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145. How to Lay Down Your Armor and Positively Affect Someone's Day
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Here’s a test for your self-confidence. When you enter a room, can you manage to entertain the thought " I know that everyone here can’t wait to meet me. I just don't expect them to realize it yet." You may not be at all certain that everyone in every room loves you, but you’ll find that pretending they do works nicely when you want to make someone's day. Rather than spending so much time wandering about armored against criticism and rejection, become aware that everyone around you may be wary of you. This emotional arms race drives people apart in every home, office, subway car, dentist's office, and corporate cafeteria on earth.
But pretending other people need you flips the vicious cycle into a virtuous one. Imagine how you'd enter a conference room if you knew without a doubt that everyone in it adored you. How would you move? How would you look at people? What would you say?
When you practice these empowering thoughts daily you become socially intelligent and better able to handle everything that comes your way.
Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator
Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More
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Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call
The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes
137 episodes
Manage episode 376613666 series 2843251
Here’s a test for your self-confidence. When you enter a room, can you manage to entertain the thought " I know that everyone here can’t wait to meet me. I just don't expect them to realize it yet." You may not be at all certain that everyone in every room loves you, but you’ll find that pretending they do works nicely when you want to make someone's day. Rather than spending so much time wandering about armored against criticism and rejection, become aware that everyone around you may be wary of you. This emotional arms race drives people apart in every home, office, subway car, dentist's office, and corporate cafeteria on earth.
But pretending other people need you flips the vicious cycle into a virtuous one. Imagine how you'd enter a conference room if you knew without a doubt that everyone in it adored you. How would you move? How would you look at people? What would you say?
When you practice these empowering thoughts daily you become socially intelligent and better able to handle everything that comes your way.
Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator
Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More
Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery
Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call
The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes
137 episodes
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