Send us a text Asking for help can be really hard, and it is a significant and brave step in our healing. When we are serious about our healing, we will start to ask for help when we need it. But why is it so hard to ask for help? What keeps us from asking for help when we need it? This episode is a continuation of the "How We Heal" series. In this…
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How to Start Healing Yourself: The Choice
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Send us a text Over the next several months, I will be sharing step-by-step the process I went through to learn how to heal the childhood trauma I experienced, my life, and my relationships by healing my relationship with myself. In this episode, I share the first step, the choice to heal, and how to make that choice stick. We often choose to heal,…
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Send us a text Does our past really matter? Why does every therapist want to go digging around in our past? What is the connection between our past and our current struggles? In this episode, I am joined once again by my therapist, Lisa Kemppainen, as we discuss these questions and more. You can heal, and an important part of the healing process is…
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Send us a text Have you ever wondered how yoga and meditation can help with healing from trauma? I'm so grateful to have my wife, Agatha, join me for this episode. Agatha spent six years studying yoga and meditation in India. She is a certified yoga and meditation instructor with thousands of hours of training and teaching. In this episode, we disc…
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Anxiety And Inner Child Work - A Conversation With My Therapist
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Send us a text In the final part of our conversation, Lisa and I discussed how to connect with our emotions and understand what they are trying to tell us. As well as how to connect with our inner child for emotional healing. When was the last time you truly listened to what your anxiety or depression was trying to tell you? As I sit down with my t…
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How Curiosity Helps You Heal - A Conversation With My Therapist
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Send us a text Curiosity can completely change the energy on how we approach our healing process. Come join Lisa and I as we discuss how curiosity can be a key factor in opening our hearts and helping us heal. This is part two of a conversation with my therapist about trauma, shame, and healing. In this episode, we discuss: - When Lisa and I first …
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A Conversation With My Therapist - How Trauma Separates You From Yourself
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Send us a text When I first connected with my therapist, Lisa, I had no idea just how transformative her unique approach to trauma would prove to be for me. This episode marks the beginning of a series where Lisa and I have conversations about trauma, shame, and healing! Lisa and I discuss the disconnection from self and the survival instincts that…
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Send us a text Do you feel like you are constantly apologizing? Do you say you're sorry for saying you're sorry? Does always feeling like you need to apologize cause you to feel bad about yourself, and do you wish you could break the pattern? Maybe you are an auto apologizer? Someone who says they are sorry automatically, almost as a reflex for any…
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Send us a text Learning to have fun is a big part of the healing process. ESPECIALLY when nothing feels, sounds, or seems fun! In this episode, we take a look at the following: The reasons we don't allow ourselves to have fun, such as: We are taking our healing so seriously that we simply forget to have fun. We don’t feel like we have earned it or …
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Send us a text The inner critic is that part of us that seems to never give us a break. It’s the constant toxic negative self-talk that we engage with, and it has a significant impact on our nervous systems. It contributes to anxiety, depression, social anxiety, and several other mental, emotional, and physical challenges. It can be a key manifesta…
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Send us a text Do you feel like you have a block to love? No matter how hard you try, do you keep resisting the love of others and your own love? It's a painful place to be, but fortunately, we can heal and open our hearts to love fully and to be loved. In this episode, we discuss the signs of resistance, its origins, and how the power of self-love…
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Send us a text "I am not who you think I am, I am not who I think I am, I am who I think you think I am." - Charles Horton Cooley Ever feel like you're living your life according to someone else's script? Always trying to win others' approval or getting them to accept you? Ever find yourself losing sleep over the opinions of others and what you thi…
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Send us a text Rumi — 'Recognize that unlearning is the highest form of learning.' I remember the day I read that quote. It somehow struck me to the core and awakened something in me. I realized at that moment that while all my efforts of learning about trauma, shame, addictions, and the healing process were beautiful, I needed to focus just as muc…
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Send us a text What comes to mind when you hear the words self-love? Do images of people acting arrogant or prideful pop up in your mind? Do you have fears that if you practice self-love, others will judge and label you? Have you defined self-love in such a way that you feel like you will never be worthy of it? The meaning and the stories that we h…
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How To Practice Gratitude – A Practical Approach
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Send us a text We have all heard the research about the benefits of gratitude. We have been encouraged to keep our chins up, be grateful for what we have, and keep a gratitude journal to remind us of how blessed we are. But what happens when you can't see to find it in you to practice gratitude? What happens when the trauma you experienced puts you…
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