Best Nadine Neukirch Clinical Psychologist Dating Coach Podcasts (2024)

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Navigating 9 Years Of A Long Distance Relationship - Interview With Jasmine 56:29

18h ago56:29

56:29

How to make a long distance relationship work? In this episode Jasmine shares her experience of navigating a 9 year long relationship between Australia and the UK. She shares key challenges and tips to help a long distance relationship thrive. Topics include; how to build trust, how to stay connected, the importance of personal development, and for…

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Am I Triggered Or Is This A 'Red Flag'? 15:22

27d ago15:22

15:22

When you experience extreme emotions in dating it can be hard to know if this is a trigger from your past experiences, or if this is a 'red flag' for the relationship you are in. In this episode: - Learn about differences between past triggers and 'red flags' - Skills to self-regulate and communicate your needs FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in…

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Build Resilience In Dating: Savouring Pleasant Events 21:58

1M ago21:58

21:58

Resilience in dating helps you bounce back from difficult experiences, be able to access balanced thinking, and more easily regulate emotions. This episode looks at the strategy 'savouring pleasant events' to build up a bank of positive experiences in your life and increase resilience along your dating journey. FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in…

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Managing Jealousy- Insights From Ruby 37:34

1M ago37:34

37:34

Jealousy is a common emotion experienced in dating and relationships which many find challenging. In this episode my friend Ruby shares her experience with jealousy, including her journey with non-monogamous relationships. She shares key strategies to embrace jealousy as a useful tool. Topics include: effective communication, managing uncertainty a…

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Balance Your Thinking: Take That Person Off The Pedestal 9:57

2M ago9:57

9:57

It can be common in dating for our brain's to have biased thinking; either putting someone on a pedestal and not seeing the early 'red flags', or discounting someone who could have great potential. In this episode: - Learn a quick and simple technique to balance your thinking in dating FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadin…

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Create Your Dating Experience 10:33

2M ago10:33

10:33

It is common to find dating difficult, however it is less common for people to know exactly what they would like to be different in their dating experience (besides meeting their 'perfect' person!). In this episode learn strategies to create an enjoyable dating experience rather than passively waiting for things to change. FREE Guide on Top 3 Minds…

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Mind Reading & Dating 14:50

2M ago14:50

14:50

It is common for people to 'mind read' in dating. That is, assume what others are thinking and take this as fact. This unhelpful thinking pattern can hinder your dating experience, leading to increased judgements of others, misunderstandings, and missed opportunities. In this episode: - Learn about dating situations where 'mind reading' can occur -…

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Pre-Date Meditation: Managing Fear Of Feelings 18:33

2M ago18:33

18:33

Do you experience difficult feelings before a date? Anxiety, Anger, Hopelessness, Confusion? In this episode: - Rationale for practising equanimity to emotions - Pre-date meditation to get used to feelings related to worst-case and best-case of going on your next date FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.com Have…

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How To End A Date 13:56

3M ago13:56

13:56

A common challenge in dating is how to end a date. Maybe you're too worried about hurting the other person's feelings, or maybe you like the person so much you don't want it to end, but the date drags on and ultimately this can lead to dating burnout. In this episode: - Learn about common challenges in ending dates - Tips what to say to end a date …

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How To Solve Problems In Dating 18:56

3M ago18:56

18:56

Numerous issues and problems can arise in dating. For example; how to have a difficult conversation, where do I go for the next date, how do I manage my anxiety in dating, how do I get more dates? Problem solving is a skill which can be learnt and refined. In this episode: - Learn about the Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) skill called 'Problem …

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Reduce Dating Burnout: Impacts of Masking 16:31

3M ago16:31

16:31

Dating burnout can include feeling fatigued, hopeless and anxious. In this episode the impact of masking behaviours is explored as a key contributor to burnout. Masking involves concealing true emotions, thoughts, behaviours to conform to social pressures or a perceived ideal. Learn steps to shift masking behaviours in order to attract people who d…

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3 Lessons For Dating From A Yoga Teacher Training 26:10

4M ago26:10

26:10

Nadine completed a one month intensive yoga teacher training in India 2015. This episode explored 3 key lessons from the experience and how this can relate to improving dating outcomes. Themes covered in this episode: - comparisons - expectations and mindset - impact of environment FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneu…

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How To Stay Focused On Your Dating Goal: Goal Setting 10:36

4M ago10:36

10:36

Forming clear goals in dating helps you stay focused on what is important to you. Goal setting can increase the time and effort you spend in building skills and strategies to overcome dating hurdles. In this episode: - Learn about SMART goals and the benefits Have a dating question or topic you'd like to hear about on this podcast? Send Nadine a me…

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Managing Loneliness 14:47

4M ago14:47

14:47

Loneliness is a universal human emotion that can commonly occur in dating. In this episode: - Learn about the definition and function of loneliness - Strategies to help manage feelings of loneliness and increase feelings of connection FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.com…

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How To Heal From A Breakup 19:53

5M ago19:53

19:53

Feeling heartbroken? Lonely, sad, angry, numb. Breakups can bring up intense overwhelming emotions and rumination. In this episode: - Learn about actions that can exacerbate heartbreak - Learn about strategies to healthily process breakup emotions and thoughts FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.com…

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What To Do If They Haven't Replied To Your Message 16:14

5M ago16:14

16:14

Have you suddenly been ghosted by someone, left waiting for a reply to a message, unsure if you should contact them or wait? Not knowing how to respond when someone pulls away can create intense anxiety, anger, or other uncomfortable emotions. In this episode: - Learn key tips to decide when and if you should contact someone if you're waiting on a …

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How To Enjoy Use Of The Dating Apps 23:15

5M ago23:15

23:15

Have you felt disheartened/overwhelmed with use of dating apps? It can be common for people to feel burnout with the apps and want to quit using them altogether. This however limits opportunities to meet people and reach your ultimate dating goal. In this episode: - Listen to common challenges with dating apps - Learn about factors within your cont…

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Confidence In Your Dating Decisions- Dan's Coaching Experience 30:02

5M ago30:02

30:02

This episode features special guest Dan, a former client who shares his key transformations and learnings from 9 months of coaching. In this episode Dan shares insights into: - Expectations and realities of coaching - Power of tuning into your emotions in dating - Benefits of slowing down dating decisions - Managing the fear of rejecting others FRE…

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How To Take The Pressure Off Yourself In Dating- Factors Within & Outside Of Your Control 19:05

6M ago19:05

19:05

Do you feel a sense of pressure in dating? Feeling disheartened, worried you are 'failing' or 'not getting it right'? Building skills and focusing on what you are doing in dating is highly beneficial, however, it is also important to acknowledge factors outside of your control. In this episode: - Learn about benefits and downsides of perfectionism …

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Top Dating Coaching Advice- Interview With Dating Coach Amber Grubenmann 44:21

6M ago44:21

44:21

This episode features special guest Amber Grubemann. Amber is a confidence and dating coach for women across the globe, helping people move from casual to exclusive relationships. In this episode: - Amber and Nadine share how they know each other, from personal coaching, to business coaching, to friends - Amber shares her top tools to help people i…

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How to Meet People in Person 16:47

6M ago16:47

16:47

Do you have a desire to meet someone in person? Feeling tired of the dating apps? Unsure where to start and how to approach someone? In this episode: - Learn about key places and events where you can meet people - Learn skills in starting conversation & reframing rejection when you ask someone out FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https…

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Don't Dismiss the 'Nice but Boring' Person 20:40

6M ago20:40

20:40

Have you had a pattern of knowing someone who is nice, consistent, kind....yet you find the connection boring, no spark, just don't feel it? Yet the people you are highly attracted to end up being avoidant, hot/cold, love bomb, and don't work out. In this episode: - Consider how to best decide if it would be helpful to keep dating the 'nice' person…

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Self-Blame vs Blame of Others 9:21

7M ago9:21

9:21

Some people can have a default setting of going into self-blame when faced with a difficult dating situation, and others can have a reflex to automatically blaming others. These extreme ways of thinking and interpreting situations can increase difficult feelings and reduce ability for change. In this episode: - explore the impacts of self-blame - e…

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How to Validate Yourself & Others 15:03

7M ago15:03

15:03

Validation is a key skill to strengthen relationships, reduce conflict, and help build a sense of self. In this episode: - definition of validation and self-validation - links between validation and dating - steps to validate yourself and others Eist, H. I. (2015). DBT Skills Training Manual, Marsha M. Linehan (2015) New York: The Guilford Press. 5…

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Sense of Self & Dating 18:18

7M ago18:18

18:18

A limited sense of self can lead to increased relationship challenges and a feeling of being directionless. A limited sense of self can also lead to increased anxiety in dating, difficulties making decisions, and high reliance on external validation. In this episode: - learn key components of what makes up a sense of self - learn about impacts of a…

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Gratitude: Benefits & Practice 13:25

7M ago13:25

13:25

It is common for the human brain to have a negativity bias, focusing on worries, worst case scenarios, and general negative thoughts. This negativity bias can also be experienced in dating. Gratitude is one practice which may increase appreciation for life and help the mind access alternate thoughts. In this episode: - Learn about studies on gratit…

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Embracing Differences 14:41

8M ago14:41

14:41

It is common for the people we date to have differences, in values, hobbies, routines, interests. How can you know whether this is a dealbreaker or if it can benefit the relationship? In this episode: - Learn about challenges with automatically ruling out a relationship if there are differences - Explore strategies to identify if the differences ar…

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6 Common Mistakes Using Dating Apps 19:22

8M ago19:22

19:22

Dating apps are a large part of the dating experience in the modern day. While the apps can be useful ways to connect and meet new people, there are common mistakes people make when using them which can lead to dating burnout. In this episode: - Learn about 6 common mistakes people make when using the apps - Learn about techniques to increase effec…

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5 Senses Grounding: A Strategy For Anxiety or Stress 11:59

8M ago11:59

11:59

Our minds can often be thinking about the past or future, looping in rumination or worry thoughts, which increases emotional distress. 5 Senses Grounding is a psychology strategy to help anchor the mind to the present moment, and can be used to manage anxiety or stress in dating. In this episode: - Listen to a guided mindfulness meditation on 5 sen…

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Unhelpful Thinking Styles 18:39

8M ago18:39

18:39

There are 10 types of unhelpful thinking styles from Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), these can frequently come up in dating. This limits perspectives in situations, creates biased thinking, and can create increased emotional distress or unhelpful behaviours. In this episode: - Learn about the 10 unhelpful thinking styles from CBT - Hear examples…

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'Good Enough' Partner- Understanding The Traps Of Perfectionism 17:15

9M ago17:15

17:15

In dating people can pursue perfectionism, for themselves and others, in the pursuit of their ideal relationship. Perfectionism however can have adverse consequences, including increased guilt, feeling inadequate, doubt, and stress. In this episode: - Learn about the costs of perfectionism and benefits of 'good enough partner' - Steps to cultivate …

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How To Motivate Yourself In Dating 8:47

9M ago8:47

8:47

Dating and finding the relationship you desire is a journey, we don't how long it will take, and it is most helpful to be consistent and motivated. Motivation can help people overcome barriers and challenges in dating, and improve the dating experience. In this episode: - Learn about 3 motivation states -Learn how to use rewards and self-care to im…

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Polyvagal Theory 19:41

9M ago19:41

19:41

Polyvagal Theory is a way to help understand the states of your nervous system, and it's automatic survival functions and physiological responses. In dating you may experience moments of joy, fear, anger, or hopelessness and low mood. Polyvagal theory may help you understand how to identify and shift your nervous system states and emotions, to feel…

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Cope Ahead Planning 11:41

9M ago11:41

11:41

Dating situations can commonly bring up anxiety, stress, or apprehension. Worry about the situation can be a common automatic coping strategy, however not the most effective. In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) there is a skill called 'Cope Ahead Planning' which can help the mind switch from worry to problem solving. In this episode: - Learn abo…

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Opposite Action To Emotions 17:15

10M ago17:15

17:15

Every emotion we experience has an action urge. For example, when feeling afraid the urge is the avoid or run away, when feeling excited the urge is to approach a situation. Sometimes these urges are not effective to act upon, when the emotion (or intensity of the emotion) does not match the situation, or acting on the urge does not help with your …

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Managing Rumination 10:01

10M ago10:01

10:01

Painful or uncomfortable dating situations can trigger rumination, repetitive negative thoughts. Rumination can increase anxiety, depression, and stress. In this episode: - Learn about the function of rumination - Learn skills to manage rumination For more information on coaching or psychology sessions: https://www.nadineneukirch.com Get your FREE …

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'GIVE Skill' How To Keep & Maintain Healthy Relationships 11:05

10M ago11:05

11:05

How to show care, interest, and kindness to those you are dating? In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) the 'GIVE skill' helps people focus on keeping or maintaining healthy relationships. In this episode: - Learn about the DBT 'GIVE skill', be gentle, act interested, validate, and easy manner - Apply this GIVE skill to your dating situations Eist…

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Embrace Pain & Follow Your Dreams 17:21

10M ago17:21

17:21

In dating it is natural to encounter uncomfortable thoughts and feelings- anxiety, low mood, burnout, fear of rejection, fear of putting effort in and it not working out. In Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) there is a skill called the 'Choice Point', the choice to make decisions based on trying to avoid pain (which ultimately doesn't work), …

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Boring vs Interesting Messages 11:59

10M ago11:59

11:59

Are you ever tired of the conversations on dating apps? Feeling bored, fatigued of the same conversations and questions? In this episode: - Learn about the difference between a boring vs interesting message - Learn components of an interesting message to cultivate yourself FREE Guide on Top 3 Mindset Shifts in Dating: https://www.nadineneukirch.com…

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Rejection Part 2: How to Manage Fear of Rejecting Others 17:09

11M ago17:09

17:09

Rejection can be a difficult emotion to manage. People can not only have a fear of being rejected, but also of doing the rejection. If you have a fear of ending connections with others, you may engage in behaviours incongruent with your values, such as ghosting someone or not being fully honest. You may also limit yourself in dating, such as avoid …

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Rejection Part 1: How To Manage Being Rejected 26:39

11M ago26:39

26:39

Fear of being rejected is common in dating. Fear of rejection can lead to increased self-criticism, overgeneralisation, and assuming the worst of ourselves or the dating situation, "No-one will ever love me" "I'll never find a good match""I'm too flawed". In this episode: - Learn about key impacts from fear of rejection and how this can hold you ba…

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How To Maintain Self-Respect: FAST Skill 15:18

11M ago15:18

15:18

Having self-respect involves pride, self-love, and knowing your worth. If you have healthy self-respect, then confidence increases and it makes it easier to reach you goals in dating. With healthy self-respect, we treat ourselves more kindly, and others treat you with more respect. Or we more clearly know it is not a healthy relationship. In this e…

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Maintaining Standards: The Importance Of Speaking Up 9:17

11M ago9:17

9:17

It can be common in dating to have fears about speaking up and naming dynamics that make you uncomfortable. People can assume they are 'too needy or sensitive', worry they will 'scare' people away, or have beliefs they need to 'play the game' and not let someone else know how much they were impacted by an action. In this episode: - Learn about the …

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Overscheduling: Marathon Not A Sprint 17:02

12M ago17:02

17:02

Overscheduling and Underscheduling can be common habits of dating. That is, going on so many dates you begin to feel exhausted and neglect other aspects of your life, or quit dating altogether limiting your ability to meet your dating goals. In this episode: - Learn about the impacts of of overscheduling and underlying reasons we may do this - Buil…

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How To Define 'Success" In Dating 19:48

12M ago19:48

19:48

What you define as 'success' in dating, can dramatically impact how pressured, stressed, and disheartened you feel, OR create feelings of pride, empowerment, and energy in the dating process. In this episode: - Listen to common unhelpful definitions of 'success' in dating and the impacts - Learn about helpful goal posts to define achievement and su…

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Radical Acceptance: How To Reduce Suffering In Situations You Cannot Change 24:28

12M ago24:28

24:28

It is common to find it hard to let go of painful dating situations, even though they happened in the past, and you cannot change them. When we have pain in life, and do not accept this, then we experience suffering. Pain we cannot change, suffering we can. In this episode: - Learn about the signs of non-acceptance, when your mind and body tries to…

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Untangling Biases- Core Mindfulness Skills 19:54

1y ago19:54

19:54

It is common in dating to have judgments and biases that obscure dating experiences. For example, people may make up stories about how a person is, based on a few photos and words on an app, and make quick judgments if they would be a helpful match or not. In this episode: - Understand how biases influence dating, particularly when using dating app…

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Boundary Setting 19:35

1y ago19:35

19:35

Boundary setting can be challenging in dating, people may neglect their emotions and needs and over-extend themselves with others. Ultimately this increases emotional suffering, such as stress, anxiety, frustration, and resentment. Lack of boundaries decreases the chance of a healthy fulfilling relationship. In this episode: - Learn about types of …

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Loving Kindness 26:55

1y ago26:55

26:55

Difficulties in dating can build up hurt, resentment, and feelings of rejection. We can take these difficult feelings into dating experiences, creating biases and judgments, even for new dates. Wishing others happiness not only brings joy to those around us, but also to ourselves. Increased kindness and compassion can calm the nervous system, and h…

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Assertiveness Skills: DEAR MAN Script 13:06

1y ago13:06

13:06

In Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) there is an assertiveness skill 'DEAR MAN', this acronym helps structure what to say when you would like to get an objective, your needs met, or say 'no' to an unwanted request. In this episode: Learn how to apply the assertiveness skills of DEAR MAN: - Describe the situation - Express how you feel - Assert yo…

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