Are you wondering if you can survive taking care of your aging parents with dementia? Everywhere you look there are explanations about what happens in the mind of a person with different forms of dementia (Alzheimer’s, Parkinson’s, Lewy Body, vascular, and many others) and how to meet their needs in this season of their lives. Master Coach Iryna Ishchenko talks openly, honestly, and occasionally provocatively about you, the caregiver, whose needs are not met because you give all of yourself ...
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In this episode, I walk you through my processing of shame in a recent situation in my life. If you have ever been confused about processing emotions you hear about all the time, this episode is for you! If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print t…
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#39: How to plan your next year when you can't plan anything
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You can plan your life even if every day of it is unpredictable, at least at this season of it. In this episode, I will guide you through my planning process to set the intention for what this new year is going to be and how to use this intention as a guide in your decision making. I also share my word for the year 2024. If you missed the previous …
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Before setting your New Year resolutions, plans, and goals I invite you to close the year we are leaving behind. In this episode, I share my process of closing the year and the questions I ask myself to review it. I also share my answers to some of those questions so you'll see my life behind this podcast. The Boys in the Boat movie trailer. Fragme…
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#37: How to calm down when you are stressed.
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In this episode, I share five of my favorite easy tools to calm down when stressed and overwhelmed. You can do them all or choose one at a time to try. And send me a message telling what works best for you! If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and prin…
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#36: What if you don't want to bring your parents with dementia over for the holidays?
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No matter how much we love our parents or other elderly family members with dementia sometimes we don't want to bring them over for the holiday celebrations. In this episode, we'll discuss why it's a challenging decision, how to approach this decision, and how to tell your family member with dementia about it. If you feel your life got put on hold,…
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To bring or not to bring family members with dementia to a holiday event is a tough decision. Whether this family member doesn't live in the same household with you and you want to bring them in , or they live with you and you want to bring them to the family event hosted somewhere else - there are some questions to be answered to decide what would…
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#34: How to survive the holidays when you are taking care of someone with dementia
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Holidays get harder when you are a caregiver because they are not the same way they used to be, but it doesn't mean you should not celebrate. Here are my 5 tips to survive the holidays while you are taking care of someone with dementia. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get you…
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#33: How to take care of yourself during the holiday season
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Holidays can be hard for caregivers because nothing is the same and there seems to be no joy available. In this episode, I talk about the challenges the caregivers face during the holiday season and how to overcome them. The episode about why feeling bad is a good that I mentioned can be found here. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a l…
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You cannot feel better if you don't forgive yourself for your mistakes, no matter how hard it is to forgive. In this episode, we are talking about how to forgive yourself. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print them to keep in front of you as a…
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If the five stages of grief don't make much sense in your particular situation, this episode is for you because I am offering you an alternative way of thinking about grieving and processing grief. The resources I mentioned in this episode: On Death and Dying: What the Dying Have to Teach Doctors, Nurses, Clergy and Their Own Families by Elisabeth …
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#30: What to do when you can't do it anymore
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We all hear we need to be emotionally resilient and learn how to manage stress to prevent burnout and caregiver fatigue. But nobody tells us how. In this episode, I explain a very simple process to regulate your nervous system. It's ridiculously easy and at the same time makes a huge impact on our physical, mental, and emotional health. If you feel…
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In this episode I give you a very brief overview of the difference between therapy and coaching and show you how the coaching can help caregivers using my own story. Go to www.theuncensoredcaregiver.com to get in touch with me and schedule your free consultation to see how I can help you in your unique situation. If you feel your life got put on ho…
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#28: What to expect in a free consultation call with a coach
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You have probably heard many times my invitation to get in touch with me and to schedule a free consultation call with me. And you might not do it because you don't know what to expect or because you don't want to have a high-pressure call to sign up for my services. I am not doing those yucky sales pitches because I don't like them myself. In this…
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#27: Why we are responsible for our own happiness.
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In this episode, we talk about what makes people happy and how that happiness is created in our minds. It also explains why we can't make our parents happy no matter how hard we try. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print them to keep in front …
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In this episode, we explore the ways how and why we express gratitude, when it helps, and what to change to make this practice helpful. Other episodes mentioned: #11: Why positive thinking doesn't work. #25: Why life is always 50/50 If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your li…
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Let me prove my case that life is 50/50 and show you how the 50/50 principle can be a helpful tool in challenging times in life. If you want to receive an email from me every Sunday with thoughts, updates and inspirations I don't share anywhere else, let me know here. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for c…
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I've done it many times and I know you might be doing too. It's not about proper bedtime routines and chronotypes. It's about us taking revenge on ourselves for things we can't control If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print them to keep in fron…
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#23: How to create your own plan to thrive?
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In this episode, we are diving into creating your own plan that helps you make decisions easier because you will have a set of parameters as guidance. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print them to keep in front of you as a daily reminder. If y…
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In this episode, we dive deep into the struggles of saying no and explore the importance of setting boundaries as caregivers. How do we prioritize tasks, set boundaries, and say no? Let's create our own "say no" list and share it with all caregivers who face the same challenges. If you already have your "say no" list and are willing to share it, em…
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In this episode, we dive into the importance of prioritizing sleep and setting boundaries to ensure caregivers can take care of themselves. From treating sleep as a non-negotiable appointment to managing time effectively with calendars and planners, we explore practical strategies for rest and well-being. Do you want more detailed training on manag…
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#20: How anyone can reduce the risk of Alzheimer's disease.
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As I promised before, for each 10th episode I am going to share with you my notes and thoughts about the books I read and how it relates to caregiving. This episode is about Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams written by Matthew Walker, PhD. You are up for some surprising discoveries! Enjoy! If you feel your life got put on hold, …
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#19: How to ask for help: my step-by step process
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If you want to survive as a caregiver, you need help. No matter what your reasons not to ask for help are, you can't do it alone and you should not. In this episode, I share my step-by-step process of how to ask for help, even if it's hard for you to do. You can download a workbook with the examples and the links I mentioned in the episode here. If…
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#18: What to say when you don't know what to say.
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This episode will be helpful for both caregivers and people who support them because I will give you some ideas about what is helpful to say and what is not. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear it. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and…
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#17: What you can do right when everything goes wrong.
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When I was recording the previous episode about the importance of finding something to celebrate, even if it's only celebrating getting up in the morning and making it through the day, I didn't know what was coming for me. I am, again, at this season of life when everything that could go wrong goes wrong and everything that could go right also goes…
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Forget about the calendar holidays and major life events and milestones! Finding something to celebrate every day, even the smallest things, helps us survive the most challenging seasons in life. I want to know what you are celebrating today! Email me or tell me in person. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things …
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This episode is about trying to make sense of what is happening in the elder brain with dementia and finding ways of managing it, and how being a parent helps to parent your own parents. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print them to keep in fr…
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#14: I would never do this to my children!
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Have you ever said this phrase even in your mind? But have you thought about what exactly you are not going to do to your children and if you would be able not to do it? And what you can do about it now? If you want to get my Sunday Thoughts in your email box every week, sign here and you'll hear from me on Sunday! If you feel your life got put on …
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Here is what I find interesting: As a society, we have a high awareness of dementia, especially Alzheimer's, because sooner or later most of us witness someone we love declining cognitively, and because the Alzheimer's Association does a fantastic job to educate us about this condition Alzheimer's gets all the attention. At the same time, most of u…
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#12: Sex, dementia, and parenting your parents
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You might have heard or witnessed how elders with dementia can get obsessed with sex. In this episode, I share my strategy for how we deal with it in our family. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print them to keep in front of you as a daily rem…
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No, you are not supposed to think positively all the time. Yes you can find the thought that would work for you. You can download the guide how to do it here. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print them to keep in front of you as a daily remind…
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#10: Being Mortal: Quality vs. Quantity of Life
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I love to read and I read a lot. Each 10th episode I am going to share with you my notes and thoughts about the books I read and how it relates to caregiving. In this episode I talk about Atul Gawande's book "Being Mortal" and share my thoughts and concerns and a little bit of what my family is going through at the time of the recording of this epi…
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#9: How taking care of your parent is different than taking care of your child
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Have you ever wondered why taking care of little children and taking care of aging parents with dementia feel so different? In the previous episode I shared my story of how I was a caregiver to my mother who had terminal-stage cancer and dementia while being a solo parent of a baby. It seems like I was doing similar things - feedings, appointments,…
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Because this episode is published on my Birthday what would be the best way to celebrate it with you, my listeners, if not by sharing my story of becoming a caregiver so you finally know who you are listening to? :-) It's not a funny story, but I hope you enjoy it anyway and find something inspiring for yourself. If you feel your life got put on ho…
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In this episode, I offer three key ideas to help you improve your relationships with aging parents with dementia. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print them to keep in front of you as a daily reminder. If you like what you are hearing on this …
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Let's dive into the topic of feelings and emotions: what they are, where they are coming from, and how they affect our lives. You will learn what happens when we resist or avoid the emotions and how you can allow them to feel better. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your l…
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In this episode you will learn what your shoes and your thoughts have in common, how we create our beliefs, and how your beliefs shape your life. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print them to keep in front of you as a daily reminder. If you li…
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#4: How to make a decision you would not regret later
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In this episode, I am sharing with you ideas on how to prevent resentment and frustration about your family members who are not sharing your caregiving responsibilities. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print them to keep in front of you as a d…
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Let's talk about how we actually make decisions, what makes making decisions for your parents extra challenging, and what to do about it. And if you made the decision to hire a coach and want to talk about it with me here is the link to schedule a free call. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers …
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In this bonus episode, I am sharing some ideas on how you can support Ukraine. The organizations I mentioned: Lifting Hands International Razom for Ukraine Nova Ukraine Donating medical equipment/ supplies via Nova Ukraine Come Back Alive Donations to all organizations except for Come Back Alive are tax deductible. In the episode, I said they were …
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What is that one thought that can completely change your caregiving experience? In this episode I discuss a simple shift from a powerless victim to a powerful creator of your life. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print them to keep in front of…
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#1: What makes taking care of your aging parents so hard?
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Welcome to the very first episode of the Uncensored Caregiver podcast! Here I talk about what makes the hard work of caregiving very different than any other challenging adventure in our life, like raising children or building a business from scratch. I offer you a simple (but not necessarily easy) solution to how to deal with this difficulty. If y…
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Listen to this quick trailer to learn more about The Uncensored Caregiver. Launching in February 2023. If you feel your life got put on hold, I have a list of 10 essential things for caregivers to remember to get your life back. Download and print them to keep in front of you as a daily reminder. If you like what you are hearing on this podcast and…
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