Reminiscing Summer: A Recap

Self-Regard

To all of our guests and listeners, thank you for a beautiful summer! See you October 7. Some words to ponder till then...

Not fitting is okay.

Our memories and what we choose to remember can also speak to what we choose to forget.

Your skin is your skin. Your body is your body. Cherish it.

It is just so interesting how you can tether or untether yourself from the place that you were born or the place where you grew up. I find that really interesting how it plays a role in our identity.

Exposure and experiences across the spectrum will teach you to process the world and the people who live in it.

Accept then situation for what it is. Find peace in the things that you can control. Be grateful and celebrate the happiness that you can find.

You can change the value of stories by giving them attention. We can literally create culture.

We deserve the right to live in our bodies and we deserve the right to exist... in the way that we were created. That is a fundamental human right.

To be a black woman of mixed race is rather nuanced.

Leave this earth empty. Empty yourself of every gift you have.

Laughter will keep you young and beautiful. Laughter will heal you.

Food is medicine.

Really healthy and really imperative things are often basics, foundational elements of health that cost zero dollars.

Typically, history is written by the winners. Historically, because of colonialism, the winners have not been Black. We need to tell our stories. It’s time to get another point of view.

You have to know why you do something or it has no meaning.

Oftentimes, mixed race people can’t claim any part of themselves. Thus, they have to create their own identity.

Being green is seen as feminine trait, by both men and women... it's really for white women in the suburbs...in urban cities some of the biggest minorities are African American communities.. I was interested in how black men perceive green consumption, do they think it's mascuine or not? We have no research on black men.”

Me phrasing a sentence in a way that's privileged or irresponsible could be super damaging to somebody. On one hand i'm very nervous to be just another white lady contributing to the bullshit and oppression and the system and thats been really me struggling with the okay you do really look like a white lady, you do have those privileges, and you have walked through the world this way so how can you be the white lady and also be the black lady that gets it, how can you be both things?

I want to preserve this feeling, this feeling of fulfillment, this feeling of happiness, so if i have to take risks, travel, do whatever i need to do, jump outside of my comfort zone in order to preserve that feeling, in order to grow that feeling, of waking up everyday and being at peace with what i'm doing, i'm going to do it.

Those things really enable you to astonish people; your intelligence, your timing, how much you listen to people I think is really important.

1.) You can never be too prepared.

2.) Don't be afraid to take up space.

3.) Set boundaries, especially in the work space.

Using someone else’s suffering as a prop to kind of minimize your own doesn’t benefit the person who is suffering, any person who is suffering in the equation.

Truly what other advice is there, other than that? Be humble and trust that inner voice. KNow that you can be wrong and trust that inner voice.

You don't always have to be in people pleaser mode... as a woman especially... we tiptoe around certain people, from a genuine place, not wanting to inconvenience somebody or burden somebody with something that you’re wrestling with. Sometimes someone else will resonate with struggle and sadness and with emotion in a way that brings you closer. It is not a burden, it is an ability to be human together.

I learned from an early age to really understand that there is not a right or wrong way to be, as humans. There are so many different ways to exist.

If we’re in the thick of Fall and no one is hanging out by the pool – whatever – it’s totally fine to go to a pool, put your feet in the water and have a cocktail like it’s summer. I’m huge on living your best life unapologetically no matter what season it is and no matter what somebody says you have to do. A lot of the SAD comes from sitting inside and watching things change on the outside. So, break yourself free from the home. Create the life you want and live it.

When people started to tell me that I was confident, honestly, for a while I actually wasn’t. I was putting myself in situations where I didn’t feel comfortable nor confident engaging in those spaces. But after I had some accomplishments and survived I started getting used to it – to those uncomfortable spaces. It started to bother me less. That evolution is different than putting on a red lipstick and a loud outfit. I started putting on those looks before I felt confident. Those aesthetic choices are an extension of me now but then, it was just me trying to find a way to feel good. Confidence, in general, is always just…becoming.

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