Love Life And Lose Weight is a podcast that teaches you sustainable weight loss through changing your habits and beliefs around food. You CAN lose weight eating the foods you love without feeling restricted or rebellious. I'm your host, advanced certified weight and life coach, Heather Beardsley. I've helped hundreds of women figure out how to lose weight and create a life they love and now I'm sharing those insights with you.
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Anti-fragility means that a system becomes stronger when faced with disruptions, variations, or outlier events. Variability in a system like weight loss are often things like holidays or vacations, which are are often viewed 'hard' for weight loss and as such we tend to respond by resisting these stressors which makes everything harder, or more 'fr…
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Human beings have the unique ability to think, feel, take action, and listen intentionally by using the prefrontal cortex part of our brain rather than do all of those things automatically or reactively. Being curious and aware of 'how' you listen to and then interpret what you hear can completely change how you see yourself and how you view and un…
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55: Secrets to Eating Less and Feeling Satisfied
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In this episode, I teach you some techniques for how to eat less and feel satisfied with less. For most of us, this means changing your habit of how you determine what is enough food that still allows you to lose weight without feeling restricted. Our old habits of determining what is enough food is usually using visual estimations of what is enoug…
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54: Q&A Bonus: night eating, healthy habit routines, NOT doing all the things
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Welcome to the first Bonus Q&A episode where I answer questions from listeners who are on my email list. Today I answer three questions, tune in to listen to the coaching feedback I offer on these questions, and then see how you might be able to apply the concepts to what YOU are working on in your own life. #1 from Cindy : I have Chronic Pain Synd…
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53: How To Escape Reactive & Automatic Eating Habits
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Why is changing reactive and automatic eating habits important if you want to get to goal weight and keep it off? Reactive and automatic eating are two adpative habits that respresent habitual overeating. If we always look to food to resist, react to, or escape from how we feel OR we use eating as a form of escapism then you are chronically overeat…
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52: The Exact Steps To Get The Scale To Move Consistently
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In this episode, I go over the main tenets of weight loss without restriction, and I give you the exact data-driven steps I use with my clients for how to get the scale to start moving consistently (or remain consistent if you are in maintenance.) If you feel like you are tired of f*cking around with your weight loss goals, this is the episode for …
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Sustainability is the ability to maintain or support a process continuously over time. In order for your weight loss to remain sustainable, we need to find a way to regulate and attune to our energetic, financial, emotional, physical, and interpersonal needs enough to sustain our desired habits around food. It requires deep listening and paying att…
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What I'm suggesting today is to make your relationship to receptivity an intentional component of your weight loss to help make that process easier and take less time than it has to. Allowing and receptivity are cousins in this regard. Limiting habits of thinking about food, indulging in doubt as to whether you can lose weight, and allowing competi…
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Relational capacity, as I define it describes your ability to meet your expectations of what you know you need to think, feel, and do in order to lose weight. Weight loss will always involve noticing what level of performance you are at; especially when you notice you did not take the desired actions you are after. Understanding these letdown momen…
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In this episode, I explain how to translate the top eight negative emotions to learn what might be needed. The emotions listed below are the top eight negative emotions that we often eat over. If you are in a place of wanting to move beyond reacting to them, resisting them, or avoiding them, this episode is for you! For any negative emotions we exp…
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In this episode, I discuss our internal human experience of how we think both spontaneously and intentionally, how I understand it and frame it as a weight loss coach for my clients, and how to accommodate it and shape it with the intention of helping you lose weight. Your habit brain is going to resist changing your habits around food. We want to …
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My book, Love life And Lose Weight, Eat What You Love, Trust Your Body, and Lose Weight Without Restriction, launches today, so we are having a virtual party to celebrate. I kick off the party by reading you the introduction chapter, so you can decide if purchasing the book is right for you. Next, I will tell you exactly HOW I launched a podcast an…
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Food planning is the workhorse habit of sustainable weight loss and maintenance. Making a daily food plan is a tool to help you become an adept self-manager who is keenly aware of her true tastes and preferences for food. Food planning helps you design the food lifestyle that is right for YOU. It's also a way to practice keeping promises. You also …
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Today I'm sharing with you how I coach on maintenance. This can be helpful for those in or approaching maintenance (within 10 pounds or so). Learning about the unique challenges and skills of maintenance is also a great way to give you some insights about what comes after active weight loss mode even if you're not there just yet. Maintenance is alw…
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Creative Visualization is a tool for mental rehearsal. It involves creatively exploring mentally what it would be be like to engage with being in a potential situation. It’s a way to mentally get practice in without actually needing to practice. The interesting thing is that the brain doesn’t exactly know the difference between creative visualizing…
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The Love Life and Lose Weight Book Is Launching on 8/15/23
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Here are all of the details about the Love Life and Lose Weight book! The official title is Love life And Lose Weight: Eat What You Love, Trust Your Body, and Lose Weight Without Restriction. It will be available on Kindle format on August 15th, 2023, on Amazon. The paperback format will follow a few weeks later. Mark your calendar for August 15th …
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Validation is a practice of being aware of and deciding how to think and feel about something in your life. Validation is your sense of focus and awareness about where you ARE in relation to where you WANT to be with your life. Calorie counting, counting points, macros, or other people’s opinions are all external sources of weight and food lifestyl…
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In this episode, I discuss two kinds of energy. One is feeling energetic the other is a physiological capacity of energy (gas in the tank). These are two aspects you want to work together to drive a state of increased overall energy. I include six ways to build up your emotional and mental reserves and some do’s and don’ts for increasing and/or …
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Weekly Planning & Assessment for Weight Loss 101
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Now that you've been using the daily planner for at least one full weigh-in week (as explained in episode #38), it's time to learn how to use the Weekly Planning & Assessment Worksheet to optimize &/or troubleshoot your weekly results when you weigh in. You can use any weekly planner that works for you or the one I created and demonstrate with in t…
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In this episode, I explain how to use a daily food plan to lose weight each week. You can use any daily planner that works for you or the one I created and demonstrate with in this episode. To get your copy, visit HBeardsley.com/subscribe, and you'll get an email immediately with instructions on downloading your copy. In that email is the link to w…
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How To Set Blowing Our Own Minds (BOOM) Goals
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In this episode, I share with you how to create BOOM Goals! As a No BS Team member, we do these as part of our self-development work. A BOOM goal stands for = Blowing Our Own Minds. To start, journal on this question: What are the things in my life I would LOVE to accomplish, and if I did, I would blow my mind and my current idea of what’s possibl…
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In this episode, I talk about Semaglutide (often referred to by the brand name Wegovy), the new class of weight loss prescription drugs used to treat obesity by medical doctors. My role with my clients on any topic, including any prescription medication prescribed under professional medical advice, is to support them in their health goals by figuri…
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In this episode, I explain snacking as a habit that I often see gets in the way of weight loss A snacking habit is often the solution to a very calorie restricted approach to weight loss where we feel hungry all the time. We hold on to snacking as our savior from feeling super restricted and hungry all the time. When you change from restrictive cal…
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How I Troubleshoot Weight Loss With My Clients
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I generally use about six different levels to troubleshoot weight loss with my clients. I give you an overview here so you can use the same approach for yourself. Level 1: Commit to regular weigh-ins (or data gathering (like taking measurements or gathering habit data) on the same day of the week, weekly. Level 2: Look at the frequency of overeats.…
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How To Stop Falling Off The Weight Loss Wagon
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Inevitably in our weight loss journey, exceptional phases of life happen (both positive and negative) that put a ton of pressure on our ability to apply our typical daily weight loss strategies effectively. I see my clients unconsciously grasp onto this idea that they need to apply weight loss exactly the same way during these exceptional circumsta…
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Eating when you are tired (but not physically hungry) is a habit that will get in the way of weight loss. Why do we push past tiredness and eat instead when we know it works against us in weight loss? The habit of pushing past tired can be created for many reasons: 1. Wanting to take back time for yourself when you have a lifestyle of never schedul…
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Saving up calories is a restrictive strategy to push past hunger in order to eat less. It's about believing that you must put off eating as long as you can tolerate it. Saving up calories as a strategy comes from a belief that you can't eat an amount that feels satisfying and still lose weight. If you believe that, then you can see it would make se…
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Performance eating is a habit of eating differently in front of other people because you are conforming to your belief about how you SHOULD eat (perform with food) as opposed to how you eat differently when you are not in a social setting. If you think you performance eat, when does this tend to happen and why? How do you feel about performance eat…
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Middle-of-the-night eating is just a habit that can be developed by believing that eating helps you get back to sleep. Middle of the night eating is like a dashboard indicator light that is trying to get your attention about unresolved things in your life that need your attention. Try these strategies for at least two weeks to help you break the ha…
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One way to quantum leap your results is to experiment with detaching yourself from believing that you are the sum product of your past events. We all have been conditioned to believe that as a person, you are always affected NOW by the sum effects of your past events and experiences. When we participate in that past-focused narrative, it limits our…
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If you have a habit of making yourself promises around your food and often feel frustrated or deflated that you break your promises, this episode will really help you start changing that. Breaking your promises is just a habit. Take heart, because you can turn this around with a little bit of focused effort and persistence. Keeping promises is a pr…
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In this episode I talk about developing a practice of selective ignoring of thoughts to overeat rather than giving them negative attention. The practice of selective ignoring is a weight loss superpower that requires: 1. Awareness 2. Intentional decision making (boundaries) 3. Detaching your attention and energy from the thought and a shift of atte…
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Why Advanced Coaching Works For Weight Loss
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I'm so excited for you to meet my boss and mentor, Corinne Crabtree. Corinne is a Master Certified Weight and Life Coach. She is the founder and CEO of the No BS Weightloss Program. Over 1 million women have taken her free weight loss course and her podcast, Losing 100 Pounds With Corinne, has been downloaded over 50 million times in 160 countries.…
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What Your Body Envy Is Trying To Tell You
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So, what is happening with body envy? Body envy and resentment reveal limiting beliefs that we can't have what other people have or that it's harder for us than for others. But when we focus on envy/resentment as true, we miss how unfair our overeating habits are to our own bodies. If you resent your own body, it proves that unfair belief about the…
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How To Stop Fighting With Yourself Over Your Eating
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Focusing on a 'problem' as THE way to 'fix' it is paradoxically a habit that can keep you locked in a cycle of overeating. Because when you judge your overeating as 'bad,' you lose the ability to look closer in that moment and be curious about why you are using food in the first place to meet a need. THAT curiosity and willingness to see the need u…
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Today your coach's homework is to write your weight loss success story by creatively imagining what is needed to get to your goal weight. Answer these questions from the version of you in the future who has lost all of her weight. You can imagine I'm interviewing you about how you got to your goal weight. I also shared some very exciting news in th…
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What if our nighttime snacking urges are just trying to get our attention about what is REALLY needed beyond what food can give us for our life? That is the real work called for when we look at our habit of eating when we are not hungry. Nighttime snacking is in the way of consistent weight loss if you eat at night after dinner without phys…
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This week we take a closer look at the important relationship of intentionally loving yourself to help you make not only your weight loss but your entire life richer and more meaningful. We often take on the conditional and judgmental messaging we grow up with that if you have weight to lose your body and therefore you as a person are somehow less …
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Here are your six steps to a drama-free weigh-in. 1. Review your week by skimming your daily plans, assessment, calendar, journal, and memory recall of the week. 2. Count the number of overeats you had. 3. Note all other data, including body measurements, progress photos, journaling your observation of areas of progress, and areas for improvement a…
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By understanding dopamine’s critical role in human desire and survival, you can understand the powerful effect it has on your habits around food which can help you in your desire to lose weight. Dopamine gives us the will and desire to get up and pursue activities that keep us alive, like drinking water and eating food, by urging us to get up and g…
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After nearly 10,000 hours of experience weight coaching hundreds of clients, I've noticed six elements that tend to be in place with clients who start losing weight consistently. Today, I'm sharing them with you as a way to check in with your own process. If your weight loss isn't consistent, you look and see which of these elements you can focus o…
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Weight loss is not a goal to task yourself with in order to get yourself to do what you don't want to do. It will be much easier to attach your weight goal to a vivid and compelling version of you who has normalized her relationship with food. In order to embrace this new version of yourself and start, it can help to say goodbye to the previous ver…
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Mind Control is developing the skillset of controlling thinking patterns or allowing thoughts to slow down or even stop altogether. Meditation is one form of mind control. that allows you to practice the skillset of slowing the cadence of your active thinking. Why is meditation helpful for weight loss? We know that when we intend to stop overeating…
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Feeling emotions on purpose is one tool that can help you to regulate your nervous system and help you reach your goals. You will learn the usefulness of processing feelings and how that process helps you in the pursuit of your weight goal. Feelings are always taking place in the context of habits of thinking. So, if you have urges to eat when you …
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Losing weight requires you to break the habit of overeating. Like any other habit you've ever broken, you'll need to follow a few steps in order to allow the habit to extinguish and replace it with a different response/behavior that also meets your needs. The first step to breaking the habit of overeating is to become aware of when, how often, and …
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In this episode, I explain common objections I see in weight loss and how to overcome them to go all-in on your weight loss. It is normal to both want to lose weight and then at the same time feel conflicted about doing all the things. We need to uncover those quiet beliefs that are opposed to weight loss. What will I have to give up? I already fai…
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In this episode, I teach you how to adjust your food expectation to get the scale moving. Step 1: Serve yourself a little bit less than you're used to eating. If you are doing this right, you will hear a flurry of old shitty thoughts like: --This is what a toddler would eat. --This will never be enough. --I'll never make it to dinner. --I'll wake u…
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When you want results you don't have, it requires you to go into the real world and experiment with your actions to get them lined up to create the result you are looking for. The actions that create these results are some combination of: eating less often eating less food Creating weight loss can't happen just by 'thinking' about weight loss. It H…
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Sustainable weight loss requires a responsibility to tell the truth about what you do and your awareness of how you are thinking. How I learned to tell the truth and align my actions through teaching 8th graders. The excuses and justifications we use in weight loss are lies we tell ourselves. Why it’s so important not to lie about your progress in …
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In this episode, you're going to learn a perspective on overeating that will help you no longer want to overeat, which will make weight loss so much easier for you. Overeating is a normal human experience. Overeating can also be a learned habit and or a learned strategy that gives us a reward. Power thoughts to think: I no longer want to overeat I'…
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