HOME Podcast with Laura McKowen and Holly Whitaker takes up the big questions of life through the lens of addiction recovery. Each week, we explore a new discussion about our hearts, relationships, life, love and the universe at large. Intro and outro music by Radiation City.
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Tell Me Something True is for people who want to fall in love with the mystery of life again. Practical, fun, and provocative conversations that use the lenses of psychology, philosophy, creativity, science, and spirituality to help us discover the surprising things that make life meaningful. Laura McKowen, the host, is the best-selling author of We Are The Luckiest, a "raw, deep and hopeful" memoir. Laura brings hard-won life experience, a searing curiosity, and deep passion for others to e ...
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The Seltzer Squad is a supportive space for those seeking and maintaining sobriety. We're not trying to be role models, we're just trying to hang out.
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Returning guest and founder of Counter Culture Club Molly Ruggere joins Kate to talk about her journey since they last spoke, coaching, her NA drink festival and more. Stay tuned until next week for part 2 which will be released at patreon.com/seltzersquad
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I had the privilege of sitting down with my incredible friend and author, Tawny, who wrote us a much-needed book about relationships in sobriety. On this episode we discuss the evolution of our definition of sobriety, the writing process and of course DRY HUMPING, Tawny's book.
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It's official! The first squad retreat is coming to New York state this June. Lori and Kate get into the details and address your questions, comments, and concerns.
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207 - Interview with Dr. Laura Petracek
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Dr. P and Kate discuss some therapy tools from Dr. P's book: The DBT Workbook for Alcohol and Drug Addiction. You know we're obsessed with emotional regulation lately, and this book breaks down approachable ways to work on your recovery. Pick up your copy wherever books are sold.
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Returning guest Lori from Get Connected AF and Kate list the shit that gets under their skin in sobriety and beyond.
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Kate and Laura catch up on life since the last interview (Episode 59) and discuss Laura's NEW book: Push Off From Here. Writing a book is a big deal especially when it's about sobriety and these nine essential truths about sobriety are a total gamechanger. You can pickup your copy of Push Off From Here wherever books are sold.…
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Kate's husband TJ joins the show to reflect on Kate's 7 years of sobriety.
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A mini-sode from Kate about where the pod is at. Send your questions/comments/suggestions to seltzersquadpod@gmail.com.
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A bittersweet day in the squad - Jes reflects on 4 years of podcasting to talk about what she's learned, how her sobriety has changed, and more.
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Hot mess hoedown is back with a 17th installment including viral fights, sprinklers, and grandpa neighbors.
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TW: Mentions of suicide 10:45-12:50 Kate and Jes catch up and discuss how their year went and what they're hoping for in 2023.
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195 - Blindsided by a Breakup with Dillan Gay
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Dillan of The Sober Gay returns to the show to talk about a recent breakup, how to deal with breakups in sobriety, celebrity relationships and more.
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Jes and Kate are back to answer your pressing questions about meetups, dating, withdrawals and more! If you have a question you'd like to be answered on the show, send them to seltzersquadpod@gmail.com
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After Jes's episode, it's Kate's turn to catch up about her job, new house, and more.
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She's back! Jes returns to the pod to talk about her wedding, honeymoon, and more.
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Dillan from The Sober Gay podcast returns to the pod to talk about his experience with 1,000 days, friendships, career paths, and much more.
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Friend of the show Jac Walsh returns to talk all about journaling, what's worked for her, and how to get started.
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As we announced last week, this is the last episode of Tell Me Something True. Today, Laura walks through why we made this decision (it’s all fine, nothing is wrong!) A thing worth celebrating is that, over 67 episodes, nearly a quarter of a million adventurous, curious people said YES and pressed play over 600,000 times. Holy cow…that’s A LOT!!!!!…
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Melissa Urban on How Boundaries Will Set You Free
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Melissa Urban is one of the few people we’ve asked back to the show and there’s a reason for that. She’s got such a unique, magnetic energy and this strong, no-nonsense, yet compassionate way of showing up in the world. And now, she’s written The Book of Boundaries: Set the Limits That Will Set You Free and, can we get a hell yes? We need this in o…
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189 - Six Years of Sobriety with Jocellyn Harvey
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While Jes is still on her honeymoon, Kate talks to returning guest Jocellyn about their experiences with 6+ years of sobriety under their belts.
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Jennifer Moss on The Burnout Epidemic
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Tell the truth - how many times does the phrase “I’m so burned out?” show up around you? Burnout is both more than we think it is, and much more insidious. Burnout has been defined by the World Health Organization as a workplace-centered phenomenon, and they calculate that it’s killing +750,000 people a year! Jennifer Moss has dedicated a large par…
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Ali Shapiro on Healing our Relationship to Food, Weight, and Body Image
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Ali Shapiro arrives with a mountain of good news! We don't have to evade our relationship with food. We don't have to be ruled by stories that shame us and keep us stuck. Most importantly, those stories don't have to contribute to hating ourselves. Ali is the creator of the Truce with Food Program, which combines how we think - and feel about - foo…
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Larissa May and Our Journey to Digital Wellness
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On TMST we’ve been open about our conflicted relationship with technology and social media. And you’ve heard many of our guests recount their mixed feelings, as well. Today’s guest takes all of that and turns it up to 11. In 2018, Larissa May (who goes by Larz) spoke out about her struggle with depression on social media. The post and hashtag that …
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Erin Lane on the Scripts That Hurt Mothers (and non-mothers, too!)
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We don’t like to admit it, but there are a hell of a lot of scripts that run us. They’re the “shoulds” - ideas so woven into our lives that we don’t even know they exist. For virtually all women - the scripts around motherhood are the most pernicious. They load us down with self-doubt, bake in unattainable expectations, and set us up for a life whe…
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188 - Breakups and Relationships with Jac Walsh
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While Mrs. Jes suns her buns on her honeymoon, Kate and Seltzer Squad member (and friend) Jac Walsh discuss one of the most requested topics: RELATIONSHIPS & BREAKUPS IN SOBRIETY! Jac reveals details about pursuing divorce, dating, and choosing herself in sobriety.
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Jeff & Debra Jay on Intervention & Family Recovery
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It’s a familiar, but true, saying: recovery is about breaking cycles. Jeff and Debra Jay know this better than most. Together, they’ve been doing pioneering work in the areas of family recovery and intervention for decades. Their book, Love First is the essential work on the family recovery dynamic. It’s now in its third printing and it’s a powerfu…
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Anne Helen Petersen on Burnout and The Myth of “Having it All
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“Rachel Hollis is a manifestation of a larger ideology about women's place in society. That if you just try hard enough, all of these structural issues that are making your life really, really hard can be solved if you just wash your face. .” - Anne Helen Petersen Anne Helen Petersen is one of our most essential cultural observers. Her work at Buzz…
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Because Jes is getting married this week 👰🏻♀️💍, Kate interviews Seltzer Squad member (and friend) Jac Walsh. Jac shares her sobriety story and discusses the importance of building community in recovery. Seriously, Jac is doing the most.
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Branden Collinsworth on Lessons Learned from 1,000 Books
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It’s great to love books and the written word and seeing new worlds open up through a writer’s work is thrilling. We know our lives can be transformed through a good book. Friends - meet Branden Collinsworth, someone who has taken those ideas, and turned them up to eleven. Branden Collinsworth is a Nike Master Trainer, Yoga Teacher, Human Performan…
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Mary Laura Philpott on the Joy & Dread of Being Human
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People tell Mary Laura Philpott that her writing is like having a conversation with her. We can say that is 100% true. She’s an utterly captivating writer AND conversationalist. You may have first heard about Mary Laura Philpott through her first book, “I Miss You When I Blink.” Her new memoir in essays is “Bomb Shelter: Love, Time, and Other Explo…
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Inspired by a listener email, Kate and Jes take the opportunity to discuss anger in this episode. They discuss different types and how they deal with it.
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Chris Marshall on How Connection Can Save Your Life
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Being human means sometimes we feel deeply alone. Cut off from other people. For most people, it passes quickly. For others, especially those who also suffer from addiction, that feeling of isolation is persistent. It’s a low hum that follows a person everywhere. Part of the reason why some drink is to numb that feeling and turn down the voices tha…
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HANDS UP if knowing what you want, and standing up for it, has not always been welcome. Imagine being hit with that - and you’re America’s top-selling female group of all time! Marissa Moss has a lot to say about powerful women, making their own rules, and finding solidarity when the world is pitting them against each other. This TMST is a conversa…
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In this episode Kate and Jess answer questions from listeners….. and go off on some very interesting tangents.
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When was the last time you got real about jealousy or envy? In this episode, Laura brings the heat, digging into how jealousy and envy have shown up in her life. She explores the ways they’re different and the ways we use them to blow ourselves up. This is no trail of tears, though! We’ll take a look at what social psychologists and researchers hav…
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Dr. Kate Pate on Vets, First Responders and why “Being Triggered” is More Complicated Than You Think
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We are never more than one connection away from a veteran or first responder. They are the ULTRA helping professions. During the pandemic, many were the first line of protection and care. Over 20 years of The Global War of Terror, many have experienced repeated deployments with an anodyne “thank you for your service” and a bad country music song as…
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In this episode Kate and Jes check in with how their relationships with their partners are in this post (?) pandemic life.
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Veronica Valli on The Promise of Emotional Sobriety for TMST’s 1st Birthday
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Rollercoasters are a fun diversion, but they’re no way to live. That’s why the whipsaw experience of being on an emotional rollercoaster is one of the things folks are most happy to see leave their life. Those radical highs and lows aren’t confined to the times when people are using - they often extend well into sobriety. Usually driven by hyper-se…
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Brianna Madia on Surviving the Lie That Was Killing Her
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Brianna Madia’s journey as a vagabond lifestyle influencer was extraordinary. It was her, her van, her dogs and, for a time, her husband. And according to her it was really good. Until it wasn’t. And then, it got really scary.Brianna takes us behind the curtain of the IG influencer life - and then we go 100 levels deeper. While the world was fixed …
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The 16th installment of the Hot Mess series!!! From rogue tampons to 5 mile walks in 30 degree weather, our listeners share it all.
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An insatiable need for romantic attention and love. Periods of overeating or starving. Using alcohol, food, or over-working to numb out. A pattern of unstable and painful relationships. Does this sound painfully familiar? Kelly McDaniel is a trauma therapist who saw these traits over and over in clients who felt trapped in cycles of harmful behavio…
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Michael Slepian on Knowing the Difference Between Secrets, Lies & Privacy
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What could be heavier than the secrets we carry? The constant vigilance and concealment can be exhausting. But can you tell the difference between what’s a secret and what’s being kept private? Michael Slepian does and he can back it up with research. Slepian studies the psychology of secrets and, as he’s discovered, the real problem with keeping a…
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In this Catchup episode Kate talks about how she is seeking fun. With everyday being Groundhog Day, how does anyone have fun these days?
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Laura on Protecting Your Energy using “Energy Dollars”
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Every day, every hour, every minute, there’s a request. More time. More attention. More engagement. More space in our brains and our lives. Laura feels the pinch like everyone and she frequently fields questions on how she allocates her time, attention and life passion. In this solo episode, Laura shares how she found inspiration in the way the com…
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Shauna Niequist on Thriving After Life Goes in the Blender
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Everyone has a day, or week, go sideways. What happens when life hits the blender - and it goes on for years?Shauna Niequist has a lot to offer because she’s lived it. Her latest book, I Guess I Haven’t Learned That Yet, covers a time in her life when Every. Single. Thing. was, as she says, tossed in the blender. Family. Vocation. Faith. Sense of b…
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Jodi White on Love Addiction, Mother Hunger and Codependency
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Let’s be real. The words “Love Addiction” can trigger a massive eye roll. Jodi White gets it and she’s here to show us that it’s real and a lot more common than we think. Jodi draws on the groundbreaking work of Pia Mellody and builds on it in a way that is comforting, clarifying and hopeful. Jodi is open about the ways SHE’s struggled in this area…
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Ana Marie Cox on Trusting The Process (even when she doesn’t want to)
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When Ana Marie Cox said, “I can’t wring self-worth out of the universe,” we felt that hit like a mountain.Ana spent the better part of two decades as a political columnist and culture critic. She started the political blog Wonkette in 2004, and worked at outlets like The New York Times, Time magazine, GQ, Air America, and The Guardian. After living…
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Kate and Jes discuss Jes's experience with Covid, Kate quitting her job, and more.
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TMST @ SXSW with Jason Isbell, Jan Rader and Wes Hurt
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Wes Hurt is the founder of Sparkling Yerba Mate CLEAN Cause, a beverage company donating 50% of its net profits to funding sober living scholarships; Jason Isbell is a Grammy Award-Winning singer/songwriter; and Jan Rader, Director of the Mayor’s Council on Public Health & Drug Control Policy for Huntington, WV, who was also named to TIME Magazine’…
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AMA with Laura on Impostor Syndrome + Bonus on Writing and Publishing a Book
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Laura mines more gold from the TMST community this week with a MUCH requested topic: Imposter Syndrome. Hands up - who doesn’t face some version of this, and would we want to hang with someone who doesn’t??? In this episode, Laura leaves us with three key ideas to help us deal with Imposter Syndrome and we close the show with a note for people who …
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