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TSSH 18 - overly responsiBULLoney 🐃+💩
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For as long as I can remember, I’ve been over-responsible. I was overly connected to vibes and energy, I was hypervigilant and hyper attuned to my surroundings and was expected to read minds (particularly my deaf mother) by the time from birth and I learned that I must try to be as pleasing as possible even if it hurt. I’m not alone. I was raised to be the hero – the one that made my parents look good. I’ve felt that I have to be strong and so avoid showing ‘weakness’ by asking for help, expressing needs or sharing my feelings. For the last 100 + years my family live as if they’re in a bad reality tv series. Many people like me in relationships, or have confidence issues at work, and/or have low self-worth, are over-responsible and like me have learned very early in life to be responsible for other people’s feelings, opinions, behavior, needs, expectations and desires. I spent decades as a people pleaser who suppressed and repressed everything about me to prioritize others and also to also minimize or eliminate conflict, criticism, rejection and disappointment. I did good things for the wrong reasons because didn’t know any different. One day I woke up realized I was still in this role and it was making me miserable. I didn’t see it until I hit rock bottom and woke up to realize that doing the same thing that I’ve always done is costing me my emotional, mental, physical and spiritual well-being.
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/giving-up-the-role-of-being-over-responsible/
https://valorieburton.com/2017/07/30/responsible-6-signs-unhealthy-sense-responsibility/
“I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine.”
Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged
67 episodes
Manage episode 255264497 series 2589235
For as long as I can remember, I’ve been over-responsible. I was overly connected to vibes and energy, I was hypervigilant and hyper attuned to my surroundings and was expected to read minds (particularly my deaf mother) by the time from birth and I learned that I must try to be as pleasing as possible even if it hurt. I’m not alone. I was raised to be the hero – the one that made my parents look good. I’ve felt that I have to be strong and so avoid showing ‘weakness’ by asking for help, expressing needs or sharing my feelings. For the last 100 + years my family live as if they’re in a bad reality tv series. Many people like me in relationships, or have confidence issues at work, and/or have low self-worth, are over-responsible and like me have learned very early in life to be responsible for other people’s feelings, opinions, behavior, needs, expectations and desires. I spent decades as a people pleaser who suppressed and repressed everything about me to prioritize others and also to also minimize or eliminate conflict, criticism, rejection and disappointment. I did good things for the wrong reasons because didn’t know any different. One day I woke up realized I was still in this role and it was making me miserable. I didn’t see it until I hit rock bottom and woke up to realize that doing the same thing that I’ve always done is costing me my emotional, mental, physical and spiritual well-being.
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/giving-up-the-role-of-being-over-responsible/
https://valorieburton.com/2017/07/30/responsible-6-signs-unhealthy-sense-responsibility/
“I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine.”
Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged
67 episodes
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