Best Jake Ernst Podcasts (2024)

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ENCORE: Mattering 43:58

1d ago43:58

43:58

This Isn't Therapy... it’s an *encore* discussion about the importance of mattering. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about mattering, a feeling of meaningful significance to others, and what that looks like, sounds like, and feels like in relationships. Jake walks us through the questions he asks his clients when they report that, or he gets t…

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ENCORE: AI Therapist vs. Human Therapist 41:20

8d ago41:20

41:20

This Isn't Therapy... it's the *encore* episode about AI therapists and if they can ever replace the real thing. In this episode, Jake and Simon discuss a recent BBC article about why teens are seeking out AI therapist bots and what that means for the future of mental health. Conversational AI or, in other words, "chatbots with a personality" are g…

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ENCORE: Loneliness vs. Being Alone 43:53

15d ago43:53

43:53

This Isn't Therapy...this is a fun, flirty, fab, encore conversation about loneliness versus being alone. Through two #lovelylistener stories, Jake and Simon explore feelings around how we can feel lonely even though we're surrounded by people we love. Also, how being alone does not always mean you are lonely. P.S. Don't forget: Submit a quandary, …

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ENCORE: The Rise In Therapy Language 43:43

23d ago43:43

43:43

This Isn't Therapy... it's the encore episode about the overuse of therapy language and the impact its having on our relationships. Gaslighting? Triggered? Trauma-bonding? What do these words actually mean!? And are we using them correctly? Listen to find out. Also, Jake and Simon welcome special guests: Dr. Miriam-Webster, Tammy Toxic, and Gary Ga…

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Navigating Change 48:38

1M ago48:38

48:38

This Isn't Therapy...this is our *final* episode until the summer break!! On this weeks eppy, Jake and Simon asked "how do you navigate change?" Through two #lovelylisteners stories, they explore the honest struggle that comes with sudden change and how defaulting to "old habits" isn't necessarily a bad thing. Juicy! Sidebar: if you're a first time…

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Is doomslang making us all numb? 46:26

1M ago46:26

46:26

This Isn't Therapy... it's a doomy episode about the ever-evolving landscape of doomslang. Doomslang, coined by author and linguist Amanda Montell, is a term used to describe dystopian jargon like “dumpster fire” and “doomscroll” and “bed rot”. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about how the constant conjuring of End Times is having surprising, …

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The Control Paradox 33:44

1M ago33:44

33:44

This Isn't Therapy...this is a fun, flirty, fab conversation about the control paradox! Arg! How do I get more control? Why must I try to fix everything?! Through two #lovelylistener stories, Simon and Jake explore the paradox of managing our fear of not having control by trying to get more of it. Also, what happens when we try to rush to resolve e…

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Exploring our inner world 38:59

2M ago38:59

38:59

This Isn't Therapy... it's a long-overdue convo about inner worlds and inner children! What is an inner child? Does everyone have one? How do I know if I have one? In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about how to reconnect with our inner kids and how to know whether or not our inner child needs healing, attention, connection, or care. What follows…

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The eerie hype of self-improvement influencers 45:54

2M ago45:54

45:54

This Isn't Therapy...this is an (accidental) deep dive into self-improvement influencers and the impact they're having on men: "how to be more alpha by yelling at the ocean!! How to get a six pack by eating a pound of raw liver a day!! Why being sad is a state of mind so go chew on a football!!!! Oh no!! Don't fret though, Simon and Jake keep it fl…

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6 Types of Play Everyone Needs 57:08

2M ago57:08

57:08

This isn't therapy... it's an episode about the six types of play everyone needs. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about the growing rates of play deprivation and how we've become starved of this essential ingredient for wellbeing. They cover the three types of play we need in infancy and childhood and discuss the three types of play we need in…

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Does anyone feel like an actual adult? 44:33

2M ago44:33

44:33

This Isn't Therapy... it's a conversation about becoming a confident, capable, and emotionally mature adult. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about the mirage of adulthood and the search for the "real adults". If you're feeling the pressure to perform a certain brand of adulthood, you don't want to miss this one. Jake and Simon dive into an art…

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Loneliness vs Being Alone 43:53

3M ago43:53

43:53

This Isn't Therapy...this is a flirty fab conversation about loneliness versus being alone. Through two #lovelylistener stories, Jake and Simon explore feelings around how we can feel lonely even though we're surrounded by people we love. Also, how being alone does not always mean you are lonely. P.S. Don't forget: Submit a quandary, query, or ques…

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Mimetic Rivalries 46:05

3M ago46:05

46:05

This Isn't Therapy...this is the second-half of a convo about needs (we love a Part 2!!) In this episode, Jake and Simon are piggy backing off last week's episode about uncovering our needs and are now exploring what happens when our needs lead to comparison or conflict. You know her, you love her, she's a little messy: please welcome to the stage.…

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Vocalizing your needs 36:15

3M ago36:15

36:15

This Isn't Therapy...this is a two-part conversation about meeting your needs. What are my needs? What are your needs? How do we meet each others needs?! Oh boy!! In this fun, flirty, fab *throwback* episode, Jake and Simon chat through Primal, Survival, and Growth needs: their evolutionary purpose, self-care, and the difficulty of figuring out wha…

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Is therapy harming kids? 48:16

3M ago48:16

48:16

This Isn't Therapy...this is a critical look at the argument that children need less therapy, not more, and how this "mental heath culture" is stripping parents of autonomy, ultimately causing more harm than good. In this episode, Jake and Simon dive into a review (written by Anna Nordberg for Slate) for a book by a right-leaning conspiracy theoris…

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Why we want what other people want 36:35

4M ago36:35

36:35

This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about mimetic desire: why we want what other people want. Human beings learn everything, including our desires, from imitation. In this episode, Jake and Simon go deep and peek behind the comparison curtain to reveal the reasons why we come to want what other people have. If you've ever thought "Ooh, I want th…

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Giving feedback to your therapist 👀 43:15

4M ago43:15

43:15

This Isn't Therapy...this is an episode about some hard truths learned in therapy. Ever wonder how to give your therapist some feedback?! Or even how would my therapist react if I gave them some feedback?! Through a story posted by an anonymous reddit user, Jake and Simon examine a therapists' struggle after they received some challenging feedback …

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How social media re-wired us all 32:41

4M ago32:41

32:41

This Isn't Therapy... it's the surprise solo session with Jake! In this episode, Jake shares two snippets from his weekly newsletter Just Trying To Help. Jake walks us through his theories for how social media is re-wiring our brains, reshaping our moods, and changing how we connect. P.S. Happy Leap Year! Ribbit Ribbit! Read the full articles here:…

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The kids who talk like adults 11:26

4M ago11:26

11:26

The case for a slower childhood to help kids congruently meet their developmental milestones. Why we need to resist adultification amidst pressure for kids to think, speak, and act like mini-adults.By Jake Ernst

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Stop Opening Up About Your Mental Health Online 36:39

4M ago36:39

36:39

This Isn't Therapy... it’s a very frank conversation about oversharing and opening up about your mental health online. In this day and age, we've normalized sharing everything online, but is it really helpful? That's the question being asked by Freya India in her recent article "Stop Opening Up About Your Mental Health Online." In this episode, Jak…

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Goodbye...for now 14:34

4M ago14:34

14:34

Hi friends, this is going to be the final episode of Recovered-ish. Unfortunately, life is pulling me in a lot of directions right now and the podcast is just not getting the reach it needs in order for me to monetize it and pay for the help I need in order to make it sustainable. There are also some other things going on in my life behind the scen…

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How social media re-wired us all 14:38

4M ago14:38

14:38

Here’s how social media and mobile internet use re-wired our social and emotional instincts to make us more primal, pre-social, irrational, inward, and inauthentic.By Jake Ernst

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Scrutiny, shame, and Taylor Swift criticism 38:08

5M ago38:08

38:08

This Isn't Therapy... it’s a bold, beautiful, and brave conversation about ~scrutiny~. Lol no really, it's an important convo about how criticism, judgment, shame, and scrutiny have their way in the public and personal discourse. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about the pros and cons of critical observation and how our judgments help us navig…

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Sober Mom Life with Suzanne Wayre 45:30

5M ago45:30

45:30

Suzanne Wayre of "The Sober Mom Life" podcast is here and we discuss all things motherhood and sobriety. Suzanne shares about her challenges with postpartum anxiety and OCD and the pressure to enjoy every moment. We discuss mommy wine culture and how alcohol makes it harder to be a parent. We also discuss our different experiences with motherhood, …

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Brené Brown answers Jake's question 9:33

5M ago9:33

9:33

This isn't therapy... it's the episode where Brené Brown answers a question from Jake about emotions: "I was thinking about the phrase Mixed Feelings and how feeling more than one feeling at a time can make it hard to label feelings accurately. How do we label emotions precisely when we are feeling a mix of feelings and experiencing separate layers…

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Can the internet replace a parent? 11:49

5M ago11:49

11:49

Many of today’s kids are being raised by the internet and its apps and algorithms are taking on parent-like roles. Here's how the internet is replacing our connections with companions and caregivers.By Jake Ernst

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Being chronically online 46:05

5M ago46:05

46:05

This Isn't Therapy... it’s a timely conversation about being chronically online. In segment one, Jake and Simon talk about Brené Brown’s recent splash back into social media (welcome back BB!) and read an excerpt from her tear-jerking blog post where she talks about taking time away from the internet. In segment two, Jake and Simon chat about the p…

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When Motherhood Meets Diet & Self Help Culture with Natalie Siegel, LPC 43:23

5M ago43:23

43:23

Trigger warning: birth trauma & suicidal thoughts. Today my friend and fellow therapist, Natalie Siegel discuss the intersection of motherhood and diet culture. We explore the pressures and expectations placed on pregnant women and new mothers, as well as the impact of social media and wellness culture. We highlight the importance of listening to o…

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The cost of being chronically online 12:58

5M ago12:58

12:58

A lot has changed over the last few years when it comes to our use of screens, social media, and the internet. It turns out, there are significant costs associated with being online way too much.By Jake Ernst

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Can we really fake it ‘til we make it? 42:11

5M ago42:11

42:11

This Isn't Therapy... it's an episode about the age-old adage "fake it 'til you make it!" In this week's episode, Jake and Simon talk about whether or not it's really possible to fake it or pretend our way into a new reality. Through two Lovely Listener stories, they chat through the pros and cons of keeping our cool and trying to be more confident…

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Is Social Media Making us Antisocial? with Jake Ernst, MSW 41:24

5M ago41:24

41:24

Is social media making us anti social? Jake Ernst, a therapist specializing in working with teens and adolescents, joins me on the podcast today to discuss the impact of social media and disinformation on young people. He highlights the shift from play-based childhoods to phone-based childhoods and the reorientation of norms influenced by internet …

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We are wired for struggle 10:54

5M ago10:54

10:54

Unpacking four reasons why struggle is necessary: Stress is required for evolution. Challenge is required for growth. Discomfort is required for adaptation. Frustration is required for resilience.By Jake Ernst

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The pursuit of endless bliss 🙃✌️ 44:29

5M ago44:29

44:29

This Isn't Therapy... it's an episode about the pursuit of endless bliss. Many people arrive to therapy with a "fantasy goal" thinking they want to be calm, happy, and relaxed all the time. Through two #lovelylistener stories, Jake and Simon talk about how to find a realistic sense of joy, happiness, purpose, and pleasure and what we can (or should…

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Diet Culture & Misinformation Online with Sam Previte, RD 42:51

5M ago42:51

42:51

Are you trying to improve your relationship with food and body image but confused about all the conflicting information about it online? You aren’t alone. This week, my friend and Registered Dietician, Sam Previte is on the podcast to discuss the challenges of navigating social media and misinformation surrounding intuitive eating. We have a very n…

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How Social Media Impacts Anxiety with Amber Bezinger, LPC 34:54

5M ago34:54

34:54

I chat with licensed therapist Amber Bezinger, LPC to chat about anxiety, social media and the internet. We chat about the impact of social media on children, the importance of open conversations with kids, breaking gender stereotypes, and the power of the internet. Amber shares about her own experience as a mom and how that impacts how she views t…

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We talk to an AI therapist 41:20

5M ago41:20

41:20

This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about AI therapists and if they can ever replace the real thing. In this episode, Jake and Simon discuss a recent BBC article about why teens are seeking out AI therapist bots and what that means for the future of mental health. Conversational AI or, in other words, "chatbots with a personality" are gaining mo…

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Living life as avatars of ourselves 16:33

6M ago16:33

16:33

Reflections on a six-month fast from social media. I wanted to share the questions I'm asking myself after taking time away from addictive apps and algorithms.By Jake Ernst

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How to Do a Dry v. Damp January & What to Expect 31:01

6M ago31:01

31:01

Are you doing or thinking about doing a dry or damp January?! This episode is for you! I talk all about the difference between dry and damp January, how to actually do it and the mindset and approach to Dry January that I recommend. I emphasize the importance of being mindful and curious about one's drinking habits. I share a bit about my own story…

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Failed Expectations 43:58

6M ago43:58

43:58

This Isn't Therapy...this is a conversation about failed expectations. Through two lovely listeners story submissions (and an article, see below), Jake and Simon explore the impact of not meeting the expectations others put on us, as well as the expectations we put on ourselves. Woof! Big stuff - especially around this "new year, new me" time of ye…

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Asking For A Friend 46:42

6M ago46:42

46:42

This isn't therapy, Mary... it's a celebration of our newest segment! This is the first-ever Asking For A Friend roundup! In the past few weeks, we've received soooo many good questions that we just couldn't leave them all in 2023. We wanted to ring in the New Year by answering your frequently asked questions. In this episode, Jake and Simon answer…

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Is everyone REALLY a narcissist? with Britt Frank, LSCSW 45:02

6M ago45:02

45:02

We are GOING there today with a hotly requested topic! Why is everyone a toxic narcissist these days? Are there really that many of them? What's the difference between lying and gaslighting? Are these terms being overused? Today I have a narcissist expert, Britt Frank, LSCSW on it unpack all of it! Strap in because it is a very nuanced episode! We …

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Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships with Lauren Fogel Mersy 52:41

6M ago52:41

52:41

Have you ever struggled with having a different sex drive in a relationship? In this episode sex therapist, Lauren Fogel Mersy, a sex therapist, joins me to chat all about this and her new book on this topic! We discuss what sex therapy is, the pressure of sexual expectations and the stigma surrounding discussions about sex, and the importance of q…

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Emotional immaturity 🥺 49:51

6M ago49:51

49:51

This Isn't Therapy... it's the episode about dealing with emotionally immature people. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about spotting the signs of an emotionally immature adult and how emotional immaturity in parents can impact the children they're raising. We're returning to a beloved format in this epi-- lovely listener submissions + expert-…

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Self Pleasure is the Antidote to Self Sabotage with Katherine Morgan Schafler 56:57

6M ago56:57

56:57

If you struggle with self-sabotage and want to learn how to lean into pleasure and recover from perfectionism, this convo is for you! Katherine Schafler and I discuss, how to stop punishing oneself, the difficulty of feeling joy, pleasure and selfishness, the culture's treatment of women's pleasure, selfishness and attending to oneself, the illusio…

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How The Grinch Stole Therapy 10:44

6M ago10:44

10:44

This Isn't Therapy...this is our original spin on the famed holiday classic!! This Isn't Therapy presents: How the Grinch Stole Therapy. Every Who down in Whoville liked wellness a lot...but the Grinch, who lived just north of Whoville, did NOT. The Grinch hated wellness! The whole "therapy speak." Now, please don't ask why, the reason is bleak... …

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Adulting is hard 44:33

7M ago44:33

44:33

This Isn't Therapy... it's a conversation about becoming an emotional adult. In this episode, Jake and Simon talk about the mirage of adulthood and the search for the "real adults". They dive into an article by Kathryn Jezer-Morton for The Cut called Does anyone feel like an actual adult?This one's for all the adults who feel like they’re wearing a…

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Shame, Reparenting & Parenting with Maggie Nick. LCSW 46:07

7M ago46:07

46:07

If you struggle with shame and are trying not to pass it on to your children, this is the episode for you! This week I chat with therapist, Maggie Nick LCSW about her experience as a "good girl" the shame that came with that and how this led her on a quest to reparent herself and teach other parents how to break the cycle with their children. In th…

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Bonus: We made a Best Indie Podcast list!! 12:22

7M ago12:22

12:22

This Isn't Therapy...this is a BONUS snippet from our feature on CBC's Podcast Playlist!! That's right, our lil pod hit the national broadcast airwaves, baby! On this bonus ep of the pod, you'll hear Podcast Playlist host Leah-Simone Bowen highlight six of the Best Indie Podcasts - spoiler alert: we made the list!! Thank you to CBC and the Podcast …

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People Pleasing: Lessons from Taylor Swift, Dave Hollis & The Internet 32:46

7M ago32:46

32:46

Taylor Swift is TIME Magazine's person of the year and I (obviously) have a lot of thoughts! I discuss the lessons I think we can learn from Taylor in her impressive career and how I (and she) thinks she is having a breakthrough moment in being able to realize what is important and not worry about what others think of her. This is a pretty vulnerab…

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Am I too emotional? 48:49

7M ago48:49

48:49

This Isn't Therapy...it’s the long-overdue episode about emotions and emotionality. Am I overacting? Under-reacting? In this conversation, Jake and Simon chat about the normal, human, everyday emotions that show up in our lives. How do we know if our reactions are within a healthy range? They use the Window of Tolerance model to discuss big and sma…

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