EP 11: Your Million Dollar Marriage Part 1

Higher Ground Living Podcast

Your Million Dollar Marriage Part 1

In Australia we have a saying that if you look really good someone might say “Wow you look a million dollars”. Imagine your marriage could elicit the same response from people in your world.

We all know that a million dollar marriage doesn’t just happen. Certain people aren't just more blessed than others. It takes work and perseverance. In fact it takes all the personal and spiritual skills we can acquire along the way. A million dollar marriage is a journey not a destination.

The quality of your marriage is a gift to the world. Especially to your children and others around you. By striving to create and maintain a strong loving marriage we are sending positive inspiration out to anyone observing our lives. What better gift to give your children than setting an example of what marriage should look like?

As the saying goes “happy wife happy life”. How about we create a new one, “ happy husband life is abundant”. Thought i’d compose that one to cover both sides of the marriage equation.

So how do we get on the journey to a Million Dollar Marriage?

Step one, is to become conscious of what is going on in your marriage. With the dominant focus on what “you” are doing in the marriage. A trap we all fall into is trying and hoping to get our partners to change. How many know that is a recipe for disaster?

The key to change, lies within ourselves.

The changes must first be made in us. There is no point spending all that energy trying to get your partner to change when you are still producing negative behaviour.

“But my behaviour is fine”. Oh please, the only reason we believe our behaviour is fine is because that's our belief. Our beliefs are not always right and beneficial. That is why we need to get conscious of our beliefs and behaviour so we know what and where to change.

Once we make the effort to sort ourselves out we will find that a lot of problems within the marriage will begin to change too. The plan is to inspire your partner by doing the work on yourself first. The same thing goes for inspiring teens and children to do better. We all know that telling teenagers what to do is not the best course of action. Try inspiring them to change and make better choices. It's not always going to work but it is way better than fighting over the issue.

Getting more consciously aware is step one in the Higher Ground Living: Three Truths To Manifesting Your Best Life. How can we expect to make the changes in our lives if we don’t know what we are doing wrong? Going back to what we are saying above, the path has to begin within you. Not in blaming the external circumstances around us in our relationships, community or country.

Your mindset is where your life is at.

The quality of your marriage is in direct proportion to what is going on in your beliefs about who you are and what the world around you is. It is your mindset that is driving your happiness and success. If you are struggling to find success in your marriage and any other area of your life. It is time to get consciously aware of what you are doing to create these problems.

It takes humility and vulnerability to do this but it will be so worth it when your life begins to blossom.

Here is what you need to do:

Start watching your thoughts. What are you thinking about when conflict arises?

1. Why are you thinking this way?
2. Is it beneficial to your goals to think this way?
3. Are you thinking this way because this is how you always think in this situation?
4. Are you right or just needing to be right?
5. Could you develop a different perspective? One that creates a better outcome?
6. If you could react in a different way, what would that look like?

Write your answers down. If you just keep it in your head you will create an uncataloged confusion as the answers swirl around in your mind. Getting it down on paper captures the thoughts outside your head so you can see them for what they are. You have a better chance of finding truth and solutions if you capture the thoughts and beliefs on paper.

This is step one. Becoming consciously aware of what is happening. What you really believe and where the pain points are. In part two we will explore step two “Removing Resistance”. That is all about removing the resistance that we are exposing by becoming conscious of our own behaviour. In Part three we will explore “Allowing Success”, which is what happens when we have removed the resistance beliefs and behaviours we have that are holding us back.

So go and hunt those negative thoughts and beliefs down, get them on paper and we will deal with those in part two. See you then.