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John Kim is The Angry Therapist, delivering self-help and therapy in a shot glass - street level 3 x week roughly ten minutes an episode. With one longer interview or conversation on Mondays.
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The aftermath of One Down's show, The Chismis. We accidentally get people riled up by the things we say about Filipino Americans in entertainment. Listen every Friday to Trace Gaynor (the host) and Leo Albea (the creative director) apologize, explain themselves, and give more of a spotlight on some of these topics that deserve a bit more conversation. Whether you're a Filipino wanting to talk about this just a bit more, or a creative looking to drive a few more eyeballs to your videos, we be ...
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Come Clean features comedians Trina Dong and Steph Matsuba doing what they do best, talk about everyone else's love lives.
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Rad Dads 2: The Importance of Adventure
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In this episode, John interviews rad dads and talks about their experiences growing up with single mothers, the influence of male figures in their lives, the joys and struggles of being fathers, societal expectations and judgments surrounding parenting. They also touch on the importance of creating a safe environment for their children to take risk…
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In this episode, John and Vanessa explore the concept of repair in relationships, and the importance of understanding each other's needs. They dive into the dynamics of communication, the balance of power in repair, and the role of self-awareness in relationships. They also discuss the significance of apologizing, the need for validation and unders…
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In this episode, John and Vanessa answer questions from couples, and discuss the importance of open communication and intentionality in relationships. They emphasize the need for couples to understand each other's love languages, make intentional efforts to meet each other's needs, using curiosity to navigate conflicts / understand each other's per…
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In this episode, John and Vanessa discuss the value of fighting in relationships and how to fight without actually fighting. They emphasize the importance of understanding before trying to be understood, shifting from a combative approach to a more empathetic one, being aware of one's own triggers / reactions during conflicts, and so much more. Lea…
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The 12 Principles of a Healthy Relationship
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In this episode, John and Vanessa host a workshop for couples, and read off a list of twelve principles every healthy relationship must have. They talk about the importance of protecting the safety and security of the relationship, transparency and communication, supporting each other in distress, never threatening the existence of the relationship…
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Things To Look For When Investing In Someone (Part 3)
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In this episode, John discusses the importance of investing in someone who has a life and the ability to rebuild it. He emphasizes that when two people have their own lives and passions, it creates a healthy boundary and stabilizes the relationship. He also highlights the significance of resilience, growth mindset, personal development in building …
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Things To Look For When Investing In Someone (Part 2)
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In this episode, John discusses the importance of finding someone with a fire in their belly when investing in a relationship. He emphasizes the need to know where you're going before asking who's going with you, and shares his personal journey of self-discovery and finding purpose. He also highlights the significance of having a passion, but to be…
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Things To Look For When Investing In Someone (Part 1)
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In this episode, John discusses the importance of taking ownership in relationships. He explains that someone who takes ownership is willing to accept responsibility for their actions and behaviors, rather than being defensive or blaming others. He shares personal experiences and client stories to illustrate how defensiveness can poison a relations…
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In this episode, John discusses the process of turning a breakup into a breakthrough. He emphasizes the importance of reframing the story of a breakup, swimming past the breakers, healing emotional triggers, breaking up with oneself, letting go of attachments, and embracing rebirth. He shares personal insights and practical advice for navigating th…
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Is Pornography Cheating, Can Long Distance Work, and We Don't Play Sports with Shaun Galanos
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In this episode, John brings on Shaun (The Love Drive) to talk about how hurtful ghosting can be, what "mommy issues" look like in relationships, whether long distance relationships can work or not, the inability to say "I love you," why you keep attracting unavailable partners, if watching pornography is cheating, and more. Learn more about your a…
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In this episode, John reflects things he's currently struggling with. He shares insights on finding joy in simple moments, the importance of self-awareness and self-acceptance, the struggle with sleep and the impact it has on daily life, challenges of parenting and the need for self-compassion, exploring and expanding sexuality later in life, the i…
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In this episode, John discusses the four pillars of a healthy relationship, embracing the realities of a relationship, and the beauty in the struggle. He emphasizes the importance of chemistry, maintaining separate identities, aligning on a common vision, and building a connection in a relationship. He also highlights the significance of navigating…
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My P*ssy Knows Things & My Wife Won't Give Me Blowjobs Anymore
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In this episode, John reads a story, "My P*ssy Knows Things," that explores the impact of past relationships on present behavior and emotional well-being. He also dives into the concept of grieving the loss of a relationship, the importance of accepting and processing associated emotions, being resistant to therapy, the transformation that occurs w…
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Yoni Massages, Our Definition of Love, and Circumcision with Shaun Galanos
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In this episode, John talks to Shaun Galanos (The Love Drive) about various topics including fear of missing out (FOMO), polyamory, dating rejection, and attachment styles. They highlight the importance of communication, emotional regulation, coping with dating rejection, and redefining what rejection means. They also touch on the current obsession…
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In this episode, John debriefs with Sarah and Meredith about the most recent TAT retreat on the drive home. They all talk about what their role is, their revelations running the retreats, the lessons they've learned in each retreat, the importance of breath work, how therapeutic cooking is, how to calm down your nervous system, and much more. Learn…
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In this episode, John talks about love. He defines what his definition of love used to be, and what it is now. He also talks about ways to know if you love someone, feelings to look for, how real love is about embracing conflict - not jumping ship the second things start to feel hard, and much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastch…
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How to Love Without Losing Your Mind with Todd Baratz
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In this episode, John interviews Todd Baratz, a male sex therapist, about love and intimacy. They discuss the concept of 'losing your mind' when falling in love and the challenges that arise in relationships. They also touch on the importance of therapy and how childhood experiences shape our relationships. Todd shares his personal journey about ho…
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In this bonus episode, John has an encouraging message for those going through a break up. He opens up about break ups he's been through, lessons he's learned from each, and gives tips on how to break through your break up if you're currently going through one. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
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Ask Angry: I Found My Husband's Tinder Account & Should I Kiss My Friend?
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In this episode, John starts with a list of "Johnisms" before answering listener's questions. John gives advice on what to do if you have feelings for a friend, how to rebuild trust in a marriage after it's been broken, and how to handle finding your significant other's secret Tinder account. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.c…
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In this episode, John talks about poor habits, how we all have them, and how taking small steps towards breaking the habits is more successful than stopping the habits cold turkey. He also talks about being depressed when life feels "boring," and how to that leads to feelings of wanting to escape. He dives into how those feelings can be linked more…
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In this episode, John talks about how doing a life audit on yourself will help strengthen the relationship you have with your partner and others. He explains how the more you focus on yourself, the more you'll be able to bring to the table with others, and walks through the process of what giving yourself a life audit looks like. Learn more about y…
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The Science Behind Joy and Why It Needs To Be a Daily Practice
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In this episode, John brings on Dr. MC McDonald to discuss the concept of awe and the science behind joy. They explore the importance of finding joy in small moments, activating the hope circuit in the brain, and also debunk some misconceptions about what brings joy, such as affirmations. They emphasize that joy is not a silly or frivolous emotion,…
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Ask Angry: Am I Avoidant, or Just Not Really Into Them?
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In this episode, John answers a listener's question after they've emailed him for advice about their current relationship. He dives into avoidant attachment styles, and gives advice on how to know if you're attachment style is to blame for feeling "suffocated" in the relationship, or if you're only feeling this way because deep down you know that y…
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Divorce For Women in Their 40's, Conscious Uncoupling, and Self Pleasure as a Way to Expand with Luci Lampe
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In this episode, John Kim and Luci Lampe discuss the concept of conscious self-pleasure and its impact on personal growth and relationships. They explore how shame and societal conditioning can hinder sexual expression and the importance of approaching self-pleasure with presence and mindfulness. They also touch on the differences between male and …
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How Tracing Old Love Definitions Destroys Our Relationships
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In this episode, John explores the importance of redefining our definitions of love as we grow and change. He shares his old definition of love from his twenties and contrasts it with his current definition. He also highlights how our definitions of love are always changing, the challenges and beauty of love, and the importance of aligning definiti…
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In this episode, John talks about how to express your needs, and show up in your relationship when you're fighting. He discusses the importance of knowing what is healthy vs unhealthy ways of showing up during conflict, and gives examples of what each looks like. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
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In this episode, John records a live podcast in his TAT Circle community where he answers listeners' questions, and does a deep dive on attachment styles. He talks about the honeymoon phase of a relationship, what's really happening when you feel like your attachment is being activated, and how to tell if it's your attachment style that's being tri…
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How To Want Loosely & Choose Better Thought Patterns
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In this episode, John talks about thought patterns, and why we find ourselves stuck in negative thought patterns more than positive ones. He dives into different steps to take when you find yourself spiraling, and how to practice wanting things loosely. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
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In this episode, John and Vanessa talk about recovering from codependency. They talk about the steps you need to take, such as having awareness and setting boundaries, what recovering from codependency really looks like in your life and relationships, and how recovery doesn't happen overnight. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.…
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In this episode, John focuses on cheating and infidelity. He discusses common reasons why people cheat, including anger or revenge, falling out of love, feeling unappreciated, lack of commitment, sexual desire, and situational opportunity. He emphasizes the importance of taking ownership, processing emotions, drawing boundaries, seeking therapy, an…
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3 Ways to Elevate Your Partner and Relationship
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In this episode, John does a deep dive on three different ways you can elevate your partner and relationship by being curious about your partner and their experiences, championing their story, and asking them how you can work on fulfilling their needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
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Red & Green Flags in Dating (Part 3): Capacity
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In the final episode of the Red & Green Flags in Dating series, John talks about how important having capacity for yourself and others is in your relationships. He defines what capacity is, gives examples and what it looks like in action, and explains the difference between having a healthy vs an unhealthy amount of capacity in dating and relations…
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Red & Green Flags in Dating (Part 2): Communication
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In this episode, John does a deep dive on the second C of Red & Green Flags in Dating, communication. John discusses what healthy and unhealthy communication looks like in relationships, and what red flags you should look for that shows someone does not communicate well in the early stages of dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastc…
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Red & Green Flags in Dating (Part 1): Connection
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In the first episode of a three part series, Red & Green Flags in Dating, John breaks down the three most important C's in dating: connection, communication, and capacity. He defines what connection is, gives examples of what healthy and unhealthy forms of connection are, and discusses red and green flags to look for in connection when you're first…
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How to Open Your Heart Again After a Breakup
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In this episode, John talks about how to be open to love after your heart has been broken. He dives into how practicing opening your heart up in your relationships is an exercise you need to practice daily in order to create the opportunity to heal and grow from your break up. He also talks about forgiveness, treating yourself, closure, finding peo…
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In this episode, John reflects on his 51st birthday and shares his revelations and insights about life. He discusses the importance of self-reflection, accepting oneself as a 'B-side', the value of movement and fitness, the power of asking for what you want, the significance of friendships, the importance of finding peace, the process of closure, t…
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In this episode, John answers a listener's question, and discusses the reasons why people cheat, including emotional disconnection, curiosity, and unhappiness within oneself. He also addresses the issue of ghosting, the fear of having difficult conversations, the importance of exploring patterns in relationships and understanding one's contribution…
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In this episode, John explores the different dimensions of intimacy, including emotional, spiritual, mental, passionate, physical, and energy intimacy. He emphasizes the importance of creating a safe space for emotional vulnerability, engaging in meaningful conversations, and practicing empathy and compassion. He also highlights the significance of…
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In this episode, John brings on Mark Groves to discuss his book 'Liberated Love' and the journey of relationships. Mark shares his personal experience of going through Relationship 1.0 and 2.0 with his partner. They discuss codependency, the importance of self-erasure in relationships, the role of the nervous system in relationships, and the signs …
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In this episode, John gives us a list of unhealthy behaviors we mistake for love in dating and our relationships. He talks about why we're attracted to unhealthy behavior, and does a deep dive on how we might exhibit some of these behaviors in current or past relationships without realizing it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices…
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If You've Been Cheated On, Ask Yourself This
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In this episode, John talks about the challenges people face when they stay in a relationship after infidelity. He encourages people who are in this situation to ask themselves a very important question: why are you staying in this relationship? Especially when there hasn't been any growth, or change on the other person's end. Learn more about your…
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Math, Kindness, and the Red Helicopter Story with James Rhee
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In this episode, John talks to James Rhee about his journey as a Korean American and experiences in leadership. He shares the story of the red helicopter and how it impacted his perspective on kindness. James explains his philosophy of kindness in math, how he designs systems that reward true agency, the importance of joy and finding contentment in…
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In Bloom Panel: Answering Your Love & Relationship Questions
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In this exciting episode, John hosts a panel with the speakers for the upcoming In Bloom: A Love and Relationships Summit. They talk about everything love and relationships including artificial intimacy, sex as a cultural and relational issue, emotional availability, and the practice of interdependence. The conversation also touches on communicatio…
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In this episode, John shares his thoughts on the twenty things every man should have or have done by age forty. He covers a wide range of topics including: finding purpose, developing personal style, maintaining good credit, experiencing heartbreak, expressing love for other men, setting boundaries with parents, saving and investing, practicing for…
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A Real Couples Session: Did We Move In & Get Married Too Quickly?
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In this episode, John talks with Keila and Joe about their relationship history, communication issues, and recent conflicts. They also talk about the baggage from past relationships, the challenges of feeling safe and secure, external stressors, different social lives, and the pressure to be everything for each other. They also discuss the impact o…
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In this episode, John talks about how complicated the aftermath of cheating is. He talks about the importance of not taking things personally, forgiveness if you want to repair the relationship, why people cheat, how to heal if you've been cheated on, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
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Reflecting on 15 Years of Posting on Social Media
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In this episode, John reflects on his personal growth journey through social media and the power of documenting one's story. He shares how he found his voice and embodied his potential through podcasting. John also discusses the importance of building a local community and serving others. He explores themes of love, relationships, acceptance, and t…
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Is Non-Monogamy For Me? with Annie Undone
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In this episode, John talks to Annie Undone about monogamous vs non-monogamous relationships. They talks about what non-monogamy is, what is looks like in a romantic relationship, what judgements surround non-monogamy, debunk myths about non-monogamy, how to be in a healthy non-monogamous relationships, and more. Annie is an artist and writer worki…
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Answering Vanity Fair's Proust Questionnaire
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In this episode, John answers all of Vanity Fair's Proust questions, and does a deep with each answer. He shares vulnerable moments of his life by talking about his childhood, happiness and fears, his current state of mind and struggles, occasional lies he's told, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices…
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Emotional Vampires, Much Needed Alone Time, and Getting Excited About Aging with Corinne Fisher and Christina Hutchinson
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In this episode, John brings back the hosts of "Guys We Fucked," Corinne Fisher and Christina Hutchinson, to discuss the lasting influence of childhood on adult life, emotional vampires, the necessity of solitude for creativity, and their positive outlook on aging. They delve into how childhood experiences shape self-worth and emotional health, wit…
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