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Is Perfectionism the new ADHD? How do I stop living in fear of failure? How to get out of my own way? Why am I so hard on myself? Why do I self-sabotage? Will ruminating + catastrophizing ever end? There's a BETTER Way to Perfectionism, that's empowering highly driven, Type-A, ambitious perfectionists to OWN their perfectionism instead of owned by it. Perfectionism Rewired host Courtney Love Gavin (CLG) shows you that way in every episode. Perfectionism Rewired is committed to neuroscience t ...
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Are you tired of constantly feeling like you’re getting crushed by deadlines and no matter how hard you work you just can’t get ahead of yourself? The truth is you can’t hustle your way to happiness. If you want to feel better, you have to learn how to manage your mind. And in this podcast, we’ll show you how. The Less Stressed Lawyer Podcast is the go to resource for lawyers who are over the overwhelm and want to live lives with less stress and far more fulfillment. Join Lawyer turned Life ...
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Many people wrongly believe that perfectionism looks like that Type-A tendency to always be on top of things with all your ducks in a row, never a hair out of place. Maybe you resonate with this kind of perfectionism. However, I can guarantee that this isn’t the only way perfectionistic tendencies are making an appearance in your life. Listen in th…
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Fascia is the Wi-Fi of your insides, communicates faster than the speed of light and where stress goes. But when you're hanging out in your head (overthinking, ruminating, catastrophizing, anxiously worrying about your to-do list), you're unable to hear your fascia. When high-achievers ignore their fascia, it adds more stress, impacting your body's…
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If you identify as a perfectionist, chances are you’re falling victim to all-or-nothing thinking often. Perfectionists tend to look at the world in extremes and see things as binary, black or white, this or that with no room for the grey, and this rigidity brings with it a lot of unnecessary emotional suffering. Join me on this episode to learn exa…
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Stressed out, frustrated or having trouble sleeping? Stress is physiological for perfectionists and our physiological stress impacts our brain, our ability to speak, to think and our emotional agility. So if you want to have the ability to take charge of perfectionism, you gotta solve stress at the source. Bc you don't have time to do 20 minutes of…
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Racing through your days on hyper-speed but still not present for any of it? Discover how high-achieving architect Jessica went from pushing through "everything will be better once..." to being present during the most challenging time of her life, her mother’s passing. Hear from Jessica how Perfectionism Optimized coaching gave her the tools to sto…
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Feeling like you can't relax on vacation? As perfectionists the way we relax is completely different than other people. Learn why and how to start relaxing on your own terms. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family on vacation or turni…
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Take the overwhelm out of perfectionism, starting today with the one SKILL SET you’ve never been taught. #truthbooth it’s the only skill set that’ll save you from a life that feels frustrating - like you’re always chasing happiness. Because when you put yourself in charge of your internal world and remove overwhelm- the way you show up in the world…
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Are you being specific enough when it comes to the results you want to create? Do you feel directionless or confused when it comes to the action you should be taking? How is failing to define clear results preventing you from achieving your full potential, and what can you do about it? Tune in this week as I invite you to audit your life and the go…
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Feel like you’re carrying the weight of the world? You want to be a present parent, crush it at work, keep it fresh with your partner, call your bestie back and drink your water, BUT when you compartmentalize and be whoever you need to be to get the result, you end up exhausted. Say goodbye to the exhausting cycle of squishing yourself to fit in. T…
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Where are you experiencing unnecessary drama in your life? Do you know how you might be creating an emotional rollercoaster for yourself through your behaviors? How is drama addiction showing up in your storytelling? Join me on this episode to hear how drama addiction manifests and examples of how you might be unwittingly engaging in it. I’m showin…
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Are you stuck in a rut at work? Do you feel drained, uninspired, or burnt out? Maybe you’ve toyed with the idea of taking time off, knowing it will recharge your batteries, but get hung up on the what ifs. Join me this week as I break down the negative thoughts you might be experiencing about taking time off and show you how to change the way you’r…
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Mixed models are models where you’ve jumbled up positive and negative components together. This is where you might have a negative thought and feeling but a positive action and result (or vice versa), and while you might have multiple models running at one time, they should never be combined, and I’m showing you why. Listen in this week to learn wh…
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Feeling Clenchy? Discover the truth about what *really* happens when you let go of rigid rules that've made you super successful. I'm giving you the uncensored inside scoop on exactly wha happened when I stopped fisting, opened up to new possibilities and began to surf my own ocean--my achieving + energy increased 80%!!!!! If you're exhausted or fe…
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Want to know how to get unstuck? Whatever you're stuck with, whether it's your time, money, making an investment, or anything else, I've got you covered in today's episode because I recently recorded a masterclass on exactly how to get unstuck. Discover 10 obstacles that are stopping you from making progress on your goals, and the 10 specific solut…
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If you've ever felt trapped in a cycle of I should be past this and using your intellectual smarts as evil tools to hammer yourself with, this episode is for you. On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, PRESENCE with your family or breaking generational cycles …
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In honor of the 100th episode of The Less Stressed Lawyer podcast, I’m walking you through my backstory of why I decided to make the shift from attorney to coach, the impact coaching has had on my life, and something exciting that I’ve had in the works since 2017. Join me this week as we celebrate the huge milestone of reaching 100 podcast episodes…
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Fighting against yourself IS playing life on torture mode AND entirely OPTIONAL. Most solutions for overcoming perfectionism suck. They're not empowering, efficient or any FUN, plus research shows Overcoming Perfectionism simply *doesn’t work*when you are driven, ambitious, caring, high-performer. That’s WHY I’m revealing how you can take your frus…
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There are many reasons we suffer emotionally, but one of the most common sources of emotional suffering comes from the expectations that we have. So, what is the easiest and most effective way of reducing our suffering? We change our expectations. Tune in this week to discover how changing your expectations will help you feel better in your life. Y…
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Feel like Perfectionism is controlling you? That you’re at the mercy of your perfectionist tendencies? Or that life would be easier if you weren’t such a perfectionist? Perfectionism is not a choice. But you can choose how you want to navigate through it, and that choice is powerful. Discover how the greats Dolly Parton, Serena Williams, Kobe Bryan…
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Got resentment? Uncover where resentment is hiding in your home responsibilities and the No. 1 mistake you're probably making when it comes to communicating your frustration (this takes you out of black and white thinking). Plus the ONE TOOL that makes you 90% less resentful towards your partner + makes 100% sense as to why you feel like it's all o…
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Mirror judgments have come up on the podcast before, but I’m diving deeper in today’s episode. A mirror judgment is a judgment that you have about another person that you also have of yourself. So, you judge a person for something and then subconsciously, you’re judging yourself for it at the same time. Tune in this week as I break down what a mirr…
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Building Resilience IRL Intimate, all access behind-the-scenes look of how I get my anxious, overthinking Type-A high performance perfectionistic brain to calm TF down *when Anxiety strikes*. Previously only available on the Private Client Podcast, sharing with you in celebration of my birthday AND to show you there IS a MUCH better way to deal wit…
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Something I’ve noticed about humans is that, oftentimes, they aren’t willing to help themselves first. It’s great that we live in a world where you can ask for help when you’re having a problem, but have you ever stopped to consider whether you’re helping yourself first? Tune in this week to start committing to helping yourself first. You have to b…
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Discover the extraordinary scientifically proven benefits of rewiring your perfectionism with special guest and former #recovering perfectionist, CEO Dylan. Plus the hidden costs of unchecked perfectionism and how it's sucking the life out of you (literally). Ready to leverage your perfectionism in WAY YOU LOVE WITHOUT all the victimy #recoveringpe…
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Committing to the finish makes a massive difference in how you approach your goals and pursue the life you want to live. I watch too many people make lavish plans and deeply commit to getting started on them, feeling excited and motivated to take consistent action, until things don’t go exactly as they’d expected. Tune in this week to discover how …
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For driven perfectionists self-sabotage often appears as status quo success and our unfulfilling choices are applauded. Bc these self-sabotaging perfectionistic patterns go undetected, you’re off chasing an illusion of control, achieving under pressure with an overcrowded schedule, snipping at your spouse, thinking I'll be happy when..." only to fi…
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When you’re making a decision, you’re confronted with the options available to you. You make a choice, and as time unfolds, you see the consequences of your decisions. However, what I often see people doing is picking apart their decisions before they make them, looking for all the potential issues that could arise from their choice. In doing this,…
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What if your self critic is actually a caring signal from your unconscious, warning you of danger ahead + to get off this path? Your self critic is not the enemy; it's an alarm bell from your body. But it's near impossible to listen to it with all the NOISE + stigma surrounding criticism, self-love and self-compassion. Discover the health consequen…
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The massive opportunity-costs you are blind to every time you self criticize, how habitual self-criticism creates insidious patterns of self-sabotage and 3 simple steps to be high-quality in all areas of your life WITHOUT self-criticism. This is the second episode of the trilogy on self-criticism iceberg. Ready to liberate yourself from perfectioni…
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Is your Self-Criticism only getting worse? Overthinking a million ways you suck your mind's go-to? If your self-criticism cycles JUST won't quit, it's not bc you need more self-compassion, self-love or a less tragic childhood. It's simply bc you're focusing on the wrong problem and by misidentifying your problem, you're missing out on all the super…
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Of all the lies I notice my clients telling themselves, one stands out to me. They look at other people and think that whatever they’re dealing with, they’re uniquely situated, and it’s easier for them. This came up recently when I was coaching on time management and my client said, “Isn’t it just easy for some people?” Tune in this week to discove…
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How raising your standards solves the perfectionistic tendencies that've been holding you back. Hear from Perfectionism Optimized client Brian who was exhausted from being everything to everyone while pulled in a million directions and how making this ONE swap immediately created a cascade of less stress, more presence and legit enjoyment in his dy…
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Exactly how you can end the never good enough cycle right now, for real + for-ever. Plus WHY what you've tried before didn't work + why this will work FOR you. PERIOD. Why settle for good enough when you could be empowered? If you want the only tools designed specifically for perfectionists to move beyond never enough, skills that make you stronger…
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When you’re in a situation you don’t like, it’s normal to look for the faults and focus on all the negativity. But you have two other options available here: get out of it, or get into it. Getting into it may take more effort than just going with the flow, but it truly changes everything and allows you to create a life you truly love. If you’re in …
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The MOST productive + positive way to quit people-pleasing, ruminating, catastrophizing, overthinking, second guessing yourself, constantly seeking reassurance, answering work emails on vacation, over-apologizing. The real reason WHY you haven’t been able to stop despite knowing harmful side effects. Awesome acronym to identity your own perfectioni…
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The idea of being deserving is a topic that comes up often in my coaching calls. From what I’ve observed, using the thought framework of whether or not we’re deserving of what we want is completely unhelpful and overcomplicated, so I’m offering you a new way to approach whatever it is you desire most. Join me on this episode to hear the two differe…
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Fear of failure holding you back? Can't stop obsessing over what you should've done better? I'm telling you exactly how to stop being judgmental, drop the fear of failure and always know if you're doing a good job with a way that's more useful, feels better + helps you progress wayyyy faster Listen to liberate yo self from the cycle of fear and sel…
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Uncover how perfectionism impacts your intimate relationships and the No. 1 mistake you're probably making when it comes to resentment, Plus the ONE SKILL that makes you 90% less overwhelmed? It's like having the power to predict and avoid emotional meltdowns – for yourself! Ready to rewire? Upgrade resentment for resilience inside Perfectionism Op…
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The thoughts we think really do matter, and they have the power to transform our experience of anything in our lives. Whatever you’re going through right now, you have the ability to think to yourself, “This is happening for me…” and when you do, you can approach your problems with a whole new perspective. Discover how this one thought can totally …
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Hurry, it’s your last chance to rewire your perfectionistic patterns in an accelerated 6 weeks with just you + CLG inside the Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator Be sure to apply NOW or forever hold your peace! Perfectionism Rewired Accelerator 1.0 is closing + retiring forever on Friday February 16, 2024. Tp get in on this spaceship before it blasts…
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Are you a high achiever who secretly struggles when things don't go according to plan? A setback occurs and it feels like your world is falling apart? SAME. In this episode, I'm candidly sharing my recent stumbles and how I moved forward without blame, making myself small or beating my self to a pulp. You'll learn what NOT to do when things go awry…
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Nobody is going to give you permission to set big goals, to chase big dreams, and to live an over-the-top life. Nobody is going to tell you it’s OK for you to want and have more for your life; you have to give that permission to yourself. You don’t have to need something to go after it, you can chase a dream simply because you want to, and I’m show…
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Break free from stressy ruminating + overthinking TODAY with this simple method that allows you to slow your mental chatter's roll. Listen as I walk you step-by-step how you can get an accurate read of what's happening inside your head + clear up your perspective so that you can finally feel calm-ish. If you're ready to change and want proven, scie…
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You're used to being the go-to person, who's always happy to help and yet..why is it so freaking hard for you to ask for support? Discover how perfectionism isn't an excuse, it's an explanation and how to advocate for yourself on this empowering episode. If you want to have the capacity, courage & certainty to seek support and leverage it, you gott…
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Are you tired of white-knuckling it? Ready to move beyond relentless people-pleasing and pretending to be calm? Discover the real reason you're not overcoming perfectionism (it has nothing to do with how hard you’re trying) and how to stop settling for a life of miserable meh as a recovering perfectionist. Perfectionism Leveraged client Whitney cou…
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Most people think of business development as a massive challenge. However, that’s just because they never learned how to create clients and money on demand. So, if you want to develop a stronger, more profitable business, this is a must-listen episode. Tune in this week to dive deep into business development. I’m sharing exactly what you need to do…
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You know logically it’s not *your job* to fix everything in your orbit yet the moment anything goes awry, you feel like the outcome is all on your shoulders. Perhaps you say “yes” to practically everything you’re asked to do…but feel kinda resentful later. An overactive sense of responsibility can be a tough habit to unlearn when you CARE deeply + …
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You might think it’s too late to set your intentions and figure out a plan for 2024, however, now is the perfect time to kick your year into action. It’s a New Year, we’re back at it after a break, and today, I’m walking you through an evaluation of 2023 and setting you up for achieving your goals in 2024. Tune in this week to review, reset, and fo…
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Discover why compulsively seeking more information to solve perfectionistic problems is actually self-sabotage and how you can upgrade obsessively finding the right answers to playfully pursuing the correct ones FOR YOU. Plus how to know when searching for the perfect way to fix yourself is secretly holding you back and the 5 hidden dangers all dri…
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What *really* happens when you upgrade from control to power, the suck of growth as a perfectionist and ultimately finding empowerment in what initially seems like a total disaster. Join me (CLG) on the never before shared journey of choosing to rise to the occasion of being a perfectionist as I unravel my own striving, intrusive thoughts and how t…
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