Education, Support & Coaching for Adults with ADHD. Together we unpack the challenges & frustrations + the positives of living with ADHD. Combing science backed research and evidence based coaching tools to help you understand, manage & thrive with ADHD. With a no BS approach, this Podcast will help you better understand your unique ADHD brain & how you can work with it to feel better, increase your self-confidence, improve your relationships & achieve your goals. **Xena Jones is not a medic ...
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No one likes to be rejected, criticised or fail, but RSD is a whole different level. And it can trigger an overwhelming & painful emotional response in people with ADHD. RSD is an intense reaction to real or perceived rejection, criticism or failure. For me, it shows up anytime I feel attacked (as you'll hear in this episode). In todays episode we …
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#76 ADHD & Interoception - Why we have difficulties with self-regulation
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Do you struggle to remember to drink water or forget to eat? Do you wait till you’re busting before you go pee? Or do you miss the cues that you’re angry until you’re yelling, slamming doors or shutting down completely? This my friend is interoception & it’s something that ADHDers have difficulty with. Interoception is how you perceive what’s going…
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Developing this practice has been the most powerful thing I’ve ever done for myself & today I'm sharing how you can make this a part of your life too. Having your own back means treating yourself the way you treat the people you most love & care about - By standing up for them, believing in them, cheering them on, picking them up when they fall dow…
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#74 5 Things you need to know about dopamine & ADHD
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ADHD brains have less dopamine. Dopamine plays a big role in motivation, satisfaction, memory & focus. And dopamine feels good. It's often called the "feel good" neurotransmitter in the brain. Understanding dopamine helps us to work with our ADHD brains to create more motivation, focus, achieving goals, joy & satisfaction in our lives. Not all dopa…
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#73 6 Ways to manage hyper-sensitivity with ADHD
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You're too sensitive! Toughen up! Why do you take things so personally?! ... Sound familiar? Humans with ADHD are more sensitive than those without ADHD. Our ADHD nervous systems pick up signals the average person can't register. The sound of chewing or someone breathing might cause your skin to crawl. You are more likely to have asthma, eczema & a…
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#72 ADHD Task Switching & 3 Ways to improve it
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Do you struggle to switch from one thing to another? Do you get mad or thrown off when people interrupt you? You are not alone! Task switching is difficult for adults with ADHD. The good news is that we can make it easier. In this episode I'm sharing with you: Common examples of task switching Why task switching is difficult for ADHD brains 2 quest…
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#71 ADHD & Parenting with Brett Harrington
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If you are a parent with ADHD, have kids with ADHD or both, this episode is for you! Our guest today, Brett Harrington is an expert on all things ADHD & parenting. Brett & I discuss: Handling emotional explosions with your kids Dealing with overstimulation Common behaviours from kids that are tricky to navigate Managing transitions Morning routines…
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Exhausted all the time? Withdrawing from your friends & family? Not enjoying the things you used to? These are all signs of ADHD burnout. Something we are prone to experiencing due to executive dysfunction, gender role expectations, hormonal fluctuations & perfectionism. In this episode we explore: What leads people with ADHD to burnout How to know…
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#69 Perfectionism & the sneaky ways it shows up for adults with ADHD
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Perfectionism is common amongst adults with ADHD, especially if you are highly critical of yourself. Setting unrealistic goals & expectations, then beating yourself up for not achieving them...? This is perfectionism. Perfectionism tells us: If I do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of blame, judgement, and shame. I…
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"We are hard wired to connect with others" And for us ADHDers this can be tricky as we navigate RSD & a busy mind... And today's special guest, Vince Ford, is an expert on creating connection. In this episode we cover: The link between physical pain & the emotional pain of rejection. Plus a surprising cure that works for both! What mentalizing is &…
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I just thought I had an addictive personality. Turns out that I had undiagnosed ADHD. For me it was food (sugar), alcohol & shopping. I used them as a way to both escape the painful parts of my life & to feel good. All addictions have one thing in common: DOPAMINE. And while many articles will tell you we become addicted because we are "dopamine se…
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#66 Setting boundaries & improving relationships
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The root of self-care is setting boundaries: It’s saying no to something in order to say yes to your own emotional, physical & mental well-being. Healthy boundaries are "what's ok & what is not ok." Setting & upholding boundaries is a skill we can learn. One that not only prevents burnout, but also improves our relationships & creates more balance …
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You know that low feeling you get after you return from a holiday? That reason why you book the next trip to look forward to asap? THIS is a dopamine hangover. Anytime we spike our dopamine levels, for example jumping out of a plane & then feeling on top of the world. Later results in a significant drop in dopamine (what goes up must come down, lit…
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#64 How social conditioning impacts self-worth for adults with ADHD
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Do you tie your self-worth to how productive you are? Never feel like you're doing enough? Due to the way we've been raised & the messages we've absorbed growing up, most adults with ADHD, especially women, struggle with this! (myself included) In this episode we explore: The messages ADHDers & women have received growing up How these impact our se…
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Somewhere along the way we developed this idea that in order to be better & do better we had to beat ourselves up. How’s that working out for you? Are you improving your life by hating yourself? Are you creating positive results? The truth is: You can’t hate your way to happiness. Trust me, I tried. Hate only creates more negativity in our lives. A…
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#62 Understanding your capacity & managing the energy in your “tank”
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Your capacity is the amount of mental, emotional & physical energy you have to be able to "human" & get things done each day. Everything you do will either add to your energy levels in the "tank" or take away from them. Just like a car that can run out of gas - we need to be checking in with ourselves & be mindful of refuelling or checking how much…
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As ADHDers many of us learned to people-please from a young age... Making it hard to say no. This is one of the many ways we masked our ADHD & tried to meet the neurotypical expectations that society placed on us. But when we say yes to one thing… we are saying no to another. In this episode you’ll learn: Why adults with ADHD can be quick to say ye…
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Have you ever called yourself a people-pleaser? I’m Xena & I am a recovering people-pleaser. I cared so much about what other people thought of me & would prioritise the needs & desires of my friends, family or colleagues, above my own. And by doing this I was telling myself that my needs & what I wanted weren’t as important... Further adding to my…
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#59 ADHD & using EFT Tapping to feel better (The Emotional Freedom technique)
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This is an alternative therapy I use to manage my ADHD symptoms & help regulate & process my emotions... When I'm in fight or flight, experiencing physical or emotional pain, need help focusing or getting out of my head, I use EFT Tapping. EFT stands for Emotional Freedom Technique also known as “tapping” - because you are tapping on various meridi…
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Time blindness is a common symptom of ADHD. Time for us is either now or not now. This is why you might struggle to set goals or never feel like you achieve them. This episode is NOT about giving you more tips & tricks (because if they worked, they would have worked already!) This episode gets to the root cause of why we mismanage our time & exactl…
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BONUS: The 4 Keys to Managing & Thriving with ADHD
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Watch this free class here: https://www.xenajones.com/starthereBy Xena Jones
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#57 Dear loved ones of an ADHDer… Here are 6 things we’d like you to know
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This episode is for the loved ones of an ADHDer. There is a lot of stigma & many misconceptions about living with ADHD & we can have a hard time communicating this to you. Thank you for taking the time to better understand us. My intention with this episode was to provide better insight into our lives & why we are the way we are. And thank you to t…
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How many times have you thought when I do this or get this then I’ll be happy…? Maybe you think you are doing something wrong or there was something wrong with you because you don’t feel happy or good most of the time? Society has taught us that the goal in life is to be happy. But the truth is: Life is 50/50 Being human means we will experience 50…
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Emotions dysregulation is one of the ADHD symptoms that has the biggest affect on our lives. And here's why: When we don't manage our emotions, they manage us. When we don't know how to respond to them, we react Our emotions drive all of our actions. Emotions are everything! When we take action (this includes procrastination) it’s because of how we…
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#54 Hormones, Perimenopause & ADHD with Dr Samantha Newman
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The long awaited episode on hormones, perimenopause & ADHD is here! We are joined by Dr Samantha Newman - The “Female GP” - And Neurodiversity Affirming Clinician. Our goal with this episode was to create a resource for women with ADHD, helping them understand what’s going on with their hormones, what options are available & where to go for help. S…
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Managing our ADHD can be hard... Especially for those of us diagnosed later in life - having grown up thinking that we were just a bad person, or there was something wrong with us because we have had to work twice as hard to try and keep up with everyone around us. So many of the things I grew up hating about myself are actually symptoms of ADHD - …
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#53 Embracing ADHD & Neurodiversity with Sonia Gray
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We are joined by Neurodiversity advocate & host of the No Such Thing As Normal Podcast this week, Sonia Gray. Listen in to hear: How Sonia initially shelved her ADHD diagnosis because she couldn't get her head around it & believed she just had character flaws Why learning about some of the lesser known ADHD characteristics finally helped her to emb…
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Get your free guide HERE to go along with this episode! The 4 step process to overcoming ADHD overwhelm: xenajones.com/52 In part two of this series on ADHD overwhelm we are covering: What overwhelm is in the body & where it comes from in the brain What we’ve been led to believe about overwhelm & whats actually correct (based on the science!) And t…
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As adults with ADHD we are prone to experiencing overwhelm. This can lead to us powering down, going into hibernation mode or ending up in ADHD burnout. In this episode we are diving into: The 2 reasons why people with ADHD experience more regular overwhelm The 5 types of ADHD overwhelm In PART 2 next week - I will share with you how to manage over…
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This is an update to the first episode we had on ADHD Medication #3. In the episode I'm sharing: A recap of what ADHD meds do The 2 diff types of stimulants My personal experience of 3 different variations of ADHD stimulants. FAQs such as 'should I take days off my meds & how do I know if my meds are working?' My 3 key lessons from ADHD meds **Note…
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#49 ADHD & Self-Esteem + 1 thing you want to do to improve your self-esteem
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By age 10 a child with ADHD has heard 20,000 more negative messages that their peers... so it's no wonder many ADHDers struggle with self-esteem. In this episode we cover: 3 Reasons why ADHDers experience self-esteem challenges Why external validation is never enough How no amount of being hard on yourself will even make you "do better" The 1 thing…
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As ADHDers we can struggle with relationships & often feel misunderstood by the people around us. So in this episode I'm sharing: How ADHD symptoms show up in relationships Personal examples of how ADHD affects my relationships How we can improve our relationships by focusing on this one thing For more support visit: xenajones.com Come hang out wit…
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#47 ADHD & serotonin: What you need to know & 5 ways to increase it naturally
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As ADHDers we have less serotonin. A neurotransmitter that plays an important role in our mood sleep, cognition & memory. By increasing our serotonin levels we can improve how we feel, we can reduce feelings of anxiety & depression, improve our sleep, increase our motivation & improve our memory! In this episode we explore: Signs of low serotonin l…
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A key trademark of ADHD is low levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine. Us ADHDers tend to be more restless as our brain constantly seek ways to increase dopamine levels. By understand dopamine we can begin to better manage it & use the various dopamine increasing activities to our advantage, whilst also understanding & monitoring the consequences …
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Today I'm teaching you how to identify your unique recipe for setting yourself up for success. I'm sharing the 3 key ingredients in every success recipe . Breaking down multiple examples of this in action. And telling you exactly how you can identify your recipe for success with ADHD. For more tools & support visit: xenajones.com And remember to gr…
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Do you struggle with negative thinking? You are not alone! Research shows that ADHDers are more prone to negative thinking & it's no wonder given many of the negative messages we received growing up... In this episode we explore: The 9 types of negative thoughts we experience (including all or nothing thinking & catastrophizing) 5 key things you ne…
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#43 The motivational triad & the #1 thing required to change
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In this episode we explore the motivational triad & the 3 things our brain is wired to always prioritise. We look at how these 3 things might be holding you back from achieving your goals & making positive changes. I'm sharing my personal goal for 2024 & demonstrating how my challenges relate to these 3 key areas. And we uncover the #1 thing requir…
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#42 Celebrating my ADHD birthday & 5 things I’ve learned
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Join me as I celebrate my ADHD birthday & the day my life finally made sense! I'm sharing my top 5 ADHD lessons which include: Procrastination & getting sh*t done Why I no longer want to be neurotypical My #1 medication (that isn't in pill form) The importance of listing to our individual bodies & self-advocating My secret sauce to thriving with AD…
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#41 How to set, achieve & maintain goals when you have ADHD
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What's your relationship like with achieving your goals? Love the idea of changing your life but struggle with taking the action required to make it happen? You're not alone... Studies show that 80% of people have given up on their New Years Resolution by mid Feb. But that doesn't have to be you! In this episode we cover: My 5 step process for sett…
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As ADHDers we can have challenges with priorities as it requires the executive functioning "managers" of our brain to work together. In this episode we cover: Spoon theory - managing your mental & emotional energy Identifying your top 5 priorities (& what might be missing) I share my top 5 priorities with you We discuss the role of "balance" The di…
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#39 How to be more productive with ADHD in 5 steps
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How many planners & productivity apps have you tried in the past? And how many have them have collected dust or ended up in the bin? I'm giving you 5 simple steps to create more productivity in your life (without more planners or apps). Steps that take into consideration how much dopamine we ADHDers have & how to produce more of it in the process. …
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#38 Feck Perfuction: ADHD & perfectionism
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Perfectionism is often a coping mechanism to mask ADHD traits and fit into societal norms. It is driven by a desire to avoid judgment, criticism, or rejection. In this episode we explore: Common signs & symptoms of perfectionism What drives perfection How we can accept imperfection, embracing authenticity & breaking free from the self-destructive c…
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#37 Is ADHD an excuse? (Blame Vs responsibility)
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Get your copy of the 12 things I wished my doctor had told me about adult ADHD: https://www.xenajones.com/12things Is my ADHD an excuse for interrupting someone, running late or struggling to finish my work? Excuses typically come from feeling defensive, afraid or anxious. Explanations come from acceptance, integrity, authenticity & tell the truth …
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Does fear of failure hold you back? Or perhaps you feel like you are a failure? Then this episode is for you! We explore: The impact of the traditional education system on ADHDers' self-esteem & how this affects our relationship with failure The role of rejection-sensitive dysphoria (RSD) How to create a positive relationship with failure My own ex…
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We are shedding light on how dropping estrogen levels can exacerbate ADHD symptoms. Discover why ADHD medications may seem less effective during this time and gain valuable insights into managing these challenges. We explore questions like: How do our hormones affect our ADHD? (from periods to perimenopause & beyond) What is PMDD? What are the trea…
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#34 Motivation is BS (5 Things I do instead)
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I often get asked: How can I increase my motivation? Did you know your brain is wired to NOT want to do stuff? Discover the brain wiring behind motivation in a straightforward way and learn my 5 tips for when motivation seems elusive. If you've ever struggled with procrastination, self-doubt, or feeling stuck, this episode is a must-listen. I'm sha…
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#33 Struggling with your ADHD diagnosis (listen to this!)
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If you are struggling with your ADHD diagnosis you are not alone. Gutted about the delay in getting diagnosed & now having to figure out how to unlearn & unravel all the techniques you've been using to survive.? Thinking about what life could have been like if you'd been diagnoses earlier? THIS episode is for you my friend. ... This is just the beg…
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#32 What are you making it mean? (ADHD Mindset)
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As humans we are meaning making machines. We attach meaning to everything. The money in our bank account, the job we have, the amount we weigh, the things other people say, the weather... everything! And the meaning we chose to give things, determines how we feel. In this episode we go through some common examples of negative meaning we attach to e…
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Struggle with over committing yourself? Say yes when you don't really want to because you're afraid of letting people down? Boundaries are an act of self-respect & self-care. Boundaries are what create balance in our lives. In this episode I'm sharing how most people misunderstand boundaries. Plus the exact 3 steps you can take to create a boundary…
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#30 Positive change using self-compassion with Becca Stark
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Today we are joined by the Queen of self-compassion Becca Stark as she shares with us the life-changing power of self-compassion. We explore why this is so hard for ADHDers, especially when we are so good at being compassionate with others. We walkabout HOW to be compassionate with ourselves. Becca shares her ADHD story with us And we talk about th…
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